Meeting a cam girl

[youare113]

Everybody will think here is another one of these story's. And it is. I am going to meet a woman in about 4 months I met here on a cam site but we hit it off in here private life. I won't go into details because it's all the same as the other story's. We talk alot we video call I met family members we watch movies together and spend alot of time together. But I need to know. How many times does this happen? And is it a scam or not? When I visit will it be safe or is it dangerous. We will go to a hotel so I am not gonna visit here home. And it is in colombia

 

[Maxi]

If you talked to her alot, what did they suggest?

 

[youare113]

If you talked to her alot, what did they suggest?

Nothing strange. A 5 day stay in a hotel. It's just a too good to be true feeling if you understand wat I mean with that

 

[misterical]

Only you know how genuine any of this is. But do your research. It doesn't mean you are being disloyal to your "girlfriend" but you don't know her in reality. Read up on scopolamine robberies. I mean it sounds like a bit of a slow burn for that kind of thing but you can never be sure.

It's a thing, and you really should be aware of how it happens. Youtube is your friend. There are plenty guys there telling their stories. When it turns out to be genuine then you can relax and forget those horror stories, but better to know the signs.

 

[MarieElise]

If you even have to ask these questions then you shouldn't be planning it, because you have not built a relationship/ connection upon openness, mutual trust, and thorough communication. Very simple. You are not secure with her, and people who are insecure in relationships do the most annoying, weird shit. And make themselves the most annoying pain in the asses, who eventually ruin anything and everything that was perhaps real to begin with. Too soon to visit. You need to wait to visit until you have resolved any doubts, if they are resolvable. Sorry to be a party pooper, but I pride myself on my common sense.

I likely won't be back to this thread, cuz that's all I got, and it's a busy week for me.
Heed my words Young One.

 

[BlueEyezIrish]

Everybody will think here is another one of these story's. And it is. I am going to meet a woman in about 4 months I met here on a cam site but we hit it off in here private life. I won't go into details because it's all the same as the other story's. We talk alot we video call I met family members we watch movies together and spend alot of time together. But I need to know. How many times does this happen? And is it a scam or not? When I visit will it be safe or is it dangerous. We will go to a hotel so I am not gonna visit here home. And it is in colombia

safe never scam yes... and it's against the rules to meet cam models ON MOST SEX CAM SITES. or arrange a meeting so whatever site you used I'm pretty sure you violated all the rules.

 

[misterical]

This is one that really needs to be viewed in context. The OP's behaviour up until now is really what will define this. If he's been throwing money around willy-nilly off site with a woman he barely knows in Colombia then it's entirely possible that he's going to wake up, unable to account for 3 days of his life, with his phone missing and his bank accounts cleaned out.

I don't mean any disrespect to Colombians. It's just a thing that's become more prevalent there and Colombians roll their eyes at the stupid gringos who fall for it as well. It's particularly prevalent in Medellin. The gringo gets it on with a girl who then goes back to his place. Music on Spotify, keeps asking him to change the track so she can watch and learn his phone password. Then, boom, powder in the drink and he's out cold while she lets her accomplices into the room/apartment. Clean him out via his ATM cards and access to his online banking on his phone. And these women aren't trained chemists. They just guess the dose. Could be over forever.

If on the other hand he's know her for a long time and given her nothing other than tokens on the site and his time then it might be different.

Only the OP will know which one it could be.

 

[MaLiNka__]

Paid meetings (prostitution) are usually prohibited. Often the text says something like "we do not recommend". And they give you a list of things to pay attention to and for you to be careful.
Simply put, they are absolving themselves of responsibility for this. But this is right, these are only your risks and your decision.
Although I know that on some sites it is still forbidden not only to meet, but even to communicate outside the site and to transmit any social networks.
But it is always only your risks and decision, and do not seek help from the site if you are trapped.
Although I do know a few stories that ended in marriage, so it's up to you to decide)

 

[Mothball2096]

Is it against TOS to bet on whether this ends in marriage or a missing kidney?

 

[Smoothie]

Everybody will think here is another one of these story's. And it is.

 

[cbhours]

Why in 4 months? What city?

 

[Alde]

We will go to a hotel so I am not gonna visit here home.

Immediately going to a hotel with the guy? What happened to having a few nice dates first?

Anyway, sounds like a potentially dangerous scam indeed in this case.

 

[RockPierce]

If you even have to ask these questions then you shouldn't be planning it, because you have not built a relationship/ connection upon openness, mutual trust, and thorough communication. Very simple. You are not secure with her, and people who are insecure in relationships do the most annoying, weird shit. And make themselves the most annoying pain in the asses, who eventually ruin anything and everything that was perhaps real to begin with. Too soon to visit. You need to wait to visit until you have resolved any doubts, if they are resolvable. Sorry to be a party pooper, but I pride myself on my common sense.

I likely won't be back to this thread, cuz that's all I got, and it's a busy week for me.
Heed my words Young One.

MarieElise took the time to let you know what you need to know. I am a male cam model who highly suggests you take it from me to take it from her and take it from the "cam model community" just to let the space between remain. It's that space that makes this so suitable for both parties. Until one side or the other or both cross lines that I, for one, feel shouldn't be crossed. My comment isn't purely altruistic, either. We don't need "dude gets what he should have expected.. err, we mean deserves er er mean "tourist" taken for X, Y, and Z by a woman claiming to be X but was a Y." Dude, STOP. It's a JOB. IT IS A JOB! Do I like some of my people? Sure. But do I want them enough to fall for their bullshit OR their serious requests for me to put MY physical safety, general anonymity and peace of mind, or anything else at risk for money? NO. I also KNOW, like me, they are possibly very different on some levels or many when not doing their job (in my case) or being a "fan" (their side). That could be a bad thing. Maybe try intensifying the fantasy by edging the meeting FOREVER. By the way, do you realize you are one of many? I don't mean to infer the model is being deceptive either. You can reason out the rest. BUENO SUERTE.​

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[goddesstex]

Everybody will think here is another one of these story's. And it is. I am going to meet a woman in about 4 months I met here on a cam site but we hit it off in here private life. I won't go into details because it's all the same as the other story's. We talk alot we video call I met family members we watch movies together and spend alot of time together. But I need to know. How many times does this happen? And is it a scam or not? When I visit will it be safe or is it dangerous. We will go to a hotel so I am not gonna visit here home. And it is in colombia

I get that. I fall in love easily too, but I usually prefer to leave it as a nice “what if” rather than actually meeting them. The fantasy always feels safer, you know? Less risk, less disappointment. But sometimes, curiosity wins.
If you do go, just stay smart and trust your instincts. Colombia can be amazing, but it’s important to be cautious—especially in situations like this. Meeting at a hotel is a good call. Just make sure you have an exit plan, don’t rely on just one source of transportation, and never ignore red flags. I’m not saying it’s a scam, sometimes these things are real. But hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

 

[misterical]

I get that. I fall in love easily too, but I usually prefer to leave it as a nice “what if” rather than actually meeting them. The fantasy always feels safer, you know? Less risk, less disappointment. But sometimes, curiosity wins.
If you do go, just stay smart and trust your instincts. Colombia can be amazing, but it’s important to be cautious—especially in situations like this. Meeting at a hotel is a good call. Just make sure you have an exit plan, don’t rely on just one source of transportation, and never ignore red flags. I’m not saying it’s a scam, sometimes these things are real. But hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

Seriously, no amount of hotels and multiple transport options will save him from someone with bad intentions. Colombia is an amazing place and the Colombians I know are all great people but they will be the first to point out the dangers to gringos dating in their country. Every day they read another story about a stupid lovestruck gringo and just roll their eyes.

OP: Unless you are entirely sure about her (and to some extent even if you think you are) then you should still be very cautious. This may sound dramatic, but if she has bad intentions then by the time you are back at the hotel room it's already too late. Meet in public a few times, in a busy tourist area like Poblado or Laureles (if it's Medellin). If she's inviting you to her barrio for a coffee or a drink then that's a red flag.

Again I'm aware it sounds dramatic but that advice comes from Colombians I know, combined with about a thousand cautionary tales out there on You Tube, Reddit etc.

There's scamming (my grandma died, send money) and then there is danger to your life and sadly, there is a surge in scopolamine attacks on gringos, particularly in Medellin. And the bad behaviour of gringo sex tourists there means that you'll find very little sympathy if it happens to you.

 

[AudriTwo]

ya know families can be in on the scam too?

i say this coming from a family that actively scams together even though they are no longer in poverty.

 

[cbhours]

Seriously, no amount of hotels and multiple transport options will save him from someone with bad intentions. Colombia is an amazing place and the Colombians I know are all great people but they will be the first to point out the dangers to gringos dating in their country. Every day they read another story about a stupid lovestruck gringo and just roll their eyes.

OP: Unless you are entirely sure about her (and to some extent even if you think you are) then you should still be very cautious. This may sound dramatic, but if she has bad intentions then by the time you are back at the hotel room it's already too late. Meet in public a few times, in a busy tourist area like Poblado or Laureles (if it's Medellin). If she's inviting you to her barrio for a coffee or a drink then that's a red flag.

Again I'm aware it sounds dramatic but that advice comes from Colombians I know, combined with about a thousand cautionary tales out there on You Tube, Reddit etc.

There's scamming (my grandma died, send money) and then there is danger to your life and sadly, there is a surge in scopolamine attacks on gringos, particularly in Medellin. And the bad behaviour of gringo sex tourists there means that you'll find very little sympathy if it happens to you.

It's anyone not poor not just gringos but you think it's happening to people being invited to fly in to meet? I haven't heard that, why go through all that trouble when they can just find a target locally and easily.

We don't even know what city he's visiting. There are some locations that take pictures of the guests and copies of the ID.

 

[youare113]

It's anyone not poor not just gringos but you think it's happening to people being invited to fly in to meet? I haven't heard that, why go through all that trouble when they can just find a target locally and easily.

We don't even know what city he's visiting. There are some locations that take pictures of the guests and copies of the ID.

It's in Bogota. We will meet at the air port and go for some coffee first. After that we will take a taxi together to the hotel.

 

[misterical]

It's anyone not poor not just gringos but you think it's happening to people being invited to fly in to meet? I haven't heard that, why go through all that trouble when they can just find a target locally and easily.

We don't even know what city he's visiting. There are some locations that take pictures of the guests and copies of the ID.

You're right of course. That's the only part that makes me think it's at least partially genuine but it won't hurt him to have his radar going full pelt just to be on the safe side.

 

[youare113]

You're right of course. That's the only part that makes me think it's at least partially genuine but it won't hurt him to have his radar going full pelt just to be on the safe side.

Already having that. But I don't want to place my mis trust on here. She is verry kind and really accepts me for who I am. I here too ofcours. But every google I do it's all bad story's that cam girls can't be trusted.

 

[Maxi]

If I were you I honestly wouldn’t bother. It’s not worth the risk.

I wouldn’t.

 

[MarieElise]

MarieElise took the time to let you know what you need to know. I am a male cam model who highly suggests you take it from me to take it from her and take it from the "cam model community" just to let the space between remain. It's that space that makes this so suitable for both parties. Until one side or the other or both cross lines that I, for one, feel shouldn't be crossed. My comment isn't purely altruistic, either. We don't need "dude gets what he should have expected.. err, we mean deserves er er mean "tourist" taken for X, Y, and Z by a woman claiming to be X but was a Y." Dude, STOP. It's a JOB. IT IS A JOB! Do I like some of my people? Sure. But do I want them enough to fall for their bullshit OR their serious requests for me to put MY physical safety, general anonymity and peace of mind, or anything else at risk for money? NO. I also KNOW, like me, they are possibly very different on some levels or many when not doing their job (in my case) or being a "fan" (their side). That could be a bad thing. Maybe try intensifying the fantasy by edging the meeting FOREVER. By the way, do you realize you are one of many? I don't mean to infer the model is being deceptive either. You can reason out the rest. BUENO SUERTE.​

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Great boundaries, love reading grounded words, and common sense. Smart.

 

[misterical]

Already having that. But I don't want to place my mis trust on here. She is verry kind and really accepts me for who I am. I here too ofcours. But every google I do it's all bad story's that cam girls can't be trusted.

Well, the models on this forum and the positive experiences that a lot of us members have with cam models tell me (and should tell you) that cam models can be trusted to the same extent as anyone else can be. An untrustworthy person can become the President of the United States if they want to. Your job doesn't determine how trustworthy you are.

My point wasn't so much about her being a cam model as it was about you meeting a woman you barely know in Colombia. As @cbhours has correctly pointed out, flying someone in to do a scopolamine robbery on them is definitely an unusual twist on an old classic but you should definitely be aware, not just from the perspective of meeting her, but generally how to conduct yourself there. Google the phrase "No dar Papaya".

 

[cbhours]

It's in Bogota. We will meet at the air port and go for some coffee first. After that we will take a taxi together to the hotel.

@misterical you see? bogota! you were way off..... hes not going to get drugged and robbed hes going to get a gun/knife pointed at him and robbed.

 

[misterical]

@misterical you see? bogota! you were way off..... hes not going to get drugged and robbed hes going to get a gun/knife pointed at him and robbed.

By her "brother" who has accompanied her to the airport.

 

[misterical]

I recently sent a video to a Colombian friend showing stuff happening in the city here. The next god knows how many messages were from her chastising me for being so stupid as to use my cellphone in public. Head on a swivel there for sure.

 

[Southernbarbii]

Going to Columbia for some pussy, coming back without a kidney.

May the odds forever be in your favor my guy.

 

[bud9752]

Going to Columbia for some pussy, coming back without a kidney.

May the odds forever be in your favor my guy.

but he had 2 the first time

 

[RockPierce]

It's anyone not poor not just gringos but you think it's happening to people being invited to fly in to meet? I haven't heard that, why go through all that trouble when they can just find a target locally and easily.

We don't even know what city he's visiting. There are some locations that take pictures of the guests and copies of the ID.

YES, 100%, it's happening to the RARE idiot that pulls the trigger and flies in to meet. If he is even met, dude, STOP! I say this with as much "respect" as possible... Maybe try visiting Columbia first without the model knowing. Your response will be almost undoubtedly that either A) you have little interest IN Columbia but rather simply want to go to meet the woman of your dreams and her family. Which, let's be honest, isn't the purist of intentions. Also, NO woman who leaves her entire family somewhere else... It's their FAMILY. Considered this tiny detail? IN many countries, you are expected to provide a female family with financial life support. Don't like that fact. Tough shit. Someone else will. She is a CAM MODEL. Nowhere are you seeing she is posting adverts for a Western Gringo to wisk her away to the land of milk and honey. Columbia IS a great country. As a high-limit card player, it's one of the countries I visit somewhat regularly because of its thriving and growing poker community (and ability to play online during big tournament periods and to play nosebleed cash when games come together). I have a connection. A male connection and friend. And he would be the first to tell you do NOT follow through with this nonsense. At its most disappointing, you are met by no one. And possibly asked for the last squeeze of whatever she can get once you are. Or worse, it ends poorly. I don't mean your death. But just a terrible "well, wtf did you expect man!?" which can be avoided. Pay for her to come here and see how quickly it NEVER happens. I ALSO lived and (by proxy) own property in Thailand (my ex gf now GOOD friend and always someone I will love technically owns this property as Farang under a certain age can not) and I had to be EXTREMELY careful and took a huge risk leaving this to someone I only knew for 2 years. But that's still quite a long time, and I trusted her almost implicitly. She has a job for life via an Austrailian friend I connected her with, and I have a place to stay and a home ANY time I choose to return. That said SHE DID ME more good and was such a vital component to me staying safe ( I was partying and flirting with DOOM truly had things gone pear shaped for me I would not be typing this. I would be DEAD or rotting for life in a prison in south east Asia) in Thailand than I can express. I was in my late 20s and had worked hard for many years. I was done punching a clock and followed through with my plans to visit and live in a country I had planned on for several years. The amount of men who ended up NOT like me, broke, in jail, "thrown off the second floor balcony" (there is a sort of tongue in cheek saying that "more husbands western ones end up falling over that second floor balcony than not" lol) or more commonly littered with SERIOUS health issues (liver disease, serious alcohol problems, STI'STD's was everywhere. It was these guys I looked at and thought, "I can't end up like this. yeah, this is a dream world in SOME ways, but I am in some ways disrespecting the country and almost taking advantage of HOW open and free it is." I know my gf could sense this. And she directed me to get healthy (I was suffering from BAD Amoebic Dysentery, of which had I ignored it for much longer I would have probably died) and clean up my act. I spent the last 6 months of my first 3 year stretch there, totally sober, enjoying the beach, living a quiet domestic life on top of a mountain (where my house was and still is). I got EXTREMELY lucky. And am. But I knew leaving I wasn't guaranteed that property. It's because of how much my gf at the time Nims nature resembled her name that I lucked out. But it's rare. Maybe try traveling a bit. Find places where you're not indulging in "sex tourism" but rather where one can expect less scrutiny or judgment based purely on the values and assumptions of the West. I did, and I found a love that still exists and far outgrew a physical one. But one that evolved over 15+ years into a true loving friendship and partnership that's better than the former. **See any Tattoos of a tarantula, black widow, etc.? These are clear indications (often) you are just someone to sting. And if stupid enough, well, "I'm a Scorpion told the Scorpion to the Frog! It's my nature!" Get your head out of the clouds and get a real plan. If you're unwilling to do THAT, you're not serious about this person anyway.

 

[misterical]

Columbia IS a great country.

Columbia isn't even a country. Colombia on the other hand......