LucyGoodtimes said:
the way i look at it, members come to MFC to be lost in some sort of fantasy,
There is a fantasy aspect to it, yes. Though I venture to say that, in most cases, the fantasies are more played out in private than anywhere else.
I was at a model's house last summer for her husband's birthday party. We knew each other from a supposed dating site with webcams from long before she was a model (and all the people at the party were from the so called dating site, I was the only MFC member there that I knew of). And we were mentioning another girl we knew from that site who is also a model. And how her boyfriend would get upset if she took privates and such.
The model brought up that she and I have gone private, and her husband knew about it and didn't care. And I was like, yep, but it's all just a fantasy there. I know her, I know her husband. And I would never try to do anything with her outside of MFC, because of that.
But that's the fantasy. Members get to see the girls they find attractive at least pretend to be more interested in them in a sexual way than is most likely ever going to happen in real life. They get to see things that the model would never just out and out do for them if they ever were to bump into each other on the street, etc. They get to imagine and say things that they wouldn't do in the bumping in to them on the street scenario.
This doesn't mean that friendships can't occur, though. Maybe not in the same way you have friendships offline, but there can be an aspect of friendship that comes about. It's just more a friendship where one or both parties get to see each other naked.
Members and models just need to know how far the friendship goes. And they have to admit to themselves that certain things are simply most likely to never happen. Just because a model may actually give a member her number, or actually want to meet them doesn't mean they also want to jump the member's bones the moment they meet. It might just mean they find the member fun to talk to and wouldn't mind hanging out if they were in the same area at the same time.
It's a dangerously fine line in that respect. For both members and models. Getting too emotionally attached, on either side, is dangerous. I know a lot of people just assume that it's members who can take fantasies too far in their minds, but it can happen to models, as well. While there can be fun times had and friendships made, a certain level of emotional detachment is required on both sides.
That might be a little off topic.
Back on topic... I'm sure we all know that everyone can have financial issues. Happens to all of us. But models don't want to hear about members' not having money, and members don't want to hear about models' problems.
There needs to be a medium reached.
As members, we need to understand that this is a job for the models. For those who make this their only source of income, it's how they pay their bills. So, when we're short on MFC money, we need to not be all "get naked bb" when hanging out in rooms. Just try to be funny, and add to a conversation. Especially when in a room where you are a regular. Just remember to throw something to those models when we can.
Models need to remember that the money given to them comes out of members' paychecks. And that members will not always have extra money to tip/group/private. Again, this is more for regulars who don't beg/demand and do tip/group/private when they can; over the horde of $20 basics who show up with their premium name and never tip/group/private but beg and demand all sorts of things. Models just need to know who they want in their rooms, whether they can tip or not, and who they only care about when they tip.
