yossarian said:
You're absolutely right. I just assumed. But given the way other countries have been behaving toward porn lately (Australia banned a lot of it, the UK is trying to make it an "opt-in" situation), it's safe to assume a lot of courts in a lot of countries would not be cool with it. So I suppose unless she lives in the Netherlands or something, the advice probably still stands.
I've never heard of this kind of thing happening in the UK. In fact regardless of her job unless she is beating, molesting or literally making them watch as she cams, it is unlikely she wouldn't get custody, being the mother and it being a baby. Her job has nothing to do with this situation, it's totally irrelevant unless her job means she is away from home/incapable of looking after the children, or it subjects the children to a dangerous lifestyle, or if they're actually involved in her camming and they're illegally on camera. In fact, even if she were a prostitute, so long as she weren't bringing men in the house it wouldn't have anything to do with custody. There are plenty of countries other than Holland that has relaxed views towards sex work. At the end of the day it's a baby we're talking about, if the boyfriend were out working every day and already struggling to make ends meet, there is no way he'll be able to keep that job and look after a year old baby alone, nor would he be able to pay for help, and really, why would he get custody if he needs to pay for a carer outside the family every day? And obviously if a situation came where a court says she's not allowed to cam with the baby in the house, then either she could stop camming altogether or only work when the child is in daycare or being looked after by someone else.
The US does have a very biased and unfair legal system though, so you are right, if she is from the US then I wouldn't think it'd be worth the risk as it does seem to be very biased against sex workers. Otherwise the chances of her boyfriend being able to take the baby away from her, especially as they're not married is very slim.
Even so, it's not a situation anyone should ever need to come to just for the sake of webcamming. At the end of the day camming is just a job. If you need money there are other ways to get it.
One thing I will suggest, is there are websites that do phone sex which you can be paid quite a bit for. Your boyfriend might feel very differently if it's just your voice and not your body on show. It's much less risky, you don't have to buy props or take ages over your looks, and you're physically not actually doing anything, you're just telling people you are. Chances are you won't make as much money, but... saying that, I know that some women make a LOT of money through phone sex and text sex, I just don't know very much about it. If it is just a way to get some extra finances then doing that for a few hours, 5 days a week while your baby sleeps could really help you both, and might not breach his comfort zone.
Like I'd say to any camgirl camming not to ever push themselves out of their comfort zone unless they really want to, I'd say the same for any relationship. While pushing comfort zones can be a good thing if you're up for it, being pushed out of your comfort zone by someone else when you don't want it isn't cool and can have very unpredictable results. If he isn't even on board with the idea of phone sex, although he might just be being stubborn, if he isn't swayed at all by your reasoning then he most definitely wouldn't be ok with camming.
