Is web caming porn ?

[summerr]

Hello,

couple of month ago, I posted in this groupe that I did caming for 2 weeks. I met someone and was afraid to tell him, I end up telling him, I told him that I exposed myself on the internet, on a website, I didn’t gave all the details.. he asked me if I did porn, I said no because for me it wasn’t porn .. now I feel bad that maybe saying no it’s a lie .. what do you think ?

also I asked guardlax dmc to check if there is anything on the internet, they told me there is only one picture with my face and they will try to remove it. And also I am lucky bc they didn’t found anything else .. did any of you asked for their help ? Did they really helped you to remove the content ?

thank you

 

[Lelo1]

they told me there is only one picture with my face and they will try to remove it. And also I am lucky bc they didn’t found anything else .. did any of you asked for their help ? Did they really helped you to remove the content ?

DMCA services can get expensive, and they typically don't yield any better results then the free options.
Most cam sites also offer DMCA services, if your not sure if they do, check with their support team.
Sending DMCA requests

I met someone and was afraid to tell him, I end up telling him, I told him that I exposed myself on the internet, on a website, I didn’t gave all the details.. he asked me if I did porn, I said no because for me it wasn’t porn ..

If you just started dating some one, it's probable none of their business.
But if you do tell them about it, and they can't deal with it, then they're not the right one.

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

I consider my work to be pornographic, because regardless of the specifics of what I produce in this profession, the intention is to sexually arouse the viewer. So yeah I make porn.

 

[summerr]

I consider my work to be pornographic, because regardless of the specifics of what I produce in this profession, the intention is to sexually arouse the viewer. So yeah I make porn.

The thing is that I did that for 2 weeks, one week on 2017 and one on 2018, the thing is I wasn’t even doing anything crazy, must of time I was just laying down and that’s it ... so I don’t consider myself like I did porn .. that why I told him It’s not porn ...

 

[summerr]

DMCA services can get expensive, and they typically don't yield any better results then the free options.
Most cam sites also offer DMCA services, if your not sure if they do, check with their support team.
Sending DMCA requests




If you just started dating some one, it's probable none of their business.
But if you do tell them about it, and they can't deal with it, then they're not the right one.

Sure, so it’s better If I just check with google and free DMCA service or even try by myself to contact the site who has my picture ?

he accept it, actually, he just don’t want me to talk about it with him ... I feel a bit bad bc it’s a bad period of my life I want to forget and I need to talk to him
About it but he doesn’t want me to talk about it, he just want to forget about my past ..

 

[AudriTwo]

The thing is that I did that for 2 weeks, one week on 2017 and one on 2018, the thing is I wasn’t even doing anything crazy, must of time I was just laying down and that’s it ... so I don’t consider myself like I did porn .. that why I told him It’s not porn ...

if you believe it's not porn, then it's not porn. i'd stop stressing over it. if you are having a hard time unable to accept and move on, maybe speak to a counselor/therapist to help. check out www.pineapplesupport.org. sexwork positive, so you know there won't be any judgment towards you.

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

I think you are free to describe what you did however you want. I make non-nude femdom content. This isn't what most people think of when they hear the word "porn," but the intention is the same. However, I think you should do what makes you comfortable. It sounds like this work is something that you don't feel comfortable with, and that's fine. You can self-describe however you please. At the end of the day, some work you did for two weeks (or any amount of time) doesn't define you as a person, and if anyone tries to make you feel like it does, fuck them. Or don't fuck them.

 

[romanholiday]

Sure, so it’s better If I just check with google and free DMCA service or even try by myself to contact the site who has my picture ?

he accept it, actually, he just don’t want me to talk about it with him ... I feel a bit bad bc it’s a bad period of my life I want to forget and I need to talk to him
About it but he doesn’t want me to talk about it, he just want to forget about my past ..

dont contact the site because youll have to write your real name and it might be exposed or appear in the lumen google database (which everyone can see), contact the camming site you used to cam in and send them the link to remove it.

 

[romanholiday]

The thing is that I did that for 2 weeks, one week on 2017 and one on 2018, the thing is I wasn’t even doing anything crazy, must of time I was just laying down and that’s it ... so I don’t consider myself like I did porn .. that why I told him It’s not porn ...

i feel like you did right saying its not porn, everyone has a different idea of what porn is but the majority think of porn as boy/girl content, maybe if u did say it was porn he would have taken it out of context, when in reality its just you in your home showing yourself!

 

[summerr]

i feel like you did right saying its not porn, everyone has a different idea of what porn is but the majority think of porn as boy/girl content, maybe if u did say it was porn he would have taken it out of context, when in reality its just you in your home showing yourself!

Yes that’s the thing. Because I think for him porn it’s that ... so I didn’t want to tell him I did porn, because even for me it wasn’t ..

 

[summerr]

dont contact the site because youll have to write your real name and it might be exposed or appear in the lumen google database (which everyone can see), contact the camming site you used to cam in and send them the link to remove it.

I contacted the website, I asked them to help me out but they told me they cannot and I have to contact the website and ask them

 

[summerr]

I think you are free to describe what you did however you want. I make non-nude femdom content. This isn't what most people think of when they hear the word "porn," but the intention is the same. However, I think you should do what makes you comfortable. It sounds like this work is something that you don't feel comfortable with, and that's fine. You can self-describe however you please. At the end of the day, some work you did for two weeks (or any amount of time) doesn't define you as a person, and if anyone tries to make you feel like it does, fuck them. Or don't fuck them.

Yes you are right, I should just leave this in the past and move on, it was a mistake, I didn’t know where I am going and why. So yeah fuck what they think ... I just want to feel better

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

To me, it very much sounds like you are struggling with the idea of how other people may view you differently if/when they learn that you participated in this work. And that's very understandable, people can be awfully judgmental about sex work, or really anything that they deem to be immoral. Whether you share their views or not, it doesn't feel good to be looked down upon. I second @AudriTwo's advice about Pineapple Support, this seems like something that you may need help working through. You don't deserve to feel ashamed, I'm sorry that you do, and I hope you can move past it with little impact to your life and relationships.

 

[summerr]

To me, it very much sounds like you are struggling with the idea of how other people may view you differently if/when they learn that you participated in this work. And that's very understandable, people can be awfully judgmental about sex work, or really anything that they deem to be immoral. Whether you share their views or not, it doesn't feel good to be looked down upon. I second @AudriTwo's advice about Pineapple Support, this seems like something that you may need help working through. You don't deserve to feel ashamed, I'm sorry that you do, and I hope you can move past it with little impact to your life and relationships.

Thank you so much for trying to help me feel better, I tied pineapple support but the thing I don’t live in USA anymore and we don’t have the same time zone, so it’s hard to have a conversation when we don’t connect in the same time

 

[AudriTwo]

Thank you so much for trying to help me feel better, I tied pineapple support but the thing I don’t live in USA anymore and we don’t have the same time zone, so it’s hard to have a conversation when we don’t connect in the same time

try looking for lgbtq+ friendly therapists and stay away from any religious/spiritual therapy. LGBTQ+ therapists are more accepting and understanding of sexwork.

 

[bamdicted]

I hope your boyfriend will be able to see past whatever he feels about this, and appreciate the commitment to your relationship it shows that you told him this.

I also hope that he realizes that unless you never dated or were in a relationship, you have a sexual past as the majority of adults have, including him.

 

[summerr]

try looking for lgbtq+ friendly therapists and stay away from any religious/spiritual therapy. LGBTQ+ therapists are more accepting and understanding of sexwork.

Thank you, I will try to found that

 

[summerr]

I hope your boyfriend will be able to see past whatever he feels about this, and appreciate the commitment to your relationship it shows that you told him this.

I also hope that he realizes that unless you never dated or were in a relationship, you have a sexual past as the majority of adults have, including him.

Actually he is really understanding, he didn’t made me feel bad about it, he just doesn’t want me to talk about it, he just told me if one day something get out ( like any video ) he can kill himself ..
he is religious, and he does care about what people will think and his family

 

[AudriTwo]

he just told me if one day something get out ( like any video ) he can kill himself ..

bb this is a huge red flag. threatening suicide is emotional blackmail. that is so awful. i'm sorry that he said that to you. that is not the stress you need after you already have conflicting feelings towards your brief camming experience.

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please please get yourself a good support system. you aren't alone

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

That sounds really heavy to be dealing with, it's not okay for him to put that on you, I'm sorry you are going through this stressful situation. Beyond that though, I want to reiterate what I am sure others have said before in other threads on this subject: The likelihood of recordings of you being found is very low. You cammed for such a short amount of time, it sounds like you didn't do anything particularly unique, explicit, or shocking that would get circulated, and 1000s of these kinds of videos are uploaded every additional day that passes since you were last online. It's not impossible, but EXTREMELY unlikely that anyone will simply find recordings of you if they exist at all. Someone would have to know where to look, and then spend quite a bit of time digging through the innumerable recordings. I hope you can rest your mind a bit, because you are very likely going to be able to keep this under wraps.

 

[summerr]

bb this is a huge red flag. threatening suicide is emotional blackmail. that is so awful. i'm sorry that he said that to you. that is not the stress you need after you already have conflicting feelings towards your brief camming experience.

Suicide as Emotional Abuse: When Threats of Suicide are Used to Control - Break The Silence Against Domestic Violence

By Jenn Rockefeller Abusers know no bounds when they emotionally abuse their targets. They reach into their arsenal of tactics to keep us bound to their abusive ways. One such … Continue reading "Suicide as Emotional Abuse: When Threats of Suicide are Used to Control"

breakthesilencedv.org

please please get yourself a good support system. you aren't alone

Yes, I really felt bad when he did said that, I mean I don’t want him to think he has to do that if one day a video of me will leak out. I feel like If one day something happens it will be my fault, and that I am going to destroy him

 

[summerr]

That sounds really heavy to be dealing with, it's not okay for him to put that on you, I'm sorry you are going through this stressful situation. Beyond that though, I want to reiterate what I am sure others have said before in other threads on this subject: The likelihood of recordings of you being found is very low. You cammed for such a short amount of time, it sounds like you didn't do anything particularly unique, explicit, or shocking that would get circulated, and 1000s of these kinds of videos are uploaded every additional day that passes since you were last online. It's not impossible, but EXTREMELY unlikely that anyone will simply find recordings of you if they exist at all. Someone would have to know where to look, and then spend quite a bit of time digging through the innumerable recordings. I hope you can rest your mind a bit, because you are very likely going to be able to keep this under wraps.

Thank you so much I really needed to hear that, I know that maybe the video will never get out, and maybe they don’t even exist. I hope I can feel better, I will work on myself that I didn’t do something wrong, I didn’t kill someone, I just did that in a moment of my life. He didn’t changed his attitude with me, he still show me so much love and respect, but I feel so bad that he doesn’t want to talk about that with me, and we he see me crying or feeling bad he just get upset and don’t want to talk about it, bc for him he tries to forget about that. And I feel I need to talk to him about it .. like why I did it, what I did and how I feel now about it ..

 

[AudriTwo]

Yes, I really felt bad when he did said that, I mean I don’t want him to think he has to do that if one day a video of me will leak out. I feel like If one day something happens it will be my fault, and that I am going to destroy him

he was being a dramatic jerk for saying that. if someone threatens suicide to you and goes through it, it is NOT your fault. you aren't responsible for them, only yourself.

 

[summerr]

Yes, that’s why I told him if he doesn’t feel comfortable about it, and need to breakup I am ready to accept that and just move on with my life. But he doesn’t want to leave me, but in the other hand I feel bad every time I think about that and how it will affect him.
i know it’s not easy for maybe any man to see videos of his wife touching herself naked online, but it’s not a reason to commit suicide ..

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

it’s not a reason to commit suicide ..

The fact that he thinks of it that way indicates that he has his own issues that he needs to deal with. You are spot on, it's not right. It's a very immature response on his part. Ideally, he would be able to be supportive of your need to disclose and discuss, but at the very least he needs to not threaten self-harm over this or anything. While he may not intend for it to be, it's very manipulative.

Like you mentioned, I hope you can get to a place where you feel accepting of this past part of yourself. You did nothing wrong.

 

[summerr]

The fact that he thinks of it that way indicates that he has his own issues that he needs to deal with. You are spot on, it's not right. It's a very immature response on his part. Ideally, he would be able to be supportive of your need to disclose and discuss, but at the very least he needs to not threaten self-harm over this or anything. While he may not intend for it to be, it's very manipulative.

Like you mentioned, I hope you can get to a place where you feel accepting of this past part of yourself. You did nothing wrong.

Thank you so much for your support

 

[bamdicted]

I am tempted to say maybe it would be better if you had a clip you could show him of what you did, that way he could see that it was not a big deal. Right now he probably has all the wrong images in his head

 

[bamdicted]

Yes, that’s why I told him if he doesn’t feel comfortable about it, and need to breakup I am ready to accept that and just move on with my life. But he doesn’t want to leave me, but in the other hand I feel bad every time I think about that and how it will affect him.
i know it’s not easy for maybe any man to see videos of his wife touching herself naked online, but it’s not a reason to commit suicide ..

I hope this makes him realize how lucky he is to have you in his life

 

[romanholiday]

I contacted the website, I asked them to help me out but they told me they cannot and I have to contact the website and ask them

then maybe get a cheap camming dmca website to do it, i use rulta which is quite cheap (the basic plan) and all my google images have been removed

 

[summerr]

I hope this makes him realize how lucky he is to have you in his life

I am tempted to say maybe it would be better if you had a clip you could show him of what you did, that way he could see that it was not a big deal. Right now he probably has all the wrong images in his head

I am very lucky to have him in my life as well, a part from that he is amazing.

I cannot find any clip and seriously I don’t have any “souvenirs” that I was doing something crazy.
he told me he doesn’t think about it at all, that’s why he doesn’t want me to talk about that. Like he wants to forget about this past and just move on. He sees how much it’s affected me and he is sad to see me like that too ..