I would like to preface this response by addressing
@justjoinedtopost 's presumption of bias. 1.) I am an active, frequent tipper on MFC - where I pay full price out-of-pocket just like everyone else to show appreciation for entertainment. 2.) I frequented MFC for 2+ years before I became a model myself. 3.) This thread was a model looking for advice and info; not a member looking for the most bang for their buck. Given the aforementioned reasons, I am probably the least biased person participating in this conversation (as I have extensive experience and perspective from
both sides of the cam). If there is any inherent model-side bias, it is likely because the post was intended to give insight
to a model who was looking for a place to call home. As it has obviously and massively derailed, we can keep this train a-choo-choo-in' if you guys want. All aboard, motherfuckers!
The "gray stigma", as I like to call it, is something that is only perpetuated and stigmatized by models who
choose to mute gray members, or members/models who
choose to treat gray members as "less" than other members. I have
always held, since day one of starting my room, that all people of all backgrounds, genders, sexual identities, user-name colors... are welcome. Those who are not welcome?
Assholes. I am not the only model who runs their room like this.
I have had members frequent my room for months before becoming frequent tippers; whether they tip other models or have disposable income is absolutely none of my business. My business is to be fairly compensated for the job that I am doing, to encourage members to pay for their entertainment rather than leech off others, and to enforce when users are being abusive of either other members' appreciation or each other in general. That's it. And those are rules I set for myself, everyone is different.
I'm sure in larger rooms it's a lot easier to throw a blanket "mute grays" bot down to just shut up those who don't have tokens: I choose to activate my mods when my room count gets out of my personal control and delegate that responsibility. Point being: it's the model's choice to mute grays,
not CB policy. On slow nights, even high-ranking models on MFC will sometimes un-mute Basics in order to carry conversation and promote the purchase of tokens. These are all optional - the difference being that on CB, a gray simply means you
currently do not have tokens in your account regardless of how much you have spent in the past. On MFC - Basic means you have never purchased tokens.
I get people on fluctuating incomes, I get chatty members: it's life. If no one is getting hurt and genuine positive sentiment is there, who the fuck cares if you have 1 token in your account - it's a fucking nickel. I'd prefer honesty from a member that is actively participating to show me that they can't tip that evening rather than being shown that the user has tokens and simply isn't spending them.
The value associated with a "chat token" is
only dictated by the user and the model. If you, as a user, feel comfortable deceiving a model in order to be granted the privilege to chat in room where people who don't have money aren't allowed to talk - that's your choice. There are plenty of rooms with plenty of models, all with different systems and rules; you choose where you want to hang out. I, personally and as a model, find a 1 token tip much more insulting than anything a "random gray bog-troll" could throw at me, regardless of whatever sentimental value the
user has associated with it. They might see that as the Holy Grail, that's 5 cents to me.
The reality is - no, people will
not always be able to tip. This does not mean they have no intention to tip in the future when they can; you'd be surprised how many models are aware of this. Chatting, in itself, is indeed a privilege and some generous models give that to any who wish to chat on the "honor system" that their time and entertainment provided will be compensated in the future. Others prefer to secure themselves in only allowing those who they know have the means to compensate them to interact. If you think you will chat a model's ear off with a single "chat token", pay them your "chat token" after who knows how long and expect them to see that nickel as a grand gesture... I'm just gonna say I wouldn't get your hopes up on that. Go for the gusto! Splurge! Spend that $11 on enough tokens to make your favorite model see that you truly appreciate their time and attention. Or, maybe find someone who will sympathize that you don't have cash that evening and will still give you the time of day.
This is just my perspective on the matter; not speaking in absolutes and not pointing fingers. I think it's really nice in concept to equalize everyone to gray; no one can use "oh I'm just a gray, I can't tip because <insert bullshit reason here>". It simply shows the model an honest survey of who currently has tokens and who doesn't. It's not like a model will forget your past generosity simply because your name changed color... if anything, it saves you having to apologize and explain it to them which is just awkward and not fun for everyone involved.
I would love to continue this conversation in another thread if you guys are down; I think we have strayed well from the initial topic here.
Honorable mention to
@Songbird_Shelly for bringing it back to the actual topic as I was typing this novel.