I just heard from a verified news source that Dolores O’riordan, the lead singer of The Cranberries, died aged 46. That’s too damn soon.
I just heard from a verified news source that Dolores O’riordan, the lead singer of The Cranberries, died aged 46. That’s too damn soon.
I just heard from a verified news source that Dolores O’riordan, the lead singer of The Cranberries, died aged 46. That’s too damn soon.
Captain Kangaroo
I mostly grew up in the 90’s too, but it was only in my 30’s when I gathered courage to play notes and not just drums, when I really started to love The Cranberries.I never cried over a celebrity until I found that out. She was the first musician my sister and I ever got into. We were obsessed. We had her pictures on our walls for years. I was listening to "Ode to My Family" the day before she died. Really heartbreaking.
Dial-up Internet, Carmen San Diego, being afraid the world was going to end with Y2K.
Stuff like this is so complicated in the sense that we know, factually, that proof (that would be sufficient in a legal case) is incredibly hard to get in many sexual assault cases. Even if you remove the power play that happens in a lot of these Hollywood situations, anything that isn’t violent isn’t likely to have physical evidence, and then you’re essentially left with a he said, she said scenario. Can you convict on that? Not really. Can creeps bank on the fact that you can’t? Most definitely. I believe two things: things need to be fair to the accused, and the legal system isn’t a sufficient way to determine whether someone is guilty or not, even if it’s the best and most fair way. I’ve been asking forever when people say that the courts aren’t doing enough to support victims how we can change that in a way that’s still fair to the accused, and I’ve never gotten a sufficient answer nor have I thought of one.Obviously, I'm all for women coming forward about sexual assault, but I've been saying from the beginning this is going to turn into a witch hunt, and I think it has.
There has to be some burden of proof before a person's life and livelihood can be ruined. This affects families, people's spouses and kids.
An accusation shouldn't be a conviction, even in the court of public opinion.
-A victim of child sexual abuse
Stuff like this is so complicated in the sense that we know, factually, that proof (that would be sufficient in a legal case) is incredibly hard to get in many sexual assault cases. Even if you remove the power play that happens in a lot of these Hollywood situations, anything that isn’t violent isn’t likely to have physical evidence, and then you’re essentially left with a he said, she said scenario. Can you convict on that? Not really. Can creeps bank on the fact that you can’t? Most definitely. I believe two things: things need to be fair to the accused, and the legal system isn’t a sufficient way to determine whether someone is guilty or not, even if it’s the best and most fair way. I’ve been asking forever when people say that the courts aren’t doing enough to support victims how we can change that in a way that’s still fair to the accused, and I’ve never gotten a sufficient answer nor have I thought of one.
But, I wouldn’t let Harvey Weinstein hang out with my teenage daughter even though there’s no conviction against him. I imagine most wouldn’t at this point and I wonder at what point (certain number of victims, severity of the alleged assault) that happens for people. Obviously it’s different for everyone but it’s interesting to me to see what everyone’s different levels of acceptance are.
My other thought on this, I wonder how people who’ve spoken up about sexual assault in Hollywood before are feeling in this moment, where it used to be a bit quieter whereas now the conversation is so big. Like if they feel letdown that their stories weren’t shared as widely or taken as seriously. Idk. Just pondering.
One of the things that's kind of irksome is that I don't really think it's solving anything.
Basically, all these famous people or wannabe famous people who got close to famous people come forward with their stories and they're automatically believed. Even if it's something minor like with Aziz Ansari, and his career is at least jeopardized without a thread of evidence.
But then I was a nobody kid who was molested by a nobody family friend for years starting at SEVEN, and when I talk about it, people do their sympathy act, but what's really changing? Like you said, there's no evidence after all these years and who's going to care if one nobody accuses another nobody?
So, what's really being accomplished is all these Hollywood starlets and wannabe starlets are getting to boo-hoo, wear black and suck each other's proverbial cocks at banquets and galas, further their dwindling careers, ruining prosperous careers all over vaguely inappropriate behavior...
...yet ordinary kids are still getting raped, ordinary women are still getting raped, and I'm supposed to believe #TimesUp?
Nah.
Dismissing people’s experiences as boo-hooing and whatever else is so gross to me.One of the things that's kind of irksome is that I don't really think it's solving anything.
Basically, all these famous people or wannabe famous people who got close to famous people come forward with their stories and they're automatically believed. Even if it's something minor like with Aziz Ansari, and his career is at least jeopardized without a thread of evidence.
But then I was a nobody kid who was molested by a nobody family friend for years starting at SEVEN, and when I talk about it, people do their sympathy act, but what's really changing? Like you said, there's no evidence after all these years and who's going to care if one nobody accuses another nobody?
So, what's really being accomplished is all these Hollywood starlets and wannabe starlets are getting to boo-hoo, wear black and suck each other's proverbial cocks at banquets and galas, further their dwindling careers, ruining prosperous careers all over vaguely inappropriate behavior...
...yet ordinary kids are still getting raped, ordinary women are still getting raped, and I'm supposed to believe #TimesUp?
Nah.
Notwithstanding his conviction, Hastert continues to receive his congressional pension,[244] which amounts to about $73,000 a year.[240]
Dismissing people’s experiences as boo-hooing and whatever else is so gross to me.
I agree that their movement might not change things for you or I or other people in different situations, but it doesn’t harm us as victims/survivors/whatever, and not everything has to be for everyone. Making progress in one industry is better than making progress in none. I may be bitter and a little jealous of people who’s assaults are taken more seriously than mine, but I am glad that someone’s is.
Also, you’re right that some careers might be ruined; in that vein, I find it disingenuous to ignore the careers ruined by people who are either forced out or leave industries where they’re assaulted. Kevin Spacey may have a hard time getting work now, Mira Sorvino was blacklisted and had a hard time getting work - why decry one and not the other?
I got this bitch a week ago. It's one part of this huge idea I have. It's done peeling or looks like it is and NOW, NOW it wants to itch like crazy. grr.
The nipple must have hurt like crazy!