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Would it be ok to visit a model as a surprise?
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Yeah...and most people here were warning you specifically against the surprise part. That makes a huge difference. So congrats, glad it worked out, but I feel like you still don't totally understand the issue.
What the OP describes is a common fantasy, and quite a sweet one. One both members and models play with each other commonly.
I get the appeal of an incidental or surprise meeting. Never do that for real.
I've even had a model suggest to me this is how she would like a meeting.... just find me in a coffee shop one day in her town and greeting her with a smile.
Should I have taken her up on the invitation? Did she really mean it, even knowing me for 2 years before and another 5 after? She had a long term BF at the time, but now she is single. The last few times we spoke, she always asks about my status. Would now be a good time to surprise her, does the invitation still stand? If so what would that mean?
Really doing it, even if it is alright by the model could go incredibly wrong (for either of you). Get an invitation first even if it is a last minute one, it will still be surprising. Pick a secure place for your own safety, and give her the option to not meet you.
If she chooses to opt out, stay away from where you know she may be. If you don't think you can do that, then don't go on the trip.
Tim was a bit off, as you were talking of a fan visit, nothing more. I do recommend you read @Always_Tim 's post above on what the friendship thing looks like.
A visit to St Petersburg is worth it, so take the trip for that reason.
I get the appeal of an incidental or surprise meeting. Never do that for real.
I've even had a model suggest to me this is how she would like a meeting.... just find me in a coffee shop one day in her town and greeting her with a smile.
Should I have taken her up on the invitation? Did she really mean it, even knowing me for 2 years before and another 5 after? She had a long term BF at the time, but now she is single. The last few times we spoke, she always asks about my status. Would now be a good time to surprise her, does the invitation still stand? If so what would that mean?
Really doing it, even if it is alright by the model could go incredibly wrong (for either of you). Get an invitation first even if it is a last minute one, it will still be surprising. Pick a secure place for your own safety, and give her the option to not meet you.
If she chooses to opt out, stay away from where you know she may be. If you don't think you can do that, then don't go on the trip.
Tim was a bit off, as you were talking of a fan visit, nothing more. I do recommend you read @Always_Tim 's post above on what the friendship thing looks like.
A visit to St Petersburg is worth it, so take the trip for that reason.
I'd be freaked out if a woman I'd only spoken to online, who lived in another country, and had made no plans to meet with just turned up at my workplace unannounced. And I have a big manly beard which I have to assume offers both mental and physical protection against would-be attackers. OP (assuming he isn't a troll) really does need to learn some empathy and develop a better understanding of how people in general (and women in particular) react to situations that most sane people would recognise as being unwelcome
ThePrincessLuxy
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You are reacting like a child.
And you totally proved us right. She sounds skeeved out and scared that you would come visit her as a surprise like we all told you. SHOCKER.
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Am I the only one that noticed she said he could come visit "us" but not as a surprise? Who is "us"? Doesn't sound like she wants to be alone with her "friend".
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No, I noticed that too.
Also how he has been trying to cover his "love" with "friendship", and how he is concerned the model will "hate" him (which could mean he is harboring delusions that she has a romantic interest in him).
I think @JerryBoBerry suggestion of erotomania was a timely one. Really interested to see if the object of his desire weighs in on this thread.
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We're just absolutely despicable. It's disgusting, really.
It's a twist on that old adage. In this case it would be more "If you think everyone else is horrible, you're probably the horrible one"
Though I don't think the kid is horrible. I think he just needs to sit back and think about what he was planning and how he comes off and stuff like that. He IS just a kid (if he wasn't lying on reddit) like 20 or 21 or something, so it makes sense that he could easily feel strong affection while carrying under developed reasoning skills. Now that the model at least knows he plans to come I don't so much worry about that, I think she'll make sure she's somewhere safe and around other people.
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Somehow I feel sorry for the guy:
He thought he had a nice idea and then posts here.
Unfortunately he posts on a forum where his idea is considered a nightmare come true, and everybody tries everything possible just to avoid that someone puts such an idea into reality.....
He thought he had a nice idea and then posts here.
Unfortunately he posts on a forum where his idea is considered a nightmare come true, and everybody tries everything possible just to avoid that someone puts such an idea into reality.....
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"Not as a surprise"
Wow she told you exactly what we did. AMAZING.
What we told you: Ask her. Don't surprise her. And look what happened! She told you what we've been saying for six fucking pages!
Wow she told you exactly what we did. AMAZING.
What we told you: Ask her. Don't surprise her. And look what happened! She told you what we've been saying for six fucking pages!
This thread was great. I had meany lol's.
So you abandoned your good friend just because she quit her job? You sound like a terrible friend.
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You get a "funny" rating! You get a "funny" rating! EVERYBODY GETS A FUNNY RATING!
Now, lets just hope her husband has a sense of humor.......
Don't be surprised if you come back home minus a kidney or two. I hear tell Russia is black market central for shit like that.
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OP, i feel sad, worried and concerned for you.
I fully understand why you would want to visit her. You have feelings for her, you give her your hard earned cash and you talk on a personal level. You formed a friendship and feel like you have devolved a bond. I've read every single post made on here and please OP, listen to them all. No one is being horrible they are giving the correct advice but unfortunately its advice you don't wish to hear.
The internet world has spawned many unsavory characters and I don't want to upset or offend you but the way you wrote the post made you sound like was a stalker with a hidden agenda...
All Cam girls will agree with me and say we have all formed friendships with our regs. We enjoy talking and we do genuinely get on with them! But if I opened my door to see one wanting a hug and he's traveled overseas to see me i'd freak and be upset.
You can not turn up as 'a surprise'. I can't comment on your character so it would be unfair of me to judge it so lets turn the tables a bit....
You go and meet her as a 'surprise'. She works at a studio and will have a boss and other girls around. The following could happen...
1) The police get involved and in Russia I wouldn't even want to cough incorrectly!!
2) The Boss assumes you are going to take away his commodity and something nasty happens to you
3) She crys rape or misunderstands your actions....my goodness you will not see USA soil for hell of a long time.
Was it really worth it?
I see you have spoken to her about wishing to meet. Although her English is broken I am not overly convinced she would welcome you with open arms. However if she did agree then make it a public place....a busy one....a coffee shop. Go for an hour. Sit opposite and not next.
I don't condone this behavior personally. Your opening up a can of worms and I can't see it ending well BUT you are both consenting adults....
Just be careful. The internet is never what it seems....she could have a husband, boyfriend, protective boss, children...
Don't be a desperate fool like you are coming across. Think about your own safety. Would you appreciate some women just turning up at your door and not leaving you alone? You'd be surprised...but in an ugly bad way.
I fully understand why you would want to visit her. You have feelings for her, you give her your hard earned cash and you talk on a personal level. You formed a friendship and feel like you have devolved a bond. I've read every single post made on here and please OP, listen to them all. No one is being horrible they are giving the correct advice but unfortunately its advice you don't wish to hear.
The internet world has spawned many unsavory characters and I don't want to upset or offend you but the way you wrote the post made you sound like was a stalker with a hidden agenda...
All Cam girls will agree with me and say we have all formed friendships with our regs. We enjoy talking and we do genuinely get on with them! But if I opened my door to see one wanting a hug and he's traveled overseas to see me i'd freak and be upset.
You can not turn up as 'a surprise'. I can't comment on your character so it would be unfair of me to judge it so lets turn the tables a bit....
You go and meet her as a 'surprise'. She works at a studio and will have a boss and other girls around. The following could happen...
1) The police get involved and in Russia I wouldn't even want to cough incorrectly!!
2) The Boss assumes you are going to take away his commodity and something nasty happens to you
3) She crys rape or misunderstands your actions....my goodness you will not see USA soil for hell of a long time.
Was it really worth it?
I see you have spoken to her about wishing to meet. Although her English is broken I am not overly convinced she would welcome you with open arms. However if she did agree then make it a public place....a busy one....a coffee shop. Go for an hour. Sit opposite and not next.
I don't condone this behavior personally. Your opening up a can of worms and I can't see it ending well BUT you are both consenting adults....
Just be careful. The internet is never what it seems....she could have a husband, boyfriend, protective boss, children...
Don't be a desperate fool like you are coming across. Think about your own safety. Would you appreciate some women just turning up at your door and not leaving you alone? You'd be surprised...but in an ugly bad way.
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how the fuck are we horrible people when you are crazy as hell? fool....you are a fruitloop with a few dozen screws missing up in your chrome dome.
let's do an indepth analysis of this situation since you find it to be so motherfucking normal. you want to visit a camgirl that has no idea you are on the way. you want to invade someone's privacy that probably forgets you exist the moment that she logs off from the room. you want to visit someone you have never met and basically disrupt her life. you have no idea what your presence could potentially do to this girl and yet you are being selfish about it. do you realize a lot of camgirls do not let their families know that this is what they do for a living? do you realize a lot of camgirls will not let their spouses know this is a job they do? because whereas you have camgirls who love the shit out of this job, you also have ones who are ashamed of it and only do it because our economy is fucked up. do you realize that what you have done is basically cyber stalking? which sadly is not a complete federal crime as of yet. did you even take into consideration that tistaray could be a transsexual or that tistaray does not even live in russia? no, because you are the stereotypical client that every camgirl is terrified of. It is men like you that make me pay $6 bucks a month for a motherfucking vpn because i dont want my privacy invaded. You are not taking into consideration anything about this girl's life. You just have this deluded ass fantasy about getting fucked by a camgirl and that's where your brain is. I bet you are thinking that tista is going to fall into your arms and say that she loves you and that the both of you will live happily ever after.....um nah nuh muthafucka! What's going to happen when you visit this girl is you are going to be arrested for invasion of privacy and trepassing and just being an overall creepy little man. What's going to happen when you visit this girl is she's probably got a ccw or some sort of gun license and she's going to blow your fucking head off and get away scot free. I am not saying that tista got a pimp or anything psychotic like that but if she does, expect to get 2 shots to the dome or at least some broken legs. What you are planning to do is no different than when a customer follows a stripper home from the strip club or no different than someone hacking a phone sex line. Camgirls love some of our customers and we care about them but there are boundaries in this business that you cannot cross or step over due to safety reasons. If you want to meet your favorite camgirl, why not go to the exxotica expo or the avn expo or even bbwcon? you know a place where you can meet and talk with your favorite porn stars but where also has a shitload of security. I am strongly advising you right now to take your medicine, you fucking whackjob. You need some serious psychological help....fruitloop.
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No. I got the girl out of her house and to the police station before he showed up. Luckily the guy (one of my regs) disclosed his plans to me, and the model happened to be online with enough time for me to warn her.
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Then why are you even asking for advice about this?
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because he's a skeevy little man who just wants some realistic camgirl pussy.
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PLEASE STOP SPREADING FALSE RUMORS ABOUT RUSSIA!
Besides, everyone knows that Romania is ground zero for kidney harvesting in Europe...
Just curious, how many kidneys do you have? (not including any kidneys you may have laying around in glass jars)
This whole thread reminds me of the Katy Perry episode of Catfish.
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