Arghhh, I'm so angry right now and I'm going to attempt to use it positively to create this post. I've been camming for probably six months now, and while that isn't a ton of time, I thought I had seen and could avoid most of the scams these dudes try to pull. Yes, dudes, because when's the last time you heard of a woman out here scamming performers???
I made a Twitter fairly recently as a way to drum up some more followers for myself, and to make my CB fans aware of my SM profile. A dude (username @RipEoadHag) DM'ed me asking if I had an Amazon wishlist. I sent it to him, and he told me that he had purchased me four items. My wishlist showed that 4 items had indeed been purchased, totaling around $90. I asked for proof of shipping and he sent me a code to verify, then asked me how long of a session I would trade for the gifts. I told him I could do 15 minutes now, and then another 15 minutes once I had received the items, and he would be the first to see me use the toys he had ordered. FIRST MAJOR RED FLAG HERE, he told me he "couldn't finish" in 15 and asked if all 30 at once was okay. I probably should have thought a little harder about it, but my first wishlist purchase seemed like such a victory and I was so excited. So, I agreed.
During our Skype session, he told me to my face that it's good I was careful, and how he was sorry people had attempted to scam me in the past, but he hoped he could give me a positive experience of interacting with a customer (I'm paraphrasing). A couple days later, he hits me up again saying he wants to continue this, he really likes me, could he buy another 30 minute session. I was SO excited! I thought I had pulled a serious regular. I told him he could pay me through an Amazon giftcard. I waited to receive it in my email, but it never came. Everywhere I looked online, it said they only took 4 hours maximum to send. The "proof" he provided me was a screenshot of the deducted balance from his Amazon GC balance. (I looked this up just now, you CANNOT purchase gift cards with your own gift card balance.) But I didn't know that yet. So I sat there, and waited. He seemed very put out that I wouldn't give him a show while I waited for confirmation, having the nerve to say "it's fine I guess" when I apologized for the delay... as if it was my fault! Really?! A week of waiting and no gifts, so it's safe to say I've been had.
I love my job, but it's really made me realize just how lacking in empathy and respect for women some of these dudes are! So I guess I'm just writing this 1. To vent to people who unfortunately probably will understand, and 2. To warn anyone who's a little shaky in their convictions regarding proof before services. DO NOT GIVE THEM ANYTHING UNTIL THE PAYMENT, WHATEVER IT IS, IS IN YOUR HANDS!!! It really sucks, but I guess we have to approach pretty much any new customer like they're a predatory liar until proven otherwise. Damn, I thought I was already mean, it's about to get a lot worse
I made a Twitter fairly recently as a way to drum up some more followers for myself, and to make my CB fans aware of my SM profile. A dude (username @RipEoadHag) DM'ed me asking if I had an Amazon wishlist. I sent it to him, and he told me that he had purchased me four items. My wishlist showed that 4 items had indeed been purchased, totaling around $90. I asked for proof of shipping and he sent me a code to verify, then asked me how long of a session I would trade for the gifts. I told him I could do 15 minutes now, and then another 15 minutes once I had received the items, and he would be the first to see me use the toys he had ordered. FIRST MAJOR RED FLAG HERE, he told me he "couldn't finish" in 15 and asked if all 30 at once was okay. I probably should have thought a little harder about it, but my first wishlist purchase seemed like such a victory and I was so excited. So, I agreed.
During our Skype session, he told me to my face that it's good I was careful, and how he was sorry people had attempted to scam me in the past, but he hoped he could give me a positive experience of interacting with a customer (I'm paraphrasing). A couple days later, he hits me up again saying he wants to continue this, he really likes me, could he buy another 30 minute session. I was SO excited! I thought I had pulled a serious regular. I told him he could pay me through an Amazon giftcard. I waited to receive it in my email, but it never came. Everywhere I looked online, it said they only took 4 hours maximum to send. The "proof" he provided me was a screenshot of the deducted balance from his Amazon GC balance. (I looked this up just now, you CANNOT purchase gift cards with your own gift card balance.) But I didn't know that yet. So I sat there, and waited. He seemed very put out that I wouldn't give him a show while I waited for confirmation, having the nerve to say "it's fine I guess" when I apologized for the delay... as if it was my fault! Really?! A week of waiting and no gifts, so it's safe to say I've been had.
I love my job, but it's really made me realize just how lacking in empathy and respect for women some of these dudes are! So I guess I'm just writing this 1. To vent to people who unfortunately probably will understand, and 2. To warn anyone who's a little shaky in their convictions regarding proof before services. DO NOT GIVE THEM ANYTHING UNTIL THE PAYMENT, WHATEVER IT IS, IS IN YOUR HANDS!!! It really sucks, but I guess we have to approach pretty much any new customer like they're a predatory liar until proven otherwise. Damn, I thought I was already mean, it's about to get a lot worse