Question for models

[makeumoist]

Those of you who have read my posts will know that I am a simple man and I treat MFC in a simple way. I tip a small number of models a modest amount of tokens because they entertain or arouse me (usually both ). I have never been messaged by another member, probably as I'm not on MFC that often, but, if I did get a message as described, I would simply delete it.

Members tip what they can afford and to who they think deserves it. I don't want people questioning my tipping so why would I be interested in anyone else? I'm delighted if one of my favourite models gets a big tip because I'm pretty sure she will have endured many long shifts with buttons to show for it. I also understand that this is a business and a model's time should be reflected in the remuneration she receives from a member (also taking into account how much of her time that member takes up). As I am not a huge tipper, I demand very little from models. It's not an overly complex equation.

MFC, in common with all large communities, has its share of morons, some of whom can be hurtful. It's one of the inevitable side effects of this type of business. There is really nothing you can do but ignore them and concentrate on the nicer members, of whom there are plenty.

Now, run along and play nicely boys and girls :-D

 

[camstory]

I received a very interesting mfc mail post today from a fellow member that I just don't believe.

In it, he/she said they had noticed me in another model's room and that I was not only talking, but tipping. The advice was that many models don't appreciate it when you are in Model A's room and then go to Model B's room (and maybe even the rooms of other models) and tip and converse. The email came after I had subsequently gone on to another model's room, where he/she was, too.

For the record, it is my nature to be respectful to women. Always has been. And it is natural for me to tip any woman who seems to have personality and is working one of the rooms (especially when they are in a room of 500+ members who are asking for this and that, but not tipping).

But I suddenly had to wonder if this person was right. Is there a territorial angle among models? Is there an ownership thing among some?

I've had a couple of women PM me to ask why I was spending time here or there, and why I was spending tokens. I don't have an ego and enjoy talking to everyone as life is too short, but after a while I felt like I was being stalked and had to shut down that angle of my PM's.

I'd appreciate any input from models. I sincerely don't want to offend anyone while online. I enjoy the site, but I was never of the belief that I was in the boyfriend/girlfriend game there.

Thanks in advance. I really enjoy this site, too.

Hi Eddie, I jumped in here, to see if I could rib you a bit for posting a thread titled, "Question for models" because, a Question for models should theoretically go in the ask a model sub-forum.

I thought your post deserved more than that, but almost backed out when I got to "I'd appreciate any input from models." with out posting. Though not a Model, I think you may find my experience interesting. (if you did want only input from Models than just play through. )

Also, I am going to post after only reading the OP. It's bad form, but I have found that, for myself, I can sometimes loose my original thought if I go through a bunch of other post on the same subject. So, if I say things already said, I'm sorry.

When I first started as a camland user at MFC, It was over 6 months before I could buy tokens. When I did, it opened up communication that had mostly not been available before. The difference in MFC, and myself before becoming a prem member and after were like night and day. It took me a while to see it, but MFC was no longer strictly a live porn site to masturbate to.

Edit: Started this post and saved to draft when this thread was fresh, but will finish up now because I feel it is still relevant.

So, right after my first buy in I got totally into one Model in particular. I found myself in her room every night. She was, and is, always a top 20 Model. I had been hanging in her room for about two months and found I had not only become one of the room regulars, but that I felt I had become a special regular. I told myself that feeling special was most likely my own ego at work, and that it made sense for any Model to make each of their regulars feel special. (Though, because I had never been able to tip more than $300 a month, and never would be able to, she knew my financial situation, I felt she was putting in more time on me than what made sense.)

It turned out it was not just my ego, when it was confirmed that the Model did think of me as one of her special friends, by a long time room regular that I had become friends with and was spending time e-mailing about all sorts of things. (This conformation was not given as an answer to anything I asked, and was not in any detail, but rather a random comment that he had not seen this Model become so fond of a member so quickly before.) This in turn lead to me having some feelings I was very uncomfortable with. So uncomfortable in fact that I completely left MFC for a few weeks. I had never had an online friendship or anything close before, and I knew how I was feeling was not healthy. through thinking about it and working it out with some help from some others who understood what I was going through, I managed to put things in prospective, and came back to MFC with a different mindset.

From then on, I was never of the belief that I was in the boyfriend/girlfriend game ether. So, I was shocked when a chain of events seemed to suggest this Model did have feeling of ownership.

(I have just spent some time going through archives, because I wanted to refresh my memory as to the exact events.)

After being an almost nightly regular in her room for about a year, I found ACF, and started spending a lot of time here. That and the fact that I had become uncomfortable spending much time at MFC when I had no tokens meant there were weeks when I would only sign in once or maybe twice. I would sign in under my original account, and then change to the account I had created for this Model and go to her room when I would see her come on. A few times before I noticed she was on, or before I had changed accounts, I received a PM from this Model to my original account just saying hi. Though, once she asked, "what you don't like me any more?", and another time, "hey babe" which I did not respond to, because I was away from the computer and had forgot to sign out. That was followed about 3 minutes later by, "I guess you're too busy to answer me. probably in {Model's name} room and would rather spend time with her." I found the PM's later after she was off, but replied, telling her what had happened, and that I did sometimes visit the Model who she had mentioned, so I would tell her hi, lol. Well the next time I was on, I got two PM's

10:22:57 PM Model's name: lol, this is exactly why I don't like you on my friends list under this account
10:22:59 PM Model's name: exactly why I didn't want to add you to my list of friends babe seeee?

I had temporary changed my SN to one that included a reference to the very Model she had previously been acting jealous over. When I tried to respond to the PM, I got the message that I was not on the persons friends list. There had never been any discussion of adding my original account to her friends list before, and I think I prolly never had to ask, it was just something that made sense. Regardless I was still blown away by this, and wondered if it was all an act to elicit some sort of feeling of betrayal in me, or what?

I tend to think it was not just some game, but rather a Model having some feelings that (imho), are not so healthy considering the circumstances. And, if it was just part of some game, than I think it is a game that is not so healthy to play, and one that would fail to work on me. That said, I do still visit this Model fairly often and found I had been re-added to her friends list when she PM'ed me just a few nights later.

I truly feel there are many aspects of adult web camming that make it an improved alliterative to the more traditional types of porn, for Models and pervs alike. There are things that adult camming offers that other forms of porn do not, making it incomparable. One of the dangers of this new form of porn comes from the close interaction between Models/providers and users/consumers. Any of us who have spent very much time in camland have personal experiences with a user who have lost perspective and have had feelings that are misguided and not so healthy. In my experience these misguided feelings are not always exclusive to users/members/consumers.

 

[CorinneCooper]

In all honesty, this is probably the one danger of a site like MFC where a sense of community is fostered and even expected. You get to KNOW people better and there is the higher chance of feelings getting hurt.

I enjoy MFC-- it gives opportunities to be more social than the average cam site and to foster friendships-- but on the flip side of that token, I don't get all upset or worried about what guys spend elsewhere. I'm a newbie, and a long way away from being a "top girl" on the site. Every single girl in that top 20-- or in those top 2 rows, has EARNED it by putting in the time, effort, and work to get where they are. No matter how cute or friendly I am-- I haven't put in the sweat equity to have the expectations of one of those girls, so why get upset if the gents don't tip me like the tip them? I haven't yet "earned" it.

 

[Eddie77]

camstory, I truly appreciate your comments. Wow, where do I begin?

So much of what you write is something that I can feel, too, so much so that I have twice quit cam site accounts because I just was, and still am, of the belief that on one hand, being so into a 'virtual reality' is not healthy and two, spending so much money is simply not right.
At the outset, let me say that on most occasions, my attraction to a cam site or a specific model's room is not something that has me jacking off. I enjoy spending time with beautiful women. I always have. In real life and in virtual reality. Over the years however, the idea of masturbation just often falls short for me. Nothing comes close to the real thing. In that regard, it is what it is.
Where 'ownership' is concerned, what is funny to me is that as soon as I step foot online, I have a number of PMs coming my way. They are all friendly. They all eventually ask where I am, etc. You'll have to forgive me, but the first thing that goes through my head is that my name equates to dollar signs before anything else. I spread tips around quite often. I believe that cam models are by and large wonderful women who have an extreme amount of patience for, forgive me, putting up with the assholes they do, and their requests/comments. I don't have any problem pretending to be the white knight. I think girls deserve more.
I don't fool myself with the ownership/territorial comments. I try to walk a mile in the shoes of a model and have to believe it is ridiculously difficult. The girl has never seen me (no, I don't cam myself) and only has my words to go on. As such, I have to think that the concern about me coming to the room is monetary, and I can't blame a model, given the cesspool that some have in their rooms.
It's just the guilt trip I sometimes get.
So many girls apparently come from outrageously bad circumstances. So many have incredible monetary needs.
I know the streets and I know the lines. And with me, it's all so unnecessary.
Like you, I am still limited at mfc in terms of daily limits. While I enjoy 'making the day' of many girls, in my most lucid moments, I almost believe that mfc is doing me a favor but holding me to only being able to allowed 2700 tokens a day.

I appreciate the comments and Sara, I am in complete agreement with your comments.

Thanks.