From Nerve.com: "True Stories: A Cam Girl In Love"

[nervous101]

Thank you Shaun_
nervous101 I could not disagree more with you.


Back to the actual post...so to be clear....it's this actual story itself (in particular) that is unbelievable to some?...not the concept of it being possible. To polished or something? I can understand that.

The story is possible.

But I don't believe it simply because it is from the Internet and I take anything on the Internet with a grain of salt.

 

[NoelleBright]

Idk, this story really pissed me off. They both had significant others and yet they still started an emotionally invested relationship. That's petty high school crap and isn't behavior that adults should partake in.

I would go even further and think that cam girls and members in committed relationships should not even be on MFC to begin with.

 

[Poker_Babe]

OMG OMG OMG I know that guy!!!! I did a private with him once a long time ago. He told me that I did his students a real favor because now he was going to go to class being in a good mood for once. (I guess normally he's a bit of a grump) Never did see him again after that.

 

[BlueViolet]

They have the right to do what they want with their lives, but I personally do not think it is right. If a woman is in a committed relationship her body should be for her significant other only, and the man shouldn't even look at other women, never mind nude ones.

And yes I'm single.

Like Shaun_ said, this is not a dating site. Camsites and porn are about fantasy, not reality, and a good percentage of camgirls are taken with supportive significant others. You have the right to your own opinion, but you do not have the right to tell two happy people that their relationship is wrong.

And yes, I'm taken. (By a woman! -gasp!- Who I've been in love with for 5 years now who also cams with me! But didn't care when I cammed alone!)

ETA:

I also don't believe in the extreme example such as open relationships.

Just because YOU don't believe in it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. That's extremely childish thinking, "You can't see me, so I am invisible!"

 

[SoTxBob]

....... If a woman is in a committed relationship her body should be for her significant other only, and the man shouldn't even look at other women, never mind nude ones.

:? Oh my... did anyone even catch this part? Men apparently need blinders now too.... ray:
seems a tad bit... uhh whats the word... puritanical. Yah, thats it.... next comes full neck to floor frocks ladies, step right up for your fitting. :lol: :thumbleft:

 

[Jupiter551]

....... If a woman is in a committed relationship her body should be for her significant other only, and the man shouldn't even look at other women, never mind nude ones.

:? Oh my... did anyone even catch this part? Men apparently need blinders now too.... ray:
seems a tad bit... uhh whats the word... puritanical. Yah, thats it.... next comes full neck to floor frocks ladies, step right up for your fitting. :lol: :thumbleft:

"Huh? What woman? Oh her, didn't even notice her honey I was just gazing in that general direction" :whistle:

 

[Jupiter551]

OMG OMG OMG I know that guy!!!! I did a private with him once a long time ago. He told me that I did his students a real favor because now he was going to go to class being in a good mood for once. (I guess normally he's a bit of a grump) Never did see him again after that.

details pls! got a chat log?

 

[mynameisbob84]

They have the right to do what they want with their lives, but I personally do not think it is right. If a woman is in a committed relationship her body should be for her significant other only, and the man shouldn't even look at other women, never mind nude ones.

And yes I'm single.

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

Thank you Shaun_
nervous101 I could not disagree more with you.


Back to the actual post...so to be clear....it's this actual story itself (in particular) that is unbelievable to some?...not the concept of it being possible. To polished or something? I can understand that.

I give it a 50/50 shot of being true, partly cause it sounds like romance novella and partly cause people lie about sex a lot. For years Penthouse insisted that letters to the Penthouse forum were true. (For you unfamiliar with the forum. A typical letter was hot girl moved in next door, she ignored me. Then one weekend her even hotter older sister and her lesbian lover came home from college. The parents went away for the weekend. The girls lured me to the house, tied me to to the bed and and three of them fucked me all weekend.) It turns out that not only were the letters BS, but they were written by a staff writer, not magazine readers.

I learned how to pull my pussy lips open, how to use camera tricks so it looked like I was shoving four fingers in my asshole.

I believe the author is/was a camgirl, but really is a struggling (but quite good) writer, so if she faked this why not the whole story? Nerve isn't going to publish typical cam site conversations "h bb open chest",is funny on this forum but probably doesn't appeal to the heavy female viewership of Nerve.

Anyway I could be wrong,and don't let my cynicism ruin a bittersweet love story for you all.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

I don't see this story as sad. For those of you who think it is, who are you sad for? The cam model? The wife who was betrayed? I don't understand...

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

I don't see this story as sad. For those of you who think it is, who are you sad for? The cam model? The wife who was betrayed? I don't understand...

The professor and the cam girl. They are two soulmates who found their one true love, under the most of improbable of circumstance. Sadly fate (or a wife and kids) conspires to
keep them separated, and they will be left forever wondering what could have been. :crybaby:

Two households, both alike in dignity,
In fair Verona, where we lay our scene,
From ancient grudge break to new mutiny,
Where civil blood makes civil hands unclean.
From forth the fatal loins of these two foes
A pair of star-cross'd lovers take their life;
Whose misadventured piteous overthrows
Do with their death bury their parents' strife.
The fearful passage of their death-mark'd love,
And the continuance of their parents' rage,
Which, but their children's end, nought could remove,
Is now the two hours' traffic of our stage;
The which if you with patient ears attend,
What here shall miss, our toil shall strive to mend.

 

[Zoomer]

How do you know they are the "one true love"? Undoubtedly the Prof thought his wife was when he married her, or do people just marry and have kids for shits and giggles? :roll:

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

How do you know they are the "one true love"? Undoubtedly the Prof thought his wife was when he married her, or do people just marry and have kids for shits and giggles? :roll:

How does anybody know who there one true love?

Cause I read the story...

We said we loved each other, finally. Neither of us had believed you could build love only online, without ever meeting, and yet, here we were. We feverishly talked about meeting, me flying to his town to couchsurf and sneak to his office during the day, so we could finally touch each other's skin. It became a bit tortured, as he realized he couldn't have both me and his wife. Everything was laced with sadness and the forbidden. But he sustained me, a light in the seedy darkness. He said I did the same for him, and that he would love me forever.
...
Years of silence later, I got a message from him on Facebook, presumably the only means of contact unmonitored by his wife.

It was only one word: "Still."

 

[mynameisbob84]

It could be real. But I'm thinking it's not and here be why...

It's such a well-defined narrative arc that it feels like something crafted by a writer, and not a series of real life events that connect two people. It has a beginning, middle and end, it's all wrapped up in a neat and tidy bow in the last paragraph (a paragraph that reads like something ripped from a Mills & Boon book... I assume... I've obviously never read Mills & Boon :?)

In the "first act", it feels like the narrator is trying to get the masses to relate to her character, rather than simply telling her story. She feels the need to "justify" becoming a cam girl (LA, no work, recession, yada yada) which I don't think an actual cam girl would ever feel the need to do.

It's all a bit cliche, isn't it? Sexy, smart professor "gets" sexy young girl in ways that her un-notable boyfriend never could, they fall in love but he's married, she goes to school half way across the world to give the story some colour, a job offer takes him to Europe, theirs is a love that's pure but they're pulled apart by fate, etc. etc. It's like the writer
has been mining romantic fiction for its tropes, ya know?

All that said, I'm cynical and jaded and it could easily all be true

 

[Jupiter551]

It could be real. But I'm thinking it's not and here be why...

It's such a well-defined narrative arc that it feels like something crafted by a writer, and not a series of real life events that connect two people. It has a beginning, middle and end, it's all wrapped up in a neat and tidy bow in the last paragraph (a paragraph that reads like something ripped from a Mills & Boon book... I assume... I've obviously never read Mills & Boon :?)

In the "first act", it feels like the narrator is trying to get the masses to relate to her character, rather than simply telling her story. She feels the need to "justify" becoming a cam girl (LA, no work, recession, yada yada) which I don't think an actual cam girl would ever feel the need to do.

It's all a bit cliche, isn't it? Sexy, smart professor "gets" sexy young girl in ways that her un-notable boyfriend never could, they fall in love but he's married, she goes to school half way across the world to give the story some colour, a job offer takes him to Europe, theirs is a love that's pure but they're pulled apart by fate, etc. etc. It's like the writer
has been mining romantic fiction for its tropes, ya know?

All that said, I'm cynical and jaded and it could easily all be true

Don't forget that the old man wasn't just smart he was "shaggily handsome" (while stroking his penis on webcam :roll: )

 

[mynameisbob84]

It could be real. But I'm thinking it's not and here be why...

It's such a well-defined narrative arc that it feels like something crafted by a writer, and not a series of real life events that connect two people. It has a beginning, middle and end, it's all wrapped up in a neat and tidy bow in the last paragraph (a paragraph that reads like something ripped from a Mills & Boon book... I assume... I've obviously never read Mills & Boon :?)

In the "first act", it feels like the narrator is trying to get the masses to relate to her character, rather than simply telling her story. She feels the need to "justify" becoming a cam girl (LA, no work, recession, yada yada) which I don't think an actual cam girl would ever feel the need to do.

It's all a bit cliche, isn't it? Sexy, smart professor "gets" sexy young girl in ways that her un-notable boyfriend never could, they fall in love but he's married, she goes to school half way across the world to give the story some colour, a job offer takes him to Europe, theirs is a love that's pure but they're pulled apart by fate, etc. etc. It's like the writer
has been mining romantic fiction for its tropes, ya know?

All that said, I'm cynical and jaded and it could easily all be true

Don't forget that the old man wasn't just smart he was "shaggily handsome" (while stroking his penis on webcam :roll: )

But he was only on a camsite because he was stuck at home grading his students' papers all day

 

[Rose]

Idk, this story really pissed me off. They both had significant others and yet they still started an emotionally invested relationship. That's petty high school crap and isn't behavior that adults should partake in.

I would go even further and think that cam girls and members in committed relationships should not even be on MFC to begin with.

That's so absolutely completely twisted from what I said. Also, you should note that you responded to a PREGNANT cam girl who is an open relationship with her life partner. I really want to stick my tongue out at you and blow a big raspberry right now.

To clarify my last post, I believe that starting an emotional relationship when you are already thoroughly invested in one is wrong. If you aren't in an open relationship or your partner isn't ok with external emotional involvement, then that's wrong. As an adult, if you really feel the need to be with someone else then you should be adult enough to leave the person you're with for said new person. If you can't be adult enough to leave your relationship and would rather break the confines agreed upon in your existing relationship, that is immature and low. I feel very strongly that that type of behavior is wrong.

 

[SatanJonez]

Idk, this story really pissed me off. They both had significant others and yet they still started an emotionally invested relationship. That's petty high school crap and isn't behavior that adults should partake in.

I would go even further and think that cam girls and members in committed relationships should not even be on MFC to begin with.

That's so absolutely completely twisted from what I said. Also, you should note that you responded to a PREGNANT cam girl who is an open relationship with her life partner. I really want to stick my tongue out at you and blow a big raspberry right now.

To clarify my last post, I believe that starting an emotional relationship when you are already thoroughly invested in one is wrong. If you aren't in an open relationship or your partner isn't ok with external emotional involvement, then that's wrong. As an adult, if you really feel the need to be with someone else then you should be adult enough to leave the person you're with for said new person. If you can't be adult enough to leave your relationship and would rather break the confines agreed upon in your existing relationship, that is immature and low. I feel very strongly that that type of behavior is wrong.

I just wanted to say your avatar fits the first part of your response to this.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

Idk, this story really pissed me off. They both had significant others and yet they still started an emotionally invested relationship. That's petty high school crap and isn't behavior that adults should partake in.

I would go even further and think that cam girls and members in committed relationships should not even be on MFC to begin with.

and the man shouldn't even look at other women, never mind nude ones.

I would question my partners sexual preference if he didn't look....jus sayin.

 

[curvyredhead]

I don't see this story as sad. For those of you who think it is, who are you sad for? The cam model? The wife who was betrayed? I don't understand...

I should say that I feel more sorry for the people involved...all parties..more then sad.
I realize how condescending that sounds, as if I am above them. I certainty do not think that. But, sorry for...is really the emotions i feel.

 

[southsamurai]

just because something is well written doesnt mean it isnt true. when i take the time to edit my work and plan it out i can tell true stories that sound like fiction because im a decent writer. (believe it or not, i am... i just dont do as much editing and reworking of forum posts as i do my fiction ) heck even a moderately boring event can be turned into a decent story with the right wording and pacing

 

[LadyLuna]

On the "this can't be a true story" thing... it's possible. The only reason I see it as not likely is because the story seems to take longer than the internet has been around for. For the whole "but it has all the elements of a good story".. if I were to tell you the story of my adoption, it would have all the elements of a good story.

Beginning- "I was in foster care for a few months when I was five. In this time, I was in a number of homes, and finally landed in a group home because no one wanted me. Because of this, my ability to trust other people was severely damaged. When I was six and a half I went back into foster care. At seven, I moved in with a family that changed my life."

Middle- "They taught me manners. They taught me that I am worth something. They encouraged me to build ties to other people, and earned my trust. After two years with them, I wanted to live with them forever. But it was not destined to be. Just before my ninth birthday, I was informed that these magical people were moving out of state, and I couldn't go with them. My heart was broken."

End- "After a year of misery, I finally got the courage to ask them to adopt me. I kept being told that it would be easy, but my biological parents didn't want it to happen. When I was 11, they switched to fighting for my guardianship. Six months later, just before Christmas, I was on a plane to be with my family."

Epilogue- "When I was 12, we picked back up the fight for adoption, and at 13, the adoption went through, but it doesn't matter. They had always been my family."

Granted, that's not as well written, but I only spent 5 minutes on it. Give me a year, and I could make the tail so moving you'd want to give me money. Only, I don't want money for that. Real life has plenty of stories that follow the literature guidelines. Why do you think those became actual guidelines in the first place?

On the "camgirls won't feel the need to justify it"... I feel the need to justify it all the time. Not because I think it's wrong, but because other people seem to think I need to justify it, and I tend to reflect the emotions of the people I'm talking to. Surely I can't be the only camgirl who does this.

On the "camgirls shouldn't be in a relationship." Well fuck, I'm doing this completely wrong, since it was my partner who suggested this to me O.O I mean, without this relationship, I would never in a million years have found the camgirl profession, let alone even considered doing it. Oh how glad I am for my partner!

On the "why is this story sad?" Just because people caused themselves pain doesn't make it any less painful. Also, I feel very bad for the wife.

On the "this guy can't exist"... I've met someone with a screenname of "THEPROFESSOR". He dicked around in my room for three months before taking me private. Kept trying to get my real info. Since I'm very free with certain information, I don't feel much of a tie to people I tell info to. They seem to think there's a bigger tie than there actually is, usually. "How old are you really?" always gets a "that doesn't matter." But occasionally, when I can tell the person is not asking cause it actually matters, the person will find out my real age.

It's like in high school, when I was very free about how much I weighed, even though I kept being told that a woman isn't supposed to give that information away. What do I care about people knowing how much I weigh? If they're planning on lifting me at some point, they might need to know that.

On the "if it's real, they are bad for doing this." They are human. Sometimes humans do things that aren't exactly right, but aren't exactly wrong either. Sometimes humans do things that hurt people they really care about. Sometimes, humans do things that are hateful, hurtful, and nasty on purpose. If this is real, it sounds like they didn't mean for it to happen. I think they should've stopped contact as soon as they realized what was happening, but they didn't. So they made a mistake. Who doesn't?

Have I fallen for a regular before? Yes. I usually back off once I realize a crush is happening, but sometimes I let it play out. Why? For me, before I become friends with someone, I mean the really good friendship where I will do almost anything for them as long as it doesn't hurt someone else, I have to crush on them. It's how my emotions work.

 

[Poker_Babe]

OMG OMG OMG I know that guy!!!! I did a private with him once a long time ago. He told me that I did his students a real favor because now he was going to go to class being in a good mood for once. (I guess normally he's a bit of a grump) Never did see him again after that.

details pls! got a chat log?

I have reservations about doing that. I don't think anyone would be to happy if they had their private chat log posted for everyone else to read without their permission. Especially of X rated content.

 

[Rose]

On the "camgirls shouldn't be in a relationship." Well fuck, I'm doing this completely wrong, since it was my partner who suggested this to me O.O I mean, without this relationship, I would never in a million years have found the camgirl profession, let alone even considered doing it. Oh how glad I am for my partner!

I'm ass backwards then too! My partner was the one who did all the research on what cam sites there were, which ones were reputable and picked out my equipment and outfit the first night I got on cam. Fuck, if I'd have known then maybe I'd be a top 20 camgirl by now. :crybaby: I knew I should have left him so I could make porno online and make it big.


:lol:

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

On the "why is this story sad?" Just because people caused themselves pain doesn't make it any less painful. Also, I feel very bad for the wife.

On the "if it's real, they are bad for doing this." They are human. Sometimes humans do things that aren't exactly right, but aren't exactly wrong either. Sometimes humans do things that hurt people they really care about. Sometimes, humans do things that are hateful, hurtful, and nasty on purpose. If this is real, it sounds like they didn't mean for it to happen. I think they should've stopped contact as soon as they realized what was happening, but they didn't. So they made a mistake. Who doesn't?

Have I fallen for a regular before? Yes. I usually back off once I realize a crush is happening, but sometimes I let it play out. Why? For me, before I become friends with someone, I mean the really good friendship where I will do almost anything for them as long as it doesn't hurt someone else, I have to crush on them. It's how my emotions work.

Great post Luna sorry I could only thank it once.

While I do feel sorry for the wife, I feel most sorry for the girl. If you are partner is going to cheat in your marriage,one that involves a girl on the internet seems to be the least harmful. It isn't like you are going to see his mistress, at the grocery story, company Christmas party, or at a mutual friends house. The wife will move on, the professor still has his wife and kids. But the cam girl is only left with memories of an idealized and unobtainable boyfriend.

I think we all agree that they made a mistake. But part of the emotional appeal the story has for me, is if I put myself in their shoes, I have hard time pin pointing exactly where they screwed up. Should married guys not chat with cam girls, perhaps? but that seems too harsh. Should cam girl not develop feeling for their regulars? that makes you all porn stars and not girls with feelings. When she stopped charging him to talk her did she cross the line? Is there any guy that would turn down the offer? Taken together all of their action caused great pain, but each individual action seems pretty easy to justify, cause we are human and make mistakes.

 

[nervous101]

Oh. My. Goodness. Are you people for real? Creating drama out of my own personal opinion, which everyone is entitled to?

Against my better judgement, I'm gonna respond to you all since you all insist on side-tracking this thread.

Her body should belong to her and her alone.

No, her body does not belong to her alone if she is in a committed relationship.
It belongs to the significant other as well.

A few examples. If you are not in a committed relationship, you can sleep with whoever you want.
But once you are in a commited relationship, you cannot do that anymore. You cannot sleep with other people. It is inappropriate to cheat. You body is not your own anymore and it belongs to that other person.

Stripping on cam and sleeping with someone else are 2 different things, but the principle is the same. Once you are in an relationship, you cannot just do whatever you want. Your body being your own doesn't mean you can just do whatever you want. It does not mean you can cheat.

Some relationships are open and both partners don't mind if they sleep around. Some relationships however are not like that, and they want to be exclusive to each other.
I am merely translating the latter into stripping. Some partners don't like it if her girlfriend strips for other people or her boyfriend looks at nude women other than herself.

No one here is wrong. It's called, an opinion. Different viewpoint. Different people think differently. I never imposed my viewpoints on other people. If some people can't handle an opposing viewpoint without flying into a rage, please don't bother responding.

An emoticon, copy pasted 7 times. Very constructive.

Like Shaun_ said, this is not a dating site. Camsites and porn are about fantasy, not reality, and a good percentage of camgirls are taken with supportive significant others. You have the right to your own opinion, but you do not have the right to tell two happy people that their relationship is wrong.

And yes, I'm taken. (By a woman! -gasp!- Who I've been in love with for 5 years now who also cams with me! But didn't care when I cammed alone!)

I'm happy for you.

But it being a dating site does not change anything. Are you telling that all the women in the world think like you and don't mind if their significant other watches other nude women? Some of them already do not like it if their partner watches beauty pageants.

Just because a good percentage of camgirls have supportive significant others doesn't mean that everyone single camgirl should think like you.

If you think me expressing my opinion means I'm telling people what to do (amazing skill in jumping to conclusions), then you expressing your opinion means that you are implying that any woman who gets jealous of her partner checking someone out is wrong, and it is pretty arrogant to suggest that only your viewpoint is right, by using a small sample size of internet cam girls, who already make up a small percentage of women in the world.

See what I did there?

Just because YOU don't believe in it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. That's extremely childish thinking, "You can't see me, so I am invisible!"

I may have lost a few brain cells reading this, but did I say do not think open relationships exist? I do.
When I say I don't believe in them, it means I do not believe it is how relationships to be.

You know? An opinion. A different viewpoint. The same opinion and viewpoint that the majority of relationships are based on. Closed relationships. We're not telling people that they should follow us. We're saying we don't believe in it, that's why our relationships won't be open.

:? Oh my... did anyone even catch this part? Men apparently need blinders now too.... ray:
seems a tad bit... uhh whats the word... puritanical. Yah, thats it.... next comes full neck to floor frocks ladies, step right up for your fitting. :lol: :thumbleft:

I'll respond to you once you have something more intelligent to offer, but yeah, not sure how to respond. Sorry.

See above.

That's so absolutely completely twisted from what I said. Also, you should note that you responded to a PREGNANT cam girl who is an open relationship with her life partner. I really want to stick my tongue out at you and blow a big raspberry right now.

To clarify my last post, I believe that starting an emotional relationship when you are already thoroughly invested in one is wrong. If you aren't in an open relationship or your partner isn't ok with external emotional involvement, then that's wrong. As an adult, if you really feel the need to be with someone else then you should be adult enough to leave the person you're with for said new person. If you can't be adult enough to leave your relationship and would rather break the confines agreed upon in your existing relationship, that is immature and low. I feel very strongly that that type of behavior is wrong.

Congratulations on your baby, but I'm not sure how it has anything to do with my viewpoint or the thread topic. But I'll be nicer because I do not want to aggravate an expecting mother.

I did not twist your viewpoint. I said I would go further than you and have a more, for lack of better term, extreme viewpoint than you. I did not say your viewpoint is the same as mine.

I would question my partners sexual preference if he didn't look....jus sayin.

So if a man does not want to look at any other women other than his partner, it means that he could be gay? Really? We still think in this way in 2012?

The fact that maybe he is a very loyal man who does not want to make his woman jealous is not even a remote possibility in your mind?

On the "camgirls shouldn't be in a relationship." Well fuck, I'm doing this completely wrong, since it was my partner who suggested this to me O.O I mean, without this relationship, I would never in a million years have found the camgirl profession, let alone even considered doing it. Oh how glad I am for my partner!

Some camgirls indeed will stop doing this once they are in a relationship, because they have different morals. I cannot give examples, but it is safe to assume that all camgirls being ok showing their bodies despite being in relationships is not the universal truth.

Some have partners who don't mind, some have partners who do mind, some camgirls are ok with showing their bodies despite being in a relationship, some camgirls are not ok and will quit. And then you have the ones in between.

You do what you think is best. But nowhere did I suggest that all models who have relationships should be banned and never be camgirls or something. I just expressed my opinion that it is inappropriate, and if you think it is nothing inappropriate, no problem.
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As you all can see, I actually love a good challenge and can argue to death. But this will be the last time I will defend my viewpoint because I just wasted a lot of time typing this when I could be checking out camgirls. This will be one of those endless arguments that people will spend hours and hours arguing and in the end, accomplish absolutely nothing. It is not constructive. There is no point arguing over viewpoints, because everyone is different and they will have different ones. In the end, you will not change either side's mind.

Some of you will of course want to get the last word in, and you are more than welcome to do so. But please do not confuse my silence after this to mean that I am wrong and you are right. It just means I am no longer interested in this pointless argument and I do not want to derail this thread anymore, and you can see it is a waste of time. You do what you think is best, I'll do what I think is best. We'll just agree to disagree.

Apologies for the really long post. Congratulations if you have managed to read it till the end. Have a good day.

 

[nervous101]

On the "why is this story sad?" Just because people caused themselves pain doesn't make it any less painful. Also, I feel very bad for the wife.

On the "if it's real, they are bad for doing this." They are human. Sometimes humans do things that aren't exactly right, but aren't exactly wrong either. Sometimes humans do things that hurt people they really care about. Sometimes, humans do things that are hateful, hurtful, and nasty on purpose. If this is real, it sounds like they didn't mean for it to happen. I think they should've stopped contact as soon as they realized what was happening, but they didn't. So they made a mistake. Who doesn't?

Have I fallen for a regular before? Yes. I usually back off once I realize a crush is happening, but sometimes I let it play out. Why? For me, before I become friends with someone, I mean the really good friendship where I will do almost anything for them as long as it doesn't hurt someone else, I have to crush on them. It's how my emotions work.

Great post Luna sorry I could only thank it once.

While I do feel sorry for the wife, I feel most sorry for the girl. If you are partner is going to cheat in your marriage,one that involves a girl on the internet seems to be the least harmful. It isn't like you are going to see his mistress, at the grocery story, company Christmas party, or at a mutual friends house. The wife will move on, the professor still has his wife and kids. But the cam girl is only left with memories of an idealized and unobtainable boyfriend.

I think we all agree that they made a mistake. But part of the emotional appeal the story has for me, is if I put myself in their shoes, I have hard time pin pointing exactly where they screwed up. Should married guys not chat with cam girls, perhaps? but that seems too harsh. Should cam girl not develop feeling for their regulars? that makes you all porn stars and not girls with feelings. When she stopped charging him to talk her did she cross the line? Is there any guy that would turn down the offer? Taken together all of their action caused great pain, but each individual action seems pretty easy to justify, cause we are human and make mistakes.

The part where they crossed the line was when they let it cross to the romantic level.

Married guys shouldn't chat with cam girls? I personally think so, but for those who think differently, at the very least don't fall in love with another woman.

Cam girl should not develop feelings for their regulars? They can, in fact I have found some models who make good friends. There is one that I have never tipped once, and models can see that my token approximation is low. But I like chatting with her, asking her how she is, hope that her cold gets better, and hope that she aces her test. One day, when it was really late and I was saying goodbye to other models, she logged on and messaged me on why I'm not in her room. She's not doing it for my tokens, because I never tipped her and my token approximation is low. She messaged me because she enjoyed our conversations and me being there.

So models do have feelings, not all of them do things just for tokens. They can make good friends, I mean, who wouldn't want a hot woman for a friend right? But just don't let it cross to romantic feelings.

She's also not wrong to not charge to chat with him because some models do feel uncomfortable with taking money from people just to be friends.

No their one and only mistake is that they let their feelings develop beyond friendship. If they had not done that, they could have been very good friends.

After reading a few threads where a member falls in love with a romanian model and wants to move to romania and marry her, I can't believe it would get to that, so I am very wary with my feelings.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

I would question my partners sexual preference if he didn't look....jus sayin.

So if a man does not want to look at any other women other than his partner, it means that he could be gay? Really? We still think in this way in 2012?

The fact that maybe he is a very loyal man who does not want to make his woman jealous is not even a remote possibility in your mind?

Sense of humor. You don't have one.

 

[AllisonWilder]

Oh. My. Goodness. Are you people for real? Creating drama out of my own personal opinion, which everyone is entitled to?

Against my better judgement, I'm gonna respond to you all since you all insist on side-tracking this thread.

It's an internet discussion forum, threads get derailed on the regular. If this had been actual drama, there would have been ponies by now.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Thank you Shaun_
nervous101 I could not disagree more with you.


Back to the actual post...so to be clear....it's this actual story itself (in particular) that is unbelievable to some?...not the concept of it being possible. To polished or something? I can understand that.

Yes thank you Shaun too,

I am single but I find the idea that camming means I should not be allowed to get into a relationship ridiculous. Should all women in relationships cover themselves completely so no other man can look upon them? I know that men wank over me regularly in real life, they often tell me about it. Most guys, if not every guy I know in real life has admitted at one point to have wanked over me, so really it's not that much different to camming. I'm not sleeping with or touching any of the members, I am not getting emotionally involved with members in more than friendship ways. most members just get to look at me.
Now what I do feel differently about is members in relationships on camsites, it is borderline cheating, depending on the relationship you're in and how you use the site. The reason is emotional. A cam girl is doing her job, especially if she doesn't watch cams, all she sees is herself. A member is there for sexual things, but often also a relationship with the girl on cam. Even if a member is just there for company/conversation, the attachment/the girl being undressed makes it very close to cheating. I mean if a guy in a relationship were watching/skyping with a girl he knows it would be enough to dump him, it's not any different if it's on the internet.

Btw Nervous, I would be nervous! Saying that kind of crap in a cam girls forum, not good. (Have seen since writing this post quite a few others have been made)