Your "The ONE" - Have you found them?

[NotYou]

Since there are not so many members to answer this, it can be for models too but from the opposite angle.

Members/Fans: Have you found your "the one" on any camsite? By this I mean, you love to always be in their room, you don't go to other rooms or if you do it's rare. I am not saying being in love or infatuated with the model, but simply you enjoy them all the time. This can be for any reason/s.

Models: on the opposite side, do you have or have you ever had any followers like this? I know from your end it will be difficult to truly answer, I am guessing - as guys do love to lie and pretend like every model is their "only one". But I am sure you must be able to know when someone does only come to you? Heck, maybe you as a model do have a "one" that you love to watch and tip too?


For me personally, I haven't and I can't even imagine I will. Don't get me wrong, I have a couple where I absolutely love to always be with them if//when I can, and they are stunning, funny, fun, and just everything - no show is boring, and time simply flies with them (in a good way) and I get happy when I see their online notification, but I love viewing all kinds of women, meeting all kinds from different backgrounds and countries, seeing how very different yet similar everyone is. Sometimes I kind of feel like a crappy guy for enjoying lots of the women (I think because it feels like I am not satisfied by one woman, which is not the case at all - when I have a partner, I am hers and only hers), but at the same time, I don't see a problem with it (until I make my "in love with a model" thread, that is lol).

 

[CheeseMoon]

To answer the question in the thread subject: yes I did, until a little over a year ago when a very big tipper also found his way to the room. The whole thing then just degenerated into silly drama and petty bullshit, after which most of her regulars including me stopped going there. Money + tits + horny guys = drama. She has PMed me a couple of times inviting me back, but it would not be the same anymore.

Other than that room I had and have no "special one" I hang out with. Out of the three I used to visit semi frequently over the last year (CB + SC), two appear to have stopped camming altogether or changed site the last couple of months.

Is there such a thing as "inbetween models"?

 

[Danigirl]

I don't think I want any members to be completely "she's the one". That's how you get crazy stalker or super obsessive types that you eventually have to ban. The nature of the business is that members come and go over the years. Some stay longer than others overall but you don't expect virtual faithfulness or whatever you want to call it. Maybe look at it like a tv show- some members will watch every episode all seasons and can't wait for the next one but they'll also watch another tv show and that's completely fine.

 

[tokensarentforkids]

I stick to one, mainly because money and time are limited...

 

[CheeseMoon]

[...] but you don't expect virtual faithfulness or whatever you want to call it.

Plenty of models do, but we've been over the jealous types in numerous threads here ...

 

[AudriTwo]

i have like two. they have to remind me every time we do a show im the only one they watch on cam. wonder how they have been hanging on since i haven't been online in over two weeks?

 

[NotYou]

i have like two. they have to remind me every time we do a show im the only one they watch on cam. wonder how they have been hanging on since i haven't been online in over two weeks?

I am sure they did not find an AudriThree.....

Yes yes, I am tired, I will go away with the bad jokes

 

[Finchomatic]

That's me at the moment. Just one room. Not because of love or simptitude, but mostly because I don't want to take the time or effort to be in an other rooms.

It's like an episode of Cheers where everyone knows your name. And it's nice to be appreciated even if you can't afford to tip like a whale but do what you can to create a positive atmosphere for both the broadcaster and everyone else who is in the chat at any given time.

Some days I have like 7-8 PM chats going with other members bs'ing about everything. A few of them have actually become online friends. Funny how that works out.

 

[Danigirl]

Plenty of models do, but we've been over the jealous types in numerous threads here ...

Yeah and we also say how much bullshit a jealous model is.

 

[squirtalot]

Yes! One very lovely viewer who was with me right from the beginning. He created an account with CB just because of me - I always find stuff like this very flattering indeed - and because he enjoyed my nude yoga shows.

 

[Makko]

I did have just the one. But then she left a week for vacation and I started looking around. Found 3 other models I visited several times a week. But one started camming on times I'm working, and another I got into an argument and pretty much stopped visiting. The 3rd one, well it's all about sexual things she talks about and that gets old fast.
I still look around but I'm pretty much back to that first model full-time.

 

[Just_A_Guy]

Money + tits + horny guys = drama.

Story of my pvt life. Good god.

 

[Deleted member 57619]

Member-only here.

Yes, I'm relatively new to CB as far as the tipping side is concerned. Recently, I got a new and decent job after a long-ass training/education for it, so now I have the budget to tip decently and do privates. I was just a lurker (read: leech) before. I tried a couple other bigger tips/privates with a couple other models at the beginning. However, while I found them very attractive, our personalities didn't really click it seemed, so it was kinda awkward. I happened to stumble upon a room then that fit my 'ideal' look to a t. Did a private, and the PM conversation flowed a ton better. The model didn't happen to try to force any make-do dirty talk like the classic 'I want you to do ___ and ___ to me" lines or whatnot, which I greatly appreciated. (The rooms I happened to like were all small/new, so that could have affected things, idk)

With that in mind, I've stuck to that one room, and basically done a private per day plus some chatting when I'm around. At this point, I'm not sure if I've qualified as a 'spending whale' or whatever but I'm pretty sure I've become a regular at least lol

To be clear, it's not any love or whatever either. It really just was a room that fit what I was looking for 1.) Someone I find very attractive, 2.) Someone I could easily talk non-dirty to.

I'm not necessarily opposed to going to other rooms, but my mindset is something along the lines of "if I don't enjoy the other rooms as much, why should I spend time/tokens on the model, when I can focus said time/tokens on the one room?" Given how well the room I go to fits what my ideals are in terms of looks/personality though, I imagine it'd be very hard to pull me to a different room.

 

[MarieElise]

I have in real life, but not in a camming context. Ironically in the camming context, my bf would get blocked and completely turn me off, within about 5 minutes haha. Not even kidding! He's very "economical" and although a huge talker, he tends to go off track too much. In real life, he's wonderful though, and I could not love him more. But in the camming context, he would barely last an evening with me.

I like variety when I cam, so the idea of a ONE scares me. I do have a group of guys who I think are super cool though. Like a mental list of my regulars who seem to get camming, get the context, and are super fun. Those guys would be the closest to what I would say were the "one".

As a viewer I am the same. I visit a huge variety of rooms, and rarely the same room twice. I also rarely get nudity, and I just like people who have a nice smile, and jolly demeanor. So I am not a typical cam user, as I really don't use cams for a sexual purpose. Just to tip and show some support, and throw the odd joke in, to see if I can get a laugh or a smile. Which then makes me feel happy, and is ultimately what I am tipping for (ie to make myself happy/ put myself in a better mood).

 

[jekster]

Almost 3 years ago I registered and joined the cam site I am on and mainly so I could become a part of this one specific model's room. Almost three years later I am still there and try to be at every show.
Over 90% of my tips go to her, the remainder I spend on 2 other models who I like hanging out with, but for different reasons.

But..

To answer the question in the thread subject: yes I did, until a little over a year ago when a very big tipper also found his way to the room. The whole thing then just degenerated into silly drama and petty bullshit, after which most of her regulars including me stopped going there. Money + tits + horny guys = drama. She has PMed me a couple of times inviting me back, but it would not be the same anymore.

Similar to Cheesemoon - a very big tipper has arrived and the dynamic of the room is changing alot as it feels she is pushing all of her old regulars away and focusing all her attention on the whale almost to the exclusion of everyone else. From having a group of about 15 regulars that would attend her shows (based on the day) a year ago, only 5 of them are still here and I know we're not entirely enthused with the way things are going. I suspect at least 1-2 more wont be back after Christmas.

Even though she has said she worries at times what will happen when the whale moves on (in private conversation with me), I fear by the time that happens she will have lost any of her old regulars already. And new tippers just aren't coming in anymore - it is rare to see anyone new tip in her room at all anymore. Any attempt to try explain this ends up just creating drama so now we all just sit back, say nothing and slowly watch her room die while we watch the "Whale and Model" show unfold every day.

 

[Smoothie]

I do not have “The One” in the literal sense (I visit and tip a variety of models and I always have).

But my favorite model definitely dominates my time. She’s the first model I ever bought tokens for. Physically, she’s exactly my type, and we pivot easily between the sexy activities and normal, friendly chats. Its perfect.

She’s my “The One” in the sense that if 3 or 4 of my favorites are broadcasting at the same time, I’ll choose her room every time. But she’s not “The One” in the literal sense. She knows I visit other rooms when she’s not online. I’m pretty sure she even knows who my other favorites (albeit distant seconds to her) are.

We’ve even visited different models’ rooms together, just to observe and swap opinions on the show. It was surprisingly fun and not as awkward as it sounds, lol.

 

[zippypinhead]

I did, but that was many years ago. She quit camming, and our contact ended there. Her friendship with me at the time is something I'll always be grateful for. I haven't found anyone else with the same amount of chemistry, and I feel like it was the kind of situation I wouldn't want to repeat. I still think about her often, and I hope she's happy and doing well.

 

[odioso]

I've always followed several models at a time. I always have a favourite who I spend most of my time with, but when that person disappears for a long stretch of time or quits camming, I replace her with one of the other models.

I've started getting away from befriending models, though, and I will probably stop visiting camsites whenever my current favourite model quits.

 

[3and6]

Hi.
I may be stupid. Stupid enough to think he's the one. And ever since I realized it, I can t function. Can t eat. Spent my nye home in bed crying. I feel helpless. The only contact i m allowed to have with him is through the platform. And I mailed him and he won t mail back.He said he needed time.
And Im at work right now and i still can t function. I feel heartbroken. He told me to call all those in the room who callme"bb" ... pb (peanut brain), which I did, nd i bursted into tears during my first "bb" private today.
Please, help me.
What do I do now?
What do I do?

 

[AudriTwo]

Hi.
I may be stupid. Stupid enough to think he's the one. And ever since I realized it, I can t function. Can t eat. Spent my nye home in bed crying. I feel helpless. The only contact i m allowed to have with him is through the platform. And I mailed him and he won t mail back.He said he needed time.
And Im at work right now and i still can t function. I feel heartbroken. He told me to call all those in the room who callme"bb" ... pb (peanut brain), which I did, nd i bursted into tears during my first "bb" private today.
Please, help me.
What do I do now?
What do I do?

If he said he needs time, respect that boundary he set. Stop messaging him since you already did.

Breathe, drink some green tea to help sooth you, do things that make you happy and can keep your mind from wondering. it's okay to cry and get those sad feels out. I'm sorry you are dealing with heartbreak, but it does heal after sometime.

I love using mediation/hypnosis to help with coping/intrusive thoughts/pain/nausea/sleeping

 

[3and6]

If he said he needs time, respect that boundary he set. Stop messaging him since you already did.

Breathe, drink some green tea to help sooth you, do things that make you happy and can keep your mind from wondering. it's okay to cry and get those sad feels out. I'm sorry you are dealing with heartbreak, but it does heal after sometime.

I love using mediation/hypnosis to help with coping/intrusive thoughts/pain/nausea/sleeping

Thank you so much for your support! I had candy and lavender tea.
It's not like me to stay hurt. Or to brag about it. And my state of mind is better now, thanks to you. Thank you for the warmth and the nice words! I'll take your advice and not contact him again. I'll wait. Maybe he's just scared.
And if it s not just that, I guess I'll just take my time to heal.
Thank you!

 

[InAweOfCB]

My concise answer, as a long-time viewer, is "no".


But everyone should probably contemplate the giant amount of human psychology ongoing around webcam models, perhaps like in no single place on earth.

While you can stroll through Times Square in NYC and THINK that "people from all over the world come here", a single spot like that, no matter how well-traveled, cannot hold a candle to a popular webcam site with regard to true variety of humans.

Then you remove the many designer and non-designer clothes from each, (clothing manufacturers can only create SO many unique pieces of fabric)... and human variety is present on, say, Chaturbate, as in few other places on earth.


With that in mind, it suggests that the variety there is the most unique and eye-catching aspect of webcam model sites. Eventually that will hopefully have the following positive effect on women:

Because there are SO many varieties already on webcam model sites, the easiest way to stand-out from the crowds is to present yourSELF, and your own uniqueness front and center. A popular 'move' on Chaturbate (as in real life) is for (women) to look around at others and think they need to (start doing what they're doing, fashion-wise, makeup-wise, hairstyle-wise) in order to (get the guy, or get the attention, etc.). But with so many varieties already represented on Chaturbate, it is most likely that whatever/whoever you're attempting to become is already THERE on the site somewhere.

In such a unique case, a more sound strategy is to stay with your own natural uniqueness, as that is what is sure to help you stand-out the most on Chaturbate or on any other popular webcam model site.

The model who is presenting herself as she is, and accenting her most-fancied-by-others features (even in cases where THOSE were only discovered 3 cam-sessions ago, due to unbridled rave reviews)... is far better received by the masses than are those who likely paused to view a number of the most popular (models on the first page of Chaturbate's menu) and then decided that they need HER hair, HER eye-shadow, HER d-cups, HER lips, with the next several steps being to adopt those changes, surgically and otherwise. That has for far too long been too great a part of (what we have come to know as) "normal society" but now we have this unique medium where everyone can follow what they're drawn to, and those who used to sit around in your periphery (in real life... in school, etc.) and put you down for (not being a petite Asian) can now be in some other (cam room) watching petite Asians.

The psychology and convenience that assures that those drawn TO you will find you, and those who used to speak-out about wanting *you* to be (someone else), will be off finding (whatever they wanted *you* to be). That whole scenario is a recipe for just being yourself and trying to find the confidence within that was always needed to present (her) in the very best light.


To wind this back around to "finding the one" (IN the context of just one random cam model who seems to stand-out from all others... OR one random, huge-tipper who is just seemingly gaga over *you* )... because of all of the unparalleled variety on webcams today, it will be much more of a seeming discovery when one does locate the model SO unique and appealing that he can't look away. Some of that is surely why the huge-tippers are SO over-the-moon about one woman, with one appearance, even in a setting where his chances of ever seeing that person 'in real life' are approximately zero.

From the other side (which I certainly don't know from first-hand experience)... it IS sensible to recognize that a surprisingly high percentage of your tips will come from a small segment of your viewers such that it is wise to first present yourself as you are, flaws and all, and then (make yourself believe) that there are clear psychological reasons why he is as drawn to you as seems the case. Maybe it doesn't ever matter just which reasons those are (especially if you can keep him a continent or two away from you). It is statistically surprising, and funny-in-a-good-way just how many camgirls learn only through camming that (some self-perceived 'flaw' they've been fretting about since 4th grade is actually an anatomical wonder in the minds of enough admirers that they will pay to see it again and again).

Webcamming probably begins at de-commissioning the self-conscious 4th grader within and then quickly understanding two things:

A - the value of your own outwardly-projected personal confidence added to your own human uniqueness

B - those who in 4th grade had nothing better to do than to make fun of you are now in the webcam rooms of those they always believed they would fancy more (it seems almost insignificant in one way, but it should be a load off your mind)



After that, you move on to the recognition that (as of early 2021 at least) your recorded camgirl sessions will always find their way to internet porn sites. And those in your hometown WILL eventually find them. (it becomes more and more difficult to project the needed self-confidence when you're always contemplating the last obscure porn site upon which you discovered one of your streams)

The more distinct your camgirl alias, the more easily those from back home, on the internet hunt, will narrow-down their searches to find your content.


IF you can still somehow be comfortable with all of that, then webcamming can really work for you, at least in the near-ish term. But it's your outlook and the way you project yourself in your cam shows that will dictate the difference between quick momentum and success, and initial frustration and struggles.


The camgirl waters are deeper than ever now, largely because of Covid times... but viewers who are just the targets of such websites (men with plenty of money who somehow need more from life than they feel life is offering them) remain plentiful across the globe, and thankfully those men are as gullible as ever.

 

[AussieCosplay]

I have had some people mention to me that Mine's the only room they enter, and my response is always to tell them about other models who I think they'd enjoy based on our interactions.
I'm not online all the time, so if they have a variety of models they get along with then they won't have to randomly click through rooms when I'm not around.

It may mean slightly less tokens for me, but I'd rather know that other good models are also getting the extra traffic. After all, we're co-workers, or in some cases friends.

 

[Kathrynne]

I have a couple of members who are always with me - for several years now. I can't say for sure if they visit other models, if so, then I don't mind at all, but of course you shouldn't tell me about it in detail.
These members became very good moral and financial support, they became my friends, these are the people that I remember even when I'm offline. They follow me on all sites and help me adapt everywhere and their presence makes my day better.It's very nice to go online and know that even on the worst day you will not be alone.