- Feb 11, 2013
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- Twitter Username
- @molly_mfc
- Tumblr Username
- captainkirkandmolly
- MFC Username
- MissMolly
- ManyVids URL
- http://www.manyvids.com/Profile/12/MollyDoll/
If you would like, you can take a look at my most recent tumblr point, it will explain some things I have been going through, but this isn't just about me.
http://captainkirkandmolly.tumblr.com
This is also about the other girls of the industry, how to handle situations that arise, how to protect yourself...
You need to make sure you really know a person before working with them. I recommend asking other girls who have worked with a potential cam partner about their personality and work ethic. One mistake a lot of girls make, myself included, is being far too trusting because we want to find someone who understands our career, someone to bond with, because camming can be very isolating. We want someone who can understand what we are going through, someone we can rely on to vent, to brainstorm ideas, to get a coffee with, someone we can jive with online to make a cam session fun. Unfortunately, this is also an industry that promotes competition, which is great! Competition drives success... however, some people do not understand the difference between competing and being completely reckless.
No matter how much you despise someone, no matter the beef, do NOT GIVE OUT PERSONAL INFORMATION. Our legals names, our addresses, they are PRIVATE. It's a very slippery slope to go down when you are at a point that your brain says "it's okay" to give out another girl's personal information. It's selfish, it's childish, and it's DANGEROUS. This kind of behavior can lead to stalking, harassing, even all the way up to rape & murder. I have personally experienced being stalked, by multiple people from MFC. The cause of half of that was the fact that my home address was given out by this person to members from MFC. The internet is a dangerous enough place without it being helped along by women who are supposed to be supporting each other.
Lying about another girl will only end up coming back to you... the truth will be seen, and you'll be the one with egg on your face, wishing you had taken a different approach. This industry is full of beautful, capable, talented women... I've met some of the kindest, most empathetic women through MFC and some great guys too from the members side. But to every Yin, there is a Yang, and it's important to protect yourself against people who only have it out to "destroy" you.
If you work with someone and you don't like them... don't be a coward. Don't harass them, do not target them, do not lie about them, do not give out their personal information. There are other outlets, and perhaps the best of them would be this: contact that person, talk to them, agree to disagree... most things can actually be solved just by talking with someone. So much gets lost in translation through texting, do not be afraid to actually confront someone you are having issues with. If they won't listen, then you know you at least tried. There have been members & models who have hurt me, and I haven't always dealt with it in the best way. If I had resources to help me figure things out, someone who talked to me about the situation, perhaps I could have worked better through these altercations. Instead I chose to just ignore things, pretend I didn't see what was happening because I thought it was easier to just let the rumors, the lies, the personal information fester... but it doesn't go away by doing nothing.
"There are risks and costs to action. But they are far less than the long range risks of comfortable inaction." ~ John F. Kennedy
Now I know I'll probably get backlash for posting what I did on tumblr, but the fact of the matter is... that it's the truth, and there is evidence to back it up, and to be honest if there is any hate because of that... well I can't worry about it. Because if you stand up for yourself, and you do what is right, you can't let people step on you. You have to realize that you are stronger inside than any of the insecurities that cause people to act horribly against you.
If you have any questions, concerns, or you need someone to talk to, you're more than welcome to DM me on twitter (@molly_mfc), MFC mail me on myfreecams (MissMolly), DM on instagram (@damollystewart), or email me at justcallme.msmolly@gmail.com (I may not reply instantly, but I try to be timely with my replies). We all need someone to talk to sometimes, and even if we never become friends, we can be allies through this industry and sometimes all someone needs is a ear to hear them. Not just listen, truly hear them. There is also a new feature from ManyVids, a helpline/hotline. Definitely check it out. https://www.manyvids.com/Article/3293/The-MV-Hotline-is-Now-Available/
Thanks for taking the time to read this, to those who have. Just remember, even if it feels like you're alone, you're not.
Sincerely,
MissMolly (AKA Molly Stewart)
http://captainkirkandmolly.tumblr.com
This is also about the other girls of the industry, how to handle situations that arise, how to protect yourself...
You need to make sure you really know a person before working with them. I recommend asking other girls who have worked with a potential cam partner about their personality and work ethic. One mistake a lot of girls make, myself included, is being far too trusting because we want to find someone who understands our career, someone to bond with, because camming can be very isolating. We want someone who can understand what we are going through, someone we can rely on to vent, to brainstorm ideas, to get a coffee with, someone we can jive with online to make a cam session fun. Unfortunately, this is also an industry that promotes competition, which is great! Competition drives success... however, some people do not understand the difference between competing and being completely reckless.
No matter how much you despise someone, no matter the beef, do NOT GIVE OUT PERSONAL INFORMATION. Our legals names, our addresses, they are PRIVATE. It's a very slippery slope to go down when you are at a point that your brain says "it's okay" to give out another girl's personal information. It's selfish, it's childish, and it's DANGEROUS. This kind of behavior can lead to stalking, harassing, even all the way up to rape & murder. I have personally experienced being stalked, by multiple people from MFC. The cause of half of that was the fact that my home address was given out by this person to members from MFC. The internet is a dangerous enough place without it being helped along by women who are supposed to be supporting each other.
Lying about another girl will only end up coming back to you... the truth will be seen, and you'll be the one with egg on your face, wishing you had taken a different approach. This industry is full of beautful, capable, talented women... I've met some of the kindest, most empathetic women through MFC and some great guys too from the members side. But to every Yin, there is a Yang, and it's important to protect yourself against people who only have it out to "destroy" you.
If you work with someone and you don't like them... don't be a coward. Don't harass them, do not target them, do not lie about them, do not give out their personal information. There are other outlets, and perhaps the best of them would be this: contact that person, talk to them, agree to disagree... most things can actually be solved just by talking with someone. So much gets lost in translation through texting, do not be afraid to actually confront someone you are having issues with. If they won't listen, then you know you at least tried. There have been members & models who have hurt me, and I haven't always dealt with it in the best way. If I had resources to help me figure things out, someone who talked to me about the situation, perhaps I could have worked better through these altercations. Instead I chose to just ignore things, pretend I didn't see what was happening because I thought it was easier to just let the rumors, the lies, the personal information fester... but it doesn't go away by doing nothing.
"There are risks and costs to action. But they are far less than the long range risks of comfortable inaction." ~ John F. Kennedy
Now I know I'll probably get backlash for posting what I did on tumblr, but the fact of the matter is... that it's the truth, and there is evidence to back it up, and to be honest if there is any hate because of that... well I can't worry about it. Because if you stand up for yourself, and you do what is right, you can't let people step on you. You have to realize that you are stronger inside than any of the insecurities that cause people to act horribly against you.
If you have any questions, concerns, or you need someone to talk to, you're more than welcome to DM me on twitter (@molly_mfc), MFC mail me on myfreecams (MissMolly), DM on instagram (@damollystewart), or email me at justcallme.msmolly@gmail.com (I may not reply instantly, but I try to be timely with my replies). We all need someone to talk to sometimes, and even if we never become friends, we can be allies through this industry and sometimes all someone needs is a ear to hear them. Not just listen, truly hear them. There is also a new feature from ManyVids, a helpline/hotline. Definitely check it out. https://www.manyvids.com/Article/3293/The-MV-Hotline-is-Now-Available/
Thanks for taking the time to read this, to those who have. Just remember, even if it feels like you're alone, you're not.
Sincerely,
MissMolly (AKA Molly Stewart)
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