Can the past be removed from the internet

[wsb]

I have become close to a former Chaturbate model in "real life". She did adult work for about 10 years after becoming a single mum. The father of her child left her when he found she was pregnant, met another woman and emigrated. He has never been involved in her son's life. So she took to camming for purely financial reasons.
She is no longer a model and gave it up out of respect for me. We are getting married next year and she wants to put her "sordid dirty past" (her words) behind her.
None of her family or friends know about her former work (including her son) and neither any of mine (including my son - he lives with me). We will be a family of 4.
The biggest problem we have is there are hundreds of photos and videos of her all over the internet and she wants rid of them (as do I - I am being honest here).
So my question is, is there a way to rid these from the internet?
Her biggest fear is one day someone will recognise her.

 

[LaceyRoyce]

Not really, but you can mitigate it somewhat.

Pay for a dmca service that will search these out and send take down notices- they will also delist anything that can’t be pulled down.

Unless she has identifiable tattoos, or something like that, small changes to her appearance can help with facial recognition searches in case anyone ever runs one on her.

If she wears glasses, changing the frame type. If she didn’t wear glasses, starting wearing them. Hair color and style change.

The next thing to do is to run her face through facial recognition sites- and see what pops up. Especially those that focus on porn.

Consider putting more regular photos of her online in various places, this will help any face recognition searches find more recent stuff and ideally bury the older stuff.

If you want to get a bit more extreme, small facial changes provide reasonable deniability. A nose job for example.

If the nose is visibly different + different hair.. you could claim she’s a different person.

Bottom line though… unfortunately yes it is forever. All you can do is really mitigate it as much as possible at this point.

 

[cbhours]

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You left out opting out of the facial recognition sites.

 

[sexyycamboyy]

I have become close to a former Chaturbate model in "real life". She did adult work for about 10 years after becoming a single mum. The father of her child left her when he found she was pregnant, met another woman and emigrated. He has never been involved in her son's life. So she took to camming for purely financial reasons.
She is no longer a model and gave it up out of respect for me. We are getting married next year and she wants to put her "sordid dirty past" (her words) behind her.
None of her family or friends know about her former work (including her son) and neither any of mine (including my son - he lives with me). We will be a family of 4.
The biggest problem we have is there are hundreds of photos and videos of her all over the internet and she wants rid of them (as do I - I am being honest here).
So my question is, is there a way to rid these from the internet?
Her biggest fear is one day someone will recognise her.

It's very difficult to wipe out all previous data, considering she worked for about ten years, it's a long time .. DMCA services can take down majority of stuff but it's still hard to say they can wipe out total record.

There is no easy way out if this situation but my advice is to talk through and take at least your children in confidence .. even if they hear from anyone later on, they can absorb it. Since she has left the work, so it will be easy to explain things to both of your children, I'm assuming they must be teen agers, that she only worked out of necessity and nothing else. Also, this generation is more open to these things than say twenty years ago .. many people working in adult industry switched to main stream media and people accepted them .. so I hope you can manage it in this way.

 

[LaceyRoyce]

You left out opting out of the facial recognition sites.

Thank you yes this is also important

 

[Hildiesub]

I find that things gradually disappear from those dreaded google image searches. The volume of accumulated stuff on the internet will make it harder for people to stumble on your partner. I suppose that some of the reputatable cleanup services might be able to do something, but I personally think that it's better to just let the stuff get lost in the digital swamp. Personally, I'm afraid to use facial recognition software to monitor my exposure because these things train on the images that they search and they learn from them. Maybe it's just superstition, but I think that the fewer links between the various photos that are out there, the better, and just asking for a search might strengthen the connections to old links, who knows. Just convince yourself that no one is going to find that old porn and try to not worry, but have a plan for if they ever do come back to haunt you.

As far as the family goes: I've had good success with teaching my family a notion of privacy that exists in sex-positive spaces. You don't have to be explicit, just that people are entitled to privacy in their sexual lives and that sex gossip hurts people. Also teaching tolerance and acceptance is important --- all that preachy stuff. I'll even give my friends a hard time if I catch them in hurtful gossip no matter who it's about. If you make clear that those are your values, then if shit happens, you can hopefully count on the people you know to at least be supportive.

I have contingency plans to deal with being discovered. I think that it's important to show that you are not ashamed of what you did. Even if you are, I would be prepared to bluff that you aren't ashamed. It gives you more control of the situation, and you'll feel a lot better about yourself. Also ,I follow the various laws that are emerging about sexual harassment involving photos being distributed non-consensually. I suppose as models we've signed away a lot of our protections, but maybe not all of them. But I've never been discovered so, what do I really know. Those are just my plans. One reason I'm on this site os to learn from the other people who may have had the misfortune of being discovered, and see what might have worked well and what didn't.

Oh, and hey, Congratulations on your marriage plans.