When members want to meet up in person

[yossarian]

I don't know why this idea popped into my head (maybe Jessi's comment about IF you met someone in real life instead of on a cam site), but I thought I'd ask because I love thought experiments.

Hypothetical situation: you meet a guy at a bar, grocery store, doctor's office, skeet shooting competition--wherever people meet. You hit it off and go out on a date. A few dates later (or whatever your personal timeline is), you let him know what you do for a living. He's surprised, but you don't have to explain too much because it turns out he's a member of your particular camsite. The only reason he didn't recognize you is because you have your state blocked. My question is: does this make things weird/creepy? Would you dump him because he's a camsite member, even if that's not how you met? What if you know girls in whose rooms he's a regular? Would you ask them what he's like in pvts? If he's a generous tipper? Is it all too squicky to even deal with?

I'm interested in interrogating how far this us/them mentality goes. Is it JUST meeting through the site or is it the fact that a person is a member of a camsite at all? I understand WHY the line is drawn, but I'm curious as to WHERE exactly it's drawn.

 

[Nordling]

Sometimes a definite line drawn is a little confusing.

 

[LadyLuna]

I don't know why this idea popped into my head (maybe Jessi's comment about IF you met someone in real life instead of on a cam site), but I thought I'd ask because I love thought experiments.

Hypothetical situation: you meet a guy at a bar, grocery store, doctor's office, skeet shooting competition--wherever people meet. You hit it off and go out on a date. A few dates later (or whatever your personal timeline is), you let him know what you do for a living. He's surprised, but you don't have to explain too much because it turns out he's a member of your particular camsite. The only reason he didn't recognize you is because you have your state blocked. My question is: does this make things weird/creepy? Would you dump him because he's a camsite member, even if that's not how you met? What if you know girls in whose rooms he's a regular? Would you ask them what he's like in pvts? If he's a generous tipper? Is it all too squicky to even deal with?

Does this make things weird/creepy?

Nope! With how many people are on camsites these days, I figure it's about a 50/50 chance that a man actually uses one. Considering the sorts of men I'm attracted to, I'd be more surprised to find out they aren't on MFC! Considering I'm also on Streamate, it would be even less weird.

Would you dump him because he's a camsite member?

Again, no. To me, that would be like dumping a guy because he's into porn.

What if you know girls in whose rooms he's a regular? Would you ask them what he's like in pvts? If he's a generous tipper?

That's not my business. It's between them and him. I will tell him that he'd better not be neglecting our relationship for the camsites, but that he's welcome to go there and spend money on them, as long as it's extra money.

Some things you didn't ask about, but I'd like to comment on anyway:

-I don't have a state blocked. If I was at a bar, and a guy approached me, and was respectful, and later admitted that he approached me because he thought I was camsite-me, I would not suddenly feel creeped out if we were hitting it off. But, if we weren't hitting it off before he said that, I'd probably be very uncomfortable.

-In the hypothetical state-blocked scenario, I would add him to my friends list so he could visit my room. But in the real scenario, I'd rather not see if he's online and in other girl's rooms at the same time that I'm working.

 

[pg240]

I don't know why this idea popped into my head (maybe Jessi's comment about IF you met someone in real life instead of on a cam site), but I thought I'd ask because I love thought experiments.

Hypothetical situation: you meet a guy at a bar, grocery store, doctor's office, skeet shooting competition--wherever people meet. You hit it off and go out on a date. A few dates later (or whatever your personal timeline is), you let him know what you do for a living. He's surprised, but you don't have to explain too much because it turns out he's a member of your particular camsite. The only reason he didn't recognize you is because you have your state blocked. My question is: does this make things weird/creepy? Would you dump him because he's a camsite member, even if that's not how you met? What if you know girls in whose rooms he's a regular? Would you ask them what he's like in pvts? If he's a generous tipper? Is it all too squicky to even deal with?

I'm interested in interrogating how far this us/them mentality goes. Is it JUST meeting through the site or is it the fact that a person is a member of a camsite at all? I understand WHY the line is drawn, but I'm curious as to WHERE exactly it's drawn.

Obviously, I'll let models opine on this one. Just wanted to say I like your use of "squicky" a great deal!

 

[NataliaGrey]

I don't know why this idea popped into my head (maybe Jessi's comment about IF you met someone in real life instead of on a cam site), but I thought I'd ask because I love thought experiments.

Hypothetical situation: you meet a guy at a bar, grocery store, doctor's office, skeet shooting competition--wherever people meet. You hit it off and go out on a date. A few dates later (or whatever your personal timeline is), you let him know what you do for a living. He's surprised, but you don't have to explain too much because it turns out he's a member of your particular camsite. The only reason he didn't recognize you is because you have your state blocked. My question is: does this make things weird/creepy? Would you dump him because he's a camsite member, even if that's not how you met? What if you know girls in whose rooms he's a regular? Would you ask them what he's like in pvts? If he's a generous tipper? Is it all too squicky to even deal with?

I'm interested in interrogating how far this us/them mentality goes. Is it JUST meeting through the site or is it the fact that a person is a member of a camsite at all? I understand WHY the line is drawn, but I'm curious as to WHERE exactly it's drawn.

I've been thinking about this. I don't have my state blocked, but we'll just say he never happened upon me.

I wouldn't dump him, but it would be weird. I'd be worried because he now knows my real name. I wouldn't tell him my cam name, and would probably start blocking my state, until I trusted him very much (though now that he's aware of me he'd probably find me pretty easily, even on accident). If for unrelated reasons we ended up breaking up, and he got mad... he could easily go to my room and start dropping my real name. As a member he would know that this is probably one of the best ways to "get back" at me. So I do think I would have more trust issues with him than another non-camsite going dude. I don't think I'd ask him about the girls he visits. If we became very close then we might perv together or whatever, but it would take time, and I'd let him come to me about such things. I figure that's private time I wouldn't want to impede on.

With how many people are on camsites these days, I figure it's about a 50/50 chance that a man actually uses one.

Really? When I hear people say this, I'm always a bit surprised. Maybe it's just the men I know, but out of the six guys I've told what I do, only one kinda knew what it was, and he said, "Oh, you mean like LiveJasmine? They have ads for that on my porn site, I always thought it was fake." 50/50, 3 of them should have been users of the sites, but not even one really knew what it was. I really doubt any were lying to save face, either. I'm curious about this, do you guys think that cam sites are pretty mainstream or still a bit unknown by the general public?

 

[SexySteph]

With how many people are on camsites these days, I figure it's about a 50/50 chance that a man actually uses one.

Really? When I hear people say this, I'm always a bit surprised. Maybe it's just the men I know, but out of the six guys I've told what I do, only one kinda knew what it was, and he said, "Oh, you mean like LiveJasmine? They have ads for that on my porn site, I always thought it was fake." 50/50, 3 of them should have been users of the sites, but not even one really knew what it was. I really doubt any were lying to save face, either. I'm curious about this, do you guys think that cam sites are pretty mainstream or still a bit unknown by the general public?

I'm thinking 50/50 is a little high. Maybe it's 50/50 among older males with a disposable income but among our age group I'd say it's pretty unlikely, most of the guys I know are of the "why should I pay for porn?!" mindset.

To answer yosssarian's question, I'm really not sure. I'd like to think it wouldn't bother me but if it continued after we were serious, I think it might. In my experience most of my regs are there because their wives don't give them the affection they're used to, they were recently dumped and really don't want to get back in the field right now, they were in a long distance relationship or they're a bachelor; not because they're crazily in love with their partner and everything in the relationship is perfect but she's just sleeping right now. So if my partner was still spending $100+ a month on a certain camgirl I'd probably be bothered a bit, especially if he was getting privates or Skype shows. I have a regular who won a skype once and refused it because he felt that was "crossing into inappropriate territory for a married man". If I saw camgirls as just porn it probably wouldn't bother me at all if my partner was a member and watching them, but since camgirls are more social interaction and a sort of "friend" that you masturbate with, then, yeah, I'd be bothered by it.

Actually, now that I say all this I don't think I could date a member because the conversation of "I'd really like it if you'd stop spending money on MFC now that we're serious" would be awkward because he could easily come back with "Then I want you to stop working there". Plus like Natalia said, if we ever broke up he'd know the best way to get revenge.

 

[LadyLuna]

With how many people are on camsites these days, I figure it's about a 50/50 chance that a man actually uses one.

Really? When I hear people say this, I'm always a bit surprised. Maybe it's just the men I know, but out of the six guys I've told what I do, only one kinda knew what it was, and he said, "Oh, you mean like LiveJasmine? They have ads for that on my porn site, I always thought it was fake." 50/50, 3 of them should have been users of the sites, but not even one really knew what it was. I really doubt any were lying to save face, either. I'm curious about this, do you guys think that cam sites are pretty mainstream or still a bit unknown by the general public?

Too small a sample. You get 100 people, and 30 of them know it, it's still too small a sample. But notice, it's now about 1 out of 3, instead of 1 out of 6. At 1000 people, you'll have about 400 knowing. Now it's almost 50/50. The more people you ask, the closer to 50/50 it will be, assuming they're being honest.

Example: you roll a 6-sided die 12 times. It's not going to be an even spread with 2 of each number, in fact, a couple numbers will appear 4 times and a few won't even show up at all! Now roll it 600 times. You still don't quite have 100 of each number, but it's a lot closer, with one having 90, one having 80, another having 115, and so on. But that doesn't mean the die was rigged, every number had an equal chance of appearing.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

do you guys think that cam sites are pretty mainstream or still a bit unknown by the general public?

I am SUPER open about camming and I can say that it is for sure unknown. 9/10 people have to ask me what it is after I tell them I webcam. They always say, "Like skype???" This needs its own thread.

 

[PunkInDrublic]

I think a lot has to do with how much time the dudes spend on the internet. Guys I know in real life don't use the internet much at all. Amazon, Youtube, Facebook and that's pretty much it. They have no idea what a camgirl is.

 

[Gen]

I think a lot has to do with how much time the dudes spend on the internet. Guys I know in real life don't use the internet much at all. Amazon, Youtube, Facebook and that's pretty much it. They have no idea what a camgirl is.

Yeah, that's been my experience as well. Most of my internet-y type friends known what camgirls are (in fact, a lot of the girls I got to know on the internet when I was younger are either current or former camgirls, lol), but a lot of my friends have never heard of camming. And of those that have, I would reckon very few of them are members. I think there's a big difference between whether they've heard of it, or are members, too.

 

[Sevrin]

A lot of guys who surf for regular old porn on pay-sites are kind of intimidated by the very idea of having to pay a girl by the minute, when you're used to paying for something once through a subscription, downloading and then owning it forever. Tipping for no tangible return is another story altogether. There's this barrier that takes a bit of time to overcome. That's where I started out, and it took me a whole lot of time before I spent my first money on a cam model. Many, of course, will freeload, but a lot of porn pervs just give cam sites a pass altogether, because they're not freeloaders, but don't see themselves as cam pervs, either.

 

[RyanneMarie]

I don't know why this idea popped into my head (maybe Jessi's comment about IF you met someone in real life instead of on a cam site), but I thought I'd ask because I love thought experiments.

Hypothetical situation: you meet a guy at a bar, grocery store, doctor's office, skeet shooting competition--wherever people meet. You hit it off and go out on a date. A few dates later (or whatever your personal timeline is), you let him know what you do for a living. He's surprised, but you don't have to explain too much because it turns out he's a member of your particular camsite. The only reason he didn't recognize you is because you have your state blocked. My question is: does this make things weird/creepy? Would you dump him because he's a camsite member, even if that's not how you met? What if you know girls in whose rooms he's a regular? Would you ask them what he's like in pvts? If he's a generous tipper? Is it all too squicky to even deal with?

I'm interested in interrogating how far this us/them mentality goes. Is it JUST meeting through the site or is it the fact that a person is a member of a camsite at all? I understand WHY the line is drawn, but I'm curious as to WHERE exactly it's drawn.

Hahahaha, this actually happened to me...

 

[yossarian]

I don't know why this idea popped into my head (maybe Jessi's comment about IF you met someone in real life instead of on a cam site), but I thought I'd ask because I love thought experiments.

Hypothetical situation: you meet a guy at a bar, grocery store, doctor's office, skeet shooting competition--wherever people meet. You hit it off and go out on a date. A few dates later (or whatever your personal timeline is), you let him know what you do for a living. He's surprised, but you don't have to explain too much because it turns out he's a member of your particular camsite. The only reason he didn't recognize you is because you have your state blocked. My question is: does this make things weird/creepy? Would you dump him because he's a camsite member, even if that's not how you met? What if you know girls in whose rooms he's a regular? Would you ask them what he's like in pvts? If he's a generous tipper? Is it all too squicky to even deal with?

I'm interested in interrogating how far this us/them mentality goes. Is it JUST meeting through the site or is it the fact that a person is a member of a camsite at all? I understand WHY the line is drawn, but I'm curious as to WHERE exactly it's drawn.

Hahahaha, this actually happened to me...

What'd you do? :shock:

 

[Frogger__]

Really? When I hear people say this, I'm always a bit surprised. Maybe it's just the men I know, but out of the six guys I've told what I do, only one kinda knew what it was, and he said, "Oh, you mean like LiveJasmine? They have ads for that on my porn site, I always thought it was fake."

I think a lot has to do with how much time the dudes spend on the internet. Guys I know in real life don't use the internet much at all. Amazon, Youtube, Facebook and that's pretty much it. They have no idea what a camgirl is.

Hey guys, I'm pretty much a long time lurker but I really felt I had to reply because Punk and Natalia pretty much summed up my existence as an MFC member perfectly.. When I became a member I was probably 27ish (29 now) and I basically only used the internet for Facebook, tubesite porn (when I felt that itch) or to save funny pictures to my phone to send to friends.. One of the sites I used for funny pictures opens a pop up window for MFC every time you open a gallery, For years I just automatically closed it assuming it was just some scam porn site and never paid it any attention.. Until one day when I was bored *read intoxicated* I finally decided to see what the go was and discovered to my amazement that you could actually watch women taking their clothes off.. and not only that but they would interact with the room as well.. So I figured fuck it I'll make a fake email and sign up with a ridiculous username (still being wary and all) and see what this is really about... Since joining I've accumulated close to 24k+ reward points.. But before that fated day I had never even heard of a "Cam girl" nor even thought "Webcamming" was a remotely possible profession.. I just never fathomed that such a community could even exist until I stumbled upon it by pure accident.. And I still doubt 99% of my mates would even know what MFC or a Camsite was if I mentioned it to them... But I honestly don't feel like MFC is just for lonely pervs or guys lacking in social skills.. I'm a young-ish, rather attractive and moderately successful guy with an active social life and an equally active sex life.. I just find it to be a place that I can relax sometimes after a hard day and grace a lovely lady with a bit of my hard earned money in exchange for some no strings attached social and occasional visual interaction.. That being said and to get back on thread topic after my some what massively rambling digression.. I have actually met a couple of girls from MFC.. One I met on mfc and became friends with outside of the site due to.. I dunno.. Compatible thought process I guess you'd call it... We just got each other in that occasional way that some people do.. And the other is an ex girlfriend... She was a model before I was a member.. And I was a member before I met her and knew she was a model... And neither affected our relationship in anyway..

 

[tiana_wild]

I've sent out 23,718 marriage proposals to ladies on MFC so far. I haven't been accepted as of yet. I'm almost ready to give up and move onto Streammate or Chaturbate. I hear they get married to big tippers all the time.


Note to the ladies of the forum: If you're on MFC and haven't received my invitation for wedded bliss be patient, I'm working my way through the list as fast as I can.

Hmm, I'm not a patient person, and I feel left out! :icon-lol: :lol:

 

[AmberCutie]

But I honestly don't feel like MFC is just for lonely pervs or guys lacking in social skills.. I'm a young-ish, rather attractive and moderately successful guy with an active social life and an equally active sex life.. I just find it to be a place that I can relax sometimes after a hard day and grace a lovely lady with a bit of my hard earned money in exchange for some no strings attached social and occasional visual interaction.

:text-goodpost:

 

[Coog]

So if my partner was still spending $100+ a month on a certain camgirl I'd probably be bothered a bit, especially if he was getting privates or Skype shows. I have a regular who won a skype once and refused it because he felt that was "crossing into inappropriate territory for a married man". If I saw camgirls as just porn it probably wouldn't bother me at all if my partner was a member and watching them, but since camgirls are more social interaction and a sort of "friend" that you masturbate with, then, yeah, I'd be bothered by it.

Actually, now that I say all this I don't think I could date a member because the conversation of "I'd really like it if you'd stop spending money on MFC now that we're serious" would be awkward because he could easily come back with "Then I want you to stop working there". Plus like Natalia said, if we ever broke up he'd know the best way to get revenge.

I certainly think there is a line with the whole inappropriate territory and that starts where you'd end up hurting a partner. Each to their own and I'm not one to judge, my own personal feelings are that I don't visit the site when I have a significant other, only exception to this is if we did it as a couple.

I know details for a few models but I'd never ever disclose them even if we had a falling out, that's not cool but maybe that's just me.

Back on topic, I've met 2 camgirls in person, both were just after losing a date raffle. One I went ice skating and a fair with. The other I went to the zoo with. I hadn't said about meeting up and if anything they both put the idea forward. The first I remain friends with and we're even facebook friends, the second recently returned to camming having left and I speak with her on mfc from time to time. I went into the meets with my eyes open and not expecting anything and met two nice girls.

 

[Frogger__]

But I honestly don't feel like MFC is just for lonely pervs or guys lacking in social skills.. I'm a young-ish, rather attractive and moderately successful guy with an active social life and an equally active sex life.. I just find it to be a place that I can relax sometimes after a hard day and grace a lovely lady with a bit of my hard earned money in exchange for some no strings attached social and occasional visual interaction.

:text-goodpost:

Cheers Amber, Kudos from the veritable Queen Bee herself on what is essentially my cherry pop post is most sincerely appreciated :icon-redface:

 

[SinSeraTea]

This is interesting to me because I just had this happen basically.

One of my good friends is an RMT I trade massages with. After a few months of this, I figured I should tell him what I do, thinking he might be a bit perturbed by it. Turns out he was super excited by the idea and has interest in camgirls/sexworkers in general and we had a long talk about my career camming. I really love getting a better idea of the side of those who pay us for our company.

It would depend on the relationship I had with that person as to how much/what kind of integration I would have between camlife and partner.

For my RMT friend, he and I discuss camming in a practical way. I talk about what I'm doing in public chat, why I'm doing it, he offers suggestions for what might really resonate with members. This is the extent of our discussions at this time. I wouldn't talk about privates or sexual things with him because I don't want to pursue a sexual relationship with him, but this is such a huge part of my life. I like being able to talk to my friends about it.

For a person I met that I was very attracted to and interested in starting a relationship with I would not be bothered as long as they were using their money responsibly and taking care of themselves and our relationship emotionally. I would *not* ask the models he patronized what he was like because I think that's a breach of trust and I really wouldn't want to make the model uncomfortable by letting her know my boyfriend comes into her room.... people have guilt I can't control. No matter how positively I felt about it there's lots of girls out there that would be made uncomfy by the knowledge.

I don't think it would make things weird for me. I'm very thirsty to know what the other side of camming is like. Having a partner who was a member before he met me, he might be more experienced in that side of camming than I am. If I felt comfortable and he felt comfortable with it, I'd probably ask him to sit silently in my room and tell me how I was doing.

That said, it would depend how my partner was interacting with me and with other girls. I don't think I'd be attracted to the type of person that went into girls rooms and harassed them, but if I found out my partner was that type of member you can bet I'd dump him hard and fast. The same way I ban hammer.

The same way with Steph's hitting it off/not-hitting it off scenario with someone who recognized her. If I feel comfortable and like I have a good connection with someone this is a side of my life I'd open up to them and not feel bad about. The story is very different if I wasn't connecting well with someone... and there are so many reasons why I might not be connecting well. I might be having a rough day, week, month, I might not be primed for camming, I might feel rotten about my camming at the time, I might feel personally unsafe for some reason related to or not related to camming, I might feel overwhelmed between school and camming and have divorced myself from my cam girl reality and might not be ready to shift from schoolsera to onlinesera.

Though I do note that sometimes they are the same person, such as when ACFing in class instead of paying attention.

This kind of thing has never happened to me. Now I'm thinking about it and will be a little bit more prepared.

Say I'm out and a member-who-recognized me approached, a clever member-who-recognized-me would try and broach some conversation with me to see how I'm feeling. I'm pretty open and friendly. If I seem like I'm in a great mood and super friendly which I often do, the best method to bring it up I feel might just be directly. "Do you do work online at all my dear?" might be a good broach.

To which I'd respond in a variety of ways.

If I were feeling uncomfortable I might outright lie. At that point it is up to the member-who-recognized-me to decide how they want to continue that interaction. They could call me out, and force me onto the defensive. At which point I might take my 'poke in the eye and run away' technique. Sera is a fearful beast sometimes. I would hope they would respectfully apologize and go home and send me an MFC mail asking if someone made them uncomfortable and apologizing if it was an inopportune time to reach out like that. I'd respond to that fairly well.

If I were feeling good, I would probably ask if the person had read my writing online or my videos *winkwink*. I'd hate to think someone were asking me about camming if they weren't referring to it. XP The fact that they have seen me online becomes the focal point of our interaction. I'd be interested to find out if they'd been in my room before, what point I was at in my camming, what I was doing, whether or not they liked it.

If a member were immediately interested in my personal life directly after ascertaining that I'm a camgirl I would become wildly defensive and probably have a minor panic attack. I would be very upset. To me that is the end destination of the conversation. Where the conversation starts is that we know each other online and I'd want to focus on that first and see how they were conversing with me through that conversation before continuing on to anything personal. I think it would be safe to say if I asked about personal life for the member-who-recognized-me, then the member-who-recognized-me ought to feel comfortable asking me about mine.

Edit: I have more thoughts and feels!

I wouldn't be bothered if my partner saw camgirls in a serious way as long as I felt like my emotional needs were being taken care of and they were honest with me about it. I'd feel a bit lied to if he tried to hide it from me, especially if he knew what I do... but I'd understand that and start the dialogue about it and expect him to continue it. Unless he explained a cogent reason for not wanting to talk to me about it. But that might indicate we couldn't be partners because I wouldn't feel very emotionally taken care of I think.

I'm very open to the idea that my partner can get joy out of hanging around with, being sexual with and even being in love with other women. I'm more familiar with the idea of my partner going out with other women or men in the real world. Some people interact better online/get what they need better online. As long as the relationships they have with other women either in person or online were respectful and rewarding I'd be pleased as punch if my partner were a patron of camsites.

 

[SNATCH]

It kind of depends on the person && the situation... I always tell everyone no, regardless. I don't meet people from the internet, esp ones that have seen me half naked. Common sense guys.

I had a reg a couple years ago, who always was talking about meeting in Vegas to hang out, or. You know, whatever... && at first I thought he was just saying it, just to say it, cause he was always pretty vocal with fantasies. But then he kept saying he would pay for it, blah blah blah. One day I finally just asked him if he was serious. He said he would def consider it seriously, if I was okay with it. I had to tell him that I thought it was just his fantasy thing && I was going along with that, && that I was totally fine to keep going along with it, && play out the fantasy, as long as he realized that I was never going to meet him in person. He said he understood, && then slowly faded away. Which sucks, because he was quite a big tipper. =P. But I'd rather be honest, than fuck with someone.

Some random guys are just assholes, && they'll come in && go on for awhile about how they want to meet up you say no, then they keep saying they would do this or that, blah blah blah to meet you... You keep saying no. You make it clearer than brand new glass. They still don't get it. Then they offer up personal info, phone numbers, emails, etc. So I tell them to fuck off, I ban them for 60 days, && I screenshot that shit, && post it on my Twitter or MFC profile, because I'm a fucking asshole.

Some of my regs && I are pretty damn friendly, && if the conditions were right, I would probably meet them. But the conditions will never be right, so it's never going to happen. Sometimes they mention this or that, but they know it's not really ever going to happen. I've made that pretty clear. I'm also married, && everyone knows that too, so they know that shit isn't going to work well.

 

[mutantdonut]

Some random guys are just assholes, && they'll come in && go on for awhile about how they want to meet up you say no, then they keep saying they would do this or that, blah blah blah to meet you... You keep saying no. You make it clearer than brand new glass. They still don't get it. Then they offer up personal info, phone numbers, emails, etc. So I tell them to fuck off, I ban them for 60 days, && I screenshot that shit, && post it on my Twitter or MFC profile, because I'm a fucking asshole.

I'm trying my best to understand those persistent guys who push and push. I have a female friend who had pesky guy wanting to be her boyfriend with an extreme passion. He would text her about a dozen times each day pleading his case to take him, along with random calls and voicemails, in spite of numerous rejections. Oh and btw, she had a boyfriend at the time.

That's just one example of pushiness that i've noticed during my lifetime. The theory i can come up with is that the persistent fellas seem to have a powerful itch they can't seem to overcome, to the point where they're desensitized to rejection, blindly clinging to hope that the other person, to which they're harassing, will change their mind some day. Perhaps they hope to wear the other person down.

 

[Reina Lynn]

I'm not opposed to meeting regulars IRL. Granted, the fact that I live outside the U.S. makes that more unlikely, but if the opportunity arose, I'd be (generally) open to it.

That doesn't apply to anyone who is pushy, harrassing, or a jerk, obviously. If I feel any creep factor, I am ultra-protective of my location and shut down any possibility that it will ever happen. I'm not mean, but I make it clear that a meeting is impractical, unlikely, and not the reason I cam.

If I click with and form a friendly interaction with someone who has shown himself to be nice, respectful, smart, and enjoyable, I'm not closed off to the idea of a coffee or lunch meeting. I'd just want the boundaries very clear from the start as to what the expectations were and what we were each thinking about the experience so no one experiences awkwardness or discomfort by disparate hopes and ideas.

Like PlayboyMegan, I'm pretty open about camming and what I do. Since I don't have a family, if I'm caught out, it doesn't affect my life that much unless someone is dangerous or a stalker. I'm also old enough that I'm not worried about future work, etc.

 

[Anonymous]

I would hope that most members who are about to meet a model in person (for a dinner date, for example) have realistic expectations, and aren't expecting her to be in cam girl mode that evening...talking about her toy collection and biggest cock she's ever had. :mrgreen: You should expect to have a nice dinner with a great lady, and probably talk about movies, hobbies, politics, etc.