Me again - Public or Privats?

[BrandonHeat]

Hello again, its me


So here comes my question or well, my problem!


PLease keep in mind if i say something bad, i dont mean it that bad actually, iam really not here to piss anyone off or something! So please forgive me already


Do u girls do PRIVATS or PUBLICs only ? Or both ?

I ask this with the background, that my Girlfriend(WHich works on cam), actually earn ALOT of "soft"public shows (No Toys or anal or somehing like this) and only small amount of fingers She earns more then with privats with that.

I asked her to dont do any privats for 2 days, just for test, and in this 2 days, she had she best earning ever.

But now she told me, that she will do privats with her long fanboys anyway. I asked her why she decide this, when she can stop use any toys and fake her orgams. She say accept this please. I ask her why, when she have chance to stop this COMPLETLY. then she say "i promised already". Nice. She did promise me too. And he means more then me ?

Now i think that she likes the privats and her work is more important then me and my feelings.. Can someone advice me what to do, besides break with her ? I dont want to loos her, but i cant go on this way, please someone give me good advice how i could solve that... Iam really down at the moment, i think i cant anymore and we will loos each other becaus of this, becaus its not understandable for me why she decide this way, when she can stop that... please someone know a solution for me ???

 

[PinUpKittie]

I do both, and enjoy both.

She will never reach her potential if you continue to be so unsupportive and paranoid...

If she wants to do privates, as well as public, than great for her If you have to spend hours doing a job, would you want her to tell you to NOT do the parts that make you like the job? Would you let her tell you to like your job less? Life is short, you should like your job.

'fanboys' generate the largest percentage of income for most models, and keeping them happy is smart. By pleasing them (only going so far as you're comfortable and happy with) they will show their appreciation. She's being SMART about her BUSINESS by making both her, and her 'fanboys' happy. Sounds like you've got a wise girlfriend on her hands. Be thankful for her and let her do her thing.

 

[Jebbaz]

You are a very insecure man. Try opening up a little bit sexually and let her do her job to her full potential. I got news for you man, if you continue to hold a woman back like you're so blatantly doing, it wont be you who is doing the breaking. She will dump your ass and find a man who will support her in her work, rather than you who panics about the simplest aspects of her job.

 

[AmberCutie]

If she stops doing privates with her biggest fans, they'll probably not tip her as much... she needs to keep them happy in order to have successful public tokens too.

Again, Brandon, you can't limit her too much or you'll hinder her income. It's business, stop taking it personally.

 

[SirLes]

Grow some stones man and wake up to yourself. She is with you, she comes home to be with you, you're the one that gets to actually stick things in her. She has already told you she will only do privates with the ones that were regulars prior to your little experiment, most likely because they are also big tippers in public.
Love is give and take, accept what she is offering and enjoy and support her when you can.
And yes, I speak from experience, my ex was a hooker, did it worry me? Not in the least so long as she wasn't being hurt and she enjoyed her work but she came home to me and only made love with me, only dated me, in fact was the most faithful woman I have been out with.
There is a difference between what goes on at work and what goes on in the privacy of your own relationship and as I've said before, if you don't learn to see this difference soon then she will find someone that does and you will find yourself very lonely.

 

[BrandonHeat]

But she dont enjoy or like them. She hates them and told me she have pain already becaus always had to use toys. And now she decide to do them anyway, even when she earn LESS money by this. And as she told me, its her only aim... Iam confused, really..


@Jebbaz,

its not about this, just i dont get why she want to do this, when she earned much more without privats. And its not like she like it, she always tell me how uch she hates that all. But now it appears like its not this way, and honestly i will not support that - since i try as long she hates, but i dont want to be with someone, who enjoy this work, sorry.

Nothing offence against girls who like this work, just iam not a man who could handle that, if u like ur job thats good


Edit:

Thanks for fast answers.
But then she lies to me, since she always say how much she hates... And yes, i do a terrible work too and she dont say something about this, since iam hurting people. But thats different, becaus if i would have the chance dont hurt peopl and earn more, i would do that. But she decides to do it anyway... i dont get that...

 

[Jebbaz]

But she dont enjoy or like them. She hates them and told me she have pain already becaus always had to use toys. And now she decide to do them anyway, even when she earn LESS money by this. And as she told me, its her only aim... Iam confused, really..


@Jebbaz,

its not about this, just i dont get why she want to do this, when she earned much more without privats. And its not like she like it, she always tell me how uch she hates that all. But now it appears like its not this way, and honestly i will not support that - since i try as long she hates, but i dont want to be with someone, who enjoy this work, sorry.

Nothing offence against girls who like this work, just iam not a man who could handle that, if u like ur job thats good


Edit:

Thanks for fast answers.
But then she lies to me, since she always say how much she hates... And yes, i do a terrible work too and she dont say something about this, since iam hurting people. But thats different, becaus if i would have the chance dont hurt peopl and earn more, i would do that. But she decides to do it anyway... i dont get that...

ask yourself this Brandon, is she telling you that she hates doing them because it makes YOU feel better about it? I've never met a woman who didn't like to masturbate.

 

[BrandonHeat]

i trust her inthat. And i dont think she enjoy that 9 hours every day....

 

[PinUpKittie]

While it's possible she may not be enjoying the privates (Yeah, we like to masturbate, but it is a common complaint that too many prvts = sore vajayjays) it honestly sounds to me like she is trying to comfort you. If my man wasn't okay with the type of work I did, I would be more than tempted to say that I 'just did it for the money' and I 'didn't actually like it at all'. I don't blame her for saying she hates it.

I know not every guy can handle the lifestyle your GF has chosen, but she has chosen it, and now she should be allowed to be the best that she can be at it. Period.

 

[SirLes]

How's that saying go?
I once complained I had no shoes till I meet a man that had no feet.
I change that for you,
I once complained my girl was a camwhore till I had a girl no more.

 

[kayceecane]

Dear Jesus the insecurity is just overwhelming.. But I'll say this... Other than the blatant phobia you have, if she quits doing privates or groups it will hurt her income.. they do help your camscore, as I found out when I tried to do only public shows (no cumming just simple shows) now that I've started taking them again my camscore is going up much faster.. and lets face it keeping your camscore up does help because it brings in more traffic.

 

[BrandonHeat]

Then she could make a deal with me, not privats 5 more days and when her score goes below it was before, i dont say anything. But rigt now it appeared like she earned MUCH more. So i dont understand the reason...

If she would do this way, i wouldnt say a word... But she dont want to.....

 

[Jebbaz]

I once complained my girl was a camwhore till I had a girl no more.

He is right Brandon.

In every topic you posted, every question you've asked, you have gotten the same response from every one.
You are too involved and you care too much about her work.

 

[BrandonHeat]

I once complained my girl was a camwhore till I had a girl no more.

He is right Brandon.

In every topic you posted, every question you've asked, you have gotten the same response from every one.
You are too involved and you care too much about her work.

SO if ur gf jump on a dildo like a monkey and 1500 watch, it wouldnt disturb u ? I cant imaging that, sorry....

 

[kayceecane]

Then she could make a deal with me, not privats 5 more days and when her score goes below it was before, i dont say anything. But rigt now it appeared like she earned MUCH more. So i dont understand the reason...

If she would do this way, i wouldnt say a word... But she dont want to.....

First of all earnings and camscore are two different things, people who have lower camscores can make more money than girls with higher ones.. but if your regulars start to leave then you need the high camscore to get more traffic.. Understand?

Jesus.

 

[kayceecane]

SO if ur gf jump on a dildo like a monkey and 1500 watch, it wouldnt disturb u ? I cant imaging that, sorry....

OMFG

 

[BrandonHeat]

Then she could make a deal with me, not privats 5 more days and when her score goes below it was before, i dont say anything. But rigt now it appeared like she earned MUCH more. So i dont understand the reason...

If she would do this way, i wouldnt say a word... But she dont want to.....

First of all earnings and camscore are two different things, people who have lower camscores can make more money than girls with higher ones.. but if your regulars start to leave then you need the high camscore to get more traffic.. Understand?

Jesus.

But camscore get higher, the more money u get...

 

[Jebbaz]

I once complained my girl was a camwhore till I had a girl no more.

He is right Brandon.

In every topic you posted, every question you've asked, you have gotten the same response from every one.
You are too involved and you care too much about her work.

SO if ur gf jump on a dildo like a monkey and 1500 watch, it wouldnt disturb u ? I cant imaging that, sorry....

Dude I produce porn, and I'm a swinger. Nothing bothers me.
And 1500 is a major over exaggeration, top models only get that many viewers when they are doing some hell of a show in public chat.
Kaycee is right, you're really insecure. If it truly bothers you so much, here is an idea for you. Stop asking her about work, stop stalking her job. Stop obsessing over what she does to make the money she brings in. Its clearly not healthy for you.

 

[kayceecane]

SO if ur gf jump on a dildo like a monkey and 1500 watch, it wouldnt disturb u ? I cant imaging that, sorry....

Now not only are you talking poorly about your girlfriend but the other models here as well. You need to watch what you say, do you really think you're going to get any useful feedback when you just called every single one of us a monkey on a dildo..

It's taking every ounce of my self control to not just go insane and list as many obscenities as humanly possible on one post.. but fortunately because of some of the BAD people on MFC I'm more prepared to shrug you off than I would have been before being on this site.

Do us a favor, if you really want help ask for it. If you don't and just want to rant, go somewhere else.

 

[PinUpKittie]

I once complained my girl was a camwhore till I had a girl no more.

He is right Brandon.

In every topic you posted, every question you've asked, you have gotten the same response from every one.
You are too involved and you care too much about her work.

SO if ur gf jump on a dildo like a monkey and 1500 watch, it wouldnt disturb u ? I cant imaging that, sorry....

Before I was a camgirl, I got on a certain camming site for FREE, no money involved, and had about that number of men watch me finger myself. My boyfriend was watching, too.

So yeah, some guys are okay with it. Some LIKE it. It's okay to admit you aren't one of them, but it means you've got a choice:

Don't talk about her job with her, just accept she loves YOU and will come back to you.
Find a girl who isn't going to 'jump on a dildo' in front of guys, and get worth her instead

I see NO other options for a man such as yourself. Not trying to be rude, trying to be honest. This life is not for everyone.

 

[kayceecane]

But camscore get higher, the more money u get...

Correct and incorrect.. you obviously don't know (not that anyone knows the true formula) as to what helps and hurts camscores.. ignorance is a sickness my friend and you have it

 

[PinUpKittie]

Then she could make a deal with me, not privats 5 more days and when her score goes below it was before, i dont say anything. But rigt now it appeared like she earned MUCH more. So i dont understand the reason...

If she would do this way, i wouldnt say a word... But she dont want to.....

First of all earnings and camscore are two different things, people who have lower camscores can make more money than girls with higher ones.. but if your regulars start to leave then you need the high camscore to get more traffic.. Understand?

Jesus.

But camscore get higher, the more money u get...

It's more complicated than that. Read some threads about camscore around here. And trust Kaycee, she knows what she's talking about.

 

[BrandonHeat]

U are right, its not healthy for me.
I wasnt able to do my job now for already 10 days, since iam to nervous for this actually. Luckly i can afford that...

edit ^^

 

[BrandonHeat]

i know its me who make the troubles becaus i cant accept that. Actually i dont even blame her for that, maybe we just dont belong to each other then, and i hate myself for that becaus god know i truly love her. But iam going to break on that work, iam not a man who can handle this and honestly i will never be, since i dont want to be and CANT be simply. i feel so bad about that, since i know iam destroying all but i dont have any power anymore to stand this.

I know, for u its not understandable, but i did grow up without all that sex and maybe my view to sex and faithfulness and everything this is sick, but the same way i never would have any feelings about another girl, i would like her to be the same. But that will not be possible with that work

 

[Jebbaz]

Jesus dude too much info in that last post :lol:

What you just did was give away who your girl is with that last post, and that means even more that you have got, got GOT to stop caring about her work.

Out of work for 10 days? Not to offend you but grow a pair man, Jesus she's just working. Leave work at work, keep home at home.

 

[Eva_ChangeN]

IF YOU ARE NOT TRUSTING OR SECURE ENOUGH TO DEAL WITH A RELATIONSHIP WITH A CAM GIRL THEN STOP AND WALK AWAY! Honestly I am tired of hearing about how you trust her and blah blah blah, and she has no choice and you want things to work but she is more involved with her fans than you. SUCK IT UP! BE A MAN! Make a choice and quit whining to us. Everytime someone says ANYTHING you have to find a way to disagree and get defensive then try to blame it on language. Grow some balls, make a decision, here's your choices: 1. You accept she is paying bills with her "goods" 2. You and her talk it out and she accepts that you are insecure but wants to make you happy 3. She hides what and how she works in her chat room and you pretend that she is a stay at home wife that finds money in the couch 4. She continues camming since she has "no choice" (according to YOU) and you get all hurt and decide to leave her

I don't want to sound like an uber Bitch, but come on already! We told you our opinions and you get all defensive about how basically its all HER fault cause "she " keeps making promises to you AND her fans. Quit putting HER in the middle of paying bills or hurting you. You are causing alot of miscommunication and drama in your relationship...If what you say is true....


:angry-soapbox:

 

[PinUpKittie]

The environment I grew up in allows me to understand and sympathize with both you, your girlfriend, and the other models here.

I understand why this hurts you, I understand you aren't made for it, but she is.

My final word: If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.

Whether that means physically leaving her, or working on making yourself 'forget' what she does, that's you're option. Period.

 

[kayceecane]

The environment I grew up in allows me to understand and sympathize with both you, your girlfriend, and the other models here.

I understand why this hurts you, I understand you aren't made for it, but she is.

My final word: If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.

Whether that means physically leaving her, or working on making yourself 'forget' what she does, that's you're option. Period.

Agreed!

I can understand too, but fortunately the time that I understood how he felt I was a teenager.. Growth, Maturity, and being secure in who you and your partner are as people... Is something he needs from what I can tell
* and that's my two cents *

 

[Eva_ChangeN]

People are so irritated and heated with this thread that there was like 9 posts while I typed up my previous one LMAO!!! Pretty much ALL with the same opinion *sigh* some people just dont get it

 

[SirLes]

SO if ur gf jump on a dildo like a monkey and 1500 watch, it wouldnt disturb u ? I cant imaging that, sorry....

If I was lucky enough to have a girl and she did that not only would it not disturb me it would make me love her more that 1500 people wanted to watch my girlfriend, so much I would want to announce it to the world.