I'm not disagreeing with you that the CONSTANT complaining is annoying. But I am going to shed some light on the situation, because I think many members simply don't realize this:
I've tried both tactics, and guess which one works better during slow times?
Being positive can be a great way to gain followers and keep regulars. At the same time: if your members don't know how badly you are struggling, they will assume everything is fine and you don't need help.
Models wouldn't do this if it didn't work.
Hell, there's a market for this shit. I've noticed 1 or 2 members who would ONLY come around when I really seemed to be struggling or had a specific problem/bill I needed help conquering. It was never just to support my work, or buy my porn for their own pleasure, but because they wanted to feel as though they were helping some damsel in distress.
It does suck when a models seems to base ALL their pay periods around this tactic, but...I guess that's why there's an unfollow/mute button.
TLDR: if a model has to choose between "appearing positive" on social media, or paying rent, they're probably going to pick the latter.
Just bouncing off of this because I know that I am everyone's probably most annoying top offender of this ever. But I'm unapologetic about it and I have been transparent and blunt about it, both on twitter, verbally in my cam room, and with other models who have approached me about it. I'm just following up from Picnic's post because it highlights some things I have discussed before when this topic has come up.
So a lot of people find me annoying on Twitter. Bummer. That is why you can choose not to follow me or mute me. And why this thread is a personal preference of what is annoying to some. So I am not here to ask others not to find me annoying, but rather to express why I am annoying. (Yes, I am intentionally annoying.)
My first year of camming I did almost exclusively public shows. The money made itself and I never had to worry about tactics.Then last summer I had such a whale tipper that I was blind to the fact that no one else really helped (which I now see when I look back at tip totals.) This past fall, which was my first time camming after graduating college, there was a decline. I lost my huge whale tipper, and kept at my usual positive flow, but I still noticed an income gap I wasn't content with. I'm not dumb. I tried doing non-nude for a month or so to try that. I tried signing on naked. I tried only cumming in private. I tried doing games (which are HORRIFIC if you have a low count room my GOD, at least for me,) I have tried low count cunshows. I TRIED IT ALL, MAN. I FUCKING TRIED IT ALL. I don't know what the dealio was, but shit really sucked since like November. It wasn't a matter of slow times on MFC, because if I am ranked #800, then I know 799 girls have profited better than me.
I refused to write it off as "slow times" and so in maybe December or so, I started the whole whiny bitchy thing. Its a nice mix of what I call FinDomme & generally being a huge bitch. And as soon as I started being a massive cunt, I saw my profits increase. There was a direct relation to me chewing out people on snapchat, letting them know what letdowns they are for not being present, and then my offline tips I'd get or snapcash sent to me. Its simply. I tested this continuously. Be happy for a week and just cam, and only my regs would show up and maybe a couple new people who didn't stay around. Bitch people out on twitter or snapchat, it turned into regulars who began to understand that value of an invested mutual relationship. Sometimes I have to be a cunt, and other times, I cry. Are the tears fake or not? It depends, it is on occasion. Who knows?
What I love is when people point fingers at me and call this manipulation. Well so is being a tease with your body. People are manipulated (just re-using the word others like to use on me) into the trance of desiring more and always wanting to see what is next so they tip.
Open Domme/Fin-Domme? Clearly manipulation. Girls use their mind (and I am glad they do) to produce content and express a personality that controls men into seeing the value of handing over their money.
But god fucking forbid you are me, somewhere in the middle, cuz I ain't got time to be a 100% full fledged domme (and to some dommes that makes me a fake I guess) and I am just considered naggy/annoying/ungrateful/whining. No, I am no different than anyone else using what elements of their personality they can excel in to profit. People can disagree with me on what I am doing, but I am sick of people telling me what I am doing differs along the lines of manipulation. Maybe some models feel better saying they "encourage" or "convince" members to tip, but I have no problem admitting that there is a level of manipulation. I am not naive. And I have been open in the past about this being my job. I am not like the models who are all, "teehee I just llooooove being naughty for an audience and the tips are a bonus."
Yeah, I love being naked. I was sad to find camming so late in life after years of doing low paid nude photo shoots. But I'm not driven by the desire to "just have fun and see where it goes," I am driven by money. I have said this on Twitter. On snapchat. On MFC. To members faces. I had a very transparent conversation about this on cam today and I love that the members I actually respect and enjoy are the ones who get this and agree.
So anyways, you're probably like, "but Birdie when I see you on Twitter you're all crying about paying bills and no one supporting you." I, like many, am mostly carried paycheck to paycheck by some sole big tippers. Those guys and I have very open relationship and conversations about how what they get from me is a business transaction and if they want more, they can pay more. I do have real friendships with some of my tippers, but I am not afraid to say it is based on attention in levels of being tipped. They know when I flip out on Twitter it is not about them. I have some people who tip me every damn day. My whining, annoying messages, are aimed at the guys on MFC and Twitter who only know how and to jump when I say jump. I have had people sit in my room for fucking weeks without the intention of tipping, but if I have a crisis or need help or simply act like an entitled cunt, boom, they are suddenly capable of tokens.
So then someone is like, "but are you proud you make your money that way." Well yeah, actually I am. Would I have liked to be a model who could smile every day and just sign in and flow through a show and everything is lovely and whatnot, sure. But I tried that in varying intervals and it doesn't pay as well as the whole enticing white knights and controlling men who have no direction has been. At the end of the day I am most concerned about what the number in my bank account says, not what faceless people on the internet think about my personality or how I run my show.
I typed a lot and left out important things I am sure, but I just wanted to show some perspective that some of us *intentionally* act like entitled cunts and/or appeal to white knights because lets face it, some men want that. People want to point fingers at ungrateful top models (who shall go unnamed) and how they talk to members or what they write online but maybe...its what worked for them? And they are more focused on getting paid then what other models (or members for that matter) think about their tactics. Again, this is an opinion thread so I am not actually saying y'all should change your minds about finding it annoying. Just wanted to offer that perspective that perhaps they are actually offering something men want. There are sooooooo many dudes who just want to feel good saving the day for a model, and if I can be the model's day they save, why not? I will never see this differently than a model who appeals to guys who want a model to drool on themselves, or do anal, or cry or something. Everyone has different fetishes and if someone wants to be a white knight and that is what they enjoy about paying a model, you're damn right I'll see to being to model on the receiving end of that.
The profile friends and online friends lists are completely separate entities.
