HELP? Models & Sugarbabies

[Classy_Chloe]

LADIES I NEED SOME HELP. Or at least a place to vent...

Anyone on here been a Sugar Baby before? I just don’t think I can be a cam girl anymore, I haven’t even broadcasted in months... took a few weeks off for mental health & I started a vanilla job as a bartender/server making shit money & was some money, better then nothing at the time. BUT NOW
I don’t even have the option to cam due to there being no WiFi at my house, after New Years I got into a car accident because of a fucking deer of all things and fractured my spine, so I have been debating on it. I literally have nothing really I can do but sit here and think of my options and how I’m going to get myself out of this deep hole... Perhaps become a SugarBaby?! After I fully heal in about a month or 2, I could just take off into another state and have a fresh start where no one will know my face at the grocery store. I mean I haven’t been laid since August so it wouldn’t be a bad thing to have someone not only give me money for basically being FWB but I would maybe get good sex too? Doesn’t seem too bad.. Maybe have a vanilla job, go to college for something worth while, and perhaps I could go back to camming when I don’t need to be dependent on a Sugar Daddy anymore and have my shit together, and I’m more prepared!?! I will say I was absolutely 100% not prepared when I started camming last year. I figured being a clean exotic dancer wasn’t much different then taking my clothes off & having conversations with men online ‍ Now that I know the difference maybe I can come back to it later down the road with wigs & make up, and well simply PRIVACY. Being stuck at my parents just doesn’t work. And it’s not ideal...

I’m well aware not ever guy is going to be a Mr.Grey type SugarDaddy & some could be complete freaks... But I just was wondering if there’s any lovely ladies on here that could give me advice/help if they have been a SugarBaby before???

If some please DM thank you

 

[OliviaClarke]

I could never follow through with meeting Potential sugar daddies in person, but when I was considering it I just made an account on Seeking Arrangement. From that I just made my profile sounds cute and professional with some pictures and guys just kinda came to me! I had some I was considering meeting, one I had a Skype with, but like I said I could never follow through.

Anyways, I'd just start with SA and see where that takes you!

 

[LilyOhRiley]

I've never done the sugar baby thing, but I dated a girl in college who did...and she said SeekingArrangement was a total waste of time. Dudes want as much as they can get out of you for as little money as they can put in, they're all ugly as sin and you basically get paid less than a comparable escort - there's no magical guys waiting out there to cover all your bills and make your life better.

I'm not one to endorse illegal activity, but there's definitely a more logical solution to that problem (especially if you've already realized you'll have to have sex with them for money).

 

[FoxyDame]

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If some please DM thank you

I DMd you :*

 

[Classy_Chloe]

I've never done the sugar baby thing, but I dated a girl in college who did...and she said SeekingArrangement was a total waste of time. Dudes want as much as they can get out of you for as little money as they can put in, they're all ugly as sin and you basically get paid less than a comparable escort - there's no magical guys waiting out there to cover all your bills and make your life better.

I'm not one to endorse illegal activity, but there's definitely a more logical solution to that problem (especially if you've already realized you'll have to have sex with them for money).

Well as far as I’m concerned it’s not illegal or prostitution. Definitely isn’t so black & white. I wouldn’t treat it like a transaction. I’d like to actually “date” a SugarDaddy & be FWB type thing. Not just get money for sexual favors, definitely don’t have the stomach for that... And it’s really no different from a women pretending to love someone just to marry them for their money so they can be a stay at home trophy wife. But reagurdless of all that, yea you are right! On that site Seeking Arrangments, most guys are ugly as sin and want something for nothing. However there are also some nice guys on there, handsome & fit, but yes of corse they aren’t wanting to give me a handout. So for now I’m keeping my fingers crossed...

Probably have better luck making money on NiteFlirt though

I mostly was curious to see if any ladies were Sugar Babies before ‍

 

[Classy_Chloe]

I could never follow through with meeting Potential sugar daddies in person, but when I was considering it I just made an account on Seeking Arrangement. From that I just made my profile sounds cute and professional with some pictures and guys just kinda came to me! I had some I was considering meeting, one I had a Skype with, but like I said I could never follow through.

Anyways, I'd just start with SA and see where that takes you!

Thank you love

 

[yummybrownfox]

I tried Seeking Arrangement and Established Men (rarely got messages on EM, and that's the site my friend told me she's had good luck with), but I pretty much just got messages from guys who like the idea of calling themselves sugar daddies, when in reality they're just trying to pay a woman for a quick blowjob in their truck. Lol. I feel like a lot of the guys on SA came over from Craigslist or Backpage (not that there's anything wrong with those sites), and now all of a sudden they're claiming to be "sugar daddies." Yet if you even mention the word "allowance," they practically curl up into the fetal position. Haha.

 

[Classy_Chloe]

I tried Seeking Arrangement and Established Men (rarely got messages on EM, and that's the site my friend told me she's had good luck with), but I pretty much just got messages from guys who like the idea of calling themselves sugar daddies, when in reality they're just trying to pay a woman for a quick blowjob in their truck. Lol. I feel like a lot of the guys on SA came over from Craigslist or Backpage (not that there's anything wrong with those sites), and now all of a sudden they're claiming to be "sugar daddies." Yet if you even mention the word "allowance," they practically curl up into the fetal position. Haha.

Yeah it’s definitely not a bunch of SeXy Mr.Grey type guys on there. And the ones that are attractive and have money are super picky or want you to have your shit together/be finically independent (which I think kinda defeats the whole purpose of being on SA. I mean that’s def not a noraml dating site listing your Net Worth lol)

Idk I’m gonna just keep trying. I literally can’t work right now with a fractured spine. Very limited on what I can do physically...

So girls gotta try right? *SHRUGS* lol

 

[JessaBella]

I have been asked to be a sugar baby a few times... the first few times was when my (late) husband was still alive. He now passed away and I have been asked again. guy was even willing to come here. but I just cant do it. I am all my kids have, I can't go meet some random "Daddy". all the horror stories scare me. Even if they are willing to support me.

 

[JigglesJane]

Sugaring is a LOT of work for very little pay off. You have to consider the emotional labor you will be doing, for a (likely) pathetic monthly allowance.

The men looking for sugar babies these days are (typically) the type of guys that really lean into the social pressure put onto us as women to be nice and behave for our own safety's sake. They will waste your time. They will guilt you. They will shame you. They will do everything they can to get out of paying you.

Many women have jumped from sugaring to escorting simply based on the fact that they weren't getting paid their worth, and the "Daddies" were emotionally and often times sexually abusive. What they made sugaring for a month, they make in about two hours. Think about that.

If that's not something you're interested in (and I can't blame you), perhaps you should consider clip making? Phone sex lines? Erotic audible files?

 

[alibaba]

Never fully understood the dynamic or was ever interested in this kind of relationship. The little I've seen suggests that the guys with money to spare tend to gravitate toward the barely legal and petite type. Always found it rather off putting to be honest but to each their own and all that good stuff.

 

[SweetJinxxx]

Hey i will agree with JigglesJane, I quit being a sugar baby to be a clip maker. I was sugaring on and off for two years and in that ammount of time only came across one "daddy" that seemed legit- had no issue sending me photo record of his legal ID or cars with liscense plate numbers. the dealbreaker was the fact he didnt want to use condoms nor would bring doctors proof of being clean. Every guy afterwards was a waste. cheap-o's or guys looking for a one night stand for "$60"
In the end i decided it wasnt worth all the hassle, searching, screening to not get paid. i followed a BUNCH of sugar baby blogs on tumblr and many agreed tht the sugar world is watering down and some girls search a long time or basically have that luck to find a legit daddy. I was the same as you, quit camming back in '13. started sugaring around '15 and quit late '16 when i realized i have much more potential to earn from making clips. i dont have to worry about my (immediate) safety nor worry about wasting my gas, or time not knowing if i would be rewarded at the end (this is in regards to the first meeting ofc)
Just something to keep in mind

 

[badgrljade]

I've been a sugar baby off and on for 2 years now! I started when I first turned 18 and the guys I saw when I first started were cheap and it was very transactional. (I didn't really know what I was doing and was desperate for money so I didn't care) Now I mostly find guys from other states, if they have money to fly me out to them they have money to give me an allowance. I usually have them send videos of their houses or I FaceTime them and have them show me. I've had really good sex with some of these guys and made really good money with most of them, but JigglesJane is definitely right about the emotional labor part. I was suppose to stay with a sugar daddy for 10 days and asked to leave on day 6 because he was constantly comparing me to his gf that had passed. One of my daddies was actually the one that told me about camming and got me started on it! Just know your worth and be clear with what you're looking for, I've met a lot of great guys

 

[Classy_Chloe]

I've been a sugar baby off and on for 2 years now! I started when I first turned 18 and the guys I saw when I first started were cheap and it was very transactional. (I didn't really know what I was doing and was desperate for money so I didn't care) Now I mostly find guys from other states, if they have money to fly me out to them they have money to give me an allowance. I usually have them send videos of their houses or I FaceTime them and have them show me. I've had really good sex with some of these guys and made really good money with most of them, but JigglesJane is definitely right about the emotional labor part. I was suppose to stay with a sugar daddy for 10 days and asked to leave on day 6 because he was constantly comparing me to his gf that had passed. One of my daddies was actually the one that told me about camming and got me started on it! Just know your worth and be clear with what you're looking for, I've met a lot of great guys

See that is so funny you said how you had some really good sex with some of them. Cause even though it's horrible to admit it, I haven't had sex for almost A YEAR!!!! so havin sex AND getting paid some allowance wouldn't be so bad. its just scary. So many things could go wrong... I have yet to actually be SB yet but I did have 1 guy fly me to him and i stayed in a hotel and told him I wasn't going to sleep with him the 1st time, he still tried and he wasn't that attractive to me so i just bailed lol. Good thing I made him pay for my flight to be round trip, i just had a gut feeling that he would try something. Its not like i lead him on either, i told him way before he bought the tickets I was NOT going to have sex with him if he flew me down there!!!

So yes it is 100% mentally/emotionally draining.

think I'm just going to stick with being a DOM and only go for submissive men because I really hate not having any control and feel more comfortable when they listen to me and like to be controlled lol

THANK YOU LADIES FOR YOUR RESPONSE