Cam girls with boyfriends?

[aakas]

I have a boyfriend and he has mixed feelings about me being a (new) cam girl. At first he thinks it's whatever because I'm getting money, but now he's saying it's degrading and it makes me less attractive? He thinks I'm doing it because I LOVE doing it. I like the attention, I don't care at all for masturbating in front of guys (98% of the time I can't get wet haha) I'm seriously just doing it for money...
Any models with boyfriends like this? Or supportive ones? What do you say to them to make them feel better? I'm curious~

 

[I_Love_You503]

If you're not into masturbating on cam you shouldn't do it. Maybe selling clips, or panties, or doing non-cumshows would make your boyfriend and (much more importantly) you feel better about the whole arrangement. :twocents-02cents:

 

[Camgirl]

I have a boyfriend and he has mixed feelings about me being a (new) cam girl. At first he thinks it's whatever because I'm getting money, but now he's saying it's degrading and it makes me less attractive? He thinks I'm doing it because I LOVE doing it. I like the attention, I don't care at all for masturbating in front of guys (98% of the time I can't get wet haha) I'm seriously just doing it for money...
Any models with boyfriends like this? Or supportive ones? What do you say to them to make them feel better? I'm curious~

If this bothers your boyfriend there is likely nothing you can say to make him feel better. Maybe there is a compromise like what was mentioned earlier. Clips, videos, non-cum shows, etc. Something less sexual.

On a side note - if you can't find some sort of pleasure, other than the money, you will burn out. Fast. You will hate what you do and it will show and your income will likely burn out too.

Do clips doing financial dom or some sort of other route like that. That way you won't have to hide it or put on an act.

 

[Kittycatpurr]

Camming is difficult for the majority of men to get their heads around and it takes a special one to be able to handle it without having negative feelings or comments to make somewhere along the way. Mine is amazingly supportive and has said he will always stand by me and my choice of career because he loves me and he understands that I enjoy it. Having said that I have had to reassure him about things like Privates as he gets uncomfortable about guys having that level of interaction with me in a one on one situation (he is fine with me doing public shows). As I know that Privates make him uncomfortable I avoid doing them most of the time unless they're with people i know really well who respect my preferences as frankly i prefer doing public shows We've also had a g/g based hiccup last year that we worked through simply by communicating honestly and openly with each other.

At the end of the day if you're serious about your relationship you have to be honest and you also have to be prepared to make compromises that you are happy with in order to make sure that you're both happy. I would definitely say that if you don't enjoy masturbating on cam then you shouldn't do it and should find other ways to make money without compromising your own happiness. It's not a requirement that you wank in front of people and no one can tell you otherwise. Do what makes you happy, the chances are that if what you're doing is making you happy and it shows, other people will enjoy watching you doing it, whatever it is, will find it entertaining and will tip you for it. If your boyfriend continues to feel so negatively about your choices even when you're completely pleasing yourself with what you choose to do then it may be time to re-evaluate whether your relationship is going to work.

 

[mynameisbob84]

If your boyfriend thinks it's "degrading" and you don't really enjoy it anyway, it seems a little pointless carrying on. There are plenty of jobs out there that (probably) won't upset your boyfriend :thumbleft:

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Many guys feel this way. When I started camming I was single, but I did ask a friend how he'd feel about dating a camgirl, he said so long as she were honest about it then it wouldn't be a problem. Since then he's dated a stripper so I think he's one of those special sort of guys who can handle going out with a woman in the industry.

I've dated quite a few guys since becoming a camgirl. Some clearly cared about it, some clearly had the view that I was for fucking but not for a relationship. Some guys sneer at this sort of thing and are really judgemental, they have a stereotype image in their heads of sex workers being dirty and not suitable for society, even though in my experience many of those guys are ones who actually want to go to strip clubs, visit prostitutes and watch loads of porn. They've also often been the ones who shamelessly cheat on their girlfriends while being jealous and possessive with them, the ones who go out with girls wanting them to be secure and predictable and always waiting for them, it's quite an old fashioned attitude towards women, but it's definitely one that's still there, and those sorts of guys definitely aren't cool with dating a camgirl. They want their girlfriends to be absolutely loyal to them.

Not being cool with your girlfriend camming doesn't make a guy a bad person, but it can bring out certain personality traits which can become abusive and unpleasant, like possessiveness, insecurity and derogatory feelings towards women. Being insecure and a little possessive come naturally for most people, so as long as it's not overwhelming then it's your decision if it's hurting your relationship and your decision what you do about it. Derogatory feelings towards women on the other hand... Well, you may never realise that someone you're dating has these feelings until something like this comes up. Personally I would never date someone who felt that way about a woman or women in the sex industry, but that's entirely your choice.

There are many guys who are completely ok with their girlfriends camming, and in my experience those guys have always been the genuine nice ones. I found camming to be a really good way to get the bastards to show their true colours. I'm very glad that it made someone so genuinely lovely really stand out because I know that I'm going out with someone who treats me as an equal and isn't going to judge me or lose his attraction for me for things I do.

You should work out whether this is genuine upset or if this is some dormant side of him showing its face. There is the chance that he just doesn't like the idea of guys perving on you, that's completely ok. Personally if I were already dating someone when I started camming I'd be more likely to respect their wishes, but if it were a way to control me and my boyfriend were more upset at me doing something unpredictable or even thought/implied that I were doing it because of wanting to cheat, or didn't like me doing it because of some warped idea of how women should present themselves then I'd re-consider whether this is someone I want to date.

I don't know what your financial situation is, but I think also if camming were one of my only options then I think unless my boyfriend fancied paying for me then it's my body and my choice what I do with it, I wouldn't want to be with someone who'd rather see me in financial poverty than allow a few dudes check me out.

If your relationship is really good other than this then communicate with him, find out what he doesn't like and why he doesn't like it, talk him through it, offer to compromise, make it less threatening for him. Not many people understand camming, so it may be a lack of knowledge. And then from there if he still doesn't want him to do it then either quit camming or break up. What you shouldn't do is stay with him and continue camming is he genuinely hates it, that's not fair. If I said to my boyfriend I were upset with him doing xyz and had good reasons to then I'd hope that he would cut down/stop or come to a compromise.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

Posts like this make me sad. People should love (or at least like) their jobs. It's such a big part of your life to not like it.

 

[LeahPops]

My boyfriend help me set everything up. I started out by doing phone sex and it turned out I was really good at it, so we had a long conversation about whether I should start camming. It doesn't bother him in the slightest, a lot of the time he'll sit with his laptop and watch lol. He says as long as he's the one I go to bed with every night he's not fussed.
Sorry that your boyfriend is disagreeing about it, hopefully you can work it out xx

 

[AmberCutie]

Posts like this make me sad. People should love (or at least like) their jobs. It's such a big part of your life to not like it.

And camming is one of those things that if you don't really like it, it'll be pretty miserable, and it'll be obvious, and you won't be as successful as the girls who DO really enjoy it.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Posts like this make me sad. People should love (or at least like) their jobs. It's such a big part of your life to not like it.

And camming is one of those things that if you don't really like it, it'll be pretty miserable, and it'll be obvious, and you won't be as successful as the girls who DO really enjoy it.

To be fair though, I have zero interest in masturbating in front of a whole bunch of dudes if you took the money out of it. I don't not enjoy it, when I'm actually doing it then I obviously enjoy it, but I'm not thinking about all the dudes watching me, I'm just happily getting on with it, enjoying the feeling and getting into my happy place. Sometimes I don't do privates or cumshows because I think "urgh, I really can't be fucked to do that" in the same way I sometimes feel before the gym, but once I actually do it I work hard and always feel better afterwards.

I mean I think if you absolutely hate camming and feel awful while doing shows then definitely don't do it, but that's not what she said, she just said she doesn't care for it. That's not a massive deal. Not everyone loves all parts of their job, most people enjoy it to a point but pretty much just get on with it and look forward to going home. As much as it'd be great to let members believe that when I'm on cam I'm absolutely doing what I want to be doing, but in reality most of the time I'd rather be doing something else. I absolutely only cam for money, I just happen to also enjoy it once I'm on cam.

Sure it's not exactly good business practise to point out how probably a large amount of camgirls aren't really all that horny when they're telling the room how horny they are, and really the amazing amount of wetness that models seem to have even when they've been sat down, not playing and having a totally normal conversation probably comes from the useful bottle of lube next to the computer, because really, if girls just happened to always be that wet when not doing anything sexy then our underwear would be so disgusting at the end of the day. But none of that means that those camgirls aren't enjoying themselves or are feeling like shit when doing their job.

I think this is a part where camming can become difficult. I'll do shows when I'm not all that horny, but I have to be in a certain type of mood. I couldn't do a show at any point, I have to feel absolutely up for it. It's where I've had issues with members in the past when they don't understand I really cannot force myself to do a show. It's the difference between wanting to have sex and being forced into it. For any other part of a job it's like "get on with it", but shows... if you really don't want to do them then I don't think anyone should be able to force you into it, and I don't think you should force yourself into it either just for money.

 

[Super_Stella]

Why do you have to do something to make him feel better about what you decide to do with your body/time?
I guess every person is different but you want your loved ones to be supportive or ...what?
Unless you are not feeling good about what you are doing and he has seen that so he is pushing you to quit
because he understands it makes you miserable/unhappy/does not worth the money,time,effort etc. So in a way this is his way of saying 'I care about you'.
If that is not the case then you have to choose sooner or later cause this is going to be a long way of 'trying to make him feel better for something he does not approve'.

 

[Kitty_Blue]

I don't think being a cam girl is degrading. It's empowering. My bf is totally fine with it and supportive. We're long distance though we saw each other for a week last week!! I just text him whenever I'm going on. He gives me tips and ideas. I swing ideas by him about prices and stuff. And when we saw each other for a week we even watched our fave models together on mfc.

It's your body. It's your life. Do what you want.


And a wise woman once said "Girls, girls get that cash. Even if it's nine to five or shaking that ass. Ain't no shame ladies do your thing. Just make sure you're ahead of the game."

I hope this helps. xoxo

 

[aakas]

Posts like this make me sad. People should love (or at least like) their jobs. It's such a big part of your life to not like it.

And camming is one of those things that if you don't really like it, it'll be pretty miserable, and it'll be obvious, and you won't be as successful as the girls who DO really enjoy it.

To be fair though, I have zero interest in masturbating in front of a whole bunch of dudes if you took the money out of it. I don't not enjoy it, when I'm actually doing it then I obviously enjoy it, but I'm not thinking about all the dudes watching me, I'm just happily getting on with it, enjoying the feeling and getting into my happy place. Sometimes I don't do privates or cumshows because I think "urgh, I really can't be fucked to do that" in the same way I sometimes feel before the gym, but once I actually do it I work hard and always feel better afterwards.

I mean I think if you absolutely hate camming and feel awful while doing shows then definitely don't do it, but that's not what she said, she just said she doesn't care for it. That's not a massive deal. Not everyone loves all parts of their job, most people enjoy it to a point but pretty much just get on with it and look forward to going home. As much as it'd be great to let members believe that when I'm on cam I'm absolutely doing what I want to be doing, but in reality most of the time I'd rather be doing something else. I absolutely only cam for money, I just happen to also enjoy it once I'm on cam.

Sure it's not exactly good business practise to point out how probably a large amount of camgirls aren't really all that horny when they're telling the room how horny they are, and really the amazing amount of wetness that models seem to have even when they've been sat down, not playing and having a totally normal conversation probably comes from the useful bottle of lube next to the computer, because really, if girls just happened to always be that wet when not doing anything sexy then our underwear would be so disgusting at the end of the day. But none of that means that those camgirls aren't enjoying themselves or are feeling like shit when doing their job.

I think this is a part where camming can become difficult. I'll do shows when I'm not all that horny, but I have to be in a certain type of mood. I couldn't do a show at any point, I have to feel absolutely up for it. It's where I've had issues with members in the past when they don't understand I really cannot force myself to do a show. It's the difference between wanting to have sex and being forced into it. For any other part of a job it's like "get on with it", but shows... if you really don't want to do them then I don't think anyone should be able to force you into it, and I don't think you should force yourself into it either just for money.

Yes! What she said! Thank you all for your replies, I read all of them and I'm very grateful ^^ I'm not miserable when I cam! I enjoy it! I do other stuff on there rather than flick the lentil haha.

I do enjoy getting nice attention and chatting with the friendly people don't get me wrong! But as she ^^ said, when it comes down to it, I'm here basically for the money. I'll try to talk to my boyfriend more about it and let him see what he's comfortable with me doing. I think he thinks that I do it because other men get me horny?? Which is totally untrue. My boyfriend is one of the most handsome guys I know, and can literally get me horny by brushing against my leg. He's hotter than a summer day in hell. LOLOL. I'm obsessed. Maybe I should tell him that more often.. haha. Thanks so much guys.

 

[Just Me]

I think some of the topics touched on in this thread would probably have been best for the models only section. This is public and anyone can read it. I think most of us members, especially the members that are also members of this community, understand that money is a big part of why women do cam modeling. But, it is generally not good business sense to state you are just in it for the money. "Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain". It is not always wise to break the illusion and let members get a peek behind the curtain. :lol:

 

[RedHerby]

I think some of the topics touched on in this thread would probably have been best for the models only section. This is public and anyone can read it. I think most of us members, especially the members that are also members of this community, understand that money is a big part of why women do cam modeling. But, it is generally not good business sense to state you are just in it for the money. "Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain". It is not always wise to break the illusion and let members get a peek behind the curtain. :lol:

come on, that's the power of this forum, I like this honesty, and beside that, JJ yelling GTFO is just sexy.

 

[JoleneBrody]

I think some of the topics touched on in this thread would probably have been best for the models only section. This is public and anyone can read it. I think most of us members, especially the members that are also members of this community, understand that money is a big part of why women do cam modeling. But, it is generally not good business sense to state you are just in it for the money. "Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain". It is not always wise to break the illusion and let members get a peek behind the curtain. :lol:

come on, that's the power of this forum, I like this honesty, and beside that, JJ yelling GTFO is just sexy.

:shock:
Wait... me? I mean, "JJ" and "yelling at people" does go hand in hand and all... :lol:
But I'm mean because I'm not JUST interested in the money. If I was I would let ass hats with tokens hang out but instead, I chase them away in an effort to keep my room the fun place it is, in which I LOVE to be!

So SHUT YOUR FACE! ... kidding! Flap that face all you want herbybb!

 

[RedHerby]

I think some of the topics touched on in this thread would probably have been best for the models only section. This is public and anyone can read it. I think most of us members, especially the members that are also members of this community, understand that money is a big part of why women do cam modeling. But, it is generally not good business sense to state you are just in it for the money. "Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain". It is not always wise to break the illusion and let members get a peek behind the curtain. :lol:

come on, that's the power of this forum, I like this honesty, and beside that, JJ yelling GTFO is just sexy.

:shock:
Wait... me? I mean, "JJ" and "yelling at people" does go hand in hand and all... :lol:
But I'm mean because I'm not JUST interested in the money. If I was I would let ass hats with tokens hang out but instead, I chase them away in an effort to keep my room the fun place it is, in which I LOVE to be!

So SHUT YOUR FACE! ... kidding! Flap that face all you want herbybb!

hehe, sorry, I did make some big thoughts jumps with my answer, I did not like the suggestion that models must not give their real thoughts here at ACF because that's bad PR. My remark was absolutely not about your MFC room, but about your responses sometimes here at ACF, I don't want to loose that, like I miss yummybrownfox calling me an idiot when I post something stupid ...

To the point, I did think about this: https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/viewtopic.php?f=12&t=15885&p=429583&hilit=GTFO#p429583

 

[JoleneBrody]

I think some of the topics touched on in this thread would probably have been best for the models only section. This is public and anyone can read it. I think most of us members, especially the members that are also members of this community, understand that money is a big part of why women do cam modeling. But, it is generally not good business sense to state you are just in it for the money. "Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain". It is not always wise to break the illusion and let members get a peek behind the curtain. :lol:

come on, that's the power of this forum, I like this honesty, and beside that, JJ yelling GTFO is just sexy.

:shock:
Wait... me? I mean, "JJ" and "yelling at people" does go hand in hand and all... :lol:
But I'm mean because I'm not JUST interested in the money. If I was I would let ass hats with tokens hang out but instead, I chase them away in an effort to keep my room the fun place it is, in which I LOVE to be!

So SHUT YOUR FACE! ... kidding! Flap that face all you want herbybb!

hehe, sorry, I did make some big thoughts jumps with my answer, I did not like the suggestion that models must not give their real thoughts here at ACF because that's bad PR. My remark was absolutely not about your MFC room, but about your responses sometimes here at ACF, I don't want to loose that, like I miss yummybrownfox calling me an idiot when I post something stupid ...

To the point, I did think about this: https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/viewtopic.php?f=12&t=15885&p=429583&hilit=GTFO#p429583

Bwahahaha If I'm anything, I'm blunt.

And I agree wholeheartedly. While I do understand his point, it's the lies and illusion that have caused the issues of entitlement from freeloading members we all hate. Why would a member tip for a show if the model lies and says she would do it weather she got paid or not. It's an illusion I'm not fond of, and while I super enjoy putting on big physical masturbatory spectacles that often leave me broken the next day, if I wasn't getting paid I would probably masturbate in a much more relaxed position.

But that's me! I am not afraid of people knowing camming is my carreer and I take my earnings very seriously.

 

[caseycumz]

Well I'm new to webcam as well, I have not even done it, but I have being doing porn for 4 years now. And I think if your not comfortable doing something then you shouldn't do it. I hear lots of girls say that in my current job. But you could try videos. I have a store on clips4sale.com and I have been doing at home videos on there and I am bringing in lots of extra cash. Its easy to do and no one is staring at you through a computer screen, well at least not while your doing your thing. There are also many different things you can do on there beside masturbation. Lots of foot fetish and fem dom. So if you are good at talking smack you could make a lot of money. I currently don't do fem dom type stuff but lots of girls on there do. You should check out the site and look around. But as far as your bf I can see where jealously becomes as issue. I didn't have a boyfriend for 4 years in the biz because no guy could handle my job. But at the end of the day work is work and he should respect you for who you are, not what you do work. And if he puts you down and throws it in your face. He's not worth your time.

 

[JoleneBrody]

I also have what might be an unpopular opinion about the boyfriend.

Sex industry work is not for most, and it takes a very unique and special person to be a partner to a sex worker of any kind. If you had an existing relationship before you started camming, he get's a brownie point for at least being open to trying it out. Most would not even be able to do that.
Since you went into camming already in a relationship with someone and that someone has found, through being open minded, that he is not in fact comfortable with it, it is my opinion that quitting camming would be the respectful move if you want to keep your relationship.

Now if HE had entered into a relationship with an existing cam girl my opinion on this would be completely different, but I think it's really incredibly unfair for anyone to demonize this man for having completely normal feelings, after being open minded enough to at least give it a try.

Respect your partner or let him go so he can find someone who fits him better. :twocents-02cents:

 

[MonaRay]

I also have what might be an unpopular opinion about the boyfriend.

Sex industry work is not for most, and it takes a very unique and special person to be a partner to a sex worker of any kind. If you had an existing relationship before you started camming, he get's a brownie point for at least being open to trying it out. Most would not even be able to do that.
Since you went into camming already in a relationship with someone and that someone has found, through being open minded, that he is not in fact comfortable with it, it is my opinion that quitting camming would be the respectful move if you want to keep your relationship.

Now if HE had entered into a relationship with an existing cam girl my opinion on this would be completely different, but I think it's really incredibly unfair for anyone to demonize this man for having completely normal feelings, after being open minded enough to at least give it a try.

Respect your partner or let him go so he can find someone who fits him better. :twocents-02cents:

I definitely agree with this, if you have other options to fulfill your financial needs. If this is currently your only means of making enough money to survive, he either needs to buck up and get over it, help support you, or find someone else.

Im in the situation where this is literally my only option for work. My boyfriend actually suggested it instead of struggling as an amateur fetish model. Lol. And even though hes completely supportive I always try to make sure he gets to enjoy the perks of dating a cam girl by practicing my shows on him (which is also very helpful for me), modeling new lingerie for him, etc. So maybe you can try that. Show him it can be fun for him too. And remind him its him your thinking about. Im almost always still horny after a night of camming cause my boyfriend really is the only one who can satisfy me anymore. So I always text him afterwards to let him know Im thinking about him, want him, miss him, etc. I think those kind of things are important to do. Maybe it will help settle his insecurities.

 

[DreamLovvrr]

it certainly changed the dynamic when my gf became an mfc model briefly, and not just less time for sex. we had been playing on a pay/free adult site, she got hundreds of watchers for shows.. even without me joining in. Dating a top 100 mfc girl would take a lot of balls imo, but I think it would be trickier to date a dancer or other type of 'live in person' sex worker. that's tough.. do what works for you and always be comfortable, never take any disrespect.

i had to post for 2 reasons, you MFC girls are amazing goddesses and the thread started on my bday, so I wanted to give back.
(not only burning with curiousity to know who the OP is lol)
much Love all!

 

[KamikaziKitty]

I have to go along with Jolene here. He had an open mind and gave it a shot. You don't always know when jealous streaks will happen. For instance, I date exclusively in an open relationship. I have my main person and couple of other people I date regularly and fairly seriously. Every once in a while jealousy pops up on my end or their end for any random sometimes even mundane reason. Communication is key there. He has an open mind, find out what is shutting it down, and go from there. You may have to quit in order to maintain the relationship. Just curious, has sex itself declined since you started camming? I know it did for me by a fair chunk, BUT my main squeeze was actually relieved because I'm half his age and he was having a hard time keeping up lol. To some guys though, sex is their "connector" to the emotional aspect of a relationship, and if that wanes they think the world is ending.

 

[aakas]

I also have what might be an unpopular opinion about the boyfriend.

Sex industry work is not for most, and it takes a very unique and special person to be a partner to a sex worker of any kind. If you had an existing relationship before you started camming, he get's a brownie point for at least being open to trying it out. Most would not even be able to do that.
Since you went into camming already in a relationship with someone and that someone has found, through being open minded, that he is not in fact comfortable with it, it is my opinion that quitting camming would be the respectful move if you want to keep your relationship.

Now if HE had entered into a relationship with an existing cam girl my opinion on this would be completely different, but I think it's really incredibly unfair for anyone to demonize this man for having completely normal feelings, after being open minded enough to at least give it a try.

Respect your partner or let him go so he can find someone who fits him better. :twocents-02cents:

I hate to say that when I posted this thread I was thinking mostly of myself and not him, thinking 'wow he has nothing to worry about' but now I kind of see where he's coming from thanks to some of you guys. He's a great boyfriend and he isn't giving me crap about it every day, so I don't think he dislikes it /that/ much. I will have a talk with him. I don't necessarily NEED the money to live or just get by, but I'm one of those people who NEEDS extra money to save up. I'm already saving for my future family, no matter how far away they'll come because I am super passionate about having a family! Plus he's not working and we basically live together so, maybe I can use the money 'excuse' to my advantage haha.

No, sex hasn't declined. We don't do it as often as other couples do it though, but that's another story haha x) thanks everyone~!

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I agree with JJ on this and I don't think it's an unpopular opinion, at least it shouldn't be! As much as I'm all "girl power" I also believe that a relationship is a partnership. On both sides you should be consulting each other about changes in your life. For me even mundane things like earlier I said to him "My friend is free on Saturday so I was going to go for a few drinks with her, what do you think?" I'm not asking permission and I know my boyfriend would never object to me going out with friends, but I'm checking to see what he's up to, if he wants to make plans with his friends or even come along, I'm giving him an option for me to stay in if he really wanted me to or for him to get involved or do something else. Because we're in a mutual relationship that's not based around jealousy, trust issues or possessiveness I know that he'll be cool with whatever I do, but I still consult him about it. Same as if I do anything, I communicate with him about it. We both know that because of this if say either of us were out with friends or doing something else and one asked the other to come home immediately, we know it's important and even if we want to continue what we're doing, we come home. This is kind of like you camming.

I don't know your relationship, if your boyfriend consistently throws hissy fits about things you do then you may have a problem and personally I'd question my dating choice. If he just isn't ok with you camming after having an open mind about it and only ever gets upset about things when they're really bothering him then personally I'd quit or come to a compromise and stick to it.

Quite a few men will be willing to meet a woman who's already a camgirl, and as long as she's open about it and he likes her they'll date her and not have an issue with her camming. They made the decision when they met her and they don't see it as a threat because it's been something she's done for a living before they even met her. Those same men though might meet a girl who hasn't been a camgirl before, start dating her and get used to the idea of having her "all to himself", then if she decides to start camming it's a big shock to the system. It's one thing getting used to that sort of thing when you've just met someone and don't really care all that much, and another getting used to it with the person you've been in a committed relationship with and who you're in love with. When in a committed relationship you get used to certain parts of this, I can imagine it being a shock to the system. I think this is why the majority of men who's girlfriends come up with the idea of them potentially camming instantly say "No.", even though I'm almost certain some of these guys would still have gone out with their girlfriends and been cool with it had she already been a camgirl. I have a feeling if I'd had a different job when I'd met my boyfriend and then had sprung camming on him he might have the same reaction.

He may never be cool with this, but I'd communicate with him, tell him that you'd really like to make a bit extra income to put into savings, but that you're willing to compromise with what you do on cam, not do private shows, never camming over seeing him, and that you're willing to try most things as even if it lowers your income and you have to cam more hours to make what you would have before, you'd still be earning a bit extra. Make it very clear to him that you don't care much for it and don't plan on doing it forever but it's easy money, money that could help you in the future. Personally I don't tend to talk in too much detail to my boyfriend, I speak mostly about the friendships I have with regulars which are very non sexual and about some of the ridiculous stuff people come out with. He knows there are parts I enjoy and parts I don't enjoy. He also knows that I'd far rather spend time with him.

Dating a top 100 mfc girl would take a lot of balls imo,

I don't think it takes any more "balls" than dating a lower earning model. When I did my top 100 month I worked a lot more hours, but I tried to make it so that it worked with my boyfriend's schedule. We live together and he works 50+ hours a week so he simply just got more time to watch his own programmes and we didn't go to bed at the same time. It's not like my boyfriend is sat on his laptop when I'm working watching everything going on. He knows what happens, but the details are hardly important. The only difference with doing the top 100 month was that I was more tired, working on average about 30 hours a week and I took home a LOT more money. Our relationship was actually really good that month and the following month, he said he thought I was happier over all when I was camming so much even though I was tired, because he works a lot we were more on the same level in downtime rather than me being hyper and him exhausted. I think it'd take a guy who has issues with a woman earning more money than him and being successful in her career to be ok with his girlfriend camming but not with her being successful and treating it as an actual job. Having rather pathetic, sensitive organs hanging outside your body has absolutely nothing to do with it.

 

[AnyaSchwanz]

Well my :twocents-02cents: is that if it is a serious problem for the boyfriend, you just have to decide if camming is what you REALLY want to do. IMO, camming is a serious lifestyle choice and if it's not what you really want to be doing, you could end up having some serious problems.

In my case, I have an amazingly supportive husband. We are swingers/groupsexers in our personal life, so sharing me has never been an issue. Also, he's my dom but he's really lazy about slave training, so he's happy to share with others so when he wants heavier BDSM play I'm trained and ready. The whole situation really turns us on as a couple.

 

[SexySteph]

I also have what might be an unpopular opinion about the boyfriend.

Sex industry work is not for most, and it takes a very unique and special person to be a partner to a sex worker of any kind. If you had an existing relationship before you started camming, he get's a brownie point for at least being open to trying it out. Most would not even be able to do that.
Since you went into camming already in a relationship with someone and that someone has found, through being open minded, that he is not in fact comfortable with it, it is my opinion that quitting camming would be the respectful move if you want to keep your relationship.

Now if HE had entered into a relationship with an existing cam girl my opinion on this would be completely different, but I think it's really incredibly unfair for anyone to demonize this man for having completely normal feelings, after being open minded enough to at least give it a try.

Respect your partner or let him go so he can find someone who fits him better. :twocents-02cents:

I hate to say that when I posted this thread I was thinking mostly of myself and not him, thinking 'wow he has nothing to worry about' but now I kind of see where he's coming from thanks to some of you guys. He's a great boyfriend and he isn't giving me crap about it every day, so I don't think he dislikes it /that/ much. I will have a talk with him. I don't necessarily NEED the money to live or just get by, but I'm one of those people who NEEDS extra money to save up. I'm already saving for my future family, no matter how far away they'll come because I am super passionate about having a family! Plus he's not working and we basically live together so, maybe I can use the money 'excuse' to my advantage haha.

No, sex hasn't declined. We don't do it as often as other couples do it though, but that's another story haha x) thanks everyone~!

If he doesn't have a job and you basically live together (which I assume means you live together he's just not on the lease) then at this point HE has a decision to make. Try to be okay with you camming or get a job. Normally I'd agree 100% with what JJ said but when the guy isn't supporting himself or you I think his opinion takes the back seat. Cuz if you quit camming cuz he doesn't like it, for the time being you'll be a 0 income household rather than a 1 income household.