Here is a relevant ancedote. There was a slow night a while back. Was chit-chattin with model privately. Except for an occasional beggar, nobody was talking in her room. Very boring.
I told her the next beggar req/dem, I would tip for privately (as long as it was on the menu). My motivation was not to perv out on it (at least not this night lol); I was looking for laughs. Wanted to read some of that wtf? stuff in her room. I was bored.
She said ok, and we were off. And those CB greys did not disappoint. Spent that last hour highly amused. Funniest perhaps was the poor feets guy I tipped for who promptly fell in love. The stuff he wrote in chat was both touching and riotously funny. Damn near dislocated a rib laughing.
Now normally, I view those who would dare insult her by begging with contempt (a feeling I realize must be carefully kept in check). But this night was different. Not the kind of thing I am liable to do again, but all things considered, a pretty good night. She got tipped. She got a few laughs. And unless I am misreading things, she seemed to prefer the attention (mostly positive) she was getting over sitting there wishing something would happen.
But I felt a little guilty nonetheless. For one thing, it was a little mean-spirited. And as I mentioned, I am not happy with her being viewed as a potential freebie. So I apologized to her for asking her to put herself in that position, and expressed the hope that maybe some of these guys would remember her and come back with tokens.
I was partially right about this last bit; a few have indeed returned. Unfortunately, they did not return with tokens. I think she has banned three of them so far
. Ah well. It will save her helpers from the trouble of having to silence them on other nights I suppose.
My point is, had I not tipped for them, they might have continued to pop in on occasion as freeloaders. But by enabling their begging ways, I gave them enough rope that they were able to hang themselves (didn't plan it, this is just the way it turned out). So attempting to influence freeloadery with tipping techniques may be pointless. The outcomes can be too unpredictable.
The exception to this is if it is your own freeloading you are trying to quash. In this case, tipping will indeed solve the problem.