does any webcam model worry about this happening?

[AmazingAlexaNY]

so i do have a mild anxiety disorder. this just crossed my mind am i alone on this.... do you ever worry about someone trying or raping you because your a webcam model maybe they got wrong idea of something or they just think your nothing or something. sorry but i had some people join my room acting like this so i ban them. don't judge me here.... maybe i am alone on this i don't know... or maybe my mental health is making me worry more. dont know. i had people join room thinking i am slave or something. so it just make me think of this... am i alone on this... someone also said something like oh it don't matter if you don't agree to it... i was like WHAT THE FUCK THAT'S RAPE and banned him. people are cruel

 

[melanieoncam]

I honestly felt at more risk of sexual assault when I worked at a hospital. I've had men following me around the parking lot and around the hospital late at night harassing me.

Take steps to protect your identity of course though.

 

[AmazingAlexaNY]

oh okay. it's just me then (sorry)

 

[Deleted member 45270]

I get what you mean, and I had this feeling when I first started out as a camgirl years ago. No viewer had said anything to make me feel this way; I was scared that by putting myself out there sexually, I would be kidnapped and sexually assaulted.
Yeah, anxiety sucks, but in a world of rising online personalities and internet celebrities, we are not facing a global crisis of kidnapping and rape of these people, and reminding myself of that is what made me overcome it, personally.

Online, words are just text on a screen. I take my privacy seriously, but overall, I feel safe camming. Offline, being catcalled is what brings that same anxiety back. Bad people will see you as an object no matter what you're wearing or saying. Most people come on adult sites to have fun and relax. The more you focus on the negative people, the less positive people will feel welcome to talk in your room. Just ban and move on - you're not obligated to explain why you're uncomfortable. And if the anxiety is too much, take time off cam and have a think about if camming is worth it for your mental health.

People can be cruel, but in your camroom, you set the boundaries that make camming comfortable for you. You're in control.

 

[Carmita Bonita]

It is for sure not just you. Every person will feel differently. I do worry. I had experiences with being stalked, assaulted and raped before I was a camgirl and I do feel an amplified sense of not feeling safe in public more so now since we're public internet figures. I've gotten weird emails about seeing me in public one I remember was like "mm I saw you at *grocery store I was just at* want to fuck?". Also to add on the stigma of sex work and how cruel society can be about sex workers encountering abuse it is a real fear.

I ban any fucker in my chatroom who wants to be creepy or insinuate that "damn I would grab that ass if I saw you in the street" type of shit or even mention rape. In my 8 years of camming, men for the most part don't behave this way on cam and when they do I quickly get them out--so good on you for banning them. Please know when to unplug and take care of your mental health. I've done therapy weekly for years and now on meds otherwise I'd probably be housebound from anxiety. It was at the point any little catcall would send me into a spiraling panic attack. I still am nervous when alone in public but I will just take any normal precautions that every person should and with treatment I now have a healthy level of anxiety.

 

[LaceyRoyce]

oh okay. it's just me then (sorry)

It is not just you. And even if it were just you, you're 100% valid in feeling that way.

There is something that can be very scary about how men can hide behind keyboards and abuse and degrade and show their ugly. It's not hard to see how that would be scary that someone might take it too far. The reality I have found after 9-10 years has been that the most awful men that harass me online will never have the balls to do shit to my face. The people who have been threats have always been randoms - uber drivers, people that dont know me but know my job, a guy at a party that just got told I did porn and won't fuck off.. or some guy who saw me at a con.. (i got in a taxi once and the driver recognized me from the convention and i swear to god I am lucky I escaped). That's not to say I haven't experienced some awful online harassment. Doxxing and shit seems to be more of a threat these days though.

I hope these words reassure you a little. You're not stupid or paranoid for being scared. It's a scary world. Rape is so common it's 100% normal to be afraid of it.

I provide some pretty extreme fetish roleplay around non-consent scenarios. One of my biggest fears has always been that someone will take this as permission, that "i want this" because of this.. I shove the "consent" portion down their throats. In the description, in the opening and closing scenes.

 

[ForumPoster]

I cannot add much about the issue itself other than the anxiety standpoint.

I have been living with anxiety for years that I thought was normal worry. What does help is some behavioral cognitive behavioral therapy. Nothing with a doctor yet but usually I would get some negative talk in my head and use this to let myself know whatever issue is not as serious as I am making or thinking it is.

Watch some YouTube videos on that should help you learn how to better control that in your mind.

 

[Lelo1]

Some sex industries definitely have a higher risk of violence, sexual assault, extra.
I hate to say it, but sexual predictors can exist anywhere.

There are actions you can take to try and protect yourself.

 

[Sugar_butt]

I've discovered that some people have very strange fetishes since i started caming. The dominance one is common, but some people manifest it in different ways. For example, some people are into "findom" where a girl "dominates" their bank account and basically has access to their passwords and info to spend most their money. The point i'm making is that it sounds like that dude might have been trying to pull some creepy "dominance" thing with you as his fetish(?). I'm not at ALL defending it, but when you cam you'll find people ask a lot of weird things. I personally don't think half these dudes would have the courage to ask this stuff in real life.

I'm sorry that happened to you and made you so uncomfortable. I think anxiety is very common and should be talked about more openly. Have you ever explored different kinds of coping techniques? I like to meditate in the morning and at night and it REALLY helps me. I would encourage you to explore things to do for your anxiety so when creepy things happen that make you uncomfortable (because if you cam you'll probably have someone make you feel a lil uncomfortable), you have a plan of things to do to make you feel at peace. You don't wanna spend your time doing something that has a chance of negatively effecting your mental health or your sense of safety.

I don't really tell people in my personal life that i cam. But i can tell you that I've never felt unsafe and i'm very careful with my personal information when i cam. I don't even tell them the state i live in when they ask "where you from"? I say "the midwest"! As long as you're very careful with your personal info, i wouldn't let your anxiety control your life and happiness.

 

[SaffronBurke]

I don't fear being attacked because of being a sex worker, but I *do* have concerns about taking it to the justice system and being disregarded because of my job.