I'm writing & posting a day 0r more behind. Bad idea? Nope... there is nothing that could be said in a day or two, or a year even that would change this, But its just like, my opinion, man. (he fears me, I can plagiarize him. :lol: )
Lets get fucking real here for a minute. You do not show up anywhere unannounced, unless that is accepted. Back up a step. Showing up to someone's home who has no idea you have gained access to this perimeter wall, - this is the tall one, - this is the castle wall. Back up a step more, This relationship that has brought you to the castle is in part B/G! Well I do not hope you consider this to be a Friendship! This is not how friends act.
I don't even buy the young, goofball, poor judgment, wasn't fucking thinking, sorry just wanted to surprise you, we're going now, BULLSHIT!
And, if I can get my head around that, - that OK, sure with some different sets of sacred shit,- this could be me. So I am opening the door in the thought of this hope, - that after 4 or 5 houres of kicking it, hanging out, Or getting to know the real person, - And how the fuck they ever could have thought this was OK, And maybe even a little sad to see them go. That my main thought be when opening that door is that by stepping back, just one more step back, I have opened the field of fire for a shot gun, right flank, waist level. Hopefuly you were not bound that whole 4 or 5 hours.
(above very awkwardly worded,but I think you get my drift.)
And if we are going to be real and put ourselves in the stalker head, well if he/I is a predator, even a stupid predator, probably I am not going to put myself it to the position above.
If I'm he, and I have come all the way to the castle I'm, not going to rush in and yell here I am. I'm going check the place out a bit. The castle, and the community around it. Then I am going to attach a remotely operated device to the power lead to your fuel pump, - I will be the kind guy that stops to help.
Or maybe less high tech, say you own a diesel with mechanical fuel pump. A puppy with a broken leg is going to appear in your head lights, trying to cross the road. You are the one 7, 8, feet away from your running car picking up a hurt pup, - I am the One who puts my arm around you as you stand up and jambs the barrel of a handgun into you with rib breaking force.
If I am a predatory stalker (and lets be real, what other kind are there) This is how it will be. There may be intervening circumstances, or perhaps this predator realizes that realizing his fantasies are just not worth how thing would be bond to turn out. (He has come all this way though, he almost has to, doesn't he?)
I don't wish to excite any fears, in fact the opposite. I want to suggest that we be real about these sort of things, as well as everything else. Lets not consider for a second that this is a little bit, "not so bad", b/c there are two members in our room who we like, that we can imagine doing this. If you are being stalked there is real reason to worry. Yes I would love to meet and have lunch with JJ, or Sophia, or PokerBabe. But I am not going to show up at their residents no matter how I got that info unless there is some fucked up shit going on in my head.
We can live scared, or, we can live. Don't live scare. Live knowing your chances of getting hurt by someone who tracks you down via the internet are infinitesimal, compared to every time you get into a car. You must be vigilant - remain aware, -BUT- Live your life like a warrior, not like a gate keeper. Go out yelling, not shrieking.
And if their sitting in the back of a pick up with a sign that reads, “Bawksy and Bluecrew” as you pull through the drive through of a nearby FFF, know their might be no harm, but know also they must be educated that, - One Does Not Do This.
Hell, I legitimately know the address and full name of another member, and he mine. If I were to show up to his home or he mine, we would have the right to believe & know that the next steep back could be into a deep hole, the dirt from which we have under our nails still. Or if it is me, that steep will be into a small skiff, A dory to be exact, pointed at both ends, and very sea worthy. I will need to buy more 1.5 & 2 pound ball sinkers to replenish the many I have lost to the foggy fishing grounds just off Moss Beach this morning.
(again awkward, again you get my drift)
From The comments I have read thus far PW was pointing right at the truth - you, all of you, know what is right and what is not right in this. There's a reason that this is one of a very few crimes that one can be convicted for mere projected intent. I am not one for thought crimes, but if you are stocking someone regardless of how it might come out, regardless of any ability to harm, regardless of any thing else. Know this, your mental processor is not working right and you may be forcing someone in to a cold re-boot.
WC, 918