I'm gonna be real as a person who struggles with addiction myself too, it's really about him. Plenty of people use these sites in moderation. It's a pretty well known thing that lots of people with addiction struggles try to avoid taking any responsibility, at least early on in treatment and realizing that they have them. This whole thread is more a mental health/ addiction thread imho. I don't see how trying to sell a product is fostering addiction. Although if you give me specific examples of how they "try to foster addiction" I'd be willing to consider them.
I'm not down at the cheese factory complaining because I got 10 extra pounds, and I feel like they forced me into shoving all that cheese down my throat? That's on me. And I don't want to shut down the cheese factory and try to ruin the enjoyment others have of it, because I shoved too much in my face. Hope my stance here makes sense, put bluntly as it is, because I'm busy with other stuff. I think it's great this guy seeks support for his problems, but I think this is an unwise and foolish place to be doing it. Put bluntly.
Oh, I agree that someone is dealing with addiction has to get themselves right in whatever way works for them. And it should be clear that they really have to make it their next goal in life if their addictive behaviour is hurting other people along with them. My comment about the sites is that they are designed with lights and sounds that attract user attention and enhance that dopamine rush. Other features such as "knights" in rooms and special member designations and lounges are of course intended to encourage people to stay on site, as is the feature that presents a list of models apparently similar to recently visited models or regular models currently offline.
Like casinos are designed to not have clocks or windows and to have flashing lights and sparkles and high ringing noises and in a resort complex or on a cruse ship, the casino floor is located so as to be between places where guests want to go. This is just from what I've read, btw; I haven't gambled in a resort or on a cruise.
Add: yes, this thread was started by him to be about him. And I think he is self-absorbed and oblivious as to how it may appear to others. I mentioned earlier today that other people actually made helpful and educational contributions to the thread since early on.
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