The Addictive Qualities of Tipping Camgirls

[Deleted member 72761]

My 2 cents as a total geek....
I genuinely can't tell you how many thousands of dollars I've spent on LARP gear in the last 7 years.
I have definitely spent over $50k on lingerie.
I've spent only about $1-$2k on MTG cards.
Again many thousands on Cosplaying at Cons.
Again reckless amounts going to bars when I was younger.

My point?

The initial post mentions dopamine right at the start.

We get one life, and we should enjoy it in our own ways.
If something is fun and you can afford it, do it...and don't feel shame for it later when you look back.
All of the things I mentioned were well within my spending limits and also over either long periods of time or at times when I needed the extra cheering up.
Sure, it adds up but so do your food bill and car costs...and they're not even fun.

Again, staying within your entertainment budget is important, it's fine to go over sometimes but not too much.

Now if you'll excuse me....I recently got into Warhammer and need to waste my hard earnt money...

This was very pleasant and rewarding to read. Thank you for sharing.

 

[Jihen]

I’ve definitely on the beginning side of an addiction myself. At the moment I’ve been spending pretty modestly, but psychologically it’s getting a little much. I I’m at the point now where all it is I’m just thinking about chaturbate. Wondering when this model will be on, how I should divvy my tokens for the month, how I rank my favorite models, etc.

Also after buying a nice healthy token package and have that dark purple name, I’ve been getting more attention from my favorite models. So I gotta start to set some financial boundaries, and more importantly find other ways to keep my brain occupied.

I know the hole it’s trying to fill up (stress, perceived loneliness, etc.) so I just gotta find other ways to fill the hole as well.

Just to reference some other posts, in no way am I blaming models or the site or anything like that. If I’m addicted to food at a restaurant, I don’t blame the chef.

“It’s YOUR fault for making the food so good!!”

It’d be fun to see that though. Lol.

 

[Deleted member 72761]

psychologically it’s getting a little much. I I’m at the point now where all it is I’m just thinking about chaturbate. Wondering when this model will be on, how I should divvy my tokens for the month, how I rank my favorite models, etc.

This was me the first month, especially the first two weeks. It was all I thought about.

Also after buying a nice healthy token package and have that dark purple name, I’ve been getting more attention from my favorite models.

Although I'm not near as active as I used to be I still maintain dark purple and as such this comment of yours rings true for me too.

 

[RuthStrawberryblonde]

I’ve definitely on the beginning side of an addiction myself. At the moment I’ve been spending pretty modestly, but psychologically it’s getting a little much. I I’m at the point now where all it is I’m just thinking about chaturbate. Wondering when this model will be on, how I should divvy my tokens for the month, how I rank my favorite models, etc.

Also after buying a nice healthy token package and have that dark purple name, I’ve been getting more attention from my favorite models. So I gotta start to set some financial boundaries, and more importantly find other ways to keep my brain occupied.

I know the hole it’s trying to fill up (stress, perceived loneliness, etc.) so I just gotta find other ways to fill the hole as well.

Just to reference some other posts, in no way am I blaming models or the site or anything like that. If I’m addicted to food at a restaurant, I don’t blame the chef.

“It’s YOUR fault for making the food so good!!”

It’d be fun to see that though. Lol.

Actually the food industry is working that way, food designed purely for profit based on harnessing the human body's natural desires. Plenty of articles and documentaries about UPF in the news, reporting on this started at least 12 months ago.

 

[misterical]

I’ve definitely on the beginning side of an addiction myself. At the moment I’ve been spending pretty modestly, but psychologically it’s getting a little much. I I’m at the point now where all it is I’m just thinking about chaturbate. Wondering when this model will be on, how I should divvy my tokens for the month, how I rank my favorite models, etc.

Yeah, when it starts to feel like you're on a treadmill then it's time to step away for a bit.

 

[AussieCosplay]

Yeah, when it starts to feel like you're on a treadmill then it's time to step away for a bit.

...same on the other side of the screen TBCH, though we really should be better at pacing to avoid burnout. (Do as I say, not as I do on this one)

 

[ArcticKitty]

Actually the food industry is working that way, food designed purely for profit based on harnessing the human body's natural desires. Plenty of articles and documentaries about UPF in the news, reporting on this started at least 12 months ago.

I'm only lightly read about UPFs myself but it's pretty shocking how food processors and fast food chains and grocery stores optimise for creating the most habit-forming qualities, which strips out nuttritive value and leads to chronic health problems at relatively young ages.

 

[ArcticKitty]

Yeah, when it starts to feel like you're on a treadmill then it's time to step away for a bit.

I can only agree. Speaking hypothetically, I would not want to encourage a client to spend beyond their means or to be preoccupied in thinking about me. It may seem like it's not in my interests to discourage it but in addition to trying to be a decent human being in this world there's weighing the obvious need to make a living and desire for comforts with the personal cost in extracting the excess money from addicion - it's a chore and a grind and you just know it won't end well.

 

[Deleted member 72761]

...same on the other side of the screen TBCH, though we really should be better at pacing to avoid burnout. (Do as I say, not as I do on this one)

This is one thing I've wondered about for models. It must be a difficult balance when you need non-work time but need to stay on cam for your livelihood. If you leave five minutes too soon you could miss a huge tipper. Or you could be on for eight hours and make 100 tokens. Of course you could also be on for two hours and make 20,000. But it's all unknown. The mentality of that has to take a grind. I imagine this is far more significant for those just starting who don't yet have a routine or regulars.

 

[Jihen]

Actually the food industry is working that way, food designed purely for profit based on harnessing the human body's natural desires. Plenty of articles and documentaries about UPF in the news, reporting on this started at least 12 months ago.

I feel it’s similar with video games, social media, etc. I haven’t read much about UPF, but I think a lot of game companies invest a lot of energy on what can give a player a good amount of energy into what can give a player the most amount of psychological rush when completing an action.

When Star Craft II first came out 10 years ago, I went without showering and minimal food for a few days just playing that game. I still play the game today, but with a lot more self control. Lol.

I think it’s okay to enjoy things with high stimuli, but it’s just building self control.

 

[misterical]

This is one thing I've wondered about for models. It must be a difficult balance when you need non-work time but need to stay on cam for your livelihood. If you leave five minutes too soon you could miss a huge tipper. Or you could be on for eight hours and make 100 tokens. Of course you could also be on for two hours and make 20,000. But it's all unknown. The mentality of that has to take a grind. I imagine this is far more significant for those just starting who don't yet have a routine or regulars.

I can only comment from the point of view of a member who spends time in a model's room most days but it seems like those events are completely random and beyond anyone's control. I'd imagine that it's equally as unhealthy for a model to spend time preoccupied thinking about the "big tipper they missed by 5 minutes". I'd assume that over the course of a longer period of time it's swings and roundabouts on that type of thing.

 

[misterical]

...same on the other side of the screen TBCH, though we really should be better at pacing to avoid burnout. (Do as I say, not as I do on this one)

Does working set, regular hourse help that in any way? Or not at all.

 

[CallMeMaria]

I'm very happy to say that for the first time in the three months I've been a registered CB user all of my credit cards carry a $0 balance.

In one way I want to celebrate with you - but in another way... does this mean you have been using the site and not spending anything on anyone? I hope you followed the appropriate freeloader etiquette and sat in the shadows without uttering a single request.

 

[misterical]

In one way I want to celebrate with you - but in another way... does this mean you have been using the site and not spending anything on anyone? I hope you followed the appropriate freeloader etiquette and sat in the shadows without uttering a single request.

It could also mean that he only spent what he could afford to pay off immediately.

 

[CallMeMaria]

It could also mean that he only spent what he could afford to pay off immediately.

true - this is probably it. I am jumping the gun a bit with assumptions of freeloading.

 

[Deleted member 72761]

does this mean you have been using the site and not spending anything on anyone?

No, it means I've re-gained control of my finances.

 

[Maztrix]

Hello! I fear my husband maybe addicted as well. We are right now in kind of difficult financial situation and found out he uses those sites.
I'm a user of pornography myself so when I found out about webcam models this wasn't my main concern.

He has announced that he is no longer in love with me, which is as well shattering. I think he may have fallen for some one in the web, someone asking hin for presents or rewards?

I know for sure he has spent around 500$ in one week - that's less that we spend on a month of groceries and we struggle to end the month with cash. He told our daughter we couldn't do a small trip in the summer break because we can't afford it so it breaks my heart to see this spiralling.
I told him about my discoverment and have offered help - he says he doesn't need help and this money was his own savings so I don't have a say into it. I'm at loss what can I do. I'm worried about addiction and that maybe we wouldn't have to be so broken if this wasn't an issue...


Maybe you have some advice for me?
Thanks!

 

[Highlander884]

I don't know what to say except it does sound like an addiction to me. I will say keep hold of any savings u have, put it in a private account. don't give him anything, if he wants to burn all his own income that's his choice but he cannot take money from u or your daughter!

From my opinion I think u need to look at separation even if temporary.

 

[Raven_Rogue]

Hello! I fear my husband maybe addicted as well. We are right now in kind of difficult financial situation and found out he uses those sites.
I'm a user of pornography myself so when I found out about webcam models this wasn't my main concern.

He has announced that he is no longer in love with me, which is as well shattering. I think he may have fallen for some one in the web, someone asking hin for presents or rewards?

I know for sure he has spent around 500$ in one week - that's less that we spend on a month of groceries and we struggle to end the month with cash. He told our daughter we couldn't do a small trip in the summer break because we can't afford it so it breaks my heart to see this spiralling.
I told him about my discoverment and have offered help - he says he doesn't need help and this money was his own savings so I don't have a say into it. I'm at loss what can I do. I'm worried about addiction and that maybe we wouldn't have to be so broken if this wasn't an issue...


Maybe you have some advice for me?
Thanks!

Is that the reason why you asked on another thread about how many XP to go through the user levels on Stripchat because you are trying to work out how much money your husband has spent on cam models?

 

[LaceyRoyce]

Hello! I fear my husband maybe addicted as well. We are right now in kind of difficult financial situation and found out he uses those sites.
I'm a user of pornography myself so when I found out about webcam models this wasn't my main concern.

He has announced that he is no longer in love with me, which is as well shattering. I think he may have fallen for some one in the web, someone asking hin for presents or rewards?

I know for sure he has spent around 500$ in one week - that's less that we spend on a month of groceries and we struggle to end the month with cash. He told our daughter we couldn't do a small trip in the summer break because we can't afford it so it breaks my heart to see this spiralling.
I told him about my discoverment and have offered help - he says he doesn't need help and this money was his own savings so I don't have a say into it. I'm at loss what can I do. I'm worried about addiction and that maybe we wouldn't have to be so broken if this wasn't an issue...


Maybe you have some advice for me?
Thanks!

Advice:

- Get legal advice as soon as possible.
- Secure your finances. Open a secret bank account. Make sure you are in control of your money ASAP - for your daughters sake as well.
- seek some professional counseling. If he won't go with you, go alone. You will need support.

I'm so sorry your family is going through this. Whatever is happening, whether it's a model he's fallen for or he's just being an ass - you deserve financial security and transparency in your marriage. When someone gets in a spiral with cam girls or any other addiction - gambling etc, it's a symptom of their mental health.

But protect yourself, and your $$$ before he takes more.

 

[Deleted member 72761]

Hello! I fear my husband maybe addicted as well. We are right now in kind of difficult financial situation and found out he uses those sites.
I'm a user of pornography myself so when I found out about webcam models this wasn't my main concern.

He has announced that he is no longer in love with me, which is as well shattering. I think he may have fallen for some one in the web, someone asking hin for presents or rewards?

I know for sure he has spent around 500$ in one week - that's less that we spend on a month of groceries and we struggle to end the month with cash. He told our daughter we couldn't do a small trip in the summer break because we can't afford it so it breaks my heart to see this spiralling.
I told him about my discoverment and have offered help - he says he doesn't need help and this money was his own savings so I don't have a say into it. I'm at loss what can I do. I'm worried about addiction and that maybe we wouldn't have to be so broken if this wasn't an issue...


Maybe you have some advice for me?
Thanks!

I'm not qualified to give advice on this matter. I can only say that I'm much happier allocating less money and time to webcam models because having control over my life is significantly better than the addictive rewards.

 

[Jihen]

I'm not qualified to give advice on this matter. I can only say that I'm much happier allocating less money and time to webcam models because having control over my life is significantly better than the addictive rewards.

same for me as well.

July I definitely dipped in a little harder than I had budgeted. While definitely on the modest side compared to the stories I have read, it’s super important to prioritize where the hobby sits in your life.

For me, it’s spreading tokens across several dozen models which had me going over my budget.

I’ve widdled my favorite list down to maybe four models that I really like now, so I’ll just stay regular with them.

 

[Deleted member 72761]

same for me as well.

July I definitely dipped in a little harder than I had budgeted. While definitely on the modest side compared to the stories I have read, it’s super important to prioritize where the hobby sits in your life.

For me, it’s spreading tokens across several dozen models which had me going over my budget.

I’ve widdled my favorite list down to maybe four models that I really like now, so I’ll just stay regular with them.

My "problem" escalated when I downloaded Telegram and was able to chat with models 24/7. Whenever they messaged me that they were online I felt obligated to log in. Of course I wasn't the only one they would message, but I didn't want to lose the personal connection with the model. I have since uninstalled the app and feel much freer.

 

[Highlander884]

I think that's my problem in regards to not giving very much to girls is that I follow too many (although I follow less then most according to one lady) theres 7 models I'll log onto for if I'm at home and several others i'll pop by and visit if I happen to be online. If I was only following 1 then I could tip 100 maybe 200 each time they broadcast. And there is a guilt (especially if they not making much) about only tipping 5 to 25 each time.

 

[deltaepsilon]

And there is a guilt (especially if they not making much) about only tipping 5 to 25 each time.

set yourself free, there is enough money to be made by all IF they know how

 

[ArcticKitty]

set yourself free, there is enough money to be made by all IF they know how

Gotta love the irony given the screenname.

 

[Deleted member 72761]

I ventured back on CB today because I had some time and was missing my favorite model. Unbeknownst to me, she had a friend with her. They gave a swell show.

 

[Deleted member 72761]

I ventured back on CB today because I had some time and was missing my favorite model. Unbeknownst to me, she had a friend with her. They gave a swell show.

Also to note, it was one day back and I almost immediately convinced myself to spend tokens on the show. Maybe there's a lack of discipline there that I somehow can't manage, which is odd given other aspects of my life.

 

[Deleted member 72761]

The laptop I use specifically for these types of services seems to have encountered an issue where the mouse pad no longer works properly. I tried cleaning it, but it didn't help. Sometimes I can't get the cursor to move, sometimes it randomly clicks, sometimes it works fine then malfunctions. Whatever the issue is it complicates the experience so much that dealing with it isn't worth it, so this may spell the end of my adult cam model adventures.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Also to note, it was one day back and I almost immediately convinced myself to spend tokens on the show. Maybe there's a lack of discipline there that I somehow can't manage, which is odd given other aspects of my life.

You visited your favorite model and enjoyed her show, but you chose not to tip?