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The word addiction is getting thrown around a lot, and spending an irresponsible amount of time and money is not the same as an addiction. The fact that OP made this post at all is a pretty good indicator they're not addicted, so I don't think comparisons to alcoholism are fair and are actually a little gross.

Respectfully, I used the word addiction because the OP used “addictive” in the topic title. I don’t believe using the word addiction is out of bounds if the OP himself characterized his situation as addictive.

ETA: spending an irresponsible amount of time and money on something can definitely be a sign of addiction (see shopping addiction, hoarding, gambling addiction, etc). Especially if you find it difficult to stop, which is what the OP indicated by saying it could be addictive.
 
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Respectfully, I used the word addiction because the OP used “addictive” in the topic title. I don’t believe using the word addiction is out of bounds if the OP himself characterized his situation as addictive.

ETA: spending an irresponsible amount of time and money on something can definitely be a sign of addiction (see shopping addiction, hoarding, gambling addiction, etc). Especially if you find it difficult to stop, which is what the OP indicated by saying it could be addictive.
I used 'addiction/addictive' because that's what it felt like to me. The only thing I've ever been addicted to in life is caffeine. I feel like I need it to survive and don't want to stop. It might be a stretch, but that's how my relationship with cam models began to feel after a few weeks so I cut it off before it fully set in. I'm not concerned or worried about a caffeine addiction ruining my life, but addiction on a tipping site could (dependency and financially). I'm committed to making it a healthy hobby. Speaking of, I picked up one of my old hobbies again today and my mind has been refreshingly empty of cam girls, even if for just a brief moment.
 
^ THIS.
I had a significant alcohol dependency from my early teens, I knew it was going to kill me if I didn't break the habit.
For me, having access to alcohol but the willpower to say no was more effective than trying to avoid it altogether.
30+ years on and the temptation is always there to let go again.
moderation management isnt for everyone, but it can be better for some than full-on sobriety. it's long-lasting because it teaches lifelong skills that can be applied to other aspects of life. therapy is also a must to help figure out the root of your addiction, learn better coping skills and heal. people with food addiction are always taught moderation during treatment instead of full-on sobriety because we need to eat to live. food addictions have the same brain activity as a drug addict.


I used an alternative method a medication I had to drink on to break my alcoholism, it worked beautifully to break the addiction loop in my brain in time I could drink socially if I took the tablet before I drank. The difference for me was I had tried everything before finding this, including many moderation attempts. All ended in disaster and the effect alcoholism had on me was so awful I could not risk going backwards in any shape or form. I had already started counselling, therapy. The medication allowed me to slow down, cut my consumption by 50% immediately so I was able to start living and learning to live. Then once the burning desire had been removed by the medication I discovered I didn't particularly like even 1 drink, and I never wanted to go back so I decided to quit. Since the medication was only used if you consumed alcohol, it also meant that stopped too. I don't even consume liquor chocolates, Christmas cake, Christmas pudding - I find the taste too strong, and alcohol free versions don't have the same effect so I have a different but tasty pudding at celebration times. will be 10 year alcohol free this summer, longer for drugs because I was able to put those down very easily - I was not addicted to drugs.
 
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I used an alternative method a medication I had to drink on to break my alcoholism, it worked beautifully to break the addiction loop in my brain in time I could drink socially if I took the tablet before I drank. The difference for me was I had tried everything before finding this, including many moderation attempts. All ended in disaster and the effect alcoholism had on me was so awful I could not risk going backwards in any shape or form. I had already started counselling, therapy. The medication allowed me to slow down, cut my consumption by 50% immediately so I was able to start living and learning to live. Then once the burning desire had been removed by the medication I discovered I didn't particularly like even 1 drink, and I never wanted to go back so I decided to quit. Since the medication was only used if you consumed alcohol, it also meant that stopped too. I don't even consume liquor chocolates, Christmas cake, Christmas pudding - I find the taste too strong, and alcohol free versions don't have the same effect so I have a different but tasty pudding at celebration times. will be 10 year alcohol free this summer, longer for drugs because I was able to put those down very easily - I was not addicted to drugs.
Congrats on putting those behind you! 👍
 
I've been a registered member of this forum and Chaturbate for approximately one month. I was an anonymous CB viewer for years prior to this. Once I registered, bought tokens, and began tipping, my dopamine levels and addictiveness to the site skyrocketed. Early on I sampled lots of rooms, did a few privates, and explored my newfound tipping ability. Ultimately I became a fan of a specific studio which features a variety of models. They follow a schedule which I quickly learned, as well as what type of shows occur at each shift. For about a two-week span within the last month I was in the room every day, often multiple times based on my availability and who/what the room focus was. I developed a cordial relationship with the regular models and was always eager to meet new faces. They greeted me when I entered the room and they provided a good product that I was happy to tip for.

So what is the issue? My entire life became consumed with this experience. When I was at work I wondered who would be online when I got home and signed in. Since the models rotate it was always a surprise. When I'd wake up I'd check to see who was doing what, even if I didn't enter the room. I'd get home on my lunch break and do the same. Every time I got the chance I'd sign in to chat and tip, even if I had no sexual desire at all. When I was in the mood I had no issue requesting privates, sometimes thrice in one day.

As I quickly discovered the toll this was taking on my mental, emotional, and financial health, last weekend I committed to taking one week off. During this week I developed a plan for returning, including a set budget, time limits for privates, and other general rules I need to follow if I want to continue supporting my favorite room. Last night I returned to the site and saw some of my favorites models, including my newest favorite, and man is it so hard to not fall back. I did a private, but I had planned that from the beginning. I was happy to see my virtual friends again and they expressed the same about me (and my tokens).

I can see how easily one can become incredibly addicted to tipping sites to where it becomes unhealthy. Having models respond directly to your (tip) requests is quite a rush and hopefully you get a good show out of it. The system reminds me a bit of Vegas- token tip sounds, spin the wheel, lights and noises that respond to your actions, etc., and they make it so easy to buy more tokens in mere seconds.

As for me, had I not taken that week off I might have headed into a downward spiral of multiple facets. As of today, all is well so long as I stick to my plan. The purpose of this post is more or less to serve as a PSA from the viewer's perspective to beware of negative addictive aspects of camsites that can take control of your life. I'm a proponent of and supporter of these sites so long as all involved ensure their personal health (esp. physical, emotional, financial) isn't jeopardized in the process.

This does sound like it was heading into an unhealthy pattern. You are right in using the term addictive because it sounds like the compulsion was starting to negatively impact your life, and even though you have only been a viewer for a month you found it difficult to stop this pattern.

This could of course be simply discovering a new toy. Like I don't have a gaming addiction, but when I start a new game it can temporarily become a complete obsession where I cannot stop. Same with books, if I find something good I have a tendency to essentially drop all other aspects of life temporarily. But I am not addicted because it is only temporary, though problematic enough that I won't start games unless I have free time. With cam models it could be almost akin to meeting a new partner, falling in lust/love and wanting to be with them 24/7, where eventually that feeling calms down and you can manage it in a healthy sense. This may be what's happening with you.

I think you are very right to be cautious, as camming can become addictive for some people. Some people will say it's not a real addiction because it isn't a substance, but while substance addiction has additional factors, neuropsychological evidence of addiction suggests that anything that's hitting your dopamine system can be genuinely addictive.

When it comes to psychological addictions the main questions you should ask yourself are focused around why this is so exciting for you. What in your life are you missing? Camgirls can provide a lot, attention, sexual stimulation, beauty, variety/choice, power, entertainment, company, excitement/fun. So you need to ask yourself what it is that's the main draw, and why this is so interesting to you you're becoming obsessive? You've got a situation suddenly where all of these beautiful women are just waiting for you to show up, all you need to do is give them tokens and they'll warmly greet you, make you feel special, wanted, needed. I can imagine if you're lonely, sexually frustrated, or don't usually get attention from multiple women, or maybe these women are more beautiful than those you're used to then this is going to be a huge thrill. If you really want to control this habit while still enjoying cam models maybe look into your real life and think of where/if you could gain some of this, it might ease off some of the dependency element.

You are also focusing on a studio which might not help. There's a reason men are forever falling for and being scammed by Romanian camgirls, studio culture is big there and these rooms are notoriously run in a way which draws men in on a deeper emotional level. They know exactly what they're doing to maximise the studio's sales, and being honest with your tendency towards getting obsessive it might be worth moving over to independent models. Some models are more ethical than others, most models who I've met on this forum for example do not engage in practices which encourage obsession or overspending. However, in my experience, the kind of members who get scammed/over spend are drawn like a moth to a flame for those who'll say/do just about anything to make you part with your cash. You warn them, they know the perils, but people are stupid when someone tells them what they want to hear. So I guess be careful, I've seen perfectly decent men spending hundreds of grand and ruining their lives because they so desperately wanted to believe what they were being fed was real. It's rare, but if you have those tendencies you need to be careful.

Having a plan is a good idea, I hope it goes well for you. Fingers crossed it's just the excitement of finding a site you like and it'll calm down naturally.
 
I used an alternative method a medication I had to drink on to break my alcoholism, it worked beautifully to break the addiction loop in my brain in time I could drink socially if I took the tablet before I drank. The difference for me was I had tried everything before finding this, including many moderation attempts. All ended in disaster and the effect alcoholism had on me was so awful I could not risk going backwards in any shape or form. I had already started counselling, therapy. The medication allowed me to slow down, cut my consumption by 50% immediately so I was able to start living and learning to live. Then once the burning desire had been removed by the medication I discovered I didn't particularly like even 1 drink, and I never wanted to go back so I decided to quit. Since the medication was only used if you consumed alcohol, it also meant that stopped too. I don't even consume liquor chocolates, Christmas cake, Christmas pudding - I find the taste too strong, and alcohol free versions don't have the same effect so I have a different but tasty pudding at celebration times. will be 10 year alcohol free this summer, longer for drugs because I was able to put those down very easily - I was not addicted to drugs.
Well done! In two weeks It will be one-year alcohol-free for me.
 
Well done! In two weeks It will be one-year alcohol-free for me.
Good on you! This coming December will be 23 years without alcohol for me.
Stick with it. It's not always easy but its always worth it!
Hurrah every day is worth it, I had multiple tries the important thing is I and you, and others do get sober and stay sober.
 
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The word addiction is getting thrown around a lot, and spending an irresponsible amount of time and money is not the same as an addiction. The fact that OP made this post at all is a pretty good indicator they're not addicted, so I don't think comparisons to alcoholism are fair and are actually a little gross.

I'm glad you have your sobriety.
And if he says he's not addicted; then he's not addicted.

Drugs, Alcohol, Sex, Gambling, regardless of what of addiction it is, it can all ruin someone life.
Someone spending a few dollars more then they should, that's probably not addiction.
But on the other hand, people who go into debt, taking out loans, spend their life savings, embezzle money. That probably qualifies as an addiction. Same thing if they're taking on big risks to them self, their health, their job, their family, their friends, skipping meals, extra.

For those who might need it, there are 12 steps programs like:
  • Sexaholics Anonymous
  • Sex Addicts Anonymous
  • Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous
  • Sexual Compulsives Anonymous
  • Sexual Recovery Anonymous
 
Wild card: tipping models may have helped me avoid addiction.

Long story short, I have anxiety disorder due partly to ADHD and culture shock as an indigenous Canadian student at an eastern US university and thank you COVID. Going to a model's room from time to time just to chill and decompress from life is an alternative to going out and drinking. I still go out with my friends but it's because I want to.
 
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Even if it may not be a severe high level addiction in the medical sense, you can still engage in problem behaviors that significantly disturb your life before becoming completely dependent. Recognizing that before you reach a point of stronger impulsivity is a good thing.
 
Update

Time for another break. All is well and still following my rules, just need ample time away for health purposes. Speaking of, posting updates and things here helps me so I hope nobody minds my personal musings.
 
An unexpected positive of being a regular CB user for almost two months is that I've racked up a bunch of bonus points on my credit cards.
Glad you are enjoying yourself now in a healthy way.
 
I've been a registered member of this forum and Chaturbate for approximately one month. I was an anonymous CB viewer for years prior to this. Once I registered, bought tokens, and began tipping, my dopamine levels and addictiveness to the site skyrocketed. Early on I sampled lots of rooms, did a few privates, and explored my newfound tipping ability. Ultimately I became a fan of a specific studio which features a variety of models. They follow a schedule which I quickly learned, as well as what type of shows occur at each shift. For about a two-week span within the last month I was in the room every day, often multiple times based on my availability and who/what the room focus was. I developed a cordial relationship with the regular models and was always eager to meet new faces. They greeted me when I entered the room and they provided a good product that I was happy to tip for.

So what is the issue? My entire life became consumed with this experience. When I was at work I wondered who would be online when I got home and signed in. Since the models rotate it was always a surprise. When I'd wake up I'd check to see who was doing what, even if I didn't enter the room. I'd get home on my lunch break and do the same. Every time I got the chance I'd sign in to chat and tip, even if I had no sexual desire at all. When I was in the mood I had no issue requesting privates, sometimes thrice in one day.

As I quickly discovered the toll this was taking on my mental, emotional, and financial health, last weekend I committed to taking one week off. During this week I developed a plan for returning, including a set budget, time limits for privates, and other general rules I need to follow if I want to continue supporting my favorite room. Last night I returned to the site and saw some of my favorites models, including my newest favorite, and man is it so hard to not fall back. I did a private, but I had planned that from the beginning. I was happy to see my virtual friends again and they expressed the same about me (and my tokens).

I can see how easily one can become incredibly addicted to tipping sites to where it becomes unhealthy. Having models respond directly to your (tip) requests is quite a rush and hopefully you get a good show out of it. The system reminds me a bit of Vegas- token tip sounds, spin the wheel, lights and noises that respond to your actions, etc., and they make it so easy to buy more tokens in mere seconds.

As for me, had I not taken that week off I might have headed into a downward spiral of multiple facets. As of today, all is well so long as I stick to my plan. The purpose of this post is more or less to serve as a PSA from the viewer's perspective to beware of negative addictive aspects of camsites that can take control of your life. I'm a proponent of and supporter of these sites so long as all involved ensure their personal health (esp. physical, emotional, financial) isn't jeopardized in the process.
What you're feeling is natural and it's designed that way. Your tipping initiates a Pavlovian response, the "ding" sound is the trigger and whatever the model does (includes smiling, saying thanks, etc) is the reward. You do it a couple of times and it wires you to expect the sequence, tip, ding, reward. Also the bigger sound means bigger rewards.

Your casino analogy is spot on because this is how casino machines are designed too. Pull the handle/press the button, machine makes a sound, gives a reward. This is why casino machines are noisy.

It's the game actually, but the trick is recognizing and then controlling it. However you want to control it is up to you though.
 
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Update

So I'm still on my current break with no direct timeline as to when I wish to return. The good news is I'm not feeling compelled or pressured (by myself) to log in again. So to that regard there is no longer any addictive tendency whatsoever. I may make a return next weekend, but I've been evaluating my self-governed rules and want to perhaps modify one of them first for reasons detailed below. I haven't really been seeking advice in this thread, but for this post I am for anyone that wants to offer it.

After my previous break and imposing rules on myself, the most difficult one to follow has been my token allotment. I decided to purchase a set amount of tokens for the month at the beginning of the month and when they're gone, they're gone (this is one reason I've been on a break- they're gone). The large amount of upfront tokens in the bank made it easy to tip for a lot of smaller stuff and do a few PVTs without too much consideration early on, but of course that depletes the supply fairly rapidly.

So I'm currently thinking about giving myself a daily allotment instead of monthly. In conjunction with a daily allotment would be to have adequate time off between viewings so that the token usage (read: spending money buying tokens) isn't so drastic at once. I'm not sure how to decide what days to view, perhaps on my off days, but being that I visit a studio and sometimes I want to see specific people, I'm considering picking viewing days more impromptu based on who is in the room that day. This also adds an element of suspense, excitement, and spontaneity that doesn't exist when entering the room daily. This also could allow me flexibility in the daily allotment based on personalities and what I'm interested in seeing that day.

I'm seeking feedback related to the previous paragraph. I'm sure someone can bring up something I hadn't considered, so all advice on the subject is welcome. Thoughts?
 
So I'm currently thinking about giving myself a daily allotment instead of monthly. In conjunction with a daily allotment would be to have adequate time off between viewings so that the token usage (read: spending money buying tokens) isn't so drastic at once. I'm not sure how to decide what days to view, perhaps on my off days, but being that I visit a studio and sometimes I want to see specific people, I'm considering picking viewing days more impromptu based on who is in the room that day. This also adds an element of suspense, excitement, and spontaneity that doesn't exist when entering the room daily. This also could allow me flexibility in the daily allotment based on personalities and what I'm interested in seeing that day.

I'm seeking feedback related to the previous paragraph. I'm sure someone can bring up something I hadn't considered, so all advice on the subject is welcome. Thoughts?
You just need to be disciplined, whether it's daily or monthly. The problem with buying tokens is that you have to buy them in bulk and a horny man does not always stick to the plans that the non-horny version of the same man made. Easy to spend more than your allocation when they are sitting there anyway.
 
You just need to be disciplined, whether it's daily or monthly. The problem with buying tokens is that you have to buy them in bulk and a horny man does not always stick to the plans that the non-horny version of the same man made. Easy to spend more than your allocation when they are sitting there anyway.
It comes down to acting responsibly and sticking to a budget. When you get paid, you don't generally blow the lot in one hit just because you have it, you have to cover all your bases until the next pay check.
 
When you get paid, you don't generally blow the lot in one hit just because you have it, you have to cover all your bases until the next pay check.
Huh? You crazy 😂

When's someone gonna make a thread about the addictive qualities of posting on chat forums?

In all seriousness, behaviors set pathways. The more times you repeat a behavior, the stronger that pathway becomes. It sucks. I know it 🤍 Practice makes perfect though. I just learned something about it taking 400 times of practicing new behaviors for them to become ingrained. We all fall off the wagon with certain things, but that doesn't define us. Getting back up and trying again, and never giving up regardless, is what defines us 🤍
 
It comes down to acting responsibly and sticking to a budget. When you get paid, you don't generally blow the lot in one hit just because you have it, you have to cover all your bases until the next pay check.
No you don't, but tokens on a cam site isn't the same as money in the bank. Most of the time when dealing with your finances it the sensible version of you making the decisions. The horny version of you is less likely to make a sensible budgeting decision in the heat of the moment.
 
No you don't, but tokens on a cam site isn't the same as money in the bank. Most of the time when dealing with your finances it the sensible version of you making the decisions. The horny version of you is less likely to make a sensible budgeting decision in the heat of the moment.
Of course, I get that, and that's partly why the sites offer higher discounts the more tokens you buy at once.
[Somewhat related: have you ever gone grocery shopping when starving hungry, bought a bunch of crap that costs the same as your usual visit, because your body is craving quick energy, and then had to go back again to buy more varied items?]

Trying to make the connection that if a user recognises that there is an addictive quality to their actions, like the OP has, trying to stick to a budget like other aspects of spending is a good approach to managing that, and perhaps make their enjoyment of cam sites more sustainable long-term.
 
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[Somewhat related: have you ever gone grocery shopping when starving hungry, bought a bunch of crap that costs the same as your usual visit, because your body is craving quick energy, and then had to go back again to buy more varied items?]
Ha ha. Yeah, I initially started with that comparison in my post, before removing it, even including the exact same phrase "starving hungry".
 
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I think the first thing when analyzing an addiction as an armchair psychologist is to figure out what you're actually addicted to...tokens give people a perception of power. When models aren't compliant some could see that as the power being diminished and maybe realize that it should be a hobby and not an emotional support service. So they convince themselves they're addicted to all of these things models do to make them addicted when really they're just figuring out tokens do equal power if you're willing to play within the frame the model has set up to play in and if not then your tokens have no power there.

Or I could be talking out of my ass[umptions]. I'm not addicted to cigarettes. I'm addicted to the ritual of smoking.
 
I think the first thing when analyzing an addiction as an armchair psychologist is to figure out what you're actually addicted to...tokens give people a perception of power. When models aren't compliant some could see that as the power being diminished and maybe realize that it should be a hobby and not an emotional support service. So they convince themselves they're addicted to all of these things models do to make them addicted when really they're just figuring out tokens do equal power if you're willing to play within the frame the model has set up to play in and if not then your tokens have no power there.

Or I could be talking out of my ass[umptions]. I'm not addicted to cigarettes. I'm addicted to the ritual of smoking.
Smoking is an interesting comparison actually. I live in a country where you can no longer smoke inside in most places like bars etc. When I speak to people who quit smoking, it isn't the cigarettes they miss. It's the social interactions in the outdoor smoking area.
 
Smoking is an interesting comparison actually. I live in a country where you can no longer smoke inside in most places like bars etc. When I speak to people who quit smoking, it isn't the cigarettes they miss. It's the social interactions in the outdoor smoking area.
You can't smoke in public where I live, either. Well, I mean you can on sidewalks and whatever but not in enclosed spaces. The law on the books is if the establishment is 21+ for patrons then smoking is at the discretion of the business itself and after seeing that smokers drove away non-smokers, most establishments adopted a no smoking indoors policy.

That said, yes. It's about standing around and shooting the shit with random strangers for a brief minute and bemoaning something or celebrating another thing, but it's more than that...





This explains it perfectly.
 
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