Would you meet IRL someone who tips you $7,000?

[SexySteph]

@SexySteph
I've been meeting up with people over the internet for several years, and I've never had any issues with feeling uncomfortable unless it was someone from a dating site. In the camming world I'd feel perfectly fine meeting up with another model if I knew her well enough, but a member? No.

Surprisingly, at least for me, I've never seen the dating site issues cross over to cam land. Actually I'd say 100% of the members I met were MORE worried than the models because they were concerned of saying or doing the wrong things and make the model feel uncomfortable or threatened or seem like they misunderstood the intent of the meetup. This is just my experience though and I'm not saying all members are respectful enough to get it, just that I've never had an experience with one that wasn't. But maybe I'm naive since I see members as human and and assume the odds are slim that the ones that win the date raffles will be dangerous and crazy like many do?

I'm not trying to convince anyone to DO date raffles. Just trying to defend those of us that do since it seems like there's a wide consensus that we're irresponsible and naive.

 

[Sansa]

Surprisingly, at least for me, I've never seen the dating site issues cross over to cam land. Actually I'd say 100% of the members I met were MORE worried than the models because they were concerned of saying or doing the wrong things and make the model feel uncomfortable or threatened or seem like they misunderstood the intent of the meetup. This is just my experience though and I'm not saying all members are respectful enough to get it, just that I've never had an experience with one that wasn't. But maybe I'm naive since I see members as human and and assume the odds are slim that the ones that win the date raffles will be dangerous and crazy like many do?

I'm not trying to convince anyone to DO date raffles. Just trying to defend those of us that do since it seems like there's a wide consensus that we're irresponsible and naive.

I guess it depends on what kind of crowd the model attracts. Whenever members bring up date raffles in my room, opinion is generally split in two ways:

1. They go on camsites because they're on the internet and whatever is on the internet stays on the internet. Usually these are my best tippers too. They have zero interest in ever participating in a date raffle.

2. The second group are guys who say that even if the rules state that there's no sex, that it DOES happen most of of the time (which is bullshit imho). But they're really really pushy about they matter and make me feel uncomfortable. I have other more personal reasons as to why I'd never meet up with someone from a camsite, but the only reason I've ever had to entertain the idea is because of pushy members like that who try to coerce a model into doing something she isn't even offering to begin with.

No idea if these offers are even remotely legit, probably not, but I have been offered upwards of two thousand dollars to meet up with someone, and the message exchange always ends with them being banned because they get angry and disrespectful because they don't take no for an answer. I don't even respond offers like that anymore. It happens often enough that it makes me think that it's the same kind of people who get creepy on dating sites. Obviously they're not the majority on either type of site, but their presence is certainly notable enough to make me want to avoid both.

 

[mav2199]

I like that 2nd post....

 

[gingerhobbit]

Sooo...if no one's gonna take the guy up on his offer to meet for $7k, I'll do it.

 

[Guy]

I went on a "date" with my highest accumulative tipper of all time (he has collectively tipped quadruple the amount my second accumulative tipper has tipped, to put it in perspective) back in July. He bought us tickets to Neil Young. I had a situation in June where the highest accumulative tipper for that month would when a day/night out with me. My boyfriend brought me to the venue, (it was at Summerfest) so he stayed on the grounds outside of the show, and the guy met me at the amphitheater, I regularly texted my boyfriend with checkins (though it wasn't needed, the member, who I consider a friend, was incredibly respectful, never even asked to hug me or anything.) We had a great time! Afterward my boyfriend was waiting at the exit of the grounds so I was immediately escorted by him back to our car.

This guy doesn't tip me to be sexual or do cumshows. He started tipping me in May and quickly grew fond of me and invested a lot of time. We spoke a lot outside of MFC and there was/has never been anything to make me worry. I feel like women just have a feel for who to meet and who not to meet.

I would likely not consider meeting someone who hasn't tipped a minimum over $10,000 over time and that is the number I have stuck with. Someone who invests that kind of financial commitment can be taken more seriously than someone who tips 1000 or 2000 tokens once and asks me about meeting. Basically anyone who asks me to meet gets crossed off the potential meet list. It is something I feel I do as a courtesy to those who have shown they have a high level of respect for me.

To those who are all, "OMG YOU COULD GET KILLED!" Well, I live in central Milwaukee, WI. People get hit by stray bullets here every day. I could easily get killed any day of the week. There are endless creepy people I know in real life who could easily kidnap me too. Some people are good and some people are bad.

Is that guy rich?

 

[NerdieBirdie]

Is that guy rich?

How would I know this?

 

[SNATCH]

Depending on all the circumstances, I just might... Because I need the $$, lololololololol. Medical shit && such. If it was the FIRST time the guy was in my room? More than likely no. But, let's just say this... If he gives me a copy of his birth certificate, social security card, ID/Passport, etc... && knows there isn't to be any hanky panky, etc... Just let's say for meeting up for dinner/drinks, etc... && that I will be bringing a BIG ASS bodyguard [the guy that I would bring is a personal friend, is a big ass motherfucker, && is a bounty hunter, carries concealed, etc] Then I more than likely would. As I said, it just all depends on the conditions.

However, they always say, If it's too good to be true, && yeah. This would never happen so there's that, lol.

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

Surprisingly, at least for me, I've never seen the dating site issues cross over to cam land. Actually I'd say 100% of the members I met were MORE worried than the models because they were concerned of saying or doing the wrong things and make the model feel uncomfortable or threatened or seem like they misunderstood the intent of the meetup. This is just my experience though and I'm not saying all members are respectful enough to get it, just that I've never had an experience with one that wasn't. But maybe I'm naive since I see members as human and and assume the odds are slim that the ones that win the date raffles will be dangerous and crazy like many do?

I'm not trying to convince anyone to DO date raffles. Just trying to defend those of us that do since it seems like there's a wide consensus that we're irresponsible and naive.

Thanks for posting this Steph. There is no doubt there are some obsessive and creepy mfc members out there, but I think that for the typical winner of a date contest, the model has pretty good idea of what the guy is like. I imagine they know more about him and have spent more time time interacting with him than a person you meet on OKCupid, and certainly a hell of a lot more than Tinder. While both the date raffle winner and the OKcupid dude are certainly attracted to the model sexually the date raffle winner is at least attracted to your personality (or at least your on cam personality) Plus members are used to the model being in charge.

Yes the odds are slim indeed they are dangerous. Take a guess at how many prostitutes and sex workers are killed in the US.

Spoiler

According to the FBI 6 prostitute/escorts were killed in 2009, if you add up the other sex related murders the number goes up to 16. So hell of a lot more sex workers are killed on Law&Order SUV each season than in the US

Of the 25 million or so woman of typical camgirl age (18-34) just over 1,000 are murder compared more than 6,000 men that are murdered in the same age range.

 

[gingerhobbit]

According to the FBI 6 prostitute/escorts were killed in 2009, if you add up the other sex related murders the number goes up to 16. So hell of a lot more sex workers are killed on Law&Order SUV each season than in the US

Of the 25 million or so woman of typical camgirl age (18-34) just over 1,000 are murder compared more than 6,000 men that are murdered in the same age range.

They must only be counting "high class call girls." Street prostitutes are killed fairly regularly. I can think of one year in which three were killed just in the Florida town where I worked. Most people don't even think twice about that.

The 1,000/6,000 comparison is really misleading, especially as it relates to the very justified fear women have of being hurt by some random dude. I guarantee that better than 90 percent of female homicide victims were killed by a man. And the reverse is not the case. Most men are killed by men.

So it's not as if women have any less reason to fear than men.

ETA: My ex was a blues musician who toured the US playing roadhouses and bars for 10 years or so. In that time, she had a half-dozen really scary episodes, including one in Georgia where a guy in a roadhouse parking lot grabbed her from behind and tried to drag her off into the dark. It got to the point that she started carrying a gun. During that same time, her four male bandmates got in plenty of bar fights, but never once did a man attack them with the intent to kill or sexually assault them.

 

[gingerhobbit]

According to the FBI 6 prostitute/escorts were killed in 2009, if you add up the other sex related murders the number goes up to 16. So hell of a lot more sex workers are killed on Law&Order SUV each season than in the US.

Actually, the more I think about it, the more off that number seems, and it doesn't seem like the kind of info the FBI would collect.

Each year, the FBI compiles the Uniform Crime Report based on information self-reported by law enforcement agencies. It's a voluntary thing and not all agencies participate.

The agencies that do participate report what are called Index 1 crimes...serious stuff like murder, rape, robbery, burglary, etc. They report the age, race and gender of the victim and whether the victim was killed with a gun or other means.

There may be a category for drug-related homicides, but I'm pretty sure I've never seen one for sex workers.

The Bureau of Justice Statistics or some private group may have done some independent research into sex work-related homicides. But that would be difficult because, again, you are relying on thousands of law enforcement agencies to report that info and many, many don't.

If the feds can't even put an accurate number on the people killed each year by law enforcement officers, I seriously doubt they could come up with one for sex workers.

 

[Gen]

Comparing the safety risks of a full-service sex worker, who is typically seeing multiple clients a day in their home or car, to a camgirl going on a (presumably) rare public outing seems quite disingenuous. Also I'm sure you know how inaccurate measuring "murdered sex workers" is considering how many are transient, missing, not identified as sex workers, etc. Most full-service sex workers don't have ID showing what they do, you know?

I agree with you that camgirls are likely at a low risk for violence on a date with a member, but I don't think that statistic is particularly relevant or, likely, accurate. I feel like you're downplaying the violence that a lot of sex workers face that camgirls typically don't (by virtue of being digital), which is a bit unnecessary.

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

They must only be counting "high class call girls." Street prostitutes are killed fairly regularly. I can think of one year in which three were killed just in the Florida town where I worked. Most people don't even think twice about that.

The 1,000/6,000 comparison is really misleading, especially as it relates to the very justified fear women have of being hurt by some random dude. I guarantee that better than 90 percent of female homicide victims were killed by a man. And the reverse is not the case. Most men are killed by men.

So it's not as if women have any less reason to fear than men.

ETA: My ex was a blues musician who toured the US playing roadhouses and bars for 10 years or so. In that time, she had a half-dozen really scary episodes, including one in Georgia where a guy in a roadhouse parking lot grabbed her from behind and tried to drag her off into the dark. It got to the point that she started carrying a gun. During that same time, her four male bandmates got in plenty of bar fights, but never once did a man attack them with the intent to kill or sexually assault them.

Argue with the FBI
Absolutely men commit the vast majority of murders. But again the majority of woman murder victims know their attacker (I am not sure if Tinder/date raffle winner would count as knowing or not) i.e. the jealous ex, or abusive husband/BF. Murders are statistically very rare in the 99.995% of Americans aren't murdered each year, so it isn't surprising that even getting into lots of bar fights none of the band members were killed. But statistically they were roughly ten times more likely to be killed by a stranger, for no other reason that one of the guys in the fights pulls a gun or knife, than a woman. The sensational nature of the media and TV has greatly exaggerated the real risk in the same why that people have an irrational fear of being attacked by sharks.

 

[gingerhobbit]

Argue with the FBI
Absolutely men commit the vast majority of murders. But again the majority of woman murder victims know their attacker (I am not sure if Tinder/date raffle winner would count as knowing or not) i.e. the jealous ex, or abusive husband/BF. Murders are statistically very rare in the 99.995% of Americans aren't murdered each year, so it isn't surprising that even getting into lots of bar fights none of the band members were killed. But statistically they were roughly ten times more likely to be killed by a stranger, for no other reason that one of the guys in the fights pulls a gun or knife, than a woman. The sensational nature of the media and TV has greatly exaggerated the real risk in the same why that people have an irrational fear of being attacked by sharks.

Yep, you're right, the feebs do track circumstances in UCR data. That's definitely new to me, and I thought I'd seen most of that stuff.

But I still call bullshit on the numbers. Again, this is all information that is self-reported by law enforcement agencies. A lot of them just submit the basic Index 1 info and call it a day. Go back to the link you posted, follow the circumstances down the column to the bottom where you'll see the "Other" category.

There are more than 3,000 there, and I guarantee you that's where most of the prostitute murders are buried. It's exactly what I said...the law enforcement agency just reports the basic and does not go into the details.

For a lot of police departments, filling out UCR data is a pain in the ass job that nobody wants to get stuck with.

As far as violent crime being over-hyped, for the general white-bread public, that's true. But for people in certain jobs - like sex work - the risk is multiplied by factors of 10.

I agree with Gen, you seem to be downplaying genuine concerns.

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

Comparing the safety risks of a full-service sex worker, who is typically seeing multiple clients a day in their home or car, to a camgirl going on a (presumably) rare public outing seems quite disingenuous. Also I'm sure you know how inaccurate measuring "murdered sex workers" is considering how many are transient, missing, not identified as sex workers, etc. Most full-service sex workers don't have ID showing what they do, you know?

I agree with you that camgirls are likely at a low risk for violence on a date with a member, but I don't think that statistic is particularly relevant or, likely, accurate. I feel like you're downplaying the violence that a lot of sex workers face that camgirls typically don't (by virtue of being digital), which is a bit unnecessary.

I agree that is far more likely that prostitute or escort to be the subject of violence that camgirl on on rare meet up. But that is precisely my point the risk of being murdered for woman is very small even in a risky profession like prostitution. Prostitute and young women in general are at far greater risk of dying of drug overdose or alcohol than violence. So the risk of meeting up with a member is really small unless you get shit faced and drive home.

 

[gingerhobbit]

I agree that is far more likely that prostitute or escort to be the subject of violence that camgirl on on rare meet up. But that is precisely my point the risk of being murdered for woman is very small even in a risky profession like prostitution. Prostitute and young women in general are at far greater risk of dying of drug overdose or alcohol than violence. So the risk of meeting up with a member is really small unless you get shit faced and drive home.

Was just reading about a study of prostitution-related homicides in the US from 1970 to 2009. They identified more than 3,200 victims - about 83 per year - and that was just prostitutes who were murdered by serial killers.

Anecdotally, I've known a ton of strippers and prostitutes over the years and I've never known one who had not experienced violence multiple times at the hands of men. So do I think there's a risk for a cam girl meeting a member? Abso-fucking-lutely. Is it an unmanageable risk? No, not if you're smart...but it would be foolish to downplay the possibility.

An old police adage is that people kill over three things: Money, drugs and sex. When there is sex, or the appearance of sex, involved in a situation, it always raises the volatility.

That doesn't mean women have to go around cowering in fear from would-be rapists and killers. But it sure as hell means that their concerns are always legit.

 

[Teagan]

It's not just a fear of murder only though too. You could be robbed, raped, beaten, tortured, kidnapped, and so on. So adding all that up its pretty scary to meet strangers. Plus like touched on numbers aren't accurate really. Lots of sex workers just go missing so they aren't labeled as murdered even. Bodies never to be found. Or they are found and cops/families have no idea what happened or that they were even doing sex work so it's not counted as one.
When meeting anyone just always be safe in any situation. Male or female, take precautions and never feel like you're doing too much of them just to be safe. You'll never regret protecting yourself but you just might if you don't.

 

[marchards]

Argue with the FBI
Absolutely men commit the vast majority of murders.

Yes. Although maybe women can take some comfort from the fact that men are the overwhelming majority of murder victims also. It's about 76%.

 

[AmberCutie]

It's not just a fear of murder only though

Yeah, actually.

Reeling waaaaaay back in from this murder and violence talk, for me I just want to avoid members having my RL information for my own privacy. Meeting up in person it's 100% more likely that they could get more info. I don't want to increase the chances of them knowing more about my personal life or RL identity because I want to keep that comfortable boundary between work and private life. Even if I don't fear a member is going to harm me or my family, I don't want someone showing up at my house or popping up somewhere I am shopping or eating. It would just be annoying as fuck.

It doesn't have to be fear of the extreme that would stop most of us from doing dates/meet ups. It's just protecting the comfy pillow of separation we have if we remain digital only.

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

Yeah, actually.

Reeling waaaaaay back in from this murder and violence talk, for me I just want to avoid members having my RL information for my own privacy. Meeting up in person it's 100% more likely that they could get more info. I don't want to increase the chances of them knowing more about my personal life or RL identity because I want to keep that comfortable boundary between work and private life. Even if I don't fear a member is going to harm me or my family, I don't want someone showing up at my house or popping up somewhere I am shopping or eating. It would just be annoying as fuck.

It doesn't have to be fear of the extreme that would stop most of us from doing dates/meet ups. It's just protecting the comfy pillow of separation we have if we remain digital only.

I think there are zillion reason not to do a date raffle certainly privacy is a big one as well in your and many cases you are married or/are living with a significant other and it would just as awkward as fuck to have a date.

However, what I think Steph was saying and what I am saying is that in most of the threads on the subject, there seems to be underlying tone, that camgirls who do date raffles are playing Russian Roulette with their lives. It just isn't true. There is also often a negative attitude about members who participate in them but that's a subject for another thread.

 

[AmberCutie]

However, what I think Steph was saying and what I am saying is that in most of the threads on the subject, there seems to be underlying tone, that camgirls who do date raffles are playing Russian Roulette with their lives. It just isn't true.

Yeah I feel ya.

It's just a different preference for level of privacy between girls who do date raffles/meetups and those who don't. We all have our reasons, not all of them as drastic as fearing being murdered, lol.

 

[Ann_Sulu]

Maybe somewhat off-topic, but sometimes these discussions remind me of "those friends." You know, the ones that ya like a lot, but can only handle them in short doses even though they want to hang out all the time.

Some people, even if you like em you might leave out details of places you go, and when your ALWAYS free in case they might try to hit you up then. Sometimes people just want control of life without having to constantly awkwardly turn someone down (whether it's that they don't feel like meeting up, or are genuinely not able.)

 

[Guy]

Even if I don't fear a member is going to harm me or my family, I don't want someone showing up at my house or popping up somewhere I am shopping or eating. It would just be annoying as fuck.

It doesn't have to be fear of the extreme that would stop most of us from doing dates/meet ups. It's just protecting the comfy pillow of separation we have if we remain digital only.

Yeah. You don't want to end up like Lindsay Lohan.

 

[BettyDemure]

I wouldn't personally mind meeting members - it's not the first time I've met someone in person that I've first encountered online (including my husband, actually). As long as there's friendship and trust it's not really a big deal to me so long as everyone respects the "platonic" rule and things remain relaxed and fun. Now, that said, if I was going to meet a member, odds are my husband would want to go with me, regardless of tip size

 

[TacoBelle]

To answer OP's question:

For me, it would depend on what I had said prior to him tipping. If I had it on my profile (or verbally said aloud) that I would meet members for X number of tokens, then of course. I would definitely follow through on my promise. If I did not have it on my profile (or say it aloud) and he asked before tipping if I would meet him for X tokies, and I agreed to it, then yes.

If, however, he tipped with no prior interaction requesting a meet-up, then no. He tipped "just because." He tipped for a million other reasons. He did not tip FOR a meet-up. You might be feeling like you owe him or that you should thank him in some extra way. That's understandable. However, you can easily send some previously-made pictures or videos, or even make a special one just for him, or send him a box of baked goods, or give him PM privileges, or call him from a fake number (like Google Voice), or ALL of the above. ANY of that would be a nice gesture to thank him and wouldn't cost a lot of money nor time. These gestures will also often cause someone to come back to your room, sometimes making them become regulars.

If you decided to go on a date with him, you would have to spend money on plane tickets (to and from), a hotel room for however many nights, a rental car for the same length of time, plus food/gas/etc. This could easily end up being over a thousand dollars for just ONE day, depending on the location. So, take that $7,000, subtracting 30% for taxes (assuming your in US), then take $1000 minimum for the date, and you're left with $3900. Still a very nice chunk of change. Now, I'm not positive here, but from what I can gather, the going-rate for escorts is around $500/hr. (I'm not sure if that's sexual or non-sexual. And I'm not implying that you would have sex with him, but I'm just using it for a reference.) So for the scenario given, that would entitle him to a date that's just under 8 hours. And that would be all of your JUST-BECAUSE TIP. It would essentially be turned from him GIVING YOU A GIFT into purchasing goods (in this case, a date) from you. If you think that's a good deal for both you and him, sure, go for it!



I will tell you this since you're not a verified model yet: Throughout the years, in the models-only section, many models have told stories about meeting members. Some do it as a raffle prize, others do it for a set price, and others do it because the guy tipped outrageously (like in your case) or was just fucking awesome and made them want to meet him. Some of these go well. Some of them don't. Most of the time, the guys are well-behaved, but there are the occasional crazies who end up stalking the model. More often than not, however, the member was a REALLY good tipper before the date. Then after the date, he often changes to tipping less or just not coming back again. From what I understand, it's because before the date, he had a fantasy that they would be together forever, or get along splendidly, or other such scenarios. Then after the date, he realizes that his fantasy isn't the reality. A) He's in love, but she doesn't want to be with him/has a boyfriend or husband. B) They would get along perfectly, but after meeting her in person, he realizes that their senses of humor clash or that they're both so socially awkward and nervous that the whole date was just awkward small talk and silence. C) He loves her personality on cam, but in person she's different.

I've personally known members who go on dates with models only to have the above situations play out. They then either never visit her again or slowly fade out of her room. Just be aware that this happens all the time to members who have their fantasy shattered. IS IT WORTH IT TO YOU? Only you can answer that. If you DO decide to go on the date, just take extra measures to ensure your safety (eg: a friend/boyfriend sitting at the next table over, texting someone when you arrive at & leave each location, etc). Good luck!

 

[doorway]

I have known a certain model for 4 plus years now. She has said many times that I should come visit, meaning more her city and country not just her. A few weeks ago I told her I was thinking about actually visiting. Total silence. I know how all the flirting works on the sites so it doesn't bother me, just thought it was an interesting reaction.

 

[doorway]

And in contrast to my last post: I was in Amsterdam this summer for a vacation with some family. A euro model I have known for 10 years heard about my trip and asked how I felt if she visited too so we could meet. I said sure so she arranged to be there the same week as me. We met up one afternoon and spent 3 hours doing touristy stuff and then said goodbye and hugged and went out separate ways. It was great to meet her and she had a great time the rest of her trip too.

 

[sweetpam4you]

thats around 3k dollars for the model,and no i wont meet any guy for any amount of money. I dont live in the US,so im pretty covered lol. But If I ever decide to meet a guy,its because i feel safe and cool,not just because of money, but btw,im married and not interested in meeting any guy from chaturbate. so it never gonna happen. I take tips of any size just as payment for my online services. I dont offer anything else,and if he tips huge amount of tokens just to "force" me to meet him,he's totally a psycho

 

[sweetpam4you]

I have known a certain model for 4 plus years now. She has said many times that I should come visit, meaning more her city and country not just her. A few weeks ago I told her I was thinking about actually visiting. Total silence. I know how all the flirting works on the sites so it doesn't bother me, just thought it was an interesting reaction.

probably she has a bf or husband and dont wanna get in trouble,or maybe just changed her mind.

 

[Zoomer]

It's not just a fear of murder only though too. You could be robbed, raped, beaten, tortured, kidnapped, and so on. So adding all that up its pretty scary to meet strangers. When meeting anyone just always be safe in any situation. Male or female, take precautions and never feel like you're doing too much of them just to be safe. You'll never regret protecting yourself but you just might if you don't.

To put context onto everything - you meet strangers every single day (unless you don't leave the house). The overwhelming majority are undoubtedly no threat and/or risk... but robbings/rapings/murders/tortures/kidnaps aren't crimes exclusive to sex workers - you face that risk every day. It's just really small.

So obviously the risks may change due to circumstance. All that time going "oh baby you're so hot work that cock" back to the guy MAY have made them think you may actually like them
But in the Supermarket? Theatre? They're not likely to be a threat soo you don't walk around thinking "He may rape me, he may rob me, he may rape me... SHIT WHERE DID I HOLSTER THE GUN?!1!!".

There's every chance that the vast majority of male users of a cam site are decent people - no different to the guys you see in the supermarket, the bar etc. They're no more "deprived rabid sex fiends" likely to commit crimes than the models they're looking at. But then again, there may well be a few nut jobs. Just like there may well be a few cam girls who may rob you blind and/or sell your kidneys after spiking your drink for their gang to sell on the black market.

Most of the risk may arise from a sense of "entitlement" - as in thinking spending money translates into something else, coupled with your interactions being centred around sexual activity.

Whether you do meet up's is up to your own choice - Amber says "no" for privacy reasons. Others say no because they think the guys paying would be psychos (so glad you have such low opinion of male members! ).

I must admit, the first question I'd ask is "Why?". What is hoped to be gained - why do they want to meet you, and more accurately, why are they willing to spend so much money doing so? IMO the best answer to the topic so far has been the "not if I wouldn't meet them for free".

My Lawyer meets with me because I pay them to... thankfully they don't fear I'm going to rape them or kill them! Then again, I don't see her naked nor do I find her attractive and the reason why to meet her is because I want her to conduct the conveyancing on buying a house I wouldn't meet her otherwise, just not my type of individual!

For models, if I were to meet one, I'd be more than happy for them to bring friends/relatives/partners/whatever - why? Because it wouldn't be for sex or intimacy. Then again, I wouldn't pay either - they'd have to invite me and I'd make a holiday out of it... and I'd have to be "friends" with them first to even want to meet them

 

[Teagan]

I know you meet strangers every day, hence why I said when meeting anyone always be safe. That goes for just a casual trip to the grocery store or mall too. You as a man Zoomer may not have the same thought process as a woman so yes when I go to the store alone and a man walks by me my thoughts do go to "he may hurt me." It does for a lot of women cause it's possible. It happens. Most men are harmless and arent gonna attack you but that doesn't mean you should have lax security and safety measure cause if it. All it takes is one and you being his target and that one life you have been given could be over. So as a man i'm sure it's great not to feel that danger when in public but as a woman that danger is a very real feeling and is in your thoughts. So you be diligent in knowing your surroundings, who is around you, if anyone is following you, etc. This should be done by everyone, male or female, at all times. It's basic safety I feel. By going in public you put yourself in a possibly dangerous situation. You put yourself out there and when doing that there is risk of harm coming to you from other people. Anything could happen. From rape to robbery to even just a drunk driver hitting you. So it's best just to be actively aware. There is nothing wrong with that.

Now being a model you have put yourself out there even more to potential dangers. You put yourself on display so to speak. So with doing that you should absolutely be aware when you go out of what is around you cause you not only opened yourself up to the public around you but to those of the world. That does invite even more danger potentially into your life. This is just a fact.

Now i'm not saying don't leave the house ever or walk around being paranoid freaking out every second but do protect yourself how you can. Look in the back seat before you get in the car, walk in pairs if possible, etc but this is all stuff people should be doing anyway, sex worker or not. And every person should be taking precautions when meeting a stranger whether it's from MFC or OkCupid or some random at the bar. There is never anything wrong with protecting yourself until someone proves themselves otherwise. The majority of people out there are not gonna hurt you but that does not mean trust is automatically given out.