People you WANT as clients?

[Theo Theater]

Anyone ever actually want someone you know IRL to watch your broadcasts? Like let's say you know a person who likes you IRL, they are nice, not creepy, and could splurge on tokens like its nothing. What would you say to let them know? Have you ever done it? If so, how did it end up working?

Side note: I'm a model too, just not verified yet. I haven't been online in a while because my shifts got extended because of the holidays...but an acquaintance got me thinking about it. Chances are I won't do it, but I still feel curious.

 

[CoffeeKnight]

Everyone is different but in my opinion it would be weird if someone I knew in real life asked me to do something like that. Friendship boundaries exist for a reason and I feel that would be overstepping.

It depends on your comfort level with them and what type of relationship you have IRL.

 

[CottonKitty]

I personally wouldn't do it, but that's because i don't have someone irl who i can trust to let them see my shows without feeling weird about it, it can get fucked up if this guy knows you irl tips you high amounts during shows and then he feels like you owe him something besides your camwork, you have to be sure of how he is and what he can or not become, people then to get weird around anything sex work related, if you trust him go ahead!, maybe if you advertise on twitter can follow him so he follows back and sees your posts?

 

[MicaVerano]

Nope. Maybe if was like in a sugaring relationship, and if the person didn’t know where I live. But still, too scary of a situation.

 

[Ms_Gingersnatch]

Sometimes I wish I had business cards to hand out on airplanes. I don't know why, but I tend to get hit on while traveling (it's certainly not because I put in effort to look good - I try to maximize comfort!). I'm hopefully never seeing the airplane guys again, so might as well let them know they can pay for play with me later.

But friends, potential partners, and other real life guys... nope.

 

[ElaySmith]

I would never intentionally try to get somebody irl to visit me on cam. I assume that some of the people that know I cam check me out from time to time if for nothing but curiosity sake but I would personally feel uncomfortable performing for a friend/acquaintance, not to mention how messy it could get if things went south.

Sometimes I wish I had business cards to hand out on airplanes.

Not necessarily in airplanes as I avoid them like the plage but Ive kinda though about doing the same for bars or concerts or whatever when I am out of town. The only problem is I suffer from major RBF and feel like I am the most unapproachable person in the world irl.

 

[OldHippy]

Sometimes I wish I had business cards to hand out on airplanes. I don't know why, but I tend to get hit on while traveling (it's certainly not because I put in effort to look good - I try to maximize comfort!). I'm hopefully never seeing the airplane guys again, so might as well let them know they can pay for play with me later.

Something like that happened to me a long time ago...

I was walking down the street of the main shopping strip of the city, when this girl walked out of a shop. She managed to walk so gracefully in her high heals, her short skirt showed off her perfect long legs, her dark long hair glistened in the sunlight. In a city full of beautiful girls she stood out with her grace and confidence.

I guess forgot some basic decorum, as the look on my face gave away the surprise I felt at seeing this amazing lady. As she came closer to me she smiled a smile at me that made me blush and then handed me a business card... No words were exchanged during this brief meeting and when my heart stopped betting at an alarmingly fast rate, I looked at the card she had handed me... It was a card for an escort agency.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Anyone ever actually want someone you know IRL to watch your broadcasts? Like let's say you know a person who likes you IRL, they are nice, not creepy, and could splurge on tokens like its nothing.

A big fat NO for me. Plus, if they're in a position to be spending big bucks on me, I'd rather they just consider becoming my sugar daddy or something...instead of visiting me on the cam sites. They'd get to spend time with me on dates, I get cash, and don't have to have some website taking a percentage of it. Lol.

But seriously...I try to keep cam life totally separate from IRL, because it'd just be too uncomfortable. Also, I do not want people who know personal stuff about me (real name, family members, where I live, where I worked, etc.) hangin' out in my public chat around other members, where they could accidentally blurt out something personal.

I also don't like how some men start to act when they realize a female acquaintance/friend is an adult industry worker. Suddenly, they start to look at you like you're an easy lay, and thinking they've got a chance of hooking up with you. Not to mention the obnoxious "You should include ME in some of your cam shows!" comments. No, dude...NO. And them thinking they're entitled to "freebies" just because they know you. Also, not being able to have a regular conversation with them anymore, because now all they ever wanna do around you is talk about sex, or anything having to do with camming.

 

[Kiki Jane]

Maybe... in a fantasy kind of way... there are some off-limits type men (e.g. friends' husbands) who I wouldn't mind seeing me and getting off, haha, but seriously--- in the real world, I don't think that would be prudent. Still, in a fantasy kind of way, it's a little fun to think about.

 

[AudriTwo]

i totally have. i also give them my cammodels link, so when they spend on me I get 75%.

 

[mynameisbob84]

Danny Devito and Morgan Freeman.

I may have misunderstood the question.

 

[Theo Theater]

Still, in a fantasy kind of way, it's a little fun to think about.

It's pretty fun for me to think about too. I mean I know I probably wouldn't do it, but sometimes during the day I like to imagine it. Lol

i totally have. i also give them my cammodels link, so when they spend on me I get 75%.

Has it ever gone south?

Danny Devito and Morgan Freeman.

I may have misunderstood the question.

Lol! Not gonna lie, I'd be super psyched to have a famous client. Not just for the money, cause can you imagine the ego boost?! I'd have confidence up the wazoo!

 

[AudriTwo]

Has it ever gone south?

south as in the outed me? no. they were respectful and tipped my like $25. the sex afterwards was GREAT. but they knew what i did and i had an idea going in. it was a way for them to see a different side of me that they aren't used to.

of course it could go south. you never know what someone decides to do when they are being a dick. i trusted them first.

 

[AudriTwo]

wanna add, make sure to lay out boundaries before. if you don't want the chat knowing they know you IRL. also a friendly reminder to not say your name.

 

[UniversitySmiles]

Several people who I know IRL know that I cam. None of which are big tippers. Camming is currently my full-time job and single source of income, however, I do not push tipping. However, it is very exciting to know they are one of the thousands of eyes staring back at me, enjoying themselves. They all know that I need my identity and location to stay secure and find it intriguing as well. If you are interested in telling someone about camming I would suggest being selective as far as who you tell. Also similarly to what AudriTwo was saying, set boundaries.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

No words were exchanged during this brief meeting and when my heart stopped betting at an alarmingly fast rate, I looked at the card she had handed me... It was a card for an escort agency.

The real question is... Did you call?

I have heard of this happening to guys before. As far as I can tell, it is very hard to approach someone and get them to visit you on a camsite (or even hire you as an escort I'm sure). When I worked briefly as a stripper I did not come across anyone who realistically would have been a cam client, they were visiting a strip club for a reason, same with people from cams. Same as I sometimes like to have a sugar daddy, but those who I know on cams would prefer to be online, as any sugar daddy would prefer to be in person. I feel like it would be more likely I'd get a freeloader, which wouldn't be worth it for the risk. I have handed out flyers for the strip club though and got a few people stopping by. Stripping is slightly different though and would be even more dangerous, though also more fun if it were someone you knew (granted you found them attractive).

I have shared my cam name with only one guy I know from real life, we have never slept together or had a sexual relationship, though if we were ever single at the same time or lived near each other I might as he's probably the hottest person I've met. I don't feel it has been worth him having my cam name or twitter though, we're friends but sometimes he clearly finds the friendship and "I want to wank over you" boundary is blurred, which tests my patience. It's not such a big deal as we live far away and haven't met up in years, but that is partially because it would now feel inappropriate, so it definitely has not been positive for my friendship. And actually, I am less likely to sleep with him as he can be a pain in the arse, however beautiful he is to look at. He also seems to have now built me up in his mind as this ultimate person he thinks is sexy, which I don't know how to handle. I am also pretty sure he doesn't even have a premium account. But he does still to this day compliment hot photos I put on my twitter, or pleads with me to sell him videos.

I have had a lot of guys asking for my cam name though. It's amazing how many guys think that's appropriate when you mention you cam or do soft porn/glamour modelling.
Guy: "Tell me your name though so I can find you"
Me: "Nice try"

As much as I get naked over the internet and like playing in this way, it doesn't mean I'm going to let anyone I meet see me naked. If someone finds me accidentally then I don't care if they watch, but I'm not going to advertise it. Most people in my generation believe porn should be free, and so many others cannot afford it, so what would be the point?

 

[Phoenix4987]

He also seems to have now built me up in his mind as this ultimate person he thinks is sexy, which I don't know how to handle.

Do you think that would put a lot of pressure on you if things ever did get to that point?

 

[SaffronBurke]

Anyone I've known IRL who frequented camsites, ended up being a basic, so I don't give out my info anymore. You don't get to hang out in my chat and make requests for free just because I let you touch my boobs at the Renaissance Faire.

 

[OldHippy]

The real question is... Did you call?

Unfortunately no... I was too young and much too shy at that time.

 

[IntravenousFlytrap]

I’ve been considering trying out findom, so im kind of looking to experiment with clients into that sort of thing. I’m not usually a fetish girl, but this one seems so damn appealing and easy to do. So do other odd fetishes such as dangling your shoe from your toe, smoking, etc. Such simple tasks, yet so many turned on by such things. I love it.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Do you think that would put a lot of pressure on you if things ever did get to that point?

Not so much for me, I think he would cum in his pants about 4 times before we ever got round to it just out of excitement though, and so the rest of it would probably be primarily about getting me off.
If I thought it would be anti-climatic for him I might do it just to calm him down and remove the tension. I don't think it will ever happen though, he's hot and everything, and is a really nice person, but I've heard wayyy too much information over our years of friendship, and he can be kind of sexually needy to the point of being a pest if I even hint at flirting. It's a shame really, had he ever been single at the same time as me when we lived near each other it probably would have been incredible before all this stuff got built up. To be fair though, it's the kind of situation where looks help a person. He's not threatening and will back off when I tick him off, but the guys libido is so high that he is a complete pervert. If he weren't so good looking in such a clean, friendly looking way, I don't think he would ever get away with it. Then again, I think because he knows he's hot he feels he can get away with it more so than someone who weren't as typically good looking.

 

[Ambers Troll]

@IsabellaSnow sounds almost like true love to me. You have quite an open/ romantic streak for a model, but agree on your assessment of the relationship, trust that instinct.

 

[Phoenix4987]

@IsabellaSnow Hahahaha this hits so close to home it's not even funny. Minus the libido to the point of being sexually needy. That's crazy high, but I can relate that whole scenario to an extent

 

[Johndoe91]

Most important takeaway I got from this thread is that I need to go to more Renaissance faires...

 

[Rubi]

I used to have a friend who told a fuckbuddy of hers that she cammed and he came to her room and made it rain tokens a bit. Although she would also tell colleagues at her professional vanilla job working with kids that she cammed too, so it's hard to know how that turned out for her.

I don't think i'd be comfortable with anyone I know watching me, unless they wanted to keep the convo going when it's dead because it's the lesser evil of awkwardness.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

south as in the outed me? no. they were respectful and tipped my like $25. the sex afterwards was GREAT. but they knew what i did and i had an idea going in. it was a way for them to see a different side of me that they aren't used to.

of course it could go south. you never know what someone decides to do when they are being a dick. i trusted them first.

Ironically enough, I had a similar conversation with some people I know about knowing a few people in the adult industry over the years. They were commenting on how they couldn't do it, or it would be weird for them to either date someone or even just know post-sex (shows or escort) or even just stripping. For me, not so. It's just a job to them, and boundaries are easy to keep IMO.

One never knows how someone will be until they are put into a situation, and then it's a gamble. There are indicators of course that one can try and make informed decisions off of though.

For myself, I have had the opportunity to get to know some people with online personalities and security was a big concern. Took a lot of time and trust to get them to open up. This goes both ways in terms of knowing them IRL, then online. Or, online then meeting in person. It is interesting to learn how people are in IRL, compared to what they may be in a different "stage" persona.

Those I know more than just in a cam room, nothing personal is said in public without their consent. Whether it be IRL, or chat room. Even when in PM's, it's very selective in case accounts are hacked. Even if something goes south between us, I still hold all that info in privacy since it was given in confidence. Whether do or not, is up to them. The couple of times I've had things go south, nothing negative has come of it.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

Stripping is slightly different though and would be even more dangerous, though also more fun if it were someone you knew (granted you found them attractive).

I've had this happen once. We found each other attractive, and I knew she stripped. She mentioned I should come visit her one night at work, as she'd like to see me there. I had avoided it since, didn't think about it much, as well as didn't want it to possibly be awkward between us.

I'll just say that it was by far the best stage dance, followed by lap dance, I've ever had. Tipped her quite well for it, more than I normally would since it was someone I knew (usual practice for me, even if a waitress or other service tipped for). We never took it beyond that. But, didn't get weird about it either. We stayed friends until she moved out of state and eventually lost contact with one another.

 

[Phoenix4987]

You coulda had that yknow?

 

[Deleted member 37064]

You coulda had that yknow?

The stripper? Yeah, most likely. But, I'm not one who typically goes for one night stands, FWB's, or sex just for the sake of sex. We found each other attractive. But, wasn't enough to take it beyond where we did.

I have a number of female friends where we think the other is attractive. But, we don't act on it since we know it'll cause issues or that we don't see each other more than an attractive friend. Actually, come to think of it, seems to be my lot in life...

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I've had this happen once. We found each other attractive, and I knew she stripped. She mentioned I should come visit her one night at work, as she'd like to see me there. I had avoided it since, didn't think about it much, as well as didn't want it to possibly be awkward between us.

I'll just say that it was by far the best stage dance, followed by lap dance, I've ever had. Tipped her quite well for it, more than I normally would since it was someone I knew (usual practice for me, even if a waitress or other service tipped for). We never took it beyond that. But, didn't get weird about it either. We stayed friends until she moved out of state and eventually lost contact with one another.

That sounds like fun, how was it like not doing anything with dancing? I found when I stripped if I had good chemistry with someone it could be intoxicating because you weren't actually allowed to do anything like kiss, it made the whole thing far more erotic. I once got a small crush on someone while I was in a relationship, and imagined how hot it would be if he went to the club so I could dance for him. I didn't actually want to sleep with him, but I loved the tension and the flirting. I did also consider that it might be hot for him to watch me on cam, but the thing is with that, I wouldn't really have got much out of the cam stuff. Having a screen between you and a person does a lot to remove that sexual tension from the camgirl's perspective. Even if you're really hot and someone I would want in real life, like with my friend who watches me, once you've moved to it just being online it gets boring from the camgirl's perspective. The only thing that always brings a spark is tokens. Not even kidding, it's the only thing that's real for me and shows me a man's interest.

With stripping on the other hand I pretty regularly met someone who I would have loved to sleep with. I never once went further with anyone though, partially as I've always been in a relationship, but even if I hadn't been, I wouldn't leave mid shift, and by the end of a night stripping, I may be horny enough to wake my boyfriend up, but I wouldn't have the energy to go home with anyone. At that point it's like "soft warm clothes and bed please".