Skipped graduation and regret it

[Wade W Wilson]

I often joke on this forum, occasionally it's even mildly funny but at the moment I say this with complete sincerity.

I'm no shrink but I would say if it bothers you that much after seven years then I'm willing to bet it is actually something about your life now or in general that is really bothering you and this relatively minor life event is just an outlet that you have chosen to focus these feelings on. I'm willing to bet that even if you had a time machine and were able to go back and attend these events you would find that you still feel very much the same as you do now. It's going to take some honest introspection to identify what is really the cause of all of what you are currently feeling and if you are looking for external help, to be honest, this forum is probably not the right place to go about it. That isn't to say there hasn't been some decent advice that has been offered up, but if you are seriously looking for help with this you might want to consider talking to a therapist or someone with some appropriate training. A high school graduation ceremony/party really isn't THAT big of a thing, and that you are focusing so hard on it makes me think it's just the focal point you are comfortable with that allows you to explore a deeper issue. Get some appropriate help, don't let this fester.

 

[Guy]

What should I do with the cap and gown that I never wore? Still have them in an unopened bag.

 

[Serenity_Tam]

What should I do with the cap and gown that I never wore? Still have them in an unopened bag.

Can you donate it to a local good will or daycare for kids may want it for dress up?

 

[moonstompers]

What should I do with the cap and gown that I never wore? Still have them in an unopened bag.

You should wear them out this weekend. Or whenever. Make everyday graduation day. Fuck it. You could create a vigilante alter ego and use it as your costume. Sure, it might not seem like the most intimidating outfit and yeah I could see the secret identity thing being a bit of an issue but whatever. What it lacks in crime fighting effectiveness it will make up in surprise factor. Criminals will be completely thrown off guard by the audacity of a man fighting crime in such a useless outfit.

Or yeah, I guess you could just donate it. Probably a better suggestion.

 

[Guy]

Hey guys! I've decided that in order to get past the regret I have about skipping high school graduation is by celebrating it now. I'm trying to come up with ideas, but its hard to figure out how to do it seven years late.

 

[SoTxBob]

Rent yourself a cheezy tux, get a limo, get shitfaced drunk, find a hooker and spend the night in a semi cheesy hotel or if logistically possible, wake up naked on the beach....

 

[DonaDiabla]

I graduated from high school 13 years ago. I was just some bullied freak trying to fit but I did not belong. However; I packed up my stuff, moved to San Francisco, went to college, and started to become an adult.After my 18th birthday, I decided to do everything I wanted to do as adult.One thing that I did was go to give myself faux graduation party and pay for strippers. I met some new friends and decided to live life on my terms. My whole 20s was about my self discovery and becoming a woman.Now, high school is just a blur in my rich life.Maybe do something like that? Get some strippers and have a mini party? However, your 20s can be a rich experience as well Maybe you could meet a girl, attend a community college, learn a trade, meet some friends, have several sexual experiences,and etc...

 

[DonaDiabla]

Invite all of your friends, hire strippers, and pay for someone to cater your party. I guess you could hire an dj as well

Hey guys! I've decided that in order to get past the regret I have about skipping high school graduation is by celebrating it now. I'm trying to come up with ideas, but its hard to figure out how to do it seven years late.

 

[Ms_Diane]

I do see things like graduation ceremonies and proms and a lot of other things that we celebrate as "firsts", as a right of passage. So even bad experiences are still meaningful sometimes because it is more about marking the passage of time and acknowledging that you have completed something. In fact if HS was a difficult experience, doing a ceremony to mark its completion could be quite meaningful. I can see how missing out on it might make you feel regretful. I think trying to find a way to mark that right of passage is a good idea if you are trying to put that nagging regret to rest. I guess you could either try to draw from the traditions that are typical of a graduation ceremony, which would be a more literal recreation, or maybe you could create your own ceremony, if it is more about the symbolism of a ceremony marking the completion of a thing. I guess it all depends on what you feel you missed out on and how you want to represent the graduation ceremony now. Or if you feel like it's more the party/prom that you regret missing, then sounds like you have some partying to do!

 

[Ambers Troll]

When it comes to rights of passage I have missed almost every one. I do feel your pain, it does hurt.

For myself (without going into too much detail) it continues to this day. I think you must let it go and move on, you can't go back, and if you try it wont be the same. I would try to take pride in who you are, rather than try to be like everyone else as much as you may wish you were. Unique is good, trust that no matter how lonely it feels.

 

[TitansFan]

Guy-you should just go to your 10 year high school reunion and forget about the graduation deal. You gotta live in the moment, and let go of the past. I went to graduation and it is pretty boring actually so you aren't missing much. Focus on your future, not the past.

 

[Guy]

Guy-you should just go to your 10 year high school reunion and forget about the graduation deal. You gotta live in the moment, and let go of the past. I went to graduation and it is pretty boring actually so you aren't missing much. Focus on your future, not the past.

What about your graduation party?

 

[TitansFan]

What about your graduation party?

I went as our school had a huge thing at a nearby water park. Guy, maybe if you are on FB, you can reconnect with people in your high school class who still live in the area and then go do something as a group. Just don't let the whole deal worry or upset you as no one needs that type of stress in their lives. We can all play the "what if" game with our past decisions and regrets; but we live and learn for sure and move on.