Miss_Lollipop said:just an addition to this thread..
im engaged to someone I met on MFC.
he never tips me anymore DONT DO IT!!!
ok, I'm confused, if you're saying dont do it, why are you doing it?
Miss_Lollipop said:just an addition to this thread..
im engaged to someone I met on MFC.
he never tips me anymore DONT DO IT!!!
Nordling said:Weed wisdom can be very wise sometimes.
Many years ago, while smoking dope with a buddy, we were discussing relationships, dating, marriage, etc., when he came up with this comment that always stuck with me...
"You should never say, I want to meet someone and get married. You should only say, 'I want to marry THIS person.'"
In other words, don't look for love, if love is meant to happen, it will find you.
Pant222 said:Miss_Lollipop said:just an addition to this thread..
im engaged to someone I met on MFC.
he never tips me anymore DONT DO IT!!!
ok, I'm confused, if you're saying dont do it, why are you doing it?
The_Brown_Fox said:sweetiebatman said:The_Brown_Fox said:Just Me said:Their new dudes did not like them being camgirls and they met them on MFC or another camsite? Yes, I see those marriages working well. :lol:
My thoughts exactly. :lol:
If those girls gave up their camming jobs to make their new guys happy, I sure hope it was worth it.
There is always the exception to every rule, It does not mean that rule is wrong
for every 1 true love story I am willing to bet the are 50 men sobbing after being cheated out of $$$
As said, I am sure there are people who have found love with a camgirl but to go out looking is just to set yourself up for failure and heartbreak
I said I hope it was worth it. Nobody said it's wrong. It's not wrong unless you're actually harassing models about it ("Come on...why won't you be my wife, bb?"). Then you're just straight-up creepy and desperate. There are matchmaking sites out there, you know.
If love happens to find you on MFC, that's one thing. But to hop from room to room looking for a wife is pretty unrealistic. Match.com would be the more appropriate place.
Imma just throw this out there, but if I ever end up leaving Mr. Evvie for someone off of MFC, I will expect them to give me $10 every day for the rest of my life in the form of a jar of nickles.Pant222 said:Miss_Lollipop said:just an addition to this thread..
im engaged to someone I met on MFC.
he never tips me anymore DONT DO IT!!!
ok, I'm confused, if you're saying dont do it, why are you doing it?
Pant222 said:The_Brown_Fox said:Just Me said:Their new dudes did not like them being camgirls and they met them on MFC or another camsite? Yes, I see those marriages working well. :lol:
My thoughts exactly. :lol:
If those girls gave up their camming jobs to make their new guys happy, I sure hope it was worth it.
I think that if their camming job is really "just a job" or "work" as so many people have said, then it should not be a problem at all.
Evvie said:Feminist rant ahead, yo!
The reason I would take issue with a man saying, "now that you have me, I don't want you to be a sex worker" is because it has huge implications.
To me, the first thing I immediately thought was, "if the man isn't comfortable with her being a sex worker, he never respected her - he thought she was a whore who needed to be rescued." And unfortunately, I believe many men who fall in love with models on MFC believe they're only being lowly prostitutes because they haven't met the right man to save them yet.
I agree with you. Especially since camming is not just sexual. You share your personality as well. So what's reserved for just you and your partner after that? It's just all up to both people and how they look at camming.Trav said:Evvie said:Feminist rant ahead, yo!
The reason I would take issue with a man saying, "now that you have me, I don't want you to be a sex worker" is because it has huge implications.
To me, the first thing I immediately thought was, "if the man isn't comfortable with her being a sex worker, he never respected her - he thought she was a whore who needed to be rescued." And unfortunately, I believe many men who fall in love with models on MFC believe they're only being lowly prostitutes because they haven't met the right man to save them yet.
I gotta disagree with that. I think there are a lot of people out there who would have a problem with it not because of any moral objection or character judgement, but because the work involves sharing a part of yourself that, in a typical relationship, is reserved for your partner. I'd imagine there are plenty of cam girls who would only do that job while they're single because they themselves would consider it a kind of cheating.
I give a fuck if Mr. Evvie goes and fucks a bunch of women (which he does, all the time) but god help us all if he emotionally bonds with any of them unless I'm kept in the loop.Nordling said:Yeah, and although this might be a little unusual, I once had a gf who told me that she wouldn't really care if I had sex with someone else as long as I didn't TALK TO THEM! LOL She said that when you talk with someone, over time, you share a lot more with that person than merely sticking "it" into her. lol
Although I thought she had a point, I, to this day, can't say I really agree with that.
Because, the fact is, when you become exclusive with someone, why should that mean becoming a monk to the rest of the entire world?
Trav said:Evvie said:Feminist rant ahead, yo!
The reason I would take issue with a man saying, "now that you have me, I don't want you to be a sex worker" is because it has huge implications.
To me, the first thing I immediately thought was, "if the man isn't comfortable with her being a sex worker, he never respected her - he thought she was a whore who needed to be rescued." And unfortunately, I believe many men who fall in love with models on MFC believe they're only being lowly prostitutes because they haven't met the right man to save them yet.
I gotta disagree with that. I think there are a lot of people out there who would have a problem with it not because of any moral objection or character judgement, but because the work involves sharing a part of yourself that, in a typical relationship, is reserved for your partner. I'd imagine there are plenty of cam girls who would only do that job while they're single because they themselves would consider it a kind of cheating.
Yes, and really, I think that's what she meant. I just wasn't sure how far she was taking it...like did she mean no interaction at all with other people? I learned long ago that you don't give up all your friends just because you become involved with one person. However, if one of those old friends disturbed her and for justifiable reasons, I'd probably drop that friend.Evvie said:I give a fuck if Mr. Evvie goes and fucks a bunch of women (which he does, all the time) but god help us all if he emotionally bonds with any of them unless I'm kept in the loop.Nordling said:Yeah, and although this might be a little unusual, I once had a gf who told me that she wouldn't really care if I had sex with someone else as long as I didn't TALK TO THEM! LOL She said that when you talk with someone, over time, you share a lot more with that person than merely sticking "it" into her. lol
Although I thought she had a point, I, to this day, can't say I really agree with that.
Because, the fact is, when you become exclusive with someone, why should that mean becoming a monk to the rest of the entire world?
I enjoy multiple partner sex and 3somes, and I enjoy the fact that Mr. can satisfy his needs with a variety of women, because he likes that. I enjoy watching him have sex with other women, too. I just prefer to know when he actually starts to, you know, like them.
Pant222 said:I think that if their camming job is really "just a job" or "work" as so many people have said, then it should not be a problem at all.
Evvie said:Feminist rant ahead, yo!
The reason I would take issue with a man saying, "now that you have me, I don't want you to be a sex worker" is because it has huge implications.
To me, the first thing I immediately thought was, "if the man isn't comfortable with her being a sex worker, he never respected her - he thought she was a whore who needed to be rescued." And unfortunately, I believe many men who fall in love with models on MFC believe they're only being lowly prostitutes because they haven't met the right man to save them yet.
The_Brown_Fox said:Evvie said:Feminist rant ahead, yo!
The reason I would take issue with a man saying, "now that you have me, I don't want you to be a sex worker" is because it has huge implications.
To me, the first thing I immediately thought was, "if the man isn't comfortable with her being a sex worker, he never respected her - he thought she was a whore who needed to be rescued." And unfortunately, I believe many men who fall in love with models on MFC believe they're only being lowly prostitutes because they haven't met the right man to save them yet.
THIS.
I've seen guys on MFC say "You are too sweet/smart/etc. to be doing this. I could take care of you, and you wouldn't have to be on here anymore."
I'm not camming against my will, and I don't need to be "rescued." But thanks anyway, Mr. Knight in Shining Armo(u)r.
That was a joke about how people will eat comfort food when they are upset. No of course not, I've never been in pvt with her.JoleneJolene said:Pant222 said:Sometimes going pvt with a martini, smoked salmon, Bree cheese and some caviar helps lol.
Man, if she wanted to love and marry you, you wouldn't be paying for a private.
Don't let the hopes of love empty your bank account. Having a real relationship with a cam girl usually means you save money, not spend more.
Unless you meant that you went pvt WITH the salmon... in that case please feel free to withhold details.
Cassidy Nicole said:Just wondering... Am I the only person who has/would break it off with a guy if he insisted I stop camming, no matter where I met him?
This job has been amazing for me since I found it 3 years ago. Before, I was shy, lost, broke, and totally unhappy in my life. I have become confident in myself, comfortable in my life, explored my sexuality, been able to act on something that turns me on, been financially stable, no student loans, started some research, help support my family, flexible schedule for school, and actually have a job I look forward to every day! I am pretty sure not everyone can say that. If a guy wasn't okay with something I absolutely LOVE and makes me happy, then he isn't the guy for me.. :twocents-02cents:
Cassidy Nicole said:Just wondering... Am I the only person who has/would break it off with a guy if he insisted I stop camming, no matter where I met him?
This job has been amazing for me since I found it 3 years ago. Before, I was shy, lost, broke, and totally unhappy in my life. I have become confident in myself, comfortable in my life, explored my sexuality, been able to act on something that turns me on, been financially stable, no student loans, started some research, help support my family, flexible schedule for school, and actually have a job I look forward to every day! I am pretty sure not everyone can say that. If a guy wasn't okay with something I absolutely LOVE and makes me happy, then he isn't the guy for me.. :twocents-02cents:
Can I marry your brain bb? I promise to respect it's job choices and everything!Cassidy Nicole said:Just wondering... Am I the only person who has/would break it off with a guy if he insisted I stop camming, no matter where I met him?
This job has been amazing for me since I found it 3 years ago. Before, I was shy, lost, broke, and totally unhappy in my life. I have become confident in myself, comfortable in my life, explored my sexuality, been able to act on something that turns me on, been financially stable, no student loans, started some research, help support my family, flexible schedule for school, and actually have a job I look forward to every day! I am pretty sure not everyone can say that. If a guy wasn't okay with something I absolutely LOVE and makes me happy, then he isn't the guy for me.. :twocents-02cents:
Trav said:Evvie said:Feminist rant ahead, yo!
The reason I would take issue with a man saying, "now that you have me, I don't want you to be a sex worker" is because it has huge implications.
To me, the first thing I immediately thought was, "if the man isn't comfortable with her being a sex worker, he never respected her - he thought she was a whore who needed to be rescued." And unfortunately, I believe many men who fall in love with models on MFC believe they're only being lowly prostitutes because they haven't met the right man to save them yet.
I gotta disagree with that. I think there are a lot of people out there who would have a problem with it not because of any moral objection or character judgement, but because the work involves sharing a part of yourself that, in a typical relationship, is reserved for your partner. I'd imagine there are plenty of cam girls who would only do that job while they're single because they themselves would consider it a kind of cheating.
Just Me said:Trav said:Evvie said:Feminist rant ahead, yo!
The reason I would take issue with a man saying, "now that you have me, I don't want you to be a sex worker" is because it has huge implications.
To me, the first thing I immediately thought was, "if the man isn't comfortable with her being a sex worker, he never respected her - he thought she was a whore who needed to be rescued." And unfortunately, I believe many men who fall in love with models on MFC believe they're only being lowly prostitutes because they haven't met the right man to save them yet.
I gotta disagree with that. I think there are a lot of people out there who would have a problem with it not because of any moral objection or character judgement, but because the work involves sharing a part of yourself that, in a typical relationship, is reserved for your partner. I'd imagine there are plenty of cam girls who would only do that job while they're single because they themselves would consider it a kind of cheating.
If they met them in the course of their cam job where they were the recipient of that sharing, don't you find it a bit hypocritical of them to expect her to give up her job and something she might actually be enjoying? If she wants to give up being a camgirl or sexworker because SHE wanted to and not because the man was not longer comfortable with it because they are together, that I can understand.
This is very similar to the men that make their girlfriends cut off all contact with her male friends once they are in a relationship. What is missing from these relationships is the most important thing in a relationship. Trust.
Trav said:Just Me said:Trav said:Evvie said:Feminist rant ahead, yo!
The reason I would take issue with a man saying, "now that you have me, I don't want you to be a sex worker" is because it has huge implications.
To me, the first thing I immediately thought was, "if the man isn't comfortable with her being a sex worker, he never respected her - he thought she was a whore who needed to be rescued." And unfortunately, I believe many men who fall in love with models on MFC believe they're only being lowly prostitutes because they haven't met the right man to save them yet.
I gotta disagree with that. I think there are a lot of people out there who would have a problem with it not because of any moral objection or character judgement, but because the work involves sharing a part of yourself that, in a typical relationship, is reserved for your partner. I'd imagine there are plenty of cam girls who would only do that job while they're single because they themselves would consider it a kind of cheating.
If they met them in the course of their cam job where they were the recipient of that sharing, don't you find it a bit hypocritical of them to expect her to give up her job and something she might actually be enjoying? If she wants to give up being a camgirl or sexworker because SHE wanted to and not because the man was not longer comfortable with it because they are together, that I can understand.
This is very similar to the men that make their girlfriends cut off all contact with her male friends once they are in a relationship. What is missing from these relationships is the most important thing in a relationship. Trust.
Generally, no, I don't think that's a hypocritical request if the girl was single while she was camming.
Like I said, it's a job that requires sharing more of yourself than maybe any other job, sexually and otherwise. I don't really agree with your comparison. In my opinion, it would be closer to a man needing his girlfriend to cut off having other sexual relationships once they were together. Obviously, there's a difference between actual sex and what cam girls do, but it's certainly much less of a difference than camming and just having normal male friends. I'm also not sure it's really trust, as much as it is that camming(or any job in the sex industry) would lessen the exclusive intimacy that most normal relationships have.
It's something that would have to be discussed early on if any relationship started to form, and the girl is free to say no, she won't give it up, but I don't really think there's anything abnormal or wrong with a guy who would need that or ask for that. I actually think the guy that would be totally OK with it is the abnormal guy. Some people are saying the guy that would is a particularly jealous or insecure guy, but I don't really see that.
Cassidy Nicole said:Oh I also wanted to add this but I came too late to edit my post:
I knew of a girl who did meet a guy off a cam site, she ended up moving away from all her family and support system within 2 months after meeting this guy.. Anyways, after she moved he INSISTED that she quit camming and get a regular job. I don't understand how the job was certainly fine when he was cruising the interwebs on cam sites trying to get his nut off but not okay when you actually "know" the girl... Seems kinda odd to me..
I don't particularly know if marriage has much to do with it - many of the models here on this forum are married to very supportive husbands.Pant222 said:Cassidy Nicole said:Oh I also wanted to add this but I came too late to edit my post:
I knew of a girl who did meet a guy off a cam site, she ended up moving away from all her family and support system within 2 months after meeting this guy.. Anyways, after she moved he INSISTED that she quit camming and get a regular job. I don't understand how the job was certainly fine when he was cruising the interwebs on cam sites trying to get his nut off but not okay when you actually "know" the girl... Seems kinda odd to me..
I think it basically depends on where a person is in life. I was born naked but I wouldn't go to work that way. Well... maybe if I could ok. I wouldn't go to eat in a restaurant that way....wait..maybe I would. ok ok.. I was born naked but I wouldn't go shopping that way. Wait... maybe if I could.
But all kidding aside, the point is simply that there is absolutely nothing at all wrong with caming. But what was fine at one point in life isn't always (depending on what it is) in other times of life. What was ok to share at one point in life isn't always ok at other times of life when it's time to be committed to only that person and not anyone else. Again, nothing wrong with it and I think it's healthy and a great thing but not when someone makes a promise in marriage to only be with the one and only person they want to marry (unless they want the marriage to be open and not exclusive to just one person). Either way is fine, there is nothing wrong with either choice. It just all comes down to what a person's personal definition of a marriage should be. It's all 'marriage' but some people have different definitions of what marriage is, so, each to their own. The beautify of choice! But as far as that guy goes, maybe they should have talked about what they both wanted long long long before she decided to up and leave her family and support system. I know when I go eat in a restaurant, I know exactly what the waiter will bring me long before the cook starts to make it lol.
Evvie said:I don't particularly know if marriage has much to do with it - many of the models here on this forum are married to very supportive husbands.