EdgarAllenWhoa said:
Now do I like those skinny bags of bones that "grace us" on those ridiculous Fashion magazines of course not! They aren't even real themselves with all the Photoshopping and airbrushing that occurs not to mention the rest of the nonsense of what the feminine form should look. I have nieces and I don't want them to have a tarnished body image of themselves from those Skeletors..and me personally I love women with curves!
Great. I'm a curvy girl myself, but wtf? I know a few "bags of bones" who eat their faces off, it's just how they are. No need to be rude about skinny, fat or inbetween sized people.
There are exceptions, like there are skinny people who eat loads, there are really fat people who eat very little or a normal amount.
In my experience though, some people do have better or worse metabolism's than others, but everyone I know who is over weight doesn't think they eat that much. They do, I've seen how much they eat, it is an insane amount to me. With no exercise there's not really much reason to eat more than 1500 kcal a day. For me to maintain a "healthy weight" I have to eat about 900-1000 kcal per day (without much exercise).
I remember I used to have an idea of what "fat" was. And then I went to uni. I met a few people who made what I used to think of as fat look small. I had a best friend who was very overweight, and ate so much shit that you could see why. He was pretty in denial about it. Actually we were a bit mean, my friend used to pour his two litre bottle of sprite down the sink when he brought it over and made him drink water. Thing is, it's hard to see someone you care about so obviously harming themselves. If someone's over weight as a genetic thing, then it's different, as a friend all you can be is supportive. Actually hanging out with this particular friend made me gain a stone and a half very quickly because I followed his eating patterns without realising.
I can't really call anyone lazy though, I am very lazy, and I eat loads.
Shaun__ said:
I was in a model's room once and she started explaining to us, for several minutes, how a certain body type is disliked by women in general and her in particular. It happened to be my body type. She had never seen me, so it was not being directed at me. Still it was unpleasant to say the least, and I would not want to do that to other people. I may slip up every so often, but I try not to say what I find unattractive. It just seems so unnecessary.
I have admitted before to members that I don't like overweight men (when they ask me my type). It's my only type, I always go for slim men. My reasons are that I have one weakness, and that is weight. I have been insecure about it since I turned about 10 and suddenly it was there! I don't like the idea that a man I'm with shares the same weakness. The other reason is in my family I'm curvy, so is my mother, and the men in my family are naturally all muscle. I don't think I can handle it the other way round now, just confusing. But... although because of these reasons I'd probably never date anyone very overweight I have found several very overweight men sexually attractive. There's something wonderfully safe about a big guy, and it makes me feel all small, which is awesome. Plus if they have some muscle underneath usually they can pick me up! Oh, and the best hugs!
I don't think it's always a bad thing to say what you find unattractive as long as you're not doing it in a cruel nasty manner or to deliberately hurt someone. There is obviously a majority decision with both women and men on what we find attractive, but really I think the most popular things come from personality. With mfc you don't really want to point it out if you don't find overweight people sexy as chances are a fair amount of people will be overweight.
This woman is unfortunate that she puts on weight all in one place. It must be very difficult for her. If she's happy, well, I'm glad she is happy and I love her positive attitude. She does seem to have a good life. I hope it lasts much longer
Over eating to the point you're struggling moving around... Well it's like with smokers, you can choose to continue chain smoking through your whole life, but chances are it will effect you and your family negatively, and probably kill you. Over eating is not much different.
There is a problem with obesity. My fat friend used to be like "well i'm not
that big, look at these American's, they're massive!" I measured his waist once, all 3 of my friends could fit into the area with room to spare, and none of us are skinny. It's a scary thing. The scary thing is he really isn't "that big" compared to others. The worst thing for me was that he could lose it really easily if he just cut down on mcdonalds and fizzy drinks.