Body Insecurities

[eyeteach]

well I see myself as fat and very not pleased with it - always trying to starve myself but after I binge and eat a loot of junk food and then its happening again :/

Sonia I vehemently disagree with you. If you're definition of fat is looking in a mirror at yourself then you definitely need a new mirror. You certainly are not fat.

 

[VenusDarkStar_MFC]

well I see myself as fat and very not pleased with it - always trying to starve myself but after I binge and eat a loot of junk food and then its happening again :/

i ALWAYS thought that starving myself was best also.. but in all reality its not good for the body, it makes it worse because your fat cells are starving and they strive on that. if you want to lose weight and have it be the healthy way out, i suggest to eat 5 meals a day and do some type of exercise, like crunches, push-ups, lunges, running, walking, etc. i have noticed that is what has helped me. i have been eating healthier and doing some type of movement, with myself so i don't gain weight again. i just wish i could be more motivated but lately i have been to damn lazy.

 

[ImNotSamISwear]

i ALWAYS thought that starving myself was best also.. but in all reality its not good for the body, it makes it worse because your fat cells are starving and they strive on that. if you want to lose weight and have it be the healthy way out, i suggest to eat 5 meals a day and do some type of exercise, like crunches, push-ups, lunges, running, walking, etc. i have noticed that is what has helped me. i have been eating healthier and doing some type of movement, with myself so i don't gain weight again. i just wish i could be more motivated but lately i have been to damn lazy.

I'd like to second this as truth. The program I'm on had me eating six times a day (every two and half to three hours), but is designed to be low calorie (I eat something like 1000 calories a day) and I have lost an obscene amount of weight in the last six months. I'm about half way to my goal, too.

Small meals more often definitely boost the metabolism.

 

[Shaun__]

My fat has always gone to my stomach my entire life, and this has meant I always had a little pot belly. I got fed up with it, and started working out a little over a year ago six days a week, and lost 30 pounds. I am now 5'10" and under 130 pounds, but now I look like a flat chested lady with hairy arms and legs aside from the penis and my other head on top of my shoulders. I did not get any big muscle gain even though I am much stronger. Seeing the men in movies and on magazines is so depressing to me. As is hearing women talking about how they love manly men. I just feel like I do not look like society says men should look like.

 

[Honey_Suckle]

I hate my fat nose. I have a petite structure .. small face and slim body and then there's this fat nose lol .. to me it just looks out of proportion.

 

[Leon_Omega]

yeah that is true we can be hard on ourselves

That's usually the crux of the problem: we're all our own worst critic. It's a shame, but sadly it's unavoidable.

see us humans aren't meant to be made perfect, if thats the case everyone would be made the same and also perfectionism doesn't exist in the human world.. i am glad i am not perfect and i am glad i have the flaws i have today. just have to love the skin your in since it is our skin.

I realized this at a fairly early age and that, coupled with the fact that I had an army of friends who loved me despite my flaws played a huge part in causing the problem I ended up having. Not to say it's a bad way of thinking, of course. It just kinda backfired on me.

To touch back here I'm doing something about my "dad-bod insecurity" today I start my gym experience. Lucky for me my friend has a gym and is a personal trainer. He said to give it 3 months of hard work and dedication and once I start to see the results I won't want to stop. So here's to the next 3 months.

He's entirely right. It may not look like it the first week or two, but after that you'll start finding that little things start taking a lot less effort. Not long after that, you'll start seeing actual results and you're hooked. Last year, right around this time, I figured I'd go to the gym as much as I could before Halloween so I'd be able to fit into my costume a bit better. My thoughts were that I'd go with a more sensible regimen after my vacation.

Ever since then, I've been going to the gym either five days a week, or four days with a day of outdoor exercise...

i ALWAYS thought that starving myself was best also.. but in all reality its not good for the body, it makes it worse because your fat cells are starving and they strive on that. if you want to lose weight and have it be the healthy way out, i suggest to eat 5 meals a day and do some type of exercise, like crunches, push-ups, lunges, running, walking, etc. i have noticed that is what has helped me. i have been eating healthier and doing some type of movement, with myself so i don't gain weight again. i just wish i could be more motivated but lately i have been to damn lazy.

At the end of July last year I went to the hospital to attend a screening for gastric bypass surgery, figuring that I had to do something before things got out of hand (while I'd slowly but surely grown to a BMI of 44 over the years, I'd thankfully not gotten any related health issues yet). They ended up declining, but put me in a program for four months that would work to change my eating habits. My dietician told me pretty much exactly this: that it was best to take smaller, healthy meals spread across the day (I ended up going with six) and complement that with some light exercise.

And with that, I ended up losing over 130 Lbs, which brings us to my insecurities. It's a bit weird how I wasn't insecure before I actually lost all this weight. While I thankfully only have excess fat and skin on one area (I call it the apron), it's not something I seem to be able to exercise off. I'm looking at getting surgical help to remove it. Other than that, I have a ways to go before I'm in the shape I want to be, and I'm not a big fan of my legs, which bend a bit further in than I'd like to see them. Also my back is a lot hairier than I'd like it to be.

 

[DivSavel]

idk how some girls get 600+ in their rooms. i see skinny girls get that many and most of them don't have boobs, like do guys really like flat chested girls over girls with big boobs?

I definitely agree with Iris. You may not have intended to be, but this comment does seem mean spirited. Especially given the topic of the thread! Unless they had a double mastectomy, I'm sure those women do in fact have boobs. They are not flat chested; they're small breasted!



<---- I swear there are tits somewhere in there

Yes, guys prefer small boobs! Guys also prefer big boobs! Overall, guys are just really into boobs! There are a ton of guys out there whose ideal woman has A-C cup breasts; men have just as much variety when it comes to sexual attraction as women do!


On an entirely different note..

Also my back is a lot hairier than I'd like it to be.

Soo are you saying you're hairy like animal? ;o

 

[eyeteach]

I didn't read into Venus' comments as her being mean spirited as much as maybe her being frustrated that she isn't attracting more people into her room, and honestly she's not the only model I've seen vent those frustrations. She doesn't need me being a character witness on her part but I do personally know how hard she does work at camming. What's the proper way to attract say hundreds to a room? I truly don't know, but I can't blame her...or any other model...for being frustrated with low counts.

 

[Deleted member 25213]

I wish I were taller! 5'4 isn't super short but it's always been my biggest insecurity.

 

[Leon_Omega]

On an entirely different note..

Soo are you saying you're hairy like animal? ;o

 

[VenusDarkStar_MFC]

i find flaws with myself everyday.. but i am trying to cope with what i look like, because its just the way i was made i can't help that i have broad shoulders and a big nose and low eyebrows and etc that i feel is wrong with me. but other then that i think body image and a good positive attitude is good to have, so that the negative draws out. other then weight loss, i can honestly say i feel better now that i lost weight around my waist and leg area, now i just need to do sit ups and crunches to tighten it again and also do some cycling so i can get my leg muscle back and core work out. i miss my body that i had from back in the day, so i am going to try my best.

 

[eyeteach]

You know, if somehow I could take my eyes and give them to every model that has so far responded to this thread so they could personally see themselves as I see them, two things would become apparent. First, they'd hear me screaming, "OH MY GOD! SONUVABITCH THAT HURTS! MUTHAHFUCKIN' SHIT ON A SHINGLE SOMEBODY GET ME SOME HELP!" And secondly, and more importantly, they'd look at themselves and see just how just how beautiful they really are. I said it earlier in the post, at least I think I did, that we're harder on ourselves than anyone else can be; but my word there are some gorgeous girls posting in this thread. And I should know, I've been checking out pretty girls going all the way back to puberty...and have spent most of my adult life doing the same.

Can I have my eyes back now? There's someone posting in this thread I'd like to gaze at again...

 

[MsRoxieBabe]

Yes I have insecurities. I had a nose job 5 years ago. It used to have a bump on the bridge and be long and pointy. But now something else came up. I got really chronically ill for two years. By the time I got well I was nearly 200 pounds and 5"3 tall.I started loosing weight steady when I began a diet and started working out again. I got all the way down to 120 pounds. Sounds great, huh? Well not really I noticed my boobs looked deflated at some angels and a bit saggy. Not real bad but still not perky like they where a few years ago. I been researching exercise that can help this. I was thinking of getting a lift eventually, but I hope I do not have to do implants with them.

 

[shyladivine]

I've always been shamed for feeling bad about any part of my body for any reason. People in my life have said that I'm too beautiful to have a right to feel bad about anything on my body (or even things in life in general, which is a totally different topic). Which... makes me feel bad for feeling bad about my body so it's actually pretty difficult for me to talk about.

@Miqote, it’s so infuriating when people dismiss the validity of your feelings because they view you in a positive manner. Some people even dismiss other’s advice, and experiences! You can’t complain about being tired because you don’t work a 9 to 5 or have children. There’s no way you could’ve been bullied because you’re pretty. Nicole Greenleaf on YouTube has a pretty good video about that here:

The people who do that stuff don’t know your life, and are being extremely dismissive. Our insecurities are one of the many things that make us human and everyone has right to them no matter what they do or do not have.


On to my insecurities. After having lost weight and gained it all back, I’ve become extremely aware of my body. It kind of makes me wish I’d never lost the weight in the first place.

• I hold most of my fat in my belly, thighs and, love handle area. My body is proportional and I have an hourglass thing going on….but when I turn sidewise or sit…..ehhh
  
• My face and neck hold more fat than I’d like. I envy the faces with sharp cheeks, noses, and jaw lines.
  
• Bulbous nose and massive pores.
  
• I have a very sad looking belly button. I want a cute surprised looking belly button. Are there surgeries for that? Jk, jk
  
• Acne on my chest, shoulders, and back. I got it off of my face but it moved south.
  
• Stretch marks galore! Inner thighs, calves, hips, butt, and my mid to lower back. That last one is embarrassing. It’d be cool to have smooth body.
  
• My breasts…they seem a bit saggy for their size. I’ve never had children, and multiple people have asked me if I have…which makes me wonder why.

I let these things hold me back in life. I don’t know if it’s because I let it get my self-confidence down or I feel like I don’t deserve success or what. I will admit I’m the meanest person to myself. But the good news is is that I can do something about most of these insecurities and the ones I can’t change, I can work on changing my outlook on it. Implementing these changes is the issue…


@VenusDarkStar_MFC Thank you so much for starting this thread. It’s so raw and beautiful to see that everyone struggles with something. With social media these days, all you see are people’s highlights, of course they don’t show their faults. It creates this false sense that they’re 100% perfect and confident in themselves. Then we question ourselves on why we can’t be like that, and in reality…they have insecurities as well. It seems we find comfort in knowing there are others who are experiencing the same thing as us.

 

[DaniellaBlaze]

I know this is totally out of left field (get ready for the puns), but I have one arm.

I was born without my left arm, and you have no idea how insecure it makes me feel. I do my best to pretend like I'm cool with it and that it doesn't bother me, but in reality, it's a nightmare. It's one of the big reasons I have anxiety; I feel like no one takes me seriously because of it. There are days when I wish I was a different person, just so I could live that day without some sort of struggle. Like putting on a sweater, or doing my hair. It seems so stupid, and I feel like a little kid all the time, but it's even things as basic as those that I have problems doing. I've burst into tears before because I couldn't put my hair in a bun. A bun.

Now of course I have other body insecurities, like I hate my stomach, and my thighs. But honestly, those aren't what keep me up at night.

It's the constant questions... "How do you do ____?"; "Does it hurt?"; "What happened to your arm?",
It's the looks, and the hushed remarks behind my back, and catching people staring.
It's hearing a little kid ask their parents "What's wrong with that girls arm?", and the parents shushing their child.
It's the constant "Let me do this for you!", or "Don't hurt yourself, let me help!"

And the worst part of it all? I can never change it.

You can lose weight. You can dye your hair. You can get plastic surgery. I can't get another arm.

*Note: I'm not trying to be offensive. Not trying to say that my problem is worse than anyone elses. I've just dealt with too many people, who like I've stated before, don't take me seriously. They feel as if I'm over-selling my issues, trying to make it seem worse, which I'm not. I only say what I say to prove just how much of an insecurity it is for me. I do not mean to offend anyone, and if I have, I thoroughly apologize.

 

[VenusDarkStar_MFC]

Yes I have insecurities. I had a nose job 5 years ago. It used to have a bump on the bridge and be long and pointy. But now something else came up. I got really chronically ill for two years. By the time I got well I was nearly 200 pounds and 5"3 tall.I started loosing weight steady when I began a diet and started working out again. I got all the way down to 120 pounds. Sounds great, huh? Well not really I noticed my boobs looked deflated at some angels and a bit saggy. Not real bad but still not perky like they where a few years ago. I been researching exercise that can help this. I was thinking of getting a lift eventually, but I hope I do not have to do implants with them.

arm lunges help with chest area.. it builds muscle around them, i have the same problem but i also know this because i am friends with a body builder/ fitness freak lol. if you do arm lunges and arm curls and do a chest lift with your arms it will tighten the chest muscles up around the area. also to get a good core workout do a cardio bike on the floor with your legs in the air, it tightens up the abs and also your leg muscles i use to do it with my mom, also side leg ups help with your butt area, squats help with upper legs and butt area,also if you want really good abs, take a ball and put it between your legs and lift the ball with your legs and balance on something of course while doing it, it helps a lot.

 

[Auri Amos]

My biggest problem has always been my eczema. Ever since I was a little girl, whenever I would stress out I would break out in rashes and blisters like nothing else. I still have some scarred skin from all the steroid creams and shots I needed growing up. I'm lucky now that whenever I do get problems, it isn't as noticeable or intense as it used to be, but I sometimes still get nervous that it will be noticeable on camera.

 

[jujoji]

I feel like my body is disproportional. I have a small head, broad shoulders, kind-of big/average boobs, an average stomach (that isn't nearly as flat as I'd like) and average hips, but then I have a really small ass and tiny legs. Like if all you can see is my head and my legs I look tiny, but if all you can see is my waist/boobs/shoulders I look giant haha. Also acne is lame, and my nose is goofy looking on one side.

My ideal body is super tiny, like the tiny fairy girl type that's really popular right now. But even if I lost weight I'd never look like that so its a moot point. At the end of the day, even though there are things I'd change about my appearance, I don't have to be a perfect 10 to be sexy and worthwhile. Sometimes I enjoy the imperfections because I feel like I strive to make up for them by being funnier and more creative. I think pretty much anyone can be hot as fuck depending on personality. Although it is rough knowing that I'd likely make more money if I had a different body type.

I've held off saying this for a while.

(Momentarily objectifying you)
I have loved your body since the day I first tuned into your room over three years ago. When I got to know you and your personality more, even better.

Acne is always lame. Even people in their thirties and forties have to deal with that shit.

Other than your dark, depressed days when the world makes you feel unloved; there's really nothing I'd change about you or your body. On those days my paternalistic, protective feelings kick in hard, and I want desperately to help you feel better.

 

[RubyDimples]

Fun fact: everyone has insecurities and people will judge you no matter what you do or how you look. The important part is learning how to interpret that feedback as more of an expression of them. I wish you clarity!

 

[xDolly]

I was born with pectus excavatum. I'm terrified someone is gonna say something about it or make a snide remark about how my boobs are obviously small, and one is bigger. I have gotten a bit better at hiding the insecurity I think.

 

[VenusDarkStar_MFC]

we all have our downsides of ourselves, and we all know we have men and women who love us for who we are even if we have insecurities, i have a lot of insecurities but i am not going to let them get in my path of my career, because then thats just letting myself win. i am glad i have people who are attracted to me for who i am, and not just my looks but they like me for ME! an i am thankful for that. if it wasn't for this place, i wouldn't have been able to beat my depression nor my insecurities, i would still be sitting in the dark of doom moping about how imperfect i am and how i have this and that and how i don't like this nor that. i am going to take what i have and like it.. because thats how i was born and i can't change it unless i undergo surgery and i don't want to do that =/.

 

[VenusDarkStar_MFC]

all you ladies and gentlemen who have commented on this thread, you are all beautiful just the way you are.
don't be down on yourself, think positive and keep being who you are.

 

[Bellatrixxx]

Oh boy, I thought I was the only one. Probably the biggest thing for me is my stomach and my surgery scar.

 

[PiperRose]

As a newbie, I'm actually suprised how many of you guys have insecurities! You all seem gorgeous and so confident! It's good to know I'm not alone though!

I have issues with my teeth, bags under my eyes and I always seem to have a rash on my butt.
I used to also have an issue with my bumpy nose but I figured it's part of my ancestory so I embrace it now.

Honestly I was always the misfit at school and got bullied a lot so now days I just think if people don't like me then that's fine, they don't have to. They can move along so someone who does like me can step up.

Trying to keep this applied doing this work...I'll never be everyone's cup of tea so I'll just be me and have fun and people will either like it and stick around or move on x

 

[Snuggle Punk]

I'm usually pretty good with my body, but I wish I were about 15 pounds lighter/had thinner legs, and was 5'11 instead of 5'8, honestly. I love the tall, angular model look, and I'm not quite tall or thin enough for it to work for me...

 

[Amyfarafauler]

I am very small and my body looks too musculy to my size.
I dont like my face either but I believe I have got an interesting personality which makes up for it a bit

 

[AerieLovee]

I'm very insecure about the way my stomach appears on cam. I've also been called "pig tits" but that doesn't bother me too much I was positioned at an awkward angle.
To everyone here who has insecurities - note that something you find unattractive about yourself could be just what someone else is looking for. Everyone has a taste, and there is a taste out there for everything and everybody.

 

[QuietLurker69]

I'm really insecure about my 14 incher, it's a challenge.

On a more serious note. I would say the one thing I am insecure about is being super skinny. It's really hard to put on weight.

 

[angieivy]

Lady's I know how you feel .I'm short 4"9 and 158 pounds .I have low thyroid so that makes me gain weight easy.my stomach sticks out because I have scoliosis .I hate my stomach rolls and my thighs .I love my butt though my boobs .but I just tell myself God made me this way and I guess I'm ok about my body.

 

[8_bit_era]

I have Hobbit feet. Literal Hobbit feet. Look at Frodo's feet in Lord of the Rings. Those are my feet. Let my hair grow out, put some breeches on me and I'm a goddamned Hobbit.