AmberCutie said:
I feel like there's just no winning when it comes to cam girls writing really honest blog posts like this. It was meant to be a morale boost and support rally for other cam girls, but she mis-worded one line and now it's as if she's a terrible person because she made an off-kilter joke about a different job. (Which was likely meant to be comic relief and a sort of metaphor in the first place, I believe.) Some people are taking that one line and turning her whole post into "she is trying to say being a cam girl is harder than any other job."
And I do still feel it has a deeper meaning than simply to trivialize cubicle workers and they are just butt pickers, more-so that they have different freedoms than cam girls. The whole post/point of her entry was that we have to govern and monitor ourselves to balance mental and physical health during those tough times, as there is no boss or HR to notice when we are running ourselves ragged and tell us to take the rest of the afternoon off to get some rest, and no simply "phoning it in" like someone at a cubicle job may have.
If it wasn't the butt picking line, it would have been another that members would tweeze out of it and over-analyze, then run their arguments about it into the ground. Sometimes I think that the resulting guffaws that come after blog entries like this has to do with some sort of resentment from non-camgirls. There's always an "us vs. them" mentality and it makes it hard to encourage other girls to post in-depth and honest experiences as a cam girl, knowing there's going to be some turmoil and fallout as a result.
All valid points, Amber. I didn't say anything negative about Zoe, other than she is young (19 I believe) and I think has limited exposure to cubicle work. I understand why the take care of yourself message resonated. I got her message, but I couldn't overlook the paragraph about butt picking cubicle workers, so when I saw camgirls retweeting it I wasn't entirely sure why they were doing so. I assumed the best and let it go.
I took Iris's comments to heart and she is right, it is certainly something I do. My apologies for those I've pissed off. I have no doubt that actual camming part is hard, really hard, and it is also hard pyschologically to just turn on the online button. Plus being on a site like MFC, where you can't always do better by simply putting in more hours adds to the stress.
Iris said
"Hell, I can work TWO hours a week if I wanted.It is so much easier in MOST ways, but the emotional stress of camming is so much harder than ANY other job I've had.... Of course, the perks outweigh the negatives, and that's why we're still camming" I guess that I point I was trying to make, in MOST ways camming is a pretty great job, being able to work 2 hours a week, and truly being your own boss are luxuries that few people can achieve. While there are easier cubicle jobs, there are also hellish jobs like you've described. Things like being monitored every second, or doing work when you aren't at the job, having highly variable income, none of these are unique to camming. Nor even really uncommon now days. What's unique to camming, is the streaming portion, so for me all the other discussions invite comparisons to regular jobs.
This is one of those posts that would have been better in the models only section, if such a thing existed on tumblr.