How to deal with members/potential members who **swearrrrr** they're 'in a relationship with you'

[Honey Moon]

"Do you have a boyfriend?"
"It doesn't matter."

 

[AnneDVille]

'Do you have a boyfriend?'

Me: 'I refuse to answer this question on the grounds that it might incriminate me'
(I don't have to be american to plead the bloody fifth!)

 

[Serenity_Tam]

Oh, and sorry for the double post but I thought this conversation was interesting and wanted to add something else:

When someone in your room asks if you are single there are only 3 straight questions you can give:
(a) I am taken
(b) I am single
(c) I am casually dating

All three suck. All three are unappealing to some of your viewers and by disclosing this info you end up being less desirable. Let's break it down:

(a) Taken: discourages romantic viewers from tipping you. Even if in real life a platonic guy might be inspired to compete for your love and fantasize about you dumping your boyfriend, tippers won't feel that way because it is nearly impossible to compete against a guy that you see in person every day.

(b) Single: discourages sheeple from tipping you. "Single? why is she single? what is wrong with her? she seems hot, but if she isn't taken maybe she isn't as hot as I thought she was" If you say you are single by choice you are an asocial weirdo. If you say your singledom is unintentional then you aren't pre-selected by other men and that makes you seem unattractive. Lose-lose

(c) Casually dating: discourages conservative men from tipping you. A hookups kind of girl is always perceived as less virginal, more trashy, less "fresh" in their eyes.

So even if you are comfortable disclosing this information, whatever you say you are shooting yourself in the foot. It is one of those questions that will hardly ever raise your value in the eyes of the room.

The other 2 options are:

(d) Refuse to answer: makes you look defensive and untrustworthy

(e) Deflect with humor: only way to save some face.

I just want to say for every dude who says away because what you say there will be ones who love it. Guy who wants a single virginal guy leaves, is replaced with dude who loves the fantasy of a party girl who sleeps around. Some dudes love the idea that you have a boyfriend and what you're doing is illicit and that he's so lucky your boyfriend "allows' you to do this. There isn't just one type of member. Or one good way to handle this question.

Also. There is another option. "i am gaayyyy" For me that's typically my response. The type of member i want in my room is one that thinks it is hot that even though I am dating a lady I will still try to seduce them. Or doesn't care. The dude who leaves is one who hates homos, was legit looking for romance, or just decided he didn't like me among many other possible reasons. For my personality i decided I want to be open and it makes me more comfortable and gives me more topics of discussion for cam time.

 

[Mila_]

I just want to say for every dude who says away because what you say there will be ones who love it. Guy who wants a single virginal guy leaves, is replaced with dude who loves the fantasy of a party girl who sleeps around. Some dudes love the idea that you have a boyfriend and what you're doing is illicit and that he's so lucky your boyfriend "allows' you to do this. There isn't just one type of member. Or one good way to handle this question.

Also. There is another option. "i am gaayyyy" For me that's typically my response. The type of member i want in my room is one that thinks it is hot that even though I am dating a lady I will still try to seduce them. Or doesn't care. The dude who leaves is one who hates homos, was legit looking for romance, or just decided he didn't like me among many other possible reasons. For my personality i decided I want to be open and it makes me more comfortable and gives me more topics of discussion for cam time.

Yeah, I agree with you entirely. The very things that would put off a portion of your demographic will be an exciting turn on for another section of it.

It is the same reasoning behind vanilla vs niche camming. Vanilla performers attract the widest section of the demographic but in a mild way. A fetish performer will attract a smaller section but more ardently. It depends on how you want to play it.

I have always found it more profitable to appeal to a wider audience but I know other models make a killing the other way around.