Dealing with a regular who's getting annoying

[babypufff]

So I have this regular, not my best tipper, but he's usually charming and last night he helped out a lot with my countdowns. The thing is he knows the vicinity of where I live, and he's told me he lives in a nearby area. I'm not worried about him finding out my exact location (my area is still big enough to not be found), but lately he constantly tells me that he wants to meet up and fuck. Usually I can shrug this off as dirty talk and go along with it, but his tone and persistence tells me he's serious.

Since I'm still a newbie and still trying to pull in more regulars (and he's otherwise a nice guy), I don't want to straight up tell him to fuck off. But I'm bad at being polite, and so I was wondering if you girls know a way to get someone to back off without pushing them out of your room forever.

 

[XTCKitty]

Tell him you are moving country or something... Or just be honest and say you don't meet up for sex but appreciate his tips and company online.

 

[ThatSmexualEditor]

Tell him you are moving country or something... Or just be honest and say you don't meet up for sex but appreciate his tips and company online.

This.

For very understanding guys, brutal honesty should work 95% of the time. But if anything with him gets out of hand be ready to block him and cut all ties. There have been a lot of horror stories on MFC about guys like this so you should always be careful and keep your location as undisclosed as possible.

 

[lolawantsu2]

This is a common thing I run into. With lots of guys it's just they need to feel it's a possibility -this is part of the fantasy so I try to never shut it down totally. Just keep being coy, skirt the issue. Say, "yes it's very flattering that you want me that way. The idea turns me on so much but for personal safety issues my policy is to not meet up in person with anyone. When I started this I put this policy in place and I always stay true to it. Nothing personal against you darling! But let's keep having naughty fun on here cuz it makes my day!" this is the stuff I tell them and it usually keeps it at bay.

 

[mynameisbob84]

Just be honest with him, yo. Make very clear to him that you have no desire to meet or fuck him, and while you're happy to maintain a dirty, flirty, online relationship with him (so long as he's tipping) that's as far as it goes. Ever. He'll either accept that, or he won't. If he doesn't, ban and ignore him.

 

[PetitOrchid]

I agree with what's been said above! this has happened to me on a couple of occasions. maintaining a polite but firm tone and telling whomever that what they're expecting is not something you offer should work. it's always a risk that telling someone something along those lines will cause them to stop tipping or coming to your room, but your safety and the quality of your room is much more valuable!

 

[ComicOzzie]

This is a common thing I run into. With lots of guys it's just they need to feel it's a possibility -this is part of the fantasy so I try to never shut it down totally. Just keep being coy, skirt the issue. Say, "yes it's very flattering that you want me that way. The idea turns me on so much but for personal safety issues my policy is to not meet up in person with anyone. When I started this I put this policy in place and I always stay true to it. Nothing personal against you darling! But let's keep having naughty fun on here cuz it makes my day!" this is the stuff I tell them and it usually keeps it at bay.

No, no. no. Please don't string the guy along, giving him hope that something might happen when there is no chance that it will. That is just cruel.

 

[AmberCutie]

just be honest and say you don't meet up for sex but appreciate his tips and company online.

Pretty much this.

Or maybe he'll stumble upon this thread and realize that he's being inappropriate and he'll back off.

 

[SaffronBurke]

This is a common thing I run into. With lots of guys it's just they need to feel it's a possibility -this is part of the fantasy so I try to never shut it down totally. Just keep being coy, skirt the issue. Say, "yes it's very flattering that you want me that way. The idea turns me on so much but for personal safety issues my policy is to not meet up in person with anyone. When I started this I put this policy in place and I always stay true to it. Nothing personal against you darling! But let's keep having naughty fun on here cuz it makes my day!" this is the stuff I tell them and it usually keeps it at bay.

That's how you end up with the "she scammed me!" dudes. They'll hear what they want to hear, which is maybe, someday, etc. They get their hearts set on it actually happening, then when they start making plans (or do) and you're still giving them the runaround, they end up heartbroken.

 

[Jessi]

Pretty much this.

Or maybe he'll stumble upon this thread and realize that he's being inappropriate and he'll back off.

Yeah that^^^^^^^

Guys who bug about this sort of thing will be the first to flip out and call you a deceitful whore when you finally law down the law. Leading him on would be dishonest, and the tokens aren't worth the potential drama.

Id be really careful about what information you share, and what photos you post online (don't use any that you used for personal social media).

Best to nip it in the bud early, be firm but polite.

 

[Serenity_Tam]

I always feel like if a dude knows you're general vicinity but knows you don't disclose your location and brings it up with you he's garbage. I feel like if they're knowingly making you uncomfortable they are not worth it. Just tell him you're uncomfortable and don't do that as mentioned. If he keeps egging on then BYE.

Regardless of how someone tips - biggest tipper to right down to never tipped you at all- if someone is disrespectful to you cut them off and you should never question this because down the line it will affect you.

 

[sagereign]

Might be worth the risk of pushing him out if he continues his persistence. There will be plenty of other regulars and tippers who are respectful towards you. Seems like he could be excited by the idea of living so close to you, so I would just be blunt about it to end any ideas of actually meeting up. I'm sure that's exciting for the member but it's a bit anxiety inducing/scary on the other side of things lol if it starts trying to go beyond fantasies.

 

[yummybrownfox]

That's how you end up with the "she scammed me!" dudes. They'll hear what they want to hear, which is maybe, someday, etc. They get their hearts set on it actually happening, then when they start making plans (or do) and you're still giving them the runaround, they end up heartbroken.

Yup, and then they join this forum to post a thread all about it. Lol. Stringing guys along is just a BAD idea...especially when the whole point of camming is to do it on your computer from the comfort/privacy of your home.

 

[SpankyHam]

The problem with alot of guys is that in their minds they lump cam models, strippers, porn actresses and prostitutes into the same category ( if she is willing to do X for $, then she will do XXX for $$$ ) even if he seems like a decent guy I think he may be one of these types Explain to him that you don't want to meet, if he really wants to be your friend he will accept it, if not, well your personal safety is worth more than anything he can offer.

 

[n_i_c_u]

Well, as a member who is annoying (in the tame sense--I don't want to fuck or be fucked), you can ignore the person or just send them the heart emoticon (this happens to me a lot after my drunk wordy pms with models) --happens to me all the time and I still like the models who are kind enough to let me hang out. If a person wants to hang out with you they want to hang out with you and to tell you the truth, it's not worth it to worry about a tipper if they cause you mental anguish (cause mental anguish sucks). And to tell you the truth...and I really believe this: there will be cooler people on down the line better than him that will treat you awesome.

 

[Violet Dawn]

I would just tell him that you are not a prostitute. And being a cam girl is your job. You can be friends, you can have a business relationship and that is all. I've had guys who tell me things like they want to hang out and actually believe it's realistic... and I think a lot of cam girls lead them onto that idea which is destructive for not only the member, but also other cam girls. They're adults, they can handle the truth.

 

[Albert_1]

Usually I can shrug this off as dirty talk and go along with it, but his tone and persistence tells me he's serious.

Never go along with it. You gotta stomp that shit out quick before it gets out of hand.

 

[HoldItNow]

That seems like a rather aggressive switch for a "nice" guy. If you are uncomfortable with something you need to deal with it.

Camming can bring up a lot emotions. Some guys might be going through personal issues and just need to be brought back in line. But it's best to set your boundaries and to stick with them, especially when it comes to personal information.

I knew one model who had to quit after she gave too much info to her big tipper and then one day he decided she needed to be saved and started sending emails to her mother. You can't be too careful.