KudosKids said:
This is going to be a annoying post. So I thought this was the appropriate thread as I am a member and I understand I maybe annoying to some people. I've been a active member on MFC for 2 years now. I have tipped and enjoyed a big chunk of the cam models on this thread. When I came to ACF, what I imagined was so off base than what I got. I have seen models personalities completely change here to when they are on cam. There are models here who I had much respect for which is now lost and I will no longer visit there rooms or tip them anymore (You don't need to say it, I already know you don't care, it won't make or break you). I now realize from a post I had made in a thread that didn't get the best of answers, that you all are entertainers and it was silly of me to think that some of you actually put on a genuine face while on cam. I've expressed the same opinions with many of you while on cam and I did not get even a fifth of the slander I got here. I actually got none. I got giggles and smiles and open minds to any opinions I had said. But here is a whole other world. With that said, I plan on staying here because there are people here that I actually enjoy there opinion and I still like to give mine. I intend on not joining in on hostile threads in the future. And I will no longer react to comments I do not agree with and are attacking. I will simply just ignore and move on to a thread that is more fun and positive. Which is good news to you and me. I have never joined a forum before, but I have learned a load of information on what to do in one in such a short amount of time. I do not want to bring anyone here down or feel any hostility against me so this is my last post where I will express my true feelings on a subject. I simply just want to come and hangout. I have already predicted that many of you are going to reply to this in a negative light and I do not blame you. But I had to get this off my chest because I am still seeing rude and unnecessary posts commenting on opinions I have had. And it has taken mental strength to walk away from. Whoo! I feel much better now.
What you found annoying about this forum is exactly the reason why I'm here. I love debating things with intelligent people who have extensive knowledge about subjects that I'm not as knowledgeable about. It's an opportunity to look at an issue from different angles that can be a learning experience for both parties. Take Steph, for instance. When she's on cam, she's always very friendly, funny silly, warm, welcoming, etc. The atmosphere in the room is very lighthearted. However, anyone who spends some time in her room (and casts a casual glance at her Twitter feed every now and then) can also see that for all her silliness and willingness to make a fool of herself, she's also very intelligent, strongly opinionated and more importantly, neither afraid nor incapable of defending her principles. On top of that, she has a vastly different set of life experiences than I have as well as majoring in a field of study I know next to nothing about AND am very interested in. That's pretty much discussion partner gold! We may not necessarily agree on everything (though we seem to agree on a lot), but that doesn't mean that we can't have a solid rational discussion regardless, despite the fact that on MFC we both proudly wear our silly hats.
Speaking of which, the venue is a VERY important factor here. MFC does what it does quite well, but it's not the platform for heady discussion. Not that it can't be done, but from a business standpoint (are camgirls businesses?) it may drive away a good number of potential customers who are just there to wind down and get off. Not just that, but a forum also offers the possibility of thinking a bit longer before we speak. In a written-only medium, choosing your words carefully becomes vitally important because tone is difficult to convey and any ambiguity can mean that a post might be taken the wrong way and derail a topic or worse. This is coincidentally why serious me gets a lot more wordy than silly me. On MFC, the mood and atmosphere in a room are very important, and a heated discussion can kill a good mood very quickly. Here, mood is less important in the long run. We can step into and away from a discussion if we're not in the mood for it.
As Gen already pointed out, just because you're seeing different sides to someone's personality doesn't make either any more or less "real" than the other. While I don't think it's as much of a difference for us members, but I can certainly see it being a big relief for the models here to not have to be "on" all the time. It's a bit like going on a date. The image you present of yourself is going to emphasize your positive qualities, but that doesn't mean that image is fake, it't just incomplete. Just one facet of the polyhedral whole.
To be honest, I don't think "silly" is the word I'd pick to describe your surprise at the fact that camgirls act differently on cam than off. I'd have gone with naive because that implies that you merely didn't fully think it through.