- The somewhat "overbearing model" - there is a model that I enjoy spending time with most of the time, but I notice that as soon as she comes online, I'll get pinged to support her. I am flattered to get the PM, but I do feel pressured sometimes (like if I am in another room) and I usually cave in to the pressure and spend many tokens Usually not an issue when we're having fun, but sometimes I get feelings of resentment when I feel I was "guilted" into something (I also seem to have the "rescuer" psych profile). I believe the answer is that I control what I do and it's on me. No one can force me to do anything. Got that point, but maybe some pointers on how to politely explain this to the model in the most respectful way from the model's perspective?
First of all, thank you for your thoughtful, somewhat wordy post. I'm a reader. Enjoyed it.
Now I'm sure some models are going to explain to you how to be a good boy right and proper, but in the meantime I pray you will suffer through a fellow members perspective. “Overbearing” may vary from person to person, so I will instead just address several instances where you might be pm'ed by a model. I leave the determination of “overbearing or not” up to you.
Scenario 1: The model pwns your ass. You know that when she mentions she is going shopping later that day, it means you are expected to be waiting for selfies from the dressing room to start showing up so you can offer bluntly honest opinions about how different outfits look. This one says “Hi”, you drop what the f*ck you are doing and come running. And you sit there until you are told you may leave.
Scenario 2: The model is one of those pathetic, young, studio futon-loungers who spends far too much of her night lying there ignored, unwanted, unloved, and untipped. She caught your attention, you made the mistake of letting your presence be known with a tip, and now she is going to pm you until the day she quits the biz.
If she says hi, spend a minute or so with her in that pm window; tell her you're sorry but you don't have time or tokens to play right now. Tell her how pretty she looks that day, and how much you are looking forward to playing with her again. Then give her a small tip. But you need a backup account you can jump on to hide from this girl...don't let her see you stay online for hours on end after this.
Scenario 3: The model is one you kinda-sorta like, but you are not really nuts about yet. A polite greeting is in order here, followed by an also-polite “I'm a little busy right now”. If she is a professional, she will take the hint. If she is not, you need to make sure the boundaries are clear. Here is how that might play out...
Model: Hi bb
PwhipdMemb: Hey gurl
Model: I'm on cam now if you want to come.
PwhipdMemb: Cool. Maybe I'll stop by later. Little busy atm.
Model: Watching somebody else? ;p
PwhipdMemb: lol. Yeah.
Model: ok then. just wanted to say hi. I will go ahead and unfriend you if you want
PwhipdMemb: omg. you got a perv acct? JJ been spanking her own ass for 25 min straight. you gotta come see this. holy shit. unreal.
Scenario 4: The model is a manipulative, scheming, unscrupulous token-beggar from hell who you have only tolerated for so long because she is possibly the hottest woman who ever walked the planet and she hasn't outright scammed you yet. But now her hounding ways have gotten on your last damned nerve. Toss her in the iggy bin, slam the lid shut, and never give her another thought.
Just a few examples, I am sure there are countless more. But the important thing to remember here is this: they are the ones selling the service; you are the one with the purchasing power. The marketplace is competitive, and you can afford to be picky here. And you certainly don't have to let yourself get pressured (unless, ofc, that is what you are looking for).
- 2. What is the general consensus on models and their "regulars" appearance and tipping schedules? I've been regularly showing up in multiple rooms and tipping well (in my opinion - geez sounds like am tooting my own horn). The models seem to remember my name. I am finding out that I simply cannot sustain this level of activity (yes, sounds like I have developed an addiction). Do I cut down the number of rooms I frequent so that I can still tip similar amounts in the fewer remaining rooms? Or, do I cut down on the tips for each room I frequent? Or do I ask my boss for a raise?
Tipping schedule? When the Spirit moves, you give. All else is vanity.
Now here is how I personally approach the distribution of my disposable income. Maybe it will help you formulate your own plan.
#1 Model. I have carefully hand selected this one based on her personality and the fact that she is the hottest woman to ever walk the planet. She gets all of my disposable income, plus the proceeds of whatever I am able to sell. Additionally, I have been known to borrow for her on occasion. I am also considering becoming a copper thief.
She gets the bulk of my time. I would love to be available for her as close to 24-7 as possible (at her discretion), but passing out from sheer exhaustion sometimes makes this difficult. There is no greater agony for me than waking up to realize I missed a call or message from her.
#2 Model. A real gem. Undoubtedly the hottest woman to ever walk the planet. I have managed to maintain a preferred customer status with her simply by combining what I am willing to give up out of my grocery budget with copious displays of wit and charm. I am doing ok here, but she deserves a lot better. Every now and again, I try to do a bit more for her, but fainting from hunger sometimes makes this difficult. I do not remember what meat tastes like.
#3 and #4 Models. Ok, the #3 is the sexiest little doll I have ever set eyes on, but she is such a baby. Ditto for #4, except she is not a baby, but a snotty little brat (which I love). My interest in these two revolves less around wanting to f*ck them than wanting to adopt them. And that is saying a lot, because I would dearly love to f*ck the both of them.
Anyhoo, they get whatever stray tokens manage to slip past the #1 and the #2, on a first come-first serve basis. More often than not, I find myself hiding from them after a brief pm exchange.
So as you can see, I have opted for a four girl rotation. If something happens to one (I get bored, pissed, she quits, she bans me, etc...), everyone below her gets moved up in the rankings. And of course, if something better comes along, I insert her into the line-up wherever I feel appropriate, and everybody below gets moved down a spot (the #4 gets dropped).
This is just what works for me.