Hi, guys. Sorry for not replying i didn't expect anyone to reply! I have read the replies carefully and i agree with a lot of it. Let me just start by saying that we have continued to talk and some nights we have got close and flirted but nothing has come of it because we both know it is for the best.
A lot of you say that i have a problem with camming, and you are right. I do have a problem with it. Some women, in fact most women choose to be a cam girl and of course she does, too. But it is a necessity rather than a choice. I completely agree that we can never be together because of a variety of differences, i was just being a spoiled child and wanted to try anything to get my own way. The problems i have with camming is that she does not WANT to cam and does not enjoy it, yet she has no other choice because of financial problems. I also hate the fact that other men see my 'girlfriend' naked and that she willingly shows them her body, which only i should see. I also hate that the regulars in her room truly believe that they have an emotional connection with her (and i'm sure some of your will say that they have the same connection as i do). However, i would say that my biggest problem is the fact that her job is more important than anything. Everything she does revolves around her job. She has no personal social networking page (aside from the twitter that we met on, which she has since deleted), she has no friends because she is always working. She doesn't go out at weekends because she will miss work, when she goes on vacation she sits in the hotel room for hours just to work. I understand that she needs to work but camming just made it worse. My selfish point of view is that we spoke in the early afternoon after she finished work, but just 3 hours later she was off working again...
I know i sound selfish, but these are my problems. As for me supporting her at work, i tried for a while, but she knows about my hatred for her profession so everything i said resulted in an argument because she thought i was being sarcastic (which i was). The number one problem i have is that other men can see exactly what i see and experience what i feel in exchange for money. That is the problem.
We spoke about our problems and from a neutral view, we both had valid points. I was controlling and jealous of her job, and i came into her life promising a dream life and asking her to quit, even before we had even met and knowing each other for 4 months. For a poor Romanian girl, she has learned not to trust people easily and my promise of a dream life she didn't believe.
And yes, she is 20. She lies about her age because she started when she was under-age, and i have seen both her passport and i.d. card, and she showed me her school results which had her name and d.o.b.
Anyway, the relationship CAN work, but the chances are so incredibly slim. So many things have to change for both of us to be happy, and although she admitted that she wants the relationship to work, we can't be together, and i agreed. There are problems on problems lol. I obviously cannot deal with her job (and honestly, i don't even want to try and accept it), and she is unwilling to change it. We live in different countries and she has no intention of moving to the UK, and i am definitely not moving to Romania. We have never met (although she suggested that we spend a weekend together in France, to which i haven't made up my mind yet) and my friends and family no longer think of her the same way after finding out about camming.
Thank you all for your posts, and although it did not work out, i will never forget her and i will continue to talk to her until i feel that i have feelings for her again, then i will break off contact in fear that things will start again. She has a bad life and an almost pointless existence, and i was determined to help her change that, but there are too many problems. Any replies will be appreciated and i will read them and respond I just want to thank you all for your advice and thoughts on this extremely fucked up situation (and thanks for the roasting i got for my selfish behavior! Seriously).
P.S. Camming is absolutely fine for those of you who truly choose to do it, and enjoy it. If you are single then go for it, and if you have a boyfriend or husband who accepts it, then you are extremely lucky and i envy them. My problem is that there are two sides to camming, and she is unfortunately on the less glamorous side where she relies on horny men to live.
A lot of you say that i have a problem with camming, and you are right. I do have a problem with it. Some women, in fact most women choose to be a cam girl and of course she does, too. But it is a necessity rather than a choice. I completely agree that we can never be together because of a variety of differences, i was just being a spoiled child and wanted to try anything to get my own way. The problems i have with camming is that she does not WANT to cam and does not enjoy it, yet she has no other choice because of financial problems. I also hate the fact that other men see my 'girlfriend' naked and that she willingly shows them her body, which only i should see. I also hate that the regulars in her room truly believe that they have an emotional connection with her (and i'm sure some of your will say that they have the same connection as i do). However, i would say that my biggest problem is the fact that her job is more important than anything. Everything she does revolves around her job. She has no personal social networking page (aside from the twitter that we met on, which she has since deleted), she has no friends because she is always working. She doesn't go out at weekends because she will miss work, when she goes on vacation she sits in the hotel room for hours just to work. I understand that she needs to work but camming just made it worse. My selfish point of view is that we spoke in the early afternoon after she finished work, but just 3 hours later she was off working again...
I know i sound selfish, but these are my problems. As for me supporting her at work, i tried for a while, but she knows about my hatred for her profession so everything i said resulted in an argument because she thought i was being sarcastic (which i was). The number one problem i have is that other men can see exactly what i see and experience what i feel in exchange for money. That is the problem.
We spoke about our problems and from a neutral view, we both had valid points. I was controlling and jealous of her job, and i came into her life promising a dream life and asking her to quit, even before we had even met and knowing each other for 4 months. For a poor Romanian girl, she has learned not to trust people easily and my promise of a dream life she didn't believe.
And yes, she is 20. She lies about her age because she started when she was under-age, and i have seen both her passport and i.d. card, and she showed me her school results which had her name and d.o.b.
Anyway, the relationship CAN work, but the chances are so incredibly slim. So many things have to change for both of us to be happy, and although she admitted that she wants the relationship to work, we can't be together, and i agreed. There are problems on problems lol. I obviously cannot deal with her job (and honestly, i don't even want to try and accept it), and she is unwilling to change it. We live in different countries and she has no intention of moving to the UK, and i am definitely not moving to Romania. We have never met (although she suggested that we spend a weekend together in France, to which i haven't made up my mind yet) and my friends and family no longer think of her the same way after finding out about camming.
Thank you all for your posts, and although it did not work out, i will never forget her and i will continue to talk to her until i feel that i have feelings for her again, then i will break off contact in fear that things will start again. She has a bad life and an almost pointless existence, and i was determined to help her change that, but there are too many problems. Any replies will be appreciated and i will read them and respond I just want to thank you all for your advice and thoughts on this extremely fucked up situation (and thanks for the roasting i got for my selfish behavior! Seriously).
P.S. Camming is absolutely fine for those of you who truly choose to do it, and enjoy it. If you are single then go for it, and if you have a boyfriend or husband who accepts it, then you are extremely lucky and i envy them. My problem is that there are two sides to camming, and she is unfortunately on the less glamorous side where she relies on horny men to live.