The great thing about being an adult is we get to make our own decisions. No one can make those decisions for us. People will always try to influence us or "save us" but as adults we decide in the end. If you are her friend you will give her advice, be there for her... But you cant force her to not get the surgery. If she feels that terrible about herself that she will choose a life threatening sugery to have a better self image then let her. You cant force people to love their bodies or see theirselves the way you do. Shes grown.. Let her make a grown decision. After a divorce people tend to be a little self destructive. Sometimes women need full on makeovers so they dont feel like they person they were before. You might not understand her mentality and need for the change but you cant force her to feel a different way.