Jealous of other cammodels

[AudriTwo]

I was gonna reply to this thread because it became clear that it was a model jealous of another's earnings. even though this whole thread can be quite amusing and silly. the OP has had hard time camming, and that isn't laughable. i'm sure we can all relate to that struggle. figured it would be better to continue the conversation elsewhere. that thread got toxic.

many of us have been at some low point or currently are. but you cannot blame anyone else for you not earning how you expected. you might do the same exact thing 16 other popular/successful earners do, have the same look and type, check all the boxes, but it other members are more interested in them then with you. does that mean there is something wrong with you? are those girls cheating? are they giving away too much for free which makes it hard for the rest of us trying to make a countdown? these thoughts are normal, and should never feel guilty for having these thoughts. it's how we rationalize them and act on them.

even if you put in all the work, and it isn't paying off. that's okay. this is a saturated and competitive profession that requires a lot of luck. if you are feeling discouraged, the best thing to do is focus 100% on yourself. do not worry what other people are doing. if you find yourself getting bitter or coming up with conclusions why others are making more, you have to take step back. if a model isn't deliberately trying to harm your reputation, you shouldn't even be worried about them or bothered what they are doing.

i used to struggle so freaking much. i would obsess over how models looked so much better than me because my bdd was incredibly hindering my confidence. i would look at other models around my placement and if they were doing gold shows around me, i wouldn't even dare to start one or would cancel it if i saw others tipping into one model than myself. i was convinced models were doing shady things when they really weren't. the only way i could change my attitude was not to care about other models. stop looking at others while i get ready or watching what others are doing when it gets slow. i legit feel awful that i have no idea what someone looks like on cam or what they are like if I do not interact with them on twitter or acf. i know how destructive i can be towards myself.

took a while to recognize my jealously was hindering my camming success. after my attitude adjustment, i started earning more. it wasn't a lot more, but I gradually started to earn more and more each month. with what i experience, confident to say a lot of the success was changing me and looking how i was affecting myself.

 

[sevie]

Personally, it’s just hard for me to understand why anyone would be angry at another camgirl for being successful. I’m always happy for the girls who do really well. They inspire and motivate me.

 

[FreyaViolet]

Ditto to all of this. It can be so easy to get insecure and try and compare yourself to other girls. I am just now mastering the art of putting on the blinders and doing my thing, and it's really improved my performance.

 

[Emberblaze]

Always been my thoughts on the matter. And if you are sitting there thinking "I am hustling as hard as I can" try hustling another way. I have reinvented my shows 30 times in 4 years. If it's not working try something new or read a book on sales tactics. We are more in competition with ourselves than we are with each other.

 

[melezouriou]

Side-note, several studies point towards social media being a negative impace on people's lives and increasing depression rates. It is a common pitfall to compare yourself to others online but you really shouldn't. As cam models, looking at another model won't help that much beyond making yourself feel worse usually. What you see is what the other person presents, usually cherry picked aesthetics and personality, the model you envy might be a mess on the inside with stress and racked with fears of loosing or diminishing success and wholly unaware of what gave them current success.

Camwise or personal life, focus on you, working on youself is more productive than wishing or trying to be someone else.

 

[AmberCutie]

i would look at other models around my placement and if they were doing gold shows around me, i wouldn't even dare to start one

Oh my goodness, this. When I first started MFC (nearly 10 years ago) if there were more than 500 camgirls on MFC (that was a large amt back then!) at the time, I would wait a bit to log on. Or if there was a big group show going on, I'd wait til later to start my group show for a cum show. But ultimately it really wouldn't have made a difference! I was different than other girls online at the time, and I had a different explicit show going on in group at the time, so I shouldn't have cared. People are all interested in what they like, and everyone likes different things.

 

[Natalie_Lavender]

Yes yes yes!! To all of this!! Comparing yourself to someone else will drive you mad crazy. There’s only ONE of YOU. Embrace who you are & what you do, and members will do the same. I’m definitely not the thinnest model & far from young (soon to be 39), and I’ve never compared myself to another models success or failures. We all have great shows and even bad ones, but it has nothing to do with anyone else. My members come to see me because of what I do in MY room and who I am.

I love seeing other models figure out their hustle & make bank. Would I like for it t be me? Heck yes! But I would never try to duplicate it or be jealous. I’m not them. And they aren’t me.

Mad props to you ladies who have found your niche in this industry. And for those that haven’t, you will. You’re own. And when you do, you’ll rock that shit!

 

[sexyvanessa4u]

Yes! When I first started, I was driving myself crazy comparing myself to other camgirls. I'm over 30 and before I started camming, I had the incorrect idea in my head that you had to be young and stick thin to be a successful camgirl. A lot of it is personality and confidence, and also luck. There are days when I felt really pretty and was all dolled up, hair and makeup looking nice and a killer outfit and I made less than minimum wage. And then there are days when I didn't give a shit if I made any money, just logged on for the hell of it with no makeup on, hair in a ponytail and sweats and made bank. Camming is so unpredictable LOL.

Plus members have different tastes. Everyone has their own personal things they like/dislike in terms of physical appearance. If you ask 20 random members who visit camsites who they think the sexiest camgirl is, you'll probably get 20 different answers.

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

Comparison is the thief of joy.

 

[AmberCutie]

In my first 6 months on MFC, there were a couple other models who were also curvy, big-boobed white girls from the US.

At some point, BOTH of them (or their members trying to start drama) approached me with some sort of accusations of stealing their shows or ideas or whatnot. What it very clearly came down to was they were both upset that I was a similar model to them to was doing better (I was placing in top 10 Miss MFC right off the bat) and either they or their members thought it was wise to try to start rumors or drama around me instead of just minding their own hustle.

It was pretty laughable. “She does the splits on cam... THAT’S MY THING!” Or “Ugh she’s raffling off things, I did that FIRST!” (Spoiler alert: she didn’t. And even better is she ended up doing a suuuuuper similar (copycat???) raffle just months after I did to try to place higher in Miss MFC.)

Ultimately I persevered and am still going strong enough to feel successful and I haven’t seen either of them in years.... so. Moral of the story: MIND YA OWN DAMN BIZNEZ. If you get all riled up and make a scene, you’re the only one who looks bad, and you’re probably digging your own grave.

 

[Deleted member 36060]

This one some of you will facepalm at.
Of course not going to name 'names' . But there is one broadcaster that is jealous of other broadcasters interactions with their viewers.
The jealous one makes good amounts of tokens and has their fair share of viewers every time. But they absolutely hate it that some of their fanclub members are members of other broadcasters rooms and that they tip in those rooms as well. Or that their regulars would be in another room and then decide to goto 'their' room after the other broadcaster goes offline. The jealous one has been seen trolling other rooms.

I'm not sure what you call this, as I am sure that there are many more people like this, but I find it funny that someone would be jealous of such things.

 

[DoD404]

Camming is just a hobby for me (started when I wondered how it was on other side of the mirror) and @sexyvanessa, when you're not young thin and even not a girl that's not so easy haha)

So, being much more viewer than cammer I appreciate much when model are really with us and stay IN THEIR ROOM.
Just figure that we can easily see when you're looking somewhere else or if you're "trying to do things" to improve your show. That is just ridiculous when you imitate a style wich is not yours. Understandable, but ridiculous. That is the only impact given by this other post 'poster is ridiculous and advertise her hated competitor'

You just have to be yourself and to watch your users, not other cams, And don't worry if you're sticked on page 5 of the site, we will find you one day ; )

I wondered what I was looking for being sticked on cam site and sure, It was not only 'sex' , 'sex-appeal' , 'beauty'.
Some sticked me only with eyes, others just with a necka something in her moving, many with something else ofc , but all rooms I loved were very different from each other. Physically (a skinny one, a fat one, etc...) and mentally as well. All they have in common is their natural and that they have something to exchange with 'me'. Yes, me, alone, as 1 among xk viewers haha (and really, I'm not arrogant at all).
I'm persuaded that I'm not the lone and that most regular search the same. All we need is you with all your attention.

That makes the big difference against porn video sites.
Here is the difficult part : most of viewers ignore it, passing by and making the backbone of the flow. That's why, I think, it's difficult to ignore and takes so long to find your real niche. Especially on some sites where 'flow' means 'quality' and induce visibility.

Ok, I spent time as curious watching BIG Shows making BIG money, but it's so marginal... i'm just really happy when one of my pref reaches the 1st page on CB or win the daily contest, but i don't focus on it just like in my job when I can conclude a good selling.
as well, ie, I admire Mila_ and the way she's playing honestly and openly with this mechanism.

(hihi... that's finally a long post, even if i shortened it a bit. I only started with a simple "+1" there)

 

[ClaireLogan]

I try to learn from the top models. I admire them. I don’t get jealousy.