I need to just vent, so apologies in advance for what could well be a wall of text. Writing it out though is better than expressing it in other ways.
To an extent, I've always had a rather strained relationship with my family. Many years ago, my own father attacked me, leaving me requiring stitches above my eye. I opted to have him arrested, and he was found guilty after a court case, and fined a few hundred pounds.
My sister was always very much a daddy's girl, and he was very manipulative of her, yet she was too young to realise. He used her to get to me, and we fell out for many years, until I tried to make more of an effort for the last 3 years. Things were actually going rather well.
That is, until today. I currently have my mother temporarily staying my my spare room. I'd used it as my home office, but she asked for a place to stay while she sorted her life out following their divorce.
My birthday was last month, and my sister has been working a large amount of hours. When I last saw her, she made a comment about forgetting to bring over my birthday card. Last Friday was the first day I've seen her, and barely heard from her since my birthday. Usually, and I'm wise to this, I only hear from her when she wants something, and I was a bit surprised that in the last few weeks she hadn't even found 30mins to pop over, or kept declining when I offered to go to hers for a catchup. She called on Friday though, asking for a lift to work, and I offered. Upon leaving my house to go and collect her from hers, I made a joke comment to my mother after maybe finally getting my birthday card.
Dropped my sister off, and hadn't really heard from her since. Apparently though, she telephoned my mother today whilst I was at work, and my mother repeated my throwaway comment about the card, and made out I was extremely upset by it. Didn't tell me about it at all, until I picked up voicemails later on of my sister hurling abuse at me. She now refuses to answer the phone to me, and has blocked me on Facebook to boot. 3 years of effort wasted by someone gossiping and making things up, someone who needs my help.
Mother now refuses to apologise to me for what she has done, and this is the latest in a long line of problems she has caused for me. Within the last 5 years, her actions have left me homeless for 3 months, cost me several thousand pounds, caused a company to bring a civil legal case against me (luckily I won that, but was time consuming), nearly blown up my house twice by leaving unlit gas pouring out of the cooker and sitting at a table about 10ft away. I've found her lying to me on multiple occasions, and what she has done today is beyond forgivable. Great timing as always, two days before Christmas.
The issue I have now is that, despite having done her a favour for a long period of time, I cannot have her live with me anymore. But she won't listen to my advice and apply for full time jobs, as she only wants to work part time, and therefore cannot afford anywhere to live. The situation now though is untenable, and I'm faced with the serious prospect of having to evict her for my own health. It's been a terrible year for me anyway, as my best friend also died suddenly aged 29 two months ago. That was in the same week one of my staff took their own life. Throughout that, I've had no support from family, just more issues.
I just don't know what to do anymore.