thoughts and feelings on being called a whore

[yossarian]

I get offended, but just because it's incorrect. A whore is a prostitute, I am not a prostitute. A slut is someone who is sexually promiscuous, I am not. If you called me a tree, I'd be equally offended. It's not that the word is offensive, it's that it doesn't describe me properly.

Thank you for giving me a mental image of the best argument ever.

"Whore!"
"Slut!"
"TREE!"
"YOU TAKE THAT BACK!!!!"

 

[Jupiter551]

This whole thread is just insane.

If it was any other subject this would be called political correctness and lampooned.

You know what you think it means, use the word or not as you deem appropriate and accept that others will judge you accordingly based on THEIR prejudices.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I think what most people can agree to, though you can analyse it as much as you want to and it really doesn't bother a lot of people, the word is still designed to be an insult, or at least that is what the word means to most people. It's not a particularly attractive word full stop, it doesn't sound attractive. It is a word that is commonly used as an insult, it can be used as a form of endearment and for all sorts of reasons, but it is rarely a word described for what it actually means, so regardless of what the dictionary says (because really why does the dictionary dictate a meaning of a word if people are using it more for something other than the dictionary meaning?), to most people it's a rude word designed to slut shame a woman and mark her as something dirty. Now in sexual play and stuff this can be fun and I'm not totally opposed to the word, but I think in general it's pretty safe to say that it's an insulting word. One that you could only say to someone close to you without it being seen as inappropriate or an insult. The meaning of the word is pretty clear.

Like Aella said, it's the intent behind words that make them insulting, but I think if someone tries using the word "whore" casually to someone they don't know very well and aren't meaning to insult them then they really need to get their head checked. Words are there to show our intent, people aren't mind readers, so if someone casually called someone a whore, even if they meant something else, the word they used still holds power. People aren't mind readers, we can't always tell the intent and do rely on language to communicate our feelings.

As a rule, though many people really aren't all that fussed about it, probably best not to throw the word around casually. Though I appreciate your point Crumb, and maybe you're right by a dictionary reference, but you did just call all camgirls whores. Personally I AM insulted by that and don't really like someone suggesting it. By those standards a stripper, a glamour model or a burlesque dancer would also all be "whores". They all perform different forms of sexual acts/acts aimed to give men sexual gratification. I don't think I'm a whore, and though I cam and I make videos and do shows, so on the members side perhaps it seems like sex, on my side it isn't anything like having sex. They may be acts of a sexual nature, but they are not sex acts. In my opinion for them to be sex acts there has to be physical touching involved. You can go on the cyber whore angle, which is much more true to the case. Your dictionary reference is broad and could refer to a lot of things. You can interpret it in very different ways, and though it doesn't say real life sex acts, I think it is probably meant in such a way (especially as paid cyber sex is a fairly recent movement).

 

[Reina Lynn]

I just like accuracy.

I worked as an escort and in brothels. It is accurate that I was a whore. No worries, no offense. In real life, I don't care to be called a slut. It isn't accurate. In my personal life, I haven't really slept around, so the term does not apply.

The few times I've been called a "slut", I have corrected the person and told them I was a "whore", not a "slut". While unconventional, it did tend to stop people in their tracks and leave them perplexed.

In camworld, if a man in private says, "You like being a dirty, nasty slut, don't you?" I typically respond with a cheeky grin and some affirmative statement. It's part of the act and part of the fantasy. It isn't personal.

In real life, I don't find it worth the energy to get upset when someone else is being a jerk. Nor do I really care what anyone else thinks of me, save my few close friends, and they are decent, respectful, nonjudgmental people.

 

[RedHerby]

I do remember a few times that in this forum we did use the words whore/pervert instead of model/member, however that did always go wrong at some point when a model did get offended.

( ending above sentence with 'when a whore did get offended' would be funny IMHO, but because I'm a pussy and don't have balls I did not do that )

 

[SatanJonez]

I have rarely been offended by someone calling me a whore and it was either in my baby-cam girl life (very new to it all) or a person I knew in real life. After that, the word stopped meaning anything.

 

[Lilith Vine]

I use to be offended until I received this message from a guy that lives in my neighborhood that my boyfriend and I use to stay with. My boyfriend trying to help the guy out puts the internet in his name so he can get it turned on without having to pay a previous bill he owed. (That should have been a warning flag for him, but no) Anyway to make a log story short we get our own place, guy never pays any bills, we turn internet off and he sends me these...

...but he has nothing but a dumb retarded cunt like you!

your right i have had enough of one whore for one day try again next time besides those who you talk to do infact come back and tell me everything you say about me and mine thats why i never trusted you in the first place once a whore always a whore

he will be better off till then i guess he better keep his eyes on you as i know you be laying down for any dick that comes around.....lmfao

I had to leave out most of the rest of his message due to personal names included in it. The dude was convinced I was going around talking about him (which I wasnt) but the point is when I first read this shit I was so pissed but I read them again and realized just how hard he had to try to insult me and he just kept coming up with the same crap. Then it actually became pretty funny and I laughed about it for so long and I'm laughing about it now.