What is one thing holding you back from being succesful?

[kittykitten1234]

I think that my productivity, self confidence, and attention span are holding me back, as well as my dislike for technology. I really need to put in the time to learn how to do a basic code for my own bio on Chaturbate. It is hard to have someone else doing it because I feel like am not in control of how I am going to be represented offline, you know? Also, it is just so hard to find the energy to get of bed in the early morning to get set up, etc before my prime camming hours (noon-dinner) but also I am almost afraid to cam outside of those hours because every time I try it ends up not being worth my time. But I know that it would just take time to build a following up for that time.

 

[xxlvngdedgrlxx]

Privacy is holding me back right now. I am a sahm and I can only get on when my kids are in school or late at night. Also my set up is in the living room

The one big thing holding me back is my skin imperfection on my tummy from surgeries

 

[yourmiaa]

Privacy is holding me back right now. I am a sahm and I can only get on when my kids are in school or late at night. Also my set up is in the living room

The one big thing holding me back is my skin imperfection on my tummy from surgeries

I have the same problem. My c-section is kinda ugly and i can't really hide all time.
I'm always watching the models on chaturbate and they have a perfect body with the perfect skin. It makes you think that you can't be successfull if you don't look like that. Frustrating....

 

[DFT]

I'm always watching the models on chaturbate and they have a perfect body with the perfect skin. It makes you think that you can't be successfull if you don't look like that. Frustrating....

I want a perfect body

We find all the faults in ourselves constantly.

I want you to notice when I'm not around

You have scars? (life, or physical) So do I, all of us of an age do. Swap stories. You've lived some? Incorporate it so long as you sanitize personal details. Don't compete with those 18 year olds with Ivory fresh bodies. They all look the same anyway. It's personality that brings people back.

But I'm a creep

Just my thoughts to share.

 

[xxlvngdedgrlxx]

I have the same problem. My c-section is kinda ugly and i can't really hide all time.
I'm always watching the models on chaturbate and they have a perfect body with the perfect skin. It makes you think that you can't be successfull if you don't look like that. Frustrating....

I have had two c sections for two very big babies. After the first I got a diastasis separation of my abs and a hernia which had to be repaired and after the second a hysterectomy because my endometriosis didn't let my uterus go down from the birth. My skin is the issue with some stretch marks but the major one is that when they fixed my hernia they cut me belly button in half ... So ugly so I am mainly a tits and add model...

I try not to get jealous or angry but it's hard..

 

[Mintx]

I know it's silly and just about grade-school, but sometimes with cam or clip making I am transported back to middle school locker room feelings where my body is just so out of place and ugly and it can keep me away from doing anything with cam, etc. I don't want to complain on twitter about how ugly I feel compared to everyone else who is so thin and pretty but it can drive me away from working just because I get so low about my own body image. Which is stupid and I should get over it. I also feel like customers expect me to charge less and provide more sometimes because of my body type. -__-

 

[Alluminaughty]

For me, I give up too easily. I bring myself down and start blaming myself for lack of results, and assume it's because I'm not good enough, especially if I don't reach my daily goal or kill a countdown. I have insane anxiety and depression, so when it's slow in my room and no one is tipping or talking, it really brings me down and I lose hope. All of this results in getting into this terrible mental rut, and end up taking a few days off instead of figuring out ways I can excel or push through the slow times. But we all need to remember that amount of tokens don't define our worth. Us women are beautiful and powerful, and that no matter who we are, there will always be slow times for us, and strength and self growth comes from pushing through those tough times, staying positive rather than succumbing into that negative mindset, and finding new ways to reach our goals and succeed!

Camming is a huge learning curve, and sometimes it takes time for those without a huge following already t,(like me) to build regulars and get exposure. I just need to continue working hard, figuring out methods to get over these humps (that always end up turning around) and kicking ass!

 

[LemonShade]

Being a SAHM after 2 c-sections! I also had my fallopian tubes removed in January, about 9 months after having the last c-section and dealing with some pretty severe ppd. Recovering from that was slower than I expected, and I became really sedentary. Currently working on regaining my strength!
Also, finding the time while working around the kids and my husband's work schedule. Feeling overweight and stretched out. Sometimes I'd really rather spend time with my family. Also, my period throws me off every month... I have the worst pms, and I'm always so tired during that time of month these days! Ugh.

 

[yourmiaa]

I want a perfect body

We find all the faults in ourselves constantly.

I want you to notice when I'm not around

You have scars? (life, or physical) So do I, all of us of an age do. Swap stories. You've lived some? Incorporate it so long as you sanitize personal details. Don't compete with those 18 year olds with Ivory fresh bodies. They all look the same anyway. It's personality that brings people back.

But I'm a creep

Just my thoughts to share.

I'm a creep. I'm a weirdoooo

I try to show my personality so hard! And I try to talk to ppl that enter my room. But I think CHATurbate is the wrong website for them because they don't talk to me. I try to engage them in the conversation, but they don't answer.I have a few followers that come in my room and we chat and it's fun. But when they are not there is just boring.

And yes. I have scars. Mentally

For me, I give up too easily. I bring myself down and start blaming myself for lack of results, and assume it's because I'm not good enough, especially if I don't reach my daily goal or kill a countdown. I have insane anxiety and depression, so when it's slow in my room and no one is tipping or talking, it really brings me down and I lose hope. All of this results in getting into this terrible mental rut, and end up taking a few days off instead of figuring out ways I can excel or push through the slow times. But we all need to remember that amount of tokens don't define our worth. Us women are beautiful and powerful, and that no matter who we are, there will always be slow times for us, and strength and self growth comes from pushing through those tough times, staying positive rather than succumbing into that negative mindset, and finding new ways to reach our goals and succeed!

Camming is a huge learning curve, and sometimes it takes time for those without a huge following already t,(like me) to build regulars and get exposure. I just need to continue working hard, figuring out methods to get over these humps (that always end up turning around) and kicking ass!

You wrote my thoughts. I ussually feel the same way and take a few days off because my self esteem is really low after a bad day on cam. Oh well... you have to be strong and keep in mind those things you wrote above.

 

[Jess Stormborn]

Its reassuring to hear everyone goes through similar worries. I just took a two week break and now my room is super quiet. It's almost depressing. Just got to keep remembering to be patient.

 

[Alluminaughty]

Just log on for at least 3 hours every day. You never know, a day you wanted to take off could end up turning out to be a fantastic day for earnings and positivity (happens to me a lot actually lol :shrugs: ). The more you get used to logging on every day, the more it becomes a habit, and the less anxious you'll be and the more normal it will seem!

 

[Ythee_Fox]

Me. Procrastination sucks

 

[Kiki Jane]

Patience, I just get annoyed. Also putting on the makeup etc., it's a committment.

 

[Neorulez]

My environment and being awkward on cam I live with family so it it is hard for me to be on cam full time

When I do I take a risk but I do it because it is fun (I like caming and showing myself) and also for the second income as well would be beneficial. I am awkward lol sometimes on cam so I will say hi and try to interact with users on there but no luck.

 

[Deleted member 40357]

I am not usually camera-ready, and I live in a tiny house in the woods, so I feel like I need to step up my decorating game and make things look a little nicer. Including myself! Like if guys wanted to see someone's unwashed, unbrushed hair at 2pm, they could just walk through Wal-Mart. So, balancing my own preferences for simplicity with the aesthetics that I would like to produce has been something I'm working on.

It's also hard to find an uncluttered area in my house to take nice videos, and moving all of my equipment outside and setting up in a place that isn't damp is a real chore. I feel like I'm behind the curve on things like snapchat, videos, etc... because I'm still learning, and there's so much prep time.

Another thing is that certain fetishes I don't understand well enough to get my foot in the door. A promising fellow that I was in trueprivate with asked me the other day if I like to drain wallets, and I had to tell the truth, that I would like to learn what he likes, etc.. but I don't have experience with findom yet. He left, understanably. I need to learn more about fetishes so that I can at least try out a few things.

Edited to add: I also have a hard time asking for/mentioning money! Someone asks me "how much for ____?", and I stammer like a schoolgirl and have a hard time even saying the word "tokens" sometimes. I very much need to learn how to do this with finesse and confidence. It's getting better. So much to learn!!

 

[MissElly]

Time. I wouldn’t say it’s holding me back, it’s just slowing the process down. I’m a single mom who’s also got full time school, so I can’t spend half as much time and energy on this as I wish I could. But it’s a marathon and I want it to become something steadily successful, so I’m plodding away with it, slow and steady.
I’ve found I’ve had to fine tune my persona and become a LOT more confident in myself, as I literally do not have the time to spend an hour or two on makeup and set building (Or I’d cut my broadcast time down to 1-2 hours a night) so I have to be comfortable in more or less my own skin and make THAT my hook. So far, it’s working.

 

[DreamDomina]

For me it's the fact I just moved and don't feel comfortable making clips in my current temporary space, mainly my issue is people in my real life finding out I am a domme on the side and judging me, it hinders me from doing a lot.

 

[Kitty_Minxi]

Mental limitations, lack of skill set, and minimal motivation.

 

[XoxoHallee]

Sticking to a schedule and not getting bored so easily. I don't know what to do with myself when I'm waiting on cam. I have a hard time just sitting there. I also have a hard time staying past goals. I want camming to be my "thing" but I've got other businesses that unfortunately require my attention too, and when things aren't going well, I bail

 

[Rhiannon Reye]

The big thing that holds me back is time. I have an 11 month old and I'm a SAHM. I can only be on from 7pm to 10pm max, after my kid is asleep.

That, and my god awful body image doesn't help. People like me and I've done well on cam since I started less than a month ago ***tw*** but I've been steadily losing weight since I started.

 

[hottieheidiii]

Right now it's absolutely my lack of ability to keep a consistent schedule!! I really need to make set "work hours" and commit to them!

 

[IntravenousFlytrap]

Addiction. Ugh.

 

[Kokoro]

Depression induced laziness. I used to be so motivated but over the past year I have started to cam only when bills need to be paid.

 

[UniversitySmiles]

Learning how to use all this fancy technology. Thankfully my older sister has been helping me out immensely. However, I still find myself struggling with everything technology related; how to work chaturbate bots, connecting cameras to my computer, hardwiring my wifi, keeping my computer from crashing on me. Sometimes I ask myself why I am an online camgirl when I act as if technology is a foreign subject to me! Oops!

 

[ramona_reed]

Other than my depression causing a total lack of motivation to do anything? I'd say living in the tiniest ever studio apartment with my (currently and hopefully not for much longer) unemployed partner.
I just can't work with them here :/ I can't focus or get things done or even use the videos I take because I can hear them in the background. It isn't completely their fault though, so I try to not be resentful

 

[misstaya]

Site where I stream, working normal...

 

[Savanah_Lux]

100% myself. I’m fairly new to camming, and it very easy to take it personally when one day you have a 4600+ token day and another only 500. (Was it my outfit? Did I talk to much to just that one guy..etc) Instead of putting in 6+ hours, I generally only work 2-4 hrs, so patience is definitely needed to get me where I want haha and not get antsy and leave if it’s slow for 10 min lol

 

[Savanah_Lux]

Privacy is holding me back right now. I am a sahm and I can only get on when my kids are in school or late at night. Also my set up is in the living room

The one big thing holding me back is my skin imperfection on my tummy from surgeries

Girl I completely understand. My stomach is a saggy mess with scars and stretch marks all over. I’ve found certain lingerie that covers my stomach but shows the girls helps. I’ll even wear a tank and just pull it down. Helps cover the parts I hate. Haha

 

[Remi Lyons]

Of course you want more money, bigger following, etc.
What is 1 thing holding you back right now?

I think having to walk on eggshells because my family monitors my camming Twitter and other sites. I'm afraid to keep things on public because whenever they see me post stuff they start sending me links to "freedom from pornography" websites, and telling me how I'm gonna get sex trafficked and how no man is gonna love me lol. I honestly feel hindered because I can't post freely because I don't want to keep receiving messages from them like that. It sucks in terms of growth because it means less exposure.

 

[venomous]

Crippling anxiety, chronic procrastination, relationship woes, family stress/mama drama, sexual hang-ups, etc. Those are my big challenges keeping me from my short term goals, and by extension, my long term goals.