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Not sure if this is 100% accurate. Although I don't think he read them all, I did...and I still started a thread thinking mine was unique, as well. I think certain types of guys, myself included, become overly obsessed (in a non-criminal way). And that obsession blinds us to the fact that this is a commonplace issue. The attention and the "love" can become so fucking addictive, there is no place for common sense or logical thinking...especially when life is lonely with no immediate change in sight.
Fortunately, some of these guys can start to see the whole thing for what it most likely is. Unfortunately, most do not listen or think about the answers, and they just fight back.
I think I am rambling now. Just wanted to throw a little perspective out there on the obsessive mindset...not that it is a good thing.
This is something I thought of when I responded, and felt compelled to say it as I did as I think it still applies. I completely understand that the heart (emotions, endorphins, however you want to say it) can overrule and blind us to rational thought. My point is more about there's something in the back of the brain making all these members question their "relationship" with a cam model. So, they do a search, find the various "In Love with a Camgirl" threads and come here. One would think they at least read a little more than the title, and skimmed some of the responses to see if it applies. But, based on how so many of these are nearly identical, my guess is they don't.
Admittedly, yours was slightly different in the beginning as you were looking to cut ties already. But there were a lot of underlying similarities and is why I commented later in the thread about it. Especially after you explained her behaviors.
Full disclosure, I'm not immune as I nearly fell hard for the love con with a particular model years ago. But, there were a lot of red flags which many have pointed out in these threads and I had some prior experience with being used for money (offline) and picked up on them. I wasn't a member here when it happened with the model. Being a romantic, I completely get the allure of when someone shows interest and the mystique of it being someone far away. It's because of all of this, I'm extremely cautious of who I get involved with and "friend zone" myself almost immediately.