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For those of you who believe women and men are very different, how much of that do you believe is innate and how much do you believe is learned? And, if you have children in the future, do you believe watching a small human turn into an adult could change your opinion at all? Before having children, I had no idea how much of their personality is already there when you meet them. My oldest daughter is extremely type a (always has been) and owns a significant amount of characteristics that are seen as boy. But, those characteristics make her so strong and they aren't necessarily masculine outside of the lines our culture draws. So far when we engage socially with other kids, she doesn't seem to feel the need to tone herself down, but I am nervous for what going to school might do. Will she feel pressured to fit herself in more with girls whose traits are more classically feminine? This shit eats at me.
It would be nice if we could just accept that all people are different and the same. If we didn't pressure people to fit in with their tribes, maybe they'd be more likely to reach their full potential. If we let the type A girls bust stuff up instead of telling them to calm down, they'd give more to the world. And if we stop beating down dudes who aren't classically masculine, there'd be less rage.
Sexual differences are innate and personalities are too for the most part. For every type A girl there are 10 feminine ones. Like I said 15 times before I am talking about tendencies, I am not a determinist. If you happen to have a dominant, opinionated daughter nobody should club that out of her or punish her for it, or expect her to conform to any roles. But that just depends on how good of a parent you are and most parents are narcissistic assholes incapable of understanding their children as separate people. But on the other hand assuming that just because dominant girls exist that means there is no female nature is shortsighted.
Like I said before, my problem is not with the exceptions, they exist and deserve their place. If a woman came along who was actually a good leader and the best candidate, I would vote for her. One of my favorite politicians in Spain is a woman. But pretending that most women are equipped for the job of leading is nonsense and it is also nonsense to assume that if they arent it is because we didnt teach them the right expectations and skills.
My problem is with marxism in culture. How media, the education system, and social fads push to educate women like they were men. I wonder if you would be proud of your girl if instead of getting a type A dominant and strong womyn you would have gotten a gentle, soft spoken little girl who loves her dolls. Would you have signed her up for baking classes and play house with her? Or would you have tried to make a strong womyn out of her?
It is a crusade against femininity and motherhood what is going on in our culture and it is far more damaging than the opposite. When women were educated to be mothers and wives they were content with building families and expressing their female needs. But now all culture teaches us is that if you are a home maker you failed at life, you are a parasite, a gold digger, or weak and that in order to be empowered you need to be a fighter and go to an office. The first scenario left the small sliver if type A girls feeling inadequate. The second scenario leaves the majority of women feeling inadequate and society in decline from a plumbing fertility rate, diminishing family formation, and soaring abortion rates.