I agree, and in this case I why not either use Domi, or use the lush externally? I do not have a problem** with external toys, I have a problem** with toys not turned on when advertised that they are functioning.
**Problem, I don't have one, as stated elsewhere.
Maybe I am naive, but I don't think guys want lush inserted as such, but only want that it is functional (connected and turned on) when advertised as such. All I am hoping for when I tip a model with any toy, is that it reacts and that she gets some level of enjoyment from the vibrations (as predetermined by her choice of settings).
For me, it comes down to honest fair dealing. If I go to a restaurant and order and pay for wagyu steak and am served tofu, I am going to be less than impressed. If the restaurant is out of wagyu, I expect that they tell me that, or remove it from the menu.
If a model doesn't want to or can't insert lush, then either use it externally, or use another toy or use none, but do not claim to be using it when it is turned off or disconnected. I even once had a model once try to tell me that she was using lush when clearly she was not(absolutely no sign of it and she was completely naked) , "It's all inside me, bb"
. She was a sweet girl who was no doubt encouraged by her studio to say such a silly thing, but once she said that, I didn't go back again.
Respectfully (cos I really do appreciate the way you've expressed your opinions on this matter) I think you are being a bit naïve. I .. may be a little bit of a bitter burnt out old cam model.. however some of the reasons for that burn out was consistently being treated like my body and pleasure was secondary or completely irrelevant. When I was younger and I was not good at boundries at all (and had this fear that if I said no to something the sky would fall) I would often have to fake an orgasm during a private because someone demanded penetration and wouldn't let me use my clit toys in conjunction with it. If I said "I prefer this smaller toy as the larger one is uncomfortable" or "I really like having clit stimulation to cum" or even "I don't cum from penetration" the guy would often say things like "use the bigger one I just like the way it looks better" "No baby you just need to do it this way" "just do it faster/harder" "I bet i can make you cum". When we communicate our bodies needs and desires it is too often met as a challenge to be overcome instead of information to be used to give us greater pleasure.
And insertion for me absolutely will always make more money than not. There are exceptions to this - models that build a brand around a different concept etc but overall cutting insertion out of your option list is a move that may well cost you $$$. Just like squirting - its a visual aid for men who have been socialized to think this is what pleasure for women SHOULD look like and also for men who cannot imagine giving pleasure that doesn't involve their penis going inside a vagina (therefore a vibrating toy inside a vagina must feel good)
Now - I've said all these horrible things about my experiences and I would like to say that as time has gone on and I've made firmer boundries and simply refused requests I didn't like (due to increasing financial stability that doing those uncomfortable things gave me) I have been able to cultivate a group of clients and regulars that respect boundries and FOR THE MOST PART are at least ok with going along with my pleasure.
Unrelated directly to this but just to avoid a double post - I started camming in 2010. I no longer regularly cam and I no longer feel like I will lose my income if I admit these things so I think I'd like to put some of this in perspective. I think I always tried to be as genuine as I could be on cam. However for financial survival combined with a need to protect my safety, my mental or physical health and wellbeing here's a list of things I've lied about on cam. I think i'm far from alone.
1. Fake or watered down alcohol when a high paying regular who made up a large % of my income demanded I get drunk every night.
2. My location - For safety reasons.
3. My relationship status.
4. Ass to mouth during a demanding private from a regular who was abusive. I'd lighting fast switch dildos off cam to protect my health and wellbeing.
5. Anal with a large toy in a custom video for that same person. He refused to consider a more comfortable toy so I filmed half the video and showed the tip going in, then cut it off near the base and filmed with it pushed up into my butt so you couldnt tell that there was not a giant 9" dildo in there. He wanted fast/rough anal and I cannot physically do that.
6. Being in a public place. Back in 2010-2012 ish public shows were all the rage. There was no real regulation for them and after I did some that were like controlled places I was making so much more doing them and the demand for more and more public/risky kept growing. I absolutely felt that pressure. So I would do things like organize a fake pizza delivery with a friend (men on cam were not well controlled for at the time. I recognize this was not great). Or I'd go to a friends restaurant after hours and pay them to "serve" me and make it seem like I was somewhere public. I eventually was able to transition out of these by buying a fuck machine and switching to full insertion shows (something I didn't do in public chat before then) but there was a transition period to keep myself financially stable while I did it. i stopped about a year before public shows were banned and I'm glad I did but it was something I felt IMMENSE pressure at the time to do more of.
7. Faked having a buttplug in during a video. I showed insertion, cut, took it out then continued the video. Having a plug and a large dildo inside me at the same time is not comfortable and once it was in the angle never showed the plug.
8. Orgasms. For demanding customers who were making me disassociate from my fucking body.
9. The "pain" of a spanking. I have a paddle that makes a large noise but is designed not to hurt or cause damage. I used that when customers would demand really hard bdsm play.
10. Finally I've lied about my fetishes to make others feel more comfortable (Oh yes im sooo into balloons!), my attraction to people, what I thought of their penis, (including providing small penis humiliation for penises I thought were just fine) my comfort level, my availability, my likes and dislikes, and even once my political beliefs. The only one I feel really icky about is the political beliefs BUT I think I don't regret it because I felt like this person was a legit danger to me during a meet and greet in vegas.
None of these things are ideal. I wish I had come into this industry with stellar boundary setting skills, better financial management, a better understanding of my own body and needs, etc. I think I'd have avoided exposing myself to a lot of trauma and doing a lot of things I ultimately didn't want to do.
I'm posting this list to kinda reality check this whole idea of a "scam" a bit. Models are constantly asked to choose between paychecks and things they may not be comfortable with. Some of us will find creative solutions that hopefully the member isn't aware of. I recognize that this contributes to teaching men that they can treat us this way and I'm beyond happy that I'm now in a place where I am able to do things that are comfortable for me. But just like any job there are always moments that require us to "fake" something. I forgot to edit a custom and had to film on my period to meet a deadline last week. It wasn't a comfortable experience. I'll never tell the client, and I made it look sexy but it too is a performative fantasy. It's just about HOW far you'll go with that.
