Does camming help / hurt or not affect your personal sex life?

[unanonymous]

It's great to see many people here say that camming has improved their sex life, and it's true for me as well.
Primaltime made a good point about having to abstain for long periods of time in order to give your viewers a good show.
Overindulging in sex/masturbation every day (as a man) can kill your desire and destroy your passion for your show.
Walking around horny all day, on the other hand, in anticipation of the show, is SO much better.
Plus, all that attention and praise for the way you look and the way you please others further boosts your self-confidence and you feel more complete as an individual in real life.

 

[sarahspeakz]

My wife and I cam together. When we have sex on cam it is incredible but sex off cam is somehow even more special Before we started camming together our sex life had ceased to exsist (when we first got together it was incredible) and now after camming for a month and a half it is in a place where it is at a place that is quite comfortable and satisfying to both of us... so I'd say it really has helped our sex life so far and I hope it continues to in the future.

On another note, camming has helped my wife feel more comfortable in her body because she now views herself as desirable so during sex she is more relaxed.

 

[RinnRainbo]

I honestly think that my camming has helped me be a better partner romantically.
I used to suffer from horrible PTSD but camming has helped me open up and be comfortable with my sexuality. It definitely helped get my sex drive back to a healthy state.

 

[david terrance]

It doesn't change anything negatively for me...if anything it improves it because my partner will get horny hearing me camming in the other room and I end up getting fucked right after I finish my shift lol.

A lot of questions I've heard guys ask in general about this is "do camgirls get sick of sex because they use sex toys" etc? But to me, masturbation and sex with another person are both 2 very different experiences. I can masturbate all day long and still enjoy sex with my partner more than ever. My body doesn't get 'desensitized' from cock because I use dildos like some guys assume the same way I'm sure jerking off doesn't make a vagina and the experience of being with another person desensitized/less intimate/less enjoyable.

Masturbation for me vs masturbation for work vs sex with a person are all different

I can relate. My exgf was CB cammer and she was very horny after she worked there. She always said that toys are ok, lush is VERY ok, but sex for real has no comparison to that. IMHO, it depends on each person and each relationship

 

[Deleted member 35180]

If I am not raw and "broken" as one member likes to make me by the end of my work shift/week, I am usually desperately lonely for real skin on skin connection, and am very aware of what I like, don't like, and how to set boundaries/ask for what I want. I am certainly more comfortable in my body and skin now. I would say it's a huge help to my sex life when I am not worn out from it/needing time off from sexy stuff. It also helps me to know when I am being used or objectified sexually in my personal life as well, suddenly it feels a lot like work and I'm like hey wait a minute, I'm not getting paid right now. Eat my puss or GTFO.

 

[Kiley May]

It has done nothing but help my sex life ^.^
More confidence, better angles, and the two naturally separate themselves without effort
It's done nothing but make my partner more horny and excited

 

[Emberblaze]

If I am not raw and "broken" as one member likes to make me by the end of my work shift/week, I am usually desperately lonely for real skin on skin connection, and am very aware of what I like, don't like, and how to set boundaries/ask for what I want. I am certainly more comfortable in my body and skin now. I would say it's a huge help to my sex life when I am not worn out from it/needing time off from sexy stuff. It also helps me to know when I am being used or objectified sexually in my personal life as well, suddenly it feels a lot like work and I'm like hey wait a minute, I'm not getting paid right now. Eat my puss or GTFO.

"Eat my puss or GTFO."
Am I the only one that wants a t-shirt that says this? Or maybe panties? Hell, let's make both.

 

[Deleted member 35180]

"Eat my puss or GTFO."
Am I the only one that wants a t-shirt that says this? Or maybe panties? Hell, let's make both.

I used to have a shirt that said "It's not going to lick itself." ^_^

 

[MiaJay13]

My husband and I are still relatively new at this but if anything it has improved our sex life tenfold. The delayed grstification while camming is nice. Also when we have sex off cam its even more special because it is just the two of us.

 

[lovingwitch]

I'm very new to camming (just a month in!), and extremely single at the moment - I haven't gotten laid in 6 months (sigh)! Camming, for now, is inadvertently my sexual outlet. So far it's definitely boosted my day-to-day sexy feelings, and made me feel more confident and sexy overall, which are both pluses in my book!

It does make me feel a bit lonely, though - I've never been a casual sex kinda lady, and perhaps because my personality naturally lends itself to the GFE, I've already had sweeties come around with crushy, romantic vibes, and it definitely makes me long for a relationship a little bit! I can't say I'm unfazed by the crushes (ie, I've felt some mutual warm fuzzies, and temptation), even though I do my best to stay levelheaded.

The blurred lines on MFC are part of what makes it such a rich and complex social interaction, though, so I take it as the price of admission and try to be receptive rather than freaked out by my own feelings. Plus, I'm so new - who knows what shape all of this will take a month, or (if I'm lucky enough for camming to work out for me) six from now.

 

[ModeratoronCB]

I see most are positive to be on cam and on many internet pages.

But I guess there are some differences here.
Popular models will be literally everywhere.
As less popular models not so much.

If you have kids.

And so on.

Either way it's always smart to protect ones private life as much as possible.

Would be fun see this thread again in 10 years time, to see if these couples actually still stay together.

But I'm glad people have positive experience so far

 

[Vae Drennan]

I don't see why it would affect anything negatively. Actually, my partner seems to find it a turn on that other people want me, and she has me.

 

[Sophia360]

Ive only been doing it for a week and haven't cammed yet and only done custom work but it has improved my sex drive massively in this short time and im sure this will continue.

 

[LunaSapphire]

I'm not in a relationship right now, but camming/filming videos has had mostly positive effects on my sex life. As some other models have said I've found I'm more comfortable in my sexuality and asking for what I want now.

When I very first started camming I was in a relationship and my partner wasn't 100% on board with it. They didn't have a problem with me camming, but they felt that I was "giving more attention" to my customers than to them, and I would sometimes be burnt out after a long day of cam and not be in the mood for sex. Honestly though, I think this was more of an issue with my partner's point of view. Our sex life wasn't severely affected, they just felt like it was. We were together for a few years before I started sex work so I think that was part of it.

 

[JoeSpod]

I haven't been camming long but so far so good - if nothing else, the increased body confidence (as a "fuller figured" person it's not always easy to feel comfortable compared to the "ideal") is a massive plus, and I'm certainly a lot more confident just talking to my partner about what they (I / we ?) want in the bedroom all of a sudden which seems to be going down well...

 

[Smores]

Almost every model I have ever spoken with on CB and MFC has echoed things said in this thread. The most common remark I hear is that it has helped the person be more comfortable in bed and more comfortable with her own body and pleasure. Many have said that it has improved sexual communication.

The one major downside I have heard about is jealousy. How do models handle partner jealousy from their activity? I want to give the perspective a partner might have on this activity in helping to develop this concept of jealousy. A lot of models I have gotten to know will make comments to me like "I hate sexual performances" or "this is not a dream job" or "I only do this for money". If you believed those statements literally, you would assume that the model gets no sexual enjoyment from the job at all. Yet those same models act out in ways that show they get a lot of sexual pleasure from what they do. Particularly in privates, sometimes models have a pretty complete sexual response.

As a model, how much do you enjoy the sex that happens on a webcam site, and how does that differ - just on the sexual level alone - with what you want to get from real-life sex? Are there any ways in which webcam sex is better? I think there are some parallels against other alternative lifestyles, such as "open relationships" or "polyamory" where a real-world relationship might tolerate some forms of outside relationship activity. All of that comes with rules, typically. But jealousy is the central problem with all of those alternative lifestyles.

Having said all of this, it is pretty clear to me how a real life partner might get very jealous. His webcam partner assures him that this is just a job and that these viewers mean very little to her. But if he watches her performances - and please let us assume that the relationship rules allow him to do that, and he is communicating all of this to her, and she allows him to do this - he is likely to see his partner having real sexual responses to situations during her show. Unless every part of the webcam model's response is acted, I think it would be pretty human for the real life partner to feel jealousy.

Is jealousy a problem? Is there any basis for that jealousy based on sexual enjoyment that webcam models get from their jobs?

 

[Sillykitty]

Is jealousy a problem? Is there any basis for that jealousy based on sexual enjoyment that webcam models get from their jobs?

In my relationship, jealousy with camming is not an issue. My husband and I were together for 10 years by the time I started camming. He has always been a sexually fluid person, with a free love hippy mentality, and an unnerving emotional maturity. We both are very independent people who are in a partnership. Sex is just one small aspect of the bigger picture. While my job is in the sex industry, it doesnt bleed over into our personal sex life. My husband has never watched me camming, just like he would never sit at a bar and watch me bartend. If he wanted to, I would be fine with it, but when i started camming it quickly felt like a business.

Our society has taught a lot of us that sex is this taboo thing that can only be shared in the deepest bonds of love or else it's bad bad bad, but that isn't true. There is so much shame and stigma still attached to sex and pleasure. And while camming is sexual, and I get sexual pleasure from some shows- it's way different from sexual pleasure with a partner that I care about. A lot of my shows are fetish, and rely heavily on verbally creating a scene for someone to fall into. Most of the time I'm a confidant for someone's kinks that they are ashamed of and cant approach their partner about. A lot of the time I'm educating guys about what sex really is, what pleasure really looks like, without judgement etc. It is emotionally exhausting, but rewarding. I think a lot of partners might think that camming is just getting off for money- but I honestly couldn't tell you the last time I did a straight cum show where I wasnt playing a role for someone's fetish.

IMHO- At the end of the day, if your partner is jealous about things you do on cam, you need to sit and really talk about the why. Most of the time it doesnt even have to do with sex; insecurity with yourself, fear of change, feeling emotionally left out, or lack of control can play big time in jealous feelings. When I started, I always said, and still do, that if camming ever creates an issue in my marriage- its gone. At the end of the day, I know that my husband means more to me than a job.

 

[Lillyana]

Sometimes I'm too tired after a night shift on cam and I'm just not feeling like I want anything else than sleep, or I'm not in a mood If my shift was very slow, other days it can even help after Hitachi torturing me on cam lol

 

[poppymoon]

I have more trust in me and i started to love more my body and the shapes. I never considered myself atractive but starting be cam girl improve a lot of thinks. Im more confident to go out and meet guys, more fun, im very sure on me. Since many members told me they love my boobs, over summer i dont wear bra anymore. Its fun to see all guys with big eyes following my body in a store loool

I totally agree! It has improved my confidence in how I view my body and my sexuality. There's a thrilling freedom in performing for a bunch of strangers, it gives you so much room to explore who you are sexually. I've improved so much at the art of seduction!

 

[MilfARIELx]

Just wondering - I think it's obvious that watching too much porn/camming can have negative consequences in regards to sex/relationships, and was wondering how it was/is for women who cam? Can most simply compartmentalize camming, and once the camera is off just go about daily life with a spouse, make love the same way as if you did not spend hours in front of a cam? Is there a way to mentally separate the two? And a step further, beyond sex, how does it affect emotions between you and a spouse/partner?

Everyone is different and everyone’s sex drive is different, you definitely need to balance out the two, for me, camming has made me in touch with my sensual side and brought out things in me I didn’t know I had, and a lot of confidence so it actually helped me with my sex partners rather than destroy it. Although there will be days were I feel like I’ve overworked myself and I’m just not in the mood anymore, kinda like if you were to work in a restaurant and at the end of the night the sight of food disgusts you lol. As for your spouse or partner, everything depends on there perspective, do they approve? Are you working behind his back? Does he support you? If he accepts and supports you and trusts you; you might even have a deeper connection

 

[JasonB]

I only have to say that it's really nice to see how many cammers here say that camming actually improved their relationships
Hell, what can most other people say about their jobs other than the fact that it keeps them separate everyday?

I do wonder what the partners thought at first, like.. if they were worried a bit in the beginning and how long it took them to actually be fine with it

 

[Azn_Wonders]

I'd say it definitely helps improve my sex life! When I took a break for a few months from camming, my partner and I didn't have as much sex. He gets turned on while I do a show, especially if he's moderating room and we end up fucking right I go offline

 

[brianabooty]

Double sided answer, but overall been positive with painful periods of growth and adaptation.

1. It's helped in the fact that I'm more open minded and willing to try a lot more stuff now since I enjoy new things on cam almost every day that I didn't know I would like. Overall, emotionally it has actually made me feel closer to my partner (he does not perform). I realize the grass is NOT greener on the other side and I love him that much more for putting up with my "tendencies" as he likes to call it lol.

2. The downside is that my lady bits can get tired or sore and repel me from wanting to have sex at all. Or that my fantasies and expectations are too "out there" for my partner and then we have a minor disconnect until the other one catches up (this goes both ways though, for me it took me five years to be okay with anal for example).

Every relationship evolves and changes over time and this venture has definitely been a learning experience for both us in regards to figuring out what works and what doesn't. With the growing pain came arguments, jealousy and other things. We have other circumstances like the long distance for almost a year due to his job overseas that has not helped us both. I don't know if I can attribute me working extra during that time as a help to or hindrance since he definitely got some naughty videos and photos when he was gone but I was escaping into another world outside of reality by working so much online.

My best advice to navigating this is to focus on the other person's love language and cater to it for them and set DEDICATED and COMMITTED time with them and only them to restore the intimacy and contact. Overall, it has been painful but growth has happened and our sex life and partnership is THAT much more better overall had I not done anything.

 

[GoddessValkyrieRose]

I cammed for about 3 hours this morning and then went to having sex with my husband soo... I don't think it's affected my life much... We're pretty much same as always.

 

[Siena]

I’ve been married for 20 years now and this job has simply added a new layer of sexiness to our already active sex life. Another thing that I love is that I know he can log in at any time and perv me which I find completely exciting! Camming has brought extra confidence to me and I’m still finding new ways to push his buttons! I’ve always had a high sex drive and hubby jokes that camming helps burn off some of my energy!

 

[JessicaXOXOXO]

Double edge sword...When I talk about sex for hours a day, usually on my off time I don't want to tap into that specific persona. If I'm masterbating on and off several times throughout the day and don't reach full climax, I will want to seduce my partner. On the other side, while camming I have talked and role played so many fantasies and fetishes that I had NO IDEA about. I have learned a lot about myself and absolutely got into my sexuality way more than the surface level I previously knew.

 

[BadgirlIvy]

I don't think it has affected my sex life at all. My husband seems to be pretty chill with it. The first time I tried camming I did a premium snapchat and that took up a lot of personal time and he did not like that so I don't do that this time, at least not yet. I think if I am able to make a name for myself and get a good following he will be ok with me doing snapchat again. Basically what I think it comes down to is having set boundaries that you and your partner are both comfortable with and sticking to them. Also communication period is key!

 

[JigglesJane]

To be completely honest with you, i think returning to the cam has helped in the bedroom when the cam is off. Overall it has been a real ego boost, which does translate well between the sheets. At least for my SO and myself. He finds it incredibly sexy that I cam, because I always end a day feeling empowered.

 

[MrSwoob]

I disagree with your position on "obvious negative affect of porn" For about 15%-30% of the population porn can have a negative affect but for the other 10%-85% it has no affect on relationship, work. or social life.

I was interviewed by a camgirl on this topic.

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[Sansa]

It's going to be different for everyone of course, but I stopped doing masturbation shows because they were ruining sex IRL for me. I would never be in the mood after working and after doing these kinds of shows for several months, they really killed my drive. I think my problem was that taking requests or following through with commands was a huge turn off for me. Like even if someone would say something like "just enjoy yourself" the fact that they said that means I won't really be able to.

Switching to femdom has heavily improved it though! When I started camming I never thought I could be a domme, but turns out I have a huge fetish for saying no and doing tease and denial. Whenever I've had a good day with lots of fetish shows, I'm always in the mood afterwards.