I have been wanting to write this post for months, and it's taken a lot of humility for me to admit how deficient I feel and post it for everyone to see, so please, please read this and contribute if you have any thoughts.
I have always had extremely low room counts- even when my camscore is 4000+ and I'm doing a cumshow, I can't get more than 100-150 people in my room. If I have *any* clothing on whatsoever, I can't even get 50. My room is typically populated by a handful of (silenced) guests and basics, 3-4 of my regs at any given time, and 3-5 premiums, none of whom I can get to speak to me. This is a really big problem for me that I've been wrestling with and trying to address for a year now.
I have gone through the checklists of things that contribute to an appealing room, and my problem has spanned multiple homes/cam rooms/backgrounds.
-I'm from the US, so it's not like I'm not showing up on the homepage for people.
-I log on consistently at around the same time, and try to always stay on for at LEAST an hour or hour and a half before logging off if it's slow.
-I've tried multiple avatars that showcase different aspects of myself (my face and a pi symbol)
-My lighting is both interesting (colour-changing light strips) and not too bright/dark, my background is visually simple but not dull or boring.
-I am a VERY extroverted, conversational, easygoing person, and I like to think I'm as cute and stimulating as the best of them. I never complain, and I never get the least bit flustered by trolls.
-I always have an informative topic, and I have several one-off games like blackjack, Cards Against Humanity, Cranium, and Schrodinger's Cat that one can play during the countdowns
-I have video deals every night that no one ever takes advantage of
-I've tried changing up angles/positions and standing/sitting on the floor/sitting on the couch, etc. When I did outdoor shows in my back yard, I couldn't even get 15 people in my room. When I did a coffee shop show, I couldn't get more than 25, and nobody but my regs would talk to me. The ONLY exception to this is when I did library shows, but even then my room count was usually 100-150.
I feel like there's something crucial I'm missing. This isn't a normal case of not being entertaining or not understanding the basics of keeping a room going. My regs and the rare new people who stay to hang out and chat are equally mystified- many say they don't know why my room counts are so low or how I'm not in Top 250. I know so many girls around my camscore/level of experience who have 150 people in their room when they're just sitting around rambling, and I don't know how to become one of them. I treasure my regs and love having an intimate group who all get along very well, but there's this IMMENSE and unfair pressure on them to finish countdowns and make my goals. I know that newbies and/or lower camscore girls often make threads of this nature looking for quick advice that they could easily find via reading the forum; this is a little different. At first I was perturbed by my lack of traffic, but assumed it was just because I was new and hadn't garnered a following yet. But now I've been doing this for a little over a year, and I feel like I haven't improved on this front. It's so incredibly frustrating and discouraging. I've started coming to the conclusion that it's the way I look, even though I think I'm in the same ballpark as other fairly popular models, or that I look too old. If this is the case, I wish I could just know for sure.
You guys are, for the most part, both intelligent and perceptive but also ballsy as hell and willing to speak the truth even when it's uncomfortable. Please, if any of you could visit me whenever you catch me online, maybe watch me for a while, and tell me what it is that is deterring viewers or why you wouldn't want to stay and chat, I'd be so so so grateful. I promise, I won't be offended by anything you have to say- even if that answer is that I'm not as pretty/look like a dude/look old. IT'S NOT A TRAP! This is not a "does my butt look big in these jeans?" thread (and even if it was, the answer would be a resounding YES). I'm just looking for perspective, and I feel like this is the best place to come for it.
I have always had extremely low room counts- even when my camscore is 4000+ and I'm doing a cumshow, I can't get more than 100-150 people in my room. If I have *any* clothing on whatsoever, I can't even get 50. My room is typically populated by a handful of (silenced) guests and basics, 3-4 of my regs at any given time, and 3-5 premiums, none of whom I can get to speak to me. This is a really big problem for me that I've been wrestling with and trying to address for a year now.
I have gone through the checklists of things that contribute to an appealing room, and my problem has spanned multiple homes/cam rooms/backgrounds.
-I'm from the US, so it's not like I'm not showing up on the homepage for people.
-I log on consistently at around the same time, and try to always stay on for at LEAST an hour or hour and a half before logging off if it's slow.
-I've tried multiple avatars that showcase different aspects of myself (my face and a pi symbol)
-My lighting is both interesting (colour-changing light strips) and not too bright/dark, my background is visually simple but not dull or boring.
-I am a VERY extroverted, conversational, easygoing person, and I like to think I'm as cute and stimulating as the best of them. I never complain, and I never get the least bit flustered by trolls.
-I always have an informative topic, and I have several one-off games like blackjack, Cards Against Humanity, Cranium, and Schrodinger's Cat that one can play during the countdowns
-I have video deals every night that no one ever takes advantage of
-I've tried changing up angles/positions and standing/sitting on the floor/sitting on the couch, etc. When I did outdoor shows in my back yard, I couldn't even get 15 people in my room. When I did a coffee shop show, I couldn't get more than 25, and nobody but my regs would talk to me. The ONLY exception to this is when I did library shows, but even then my room count was usually 100-150.
I feel like there's something crucial I'm missing. This isn't a normal case of not being entertaining or not understanding the basics of keeping a room going. My regs and the rare new people who stay to hang out and chat are equally mystified- many say they don't know why my room counts are so low or how I'm not in Top 250. I know so many girls around my camscore/level of experience who have 150 people in their room when they're just sitting around rambling, and I don't know how to become one of them. I treasure my regs and love having an intimate group who all get along very well, but there's this IMMENSE and unfair pressure on them to finish countdowns and make my goals. I know that newbies and/or lower camscore girls often make threads of this nature looking for quick advice that they could easily find via reading the forum; this is a little different. At first I was perturbed by my lack of traffic, but assumed it was just because I was new and hadn't garnered a following yet. But now I've been doing this for a little over a year, and I feel like I haven't improved on this front. It's so incredibly frustrating and discouraging. I've started coming to the conclusion that it's the way I look, even though I think I'm in the same ballpark as other fairly popular models, or that I look too old. If this is the case, I wish I could just know for sure.
You guys are, for the most part, both intelligent and perceptive but also ballsy as hell and willing to speak the truth even when it's uncomfortable. Please, if any of you could visit me whenever you catch me online, maybe watch me for a while, and tell me what it is that is deterring viewers or why you wouldn't want to stay and chat, I'd be so so so grateful. I promise, I won't be offended by anything you have to say- even if that answer is that I'm not as pretty/look like a dude/look old. IT'S NOT A TRAP! This is not a "does my butt look big in these jeans?" thread (and even if it was, the answer would be a resounding YES). I'm just looking for perspective, and I feel like this is the best place to come for it.