Firstly, apologies for the somewhat vague topic title and secondly, apologies for this being my first post, rather than an introductory one!
I have been browsing this forum for quite some time now, on and off, but came across a situation I could use some 'insight' on probably, thus this message now.
So without further ado, I'll try and explain the situation as best as I can...
I had been thinking about 'ordering' a custom video for a while; I'm hoping for apparent reasons :roll: - just to have something unique. So I did a search for models (read: tags) and a while later the news feed, when I came across a model's offer regarding custom videos. Basically, it was a temporary offer, but I took the chance and sent her a message, asking if the offer was still valid, etc. She replied saying the offer wasn't valid, but she had a video offer and mentioned the price for the custom video, I agreed to getting both and sent her the tokens. Surely enough, she sent me the videos straight away and would 'get started' on the custom video as soon as possible.
But first, obviously, we had to discuss what was going to be 'custom' about the video. I had no idea what to ask for, as it was still all new to me, etc. Not knowing what was 'okay' to ask for, what she could do and so on. Eventually, I gave her some basic 'requests' (dislike to use certain terms, since they might imply unkindness, being unpersonal, etc., but I guess in the end it comes down to being requests, so I'll just go with that) and she mentioned it was not a problem. This all happened on the 11th of July (or the 10th; I'm in Europe and usually online during nighttime or early morning for me, but it is usually still evening across the Atlantic).
A few days had gone by (July 14th) when I spoke to her again on MFC, this time in PM (previous contact had been through MFC Mail). Basically she stated that the video was done and it was being edited. Apparently she has someone editing her videos for her, she even mentioned it was a person who did that for multiple models. So far, everything's still fine.
The next day (15th), I enter her room again. The video wasn't done yet (she said on cam), so I mentioned in chat if she could kindly give the editor a nudge. We chatted for a bit in her room and after a while, she went offline and promised to give her editor another nudge.
Meanwhile, it's the 17th and I notice a new MFC Mail, so this got me 'excited' and I hoped that she'd send the video, or at least a link. Nope, it was a 'newsletter' . Nothing wrong with that, I'll just try and ask her if she comes online. A while later she comes online and mentions she has some good news. The good news being that the video should be completed the next day she gets home from work and would be able to send it. I am slowly starting to get my doubts, but still react normal. Well, excited, but that's all :whistle:
She hasn't been online for a few days, which of course happens - I don't expect anyone to be online 24/7 or whatever. Either way, it's the 21st and she mentions the video is uploading to her dropbox (same way she shared the other videos). She apologizes for the delay and promises to send it over when it's done.
The next day (July 22nd), she comes back online and I 'approach' her through PM, kindly asking if the video was done uploading, to which she replied it was done uploading, but she had to move it? Not entirely sure why she would have to move it after initially uploading it, but that could be due to some privacy settings or something. She says she had to keep her computer on all night to get it done. She finalizes the conversation (PM) by saying she would move the file and send the link after she logs off cam.
After a while, she isn't online anymore, but I don't see a message or link anywhere. Sure, she could have forgotten, or something could've gotten in between, right? I'm trying to think of reasons why there has been all this delay so far and why she hasn't managed to send me the link yet.
Meanwhile, we're on the 23rd and finally, I see an MFC mail pop up - surely, the title reads 'Custom vid' so I open it, hoping to find a link. But all there is, is a bit of text, announcing the videolink, but there is no link to be found. Slowly, some 'alarmbells' start to sound... Anyways, I contact her through PM and mention there is no link to be found. Still in a normal, kind manner. I may have my doubts, but I still act in a normal way, since I think getting all mad will get you nowhere. She mentioned that MFC Mail is messed up somehow and that the link might have been removed or something similar. I said that I haven't had any issues with MFC Mail like this before. A link may have gotten broken or not shown correctly, but it has never just been 'removed'. Plus, she didn't say she had forgotten to include the link, which could happen as well, but she specifically said something must've gone wrong and it (MFC?) doesn't like her sending stuff when she's logged on. She would resend the link when she logs off... Ah well, I start to come up with a suggestion myself, being she could maybe send the dropbox link to my e-mail address. It should only take a minute; her room isn't the most crowded one you'll find on MFC and usually she doesn't mind just PM'ing for instance, so I would guess quickly sending a link shouldn't take too long and shouldn't be too difficult either, since she was able to send the link to her other videos through MFC Mail without issues.
The next day (24th), I see her online (not on cam, but just online) and message her through PM, as I always greet her (so still nice to her). No response, which obviously can happen and she goes offline. She probably hasn't seen the message, no problem .
Last night (25th), she said she didn't get the PM at all, doesn't mention anything about not being able to send an e-mail or anything, but does ask for my e-mail address again. So, I send her my e-mail address again through PM and mentioned I would send it through MFC Mail again, just to make sure it gets there (and possibly avoid a comment that she hasn't gotten it). She replies with saying that MFC Mail has been acting up. I get slightly more annoyed with the alarm bells going off slightly louder. I'm still 'quite' nice to her, I think and I say for example, "there has to be a wayfor you to share the link ". I ask her to confirm she got the e-mail address and say to her, it should be merely a 'copy & paste' thing of the link, she agrees. Shortly after, I notice the time and had to log off (like I said, I'm in Europe and I guess by that time it was like 5am or something similar). I said my goodbyes and reminded her to send the link once she logged off, which she confirmed she would do.
Now, that was yesterday and so far, I still haven't seen a link or anything. I have seen her on two sites besides MFC the last few days, so it's not like she didn't have time, even for just a few minutes. I hope it's safe to assume that it isn't too difficult to copy&paste a link, nor takes too long to do. Especially knowing she already sent a dropbox link initially for the video package deal.
So far, I have been nice about it and always been understanding and respectful to her, but I'm slowly starting to get my doubts about this... Am I completely misunderstanding all of this and is she truly unable to send the link? Or is it safe to assume she hasn't even recorded a video and/or isn't planning on sending me a link anytime soon?
How do I move forward from here?
PS: I'm not natively English, so if any of the above is unclear, for whatever reason, please let me know so I can clarify! I would hate for there to be a misunderstanding in this post, not painting a clear picture of the situation, leading to possible trouble.
Oh, and thanks a lot for the time and attention! Any and all replies will be appreciated, I know it's a long read, but I wanted to get everything straight (for myself as well)!
I have been browsing this forum for quite some time now, on and off, but came across a situation I could use some 'insight' on probably, thus this message now.
So without further ado, I'll try and explain the situation as best as I can...
I had been thinking about 'ordering' a custom video for a while; I'm hoping for apparent reasons :roll: - just to have something unique. So I did a search for models (read: tags) and a while later the news feed, when I came across a model's offer regarding custom videos. Basically, it was a temporary offer, but I took the chance and sent her a message, asking if the offer was still valid, etc. She replied saying the offer wasn't valid, but she had a video offer and mentioned the price for the custom video, I agreed to getting both and sent her the tokens. Surely enough, she sent me the videos straight away and would 'get started' on the custom video as soon as possible.
But first, obviously, we had to discuss what was going to be 'custom' about the video. I had no idea what to ask for, as it was still all new to me, etc. Not knowing what was 'okay' to ask for, what she could do and so on. Eventually, I gave her some basic 'requests' (dislike to use certain terms, since they might imply unkindness, being unpersonal, etc., but I guess in the end it comes down to being requests, so I'll just go with that) and she mentioned it was not a problem. This all happened on the 11th of July (or the 10th; I'm in Europe and usually online during nighttime or early morning for me, but it is usually still evening across the Atlantic).
A few days had gone by (July 14th) when I spoke to her again on MFC, this time in PM (previous contact had been through MFC Mail). Basically she stated that the video was done and it was being edited. Apparently she has someone editing her videos for her, she even mentioned it was a person who did that for multiple models. So far, everything's still fine.
The next day (15th), I enter her room again. The video wasn't done yet (she said on cam), so I mentioned in chat if she could kindly give the editor a nudge. We chatted for a bit in her room and after a while, she went offline and promised to give her editor another nudge.
Meanwhile, it's the 17th and I notice a new MFC Mail, so this got me 'excited' and I hoped that she'd send the video, or at least a link. Nope, it was a 'newsletter' . Nothing wrong with that, I'll just try and ask her if she comes online. A while later she comes online and mentions she has some good news. The good news being that the video should be completed the next day she gets home from work and would be able to send it. I am slowly starting to get my doubts, but still react normal. Well, excited, but that's all :whistle:
She hasn't been online for a few days, which of course happens - I don't expect anyone to be online 24/7 or whatever. Either way, it's the 21st and she mentions the video is uploading to her dropbox (same way she shared the other videos). She apologizes for the delay and promises to send it over when it's done.
The next day (July 22nd), she comes back online and I 'approach' her through PM, kindly asking if the video was done uploading, to which she replied it was done uploading, but she had to move it? Not entirely sure why she would have to move it after initially uploading it, but that could be due to some privacy settings or something. She says she had to keep her computer on all night to get it done. She finalizes the conversation (PM) by saying she would move the file and send the link after she logs off cam.
After a while, she isn't online anymore, but I don't see a message or link anywhere. Sure, she could have forgotten, or something could've gotten in between, right? I'm trying to think of reasons why there has been all this delay so far and why she hasn't managed to send me the link yet.
Meanwhile, we're on the 23rd and finally, I see an MFC mail pop up - surely, the title reads 'Custom vid' so I open it, hoping to find a link. But all there is, is a bit of text, announcing the videolink, but there is no link to be found. Slowly, some 'alarmbells' start to sound... Anyways, I contact her through PM and mention there is no link to be found. Still in a normal, kind manner. I may have my doubts, but I still act in a normal way, since I think getting all mad will get you nowhere. She mentioned that MFC Mail is messed up somehow and that the link might have been removed or something similar. I said that I haven't had any issues with MFC Mail like this before. A link may have gotten broken or not shown correctly, but it has never just been 'removed'. Plus, she didn't say she had forgotten to include the link, which could happen as well, but she specifically said something must've gone wrong and it (MFC?) doesn't like her sending stuff when she's logged on. She would resend the link when she logs off... Ah well, I start to come up with a suggestion myself, being she could maybe send the dropbox link to my e-mail address. It should only take a minute; her room isn't the most crowded one you'll find on MFC and usually she doesn't mind just PM'ing for instance, so I would guess quickly sending a link shouldn't take too long and shouldn't be too difficult either, since she was able to send the link to her other videos through MFC Mail without issues.
The next day (24th), I see her online (not on cam, but just online) and message her through PM, as I always greet her (so still nice to her). No response, which obviously can happen and she goes offline. She probably hasn't seen the message, no problem .
Last night (25th), she said she didn't get the PM at all, doesn't mention anything about not being able to send an e-mail or anything, but does ask for my e-mail address again. So, I send her my e-mail address again through PM and mentioned I would send it through MFC Mail again, just to make sure it gets there (and possibly avoid a comment that she hasn't gotten it). She replies with saying that MFC Mail has been acting up. I get slightly more annoyed with the alarm bells going off slightly louder. I'm still 'quite' nice to her, I think and I say for example, "there has to be a wayfor you to share the link ". I ask her to confirm she got the e-mail address and say to her, it should be merely a 'copy & paste' thing of the link, she agrees. Shortly after, I notice the time and had to log off (like I said, I'm in Europe and I guess by that time it was like 5am or something similar). I said my goodbyes and reminded her to send the link once she logged off, which she confirmed she would do.
Now, that was yesterday and so far, I still haven't seen a link or anything. I have seen her on two sites besides MFC the last few days, so it's not like she didn't have time, even for just a few minutes. I hope it's safe to assume that it isn't too difficult to copy&paste a link, nor takes too long to do. Especially knowing she already sent a dropbox link initially for the video package deal.
So far, I have been nice about it and always been understanding and respectful to her, but I'm slowly starting to get my doubts about this... Am I completely misunderstanding all of this and is she truly unable to send the link? Or is it safe to assume she hasn't even recorded a video and/or isn't planning on sending me a link anytime soon?
How do I move forward from here?
PS: I'm not natively English, so if any of the above is unclear, for whatever reason, please let me know so I can clarify! I would hate for there to be a misunderstanding in this post, not painting a clear picture of the situation, leading to possible trouble.
Oh, and thanks a lot for the time and attention! Any and all replies will be appreciated, I know it's a long read, but I wanted to get everything straight (for myself as well)!