TRUE LOVE BETWEEN A CAM GIRL AND A MEMBER

[Sevrin]

Sorry for being a cold heart but life isn't a fairy tale.


That wasn't "True love" or any other excuses like this to say that the relationship didn't work out its being too innocent.

You are an independent human being and you don't need a true love to carry in your life. Some people are monogamist, some are into open relationships and others like the virtual attention (my reason to be a cam girl tbh) and even other don't want to get involved ever.

I think you already have your own opinion about this, you want your partner to quit visiting cam websites, if that doesn't happen you will blame "True Love" and broke up saying he didnt love you.

Point of views etc. Talk to him about it, see what kind of relationship he wants and if you are open or not.

My opinion: i don't care if my SO have a virtual relationship with other people, as long as i still feel loved, open relationships works for me.

They cannot work for you, so its too personal. Talk with your SO about it to see what kind of person you are dealing with.

Whom are you replying to? It applies to no one who has posted. The OP didn't say she has a partner watching cams and no one else has mentioned "true love".

Anyway, cams are for pervs who are lacking something in their lives or their relationships. Most people's lives and relationships suck, so cams provide relief.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

Sorry for being a cold heart but life isn't a fairy tale.


That wasn't "True love" or any other excuses like this to say that the relationship didn't work out its being too innocent.

You are an independent human being and you don't need a true love to carry in your life. Some people are monogamist, some are into open relationships and others like the virtual attention (my reason to be a cam girl tbh) and even other don't want to get involved ever.

I think you already have your own opinion about this, you want your partner to quit visiting cam websites, if that doesn't happen you will blame "True Love" and broke up saying he didnt love you.

Point of views etc. Talk to him about it, see what kind of relationship he wants and if you are open or not.

My opinion: i don't care if my SO have a virtual relationship with other people, as long as i still feel loved, open relationships works for me.

They cannot work for you, so its too personal. Talk with your SO about it to see what kind of person you are dealing with.

Anyway, cams are for pervs who are lacking something in their lives or their relationships. Most people's lives and relationships suck, so cams provide relief.

I don't think all men who watch cams have relationship or life problems. Sometimes the only thing they're lacking is entertainment, and we provide that for them.

 

[GweenBlack]

Sorry for being a cold heart but life isn't a fairy tale.


That wasn't "True love" or any other excuses like this to say that the relationship didn't work out its being too innocent.

You are an independent human being and you don't need a true love to carry in your life. Some people are monogamist, some are into open relationships and others like the virtual attention (my reason to be a cam girl tbh) and even other don't want to get involved ever.

I think you already have your own opinion about this, you want your partner to quit visiting cam websites, if that doesn't happen you will blame "True Love" and broke up saying he didnt love you.

Point of views etc. Talk to him about it, see what kind of relationship he wants and if you are open or not.

My opinion: i don't care if my SO have a virtual relationship with other people, as long as i still feel loved, open relationships works for me.

They cannot work for you, so its too personal. Talk with your SO about it to see what kind of person you are dealing with.

Whom are you replying to? It applies to no one who has posted. The OP didn't say she has a partner watching cams and no one else has mentioned "true love".

Anyway, cams are for pervs who are lacking something in their lives or their relationships. Most people's lives and relationships suck, so cams provide relief.

This one

I have the same beliefs as you. And if this love is possible, sooner or later they will break ... if he does not quit to visit other cam girls. I think is a really hard true love, but never say never and impossible can be possible.

this is the reply i was referring to

 

[Sevrin]

This one

I have the same beliefs as you. And if this love is possible, sooner or later they will break ... if he does not quit to visit other cam girls. I think is a really hard true love, but never say never and impossible can be possible.

this is the reply i was referring to

That was about a hypothetical relationship.

 

[GweenBlack]

This one

I have the same beliefs as you. And if this love is possible, sooner or later they will break ... if he does not quit to visit other cam girls. I think is a really hard true love, but never say never and impossible can be possible.

this is the reply i was referring to

That was about a hypothetical relationship.

Change in my reply SO and partner for Hypothetically in front of it and the answer is still the same.

Talk to your SO, decide the limits. Be happy, Chill or GTFO of the relationship.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Without wishing to generalise, I'd be willing to bet that the majority of members on MFC are single

I always figured most members were married or in relationships. Single guys can go to bars and do whatever they want, why would they go to a camsite when they could just go out and be around different women in real life?

Here are just a few reasons:
-socially awkward
-even single men enjoy porn
-use it as purely entertainment, it's no different than watching TV
-view it as a strip club, single men love strip clubs
-boredom
-they can't sleep

I think I come across about half and half probably. But rarely guys in relationships. Most of the guys who I have communicated with who are married have some sort of issue in the marriage (or so they say). The typical members I meet on myfreecams all have one thing in common, and that's loneliness. Doesn't mean all members there are lonely, but the ones I interact with seem to be.

Bear in mind the majority of members who visit camsites never interact with a model. It also depends on what sort of person you are and how your mind works. For many guys I'm sure that meeting the right girl would be enough to trigger themselves out of the routine of watching camsites, but if they went out with a camgirl? Well they've got that involved in camsites and now they're actually dating a camgirl, so I don't know if that'd make them more tempted to stick around a camsite.

Members do leave MFC, but if I look at my friendslist I find that more members just move from model to model. Even members who make a show about leaving MFC seem to stick around, I'm sure loads just slip away, but out of those I've known who've left fairly easily, they've only come to camsites for a few months, or have never come online on a day to day basis. Other members seem to lurk around, change the models they're visiting or stop tipping so much as though that's the ultimate problem.

Only certain types of guys enjoy camsites. Most guys I know have zero interest in them, have never heard of them or find them boring. It's only the odd few who absolutely love them. I think it's like marmite, you either love it or hate it.

When I've been talking about members in this thread, I'm talking about the members who are very emotionally involved in camsites rather than over-all. The OP is directly asking about members who've dated and married camgirls, which is going to take a member who has been emotionally, physically and financially involved in a camsite and with a cam model. Your average lurker just isn't going to get into that sort of relationship so there's no point even mentioning those members.

I know that several models on here who've dated a member and seem to have incredible relationships and marriages with them. As far as I can tell most of those partners do still visit camsites but with certain guidelines or with the person they're with. I have also heard many stories of where it's gone tits up and the dude has turned into a complete psychopath. You just never know who you're talking to on the internet, so it's a bit of a lottery.

 

[EdgarAllenWhoa]

*as per above

"All I've had so far today is like, six gummy bears and some scotch. "

Gotcha here you little wiggly fish you!!!! lol

 

[LadyLuna]

As per the "most of them are lonely". Possibly. But I know one gentleman who is in what appears to be a very loving relationship. He's allowed to visit, but he can't pay for sexual stuff, and he can't watch if there's below-the-belt nudity. If he's in my room, I give a "pussy warning" or "ass warning" before I show anything. Boobies are apparently fine. He's polite, and respectful. There's always the possibility that he's lying and his wife doesn't actually exist, but I doubt it. If this is a game to him, he must have a database about it because I've never caught him saying something that cast doubt on something said before.

 

[BlowKisses]

This one

I have the same beliefs as you. And if this love is possible, sooner or later they will break ... if he does not quit to visit other cam girls. I think is a really hard true love, but never say never and impossible can be possible.

this is the reply i was referring to

That was about a hypothetical relationship.

No. Is not hypothetocal relationship....

 

[Red7227]

This one

I have the same beliefs as you. And if this love is possible, sooner or later they will break ... if he does not quit to visit other cam girls. I think is a really hard true love, but never say never and impossible can be possible.

this is the reply i was referring to

That was about a hypothetical relationship.

No. Is not hypothetocal relationship....

well done Kate on becoming an official camgirl/ISIS agent.

If you are the jealous kind you will need to deal with him still going to cam sites. They are a lot of fun and full of pretty girls who are lovely to talk to. Its a nice place to hang out for a couple hours even if you avoid all the fuck machines and butt plugs. True love will survive these things, if its not true love he would have strayed eventually with or without cam sites.

 

[PlayboyMegan]

This one

I have the same beliefs as you. And if this love is possible, sooner or later they will break ... if he does not quit to visit other cam girls. I think is a really hard true love, but never say never and impossible can be possible.

this is the reply i was referring to

That was about a hypothetical relationship.

No. Is not hypothetocal relationship....

well done Kate on becoming an official camgirl/ISIS agent.

If you are the jealous kind you will need to deal with him still going to cam sites. They are a lot of fun and full of pretty girls who are lovely to talk to. Its a nice place to hang out for a couple hours even if you avoid all the fuck machines and butt plugs. True love will survive these things, if its not true love he would have strayed eventually with or without cam sites.

I disagree. If it's true love, they will find a balance OR if it bothers her enough, she'll find a guy who would stop viewing cams for her.
You shouldn't have to feel insecure and uncomfortable in a relationship in the name of "true love."

 

[JoleneBrody]

A relationship is about BUILDING a life TOGETHER, not learning to just deal with the things that make you uncomfortable.

If you are both comfy with it, right on! If not and the other person is sneaking around behind your back and lying, that is something completely different.
This would go for cam-sites and cupcakes equally, because the primary problem in my opinion is not the cam site... but the lying. Trust is the most important part of a relationship and if that isn't there... nothing else is.

 

[Deleted member 8603]

Why don't you guys talk over it and agree to voice your concerns openly and without judgment?

Everyone's relationships work different ways and you may be able to find middle ground or something each of you feels comfortable with.

 

[JordanBlack]

I don't think you can call it love or even partnership without two basic things,one is trust and the other communication. Until she doesn't actually have a sit down with her S/O, she won't solve a thing.

Asking for opinions from different people on the internet is perfectly fine, you'll have a lot of different answers, but it really boils down to them as a couple and their own code of DOs and DONTs. But that has to be discussed between them and not looking for approval or disapproval from other camgirls, because while we have the same profession and we might've experienced the same story, the opinions will vary from individual to individual.

Megan said it in an earlier post quite well, not all men go on camsites for a fap, some view it as a way to socialize in a non-strict environment, others do it out of boredom etc. Best thing is to ask your guy what draws him towards camsites so much.

I don't think you've mentioned in previous posts if you actually have asked him to stop and he refused, because that would be a totally different story.

:twocents-02cents:

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Seconding everyone else. It's also not just lying and doing it behind someone's back, it's that if you truly love someone you should want to put their happiness above your own selfish desires. Going to camsites as a member is fun, but it's not the end of the world if you don't go. It's hardly like not going to them is going to ruin your life and make you miserable, and if that's the case then there's probably something much bigger going on. It's a luxury, it's fun, it's not essential.

I personally enjoy going out, making myself look amazing and flirting with guys. I enjoy the attention. Do I do this while in a relationship? No of course not. Do I care? No, not really. I care about my boyfriends happiness over things like that.

These situations are never black and white. In most situations when someone does cheat or look elsewhere they're missing something either in the relationship or in life. That could be a whole range of things. If I were in a relationship and my boyfriend refused to stop visiting camsites for me then it wouldn't be the right relationship for me. I think in any situation there's a limit, people say that they don't want to be controlled, but this isn't that unreasonable, the fact is, if they're willing to risk your happiness and your relationship over something then they've made their choice. There's not much you can do. You don't have to put up with something in the name of love. You should both be willing to compromise and give things up for each other.

 

[RainyDayGuy]

You just never know who you're talking to on the internet, so it's a bit of a lottery.

From my personal observations in life, most people don't really "know" the people they talk to IRL. The Internet just makes it easier to put up a facade that you think others might like. The filter of not being around a person physically is but one of many layers of artifice that people build up around themselves. So, you know, buyer beware. (That's my bit of love advice, sounds kinda bitter, but what ya gonna do?)

 

[IsabellaSnow]

You just never know who you're talking to on the internet, so it's a bit of a lottery.

From my personal observations in life, most people don't really "know" the people they talk to IRL. The Internet just makes it easier to put up a facade that you think others might like. The filter of not being around a person physically is but one of many layers of artifice that people build up around themselves. So, you know, buyer beware. (That's my bit of love advice, sounds kinda bitter, but what ya gonna do?)

Definitely true, but in real life when you meet someone you tend to meet real life friends, maybe see the house they live in, meet their family. You also see their body language, you see how they talk to people other than you and how others treat them. All these factors weigh into learning about what a person is really like.
True, sometimes you get cases where someone was doing something and no one knew what was going on. For example, my boyfriend's sister was married to a pedophile and had no idea about it. She was working long shifts, 12 hours a day at least, and he was unemployed, bringing children back to their house and doing a whole load of horrible stuff while she was at work. She only found out after he'd been caught and convicted. Though the guy apparently seemed like a dick (according to my boyfriend), you'd never have thought he'd be capable of anything like that. Like you say, you really never know.

On the internet this is made so much worse. You have very little indication of what a member is like. It's usually fairly easy to work out a pattern of behaviour to tell if someone may have some sort of mental issue, they give themselves away, but if someone's perfectly sane they could probably hide almost anything about their real life from me, which if I knew them in real life I'd probably find out sooner or later or at least would have more signals to go by.

There's also that though there are a whole load of completely sane, normal people on the internet, it's also definitely a place that people with social difficulties are drawn to. Myfreecams is a classic example of this. Though I've met plenty of seemingly sane people around, I've also met a large proportion of people who definitely have a serious lack of social understanding, in many I suspect it's a mental disorder, and some are downright crazy! Maybe it's simply because in real life I choose my own friends, so if someone starts acting weird and crazy I won't communicate with them, while on camsites the men choose me instead, meaning I come across more guys like this. I don't know.

 

[BlowKisses]

Thank you to all of you for sharing your thoughts, opinions, beliefs and even more than that. I'm checking daily to see new posts

 

[Irishmut]

Hello everyone! I'm new to this site but I'm going to get my feet wet with this topic. Ahem (clears metaphorical throat and actual throat, I think I'm getting sick).

It's very interesting hearing peoples responses to this topic. Some have a more positive outlook on camming and the relationships that are developed. On the other hand, others have a more dark realistic approach. Truth of the matter is, you never know who someone is. I feel that's part of the fun of meeting new people. Not everyone you meet will be right for you, regardless of your relationship with them. True Love is an oxymoron. While some feel they may have it, it's not essential to a healthy relationship. We put some much emphasis on this word that if the person we meet doesn't meet our expectations we assume they can't be "the one." For me, true love, isn't about the good times, its about how "as a couple" you react to the bad ones. If you think you are going to find someone who likes everything you like, has the same beliefs as you, understands you all the time, than sorry, one of you are lying to the other.

As for the members who are at MFC, we are many bwahaha. (sorry). The internet is both different and the same as the "real world." The only real big difference I find with going to a bar and getting on MFC is the first impression. On the internet you can be who you are without having judgement cast on you. For example, I go up to you in a bar and start a conversation with you, I'm nervous, your nervous, wrong thing gets said and that's that. Same situation on MFC, you already know I'm a perv, and you (I hope), don't hold it against me. All the awkwardness is gone. Now it's me being me and you being you. That being said, I'm sure there are a lot of sickos on MFC, there are a lot of sickos in your life. They are at your churches, your grocery store, the gas station, literately everywhere! OMG! Oh btw, girls are very scary to approach. It's the eyes I think, that's why I like the blind girls, wink wink . . . .hahaha was that wrong? I think maybe yes.

Sorry for the long post, I meant to get my feet wet, not struggle to keep afloat. I am single. Do at times I feel lonely, of course. Am I socially awkward? In the beginning, sure. Some call it shy, others awkward, I call it me. We are books, written with our life experiences. Just because I may not always have the right thing to say at the right time, don't discount me based off your biased judgment. Life is short and the opportunities for love are always few and far between. If you find someone who makes you happy, loves you for you without trying to change you, wants to spend those days in your company for no other reason then to see your face, to hold your hand for no reason than to feel your warmth, to hear the sound of your voice, to stumble to make you feel better when you know all they are doing is making it worse, is it so hard to love them back? Stop trying to find the faults, its what make us (and I mean everyone) us. If you don't want him on the MFC site, give him a reason to stop. If he respects you and loves you, he will do it behind your back, lol j/k! Im being serious though. Not really, okay maybe a little. Seriously though he will stop, or he wont. But he might! Probably not though.

Long story short, there isn't a manual on the "dos and dont's" of finding love. Hell, most love is found on dating websites! What difference does it make if you meet him/her on the street or on MFC?

p.s., I know that last paragraph was a travesty of the English sentence structure. I never know when to use the damn semicolon. Damn you semicolon! ;;;;;;;;

 

[motherbrain]

My fiance and I met on MFC. We started chatting on a slow night and he was in my room every night after that. He wasn't a huge tipper but we hit it off so well I loved having him around. He had been in a dead-end relationship for several years and I was bitterly single, so we were strictly just friends and had no intention on falling in love.
Over time he had become my best friend and we would text and Skype outside of MFC all day every day. Eventually my lease was ending and I wanted to move somewhere new... I said I was considering moving out by him even though he was 2000 miles away, again, just as friends. The plans were made and I started saving; as time went on we realized we were in love and we could be really happy together.
TL;DR: We met on MFC, we lurk other models together AND individually every day. In the end, he tells me I'm still his favorite model on the site and gets sad when he has to miss my shows. In my opinion that goes to show that he always went to the site just to hang out somewhere on the Internet and not to look for love. So, like stated previously, it really does depend on the intentions of the member.

 

[All_Mina]

^^^^ I think you hit it on the head, especially with that last sentence. It seems to be a common occurrence among the very few camgirl/member relationships that progressed romantically, that it was never intended to be that way, it just sort of happened over time.

 

[MarisaLynn]

I agree! MFC is purely entertainment, it's no different than watching TV.

Adults should know right from wrong.. If, you need to tell your partner what "NOT TO DO". Then you are probably with the wrong guy. ??? :dance:

 

[ZanderPoonHandler]

I agree! MFC is purely entertainment, it's no different than watching TV.

Adults should know right from wrong.. If, you need to tell your partner what "NOT TO DO". Then you are probably with the wrong guy. ??? :dance:

Life is full of grey areas. What is right and wrong to you isn't necessarily the end all be all for everyone else. That is why in any relationship, rules and boundaries are a good thing. There is absolutely nothing wrong with telling your significant other your wants, needs and expectations. It's called communication!

 

[Bocefish]

If you "need" to tell your partner what "NOT TO DO" you are probably a controlling bitch.

:twocents-02cents:

 

[JoleneBrody]

If you "need" to tell your partner what "NOT TO DO" you are probably a controlling bitch.

:twocents-02cents:

Rule #1 for boce, do not tell boce what not to do to you... he is telling you right now, NOT TO DO THAT.

:roll:

yup, do not do the not do to do to you not to do...

 

[Nordling]

I agree! MFC is purely entertainment, it's no different than watching TV.

Adults should know right from wrong.. If, you need to tell your partner what "NOT TO DO". Then you are probably with the wrong guy. ??? :dance:

Life is full of grey areas. What is right and wrong to you isn't necessarily the end all be all for everyone else. That is why in any relationship, rules and boundaries are a good thing. There is absolutely nothing wrong with telling your significant other your wants, needs and expectations. It's called communication!

Telling and informing are not the same thing. "Do NOT do..." or "I'm not really fond of..." Different.