SEX = more Body or more Brain?

[Jaydenrainey]

with men i need intelligence to get off. sexual creativity is imperative to my happiness and i cant get off on mere intersecting of genitals. I dont find men to be all that aesthetic of creatures anyways. Looking at a mans body most of the time does nothing for me unless there is something behind that like a mental attraction. that said chubby guys make me happy. i like big teddy bears that can throw me around and im not very attracted to skinny guys to be honest.
with women l like intelligence but i also have to be attracted to the girl physically. again i like curvy/chubby girls but like ladyluna said not sickly obese. Its different with women because i think women are so aesthetic and i find so many women attractive physically before i ever hear a word out of their mouth.

 

[Jobs4Adults.com]

It's all about personality with at least an average intelligence being evident in their online conduct.

There is, of course, a limit to just how bad the person can look. If they can't get out of bed from being so fat (I don't mean curvy, curvy is sexy. I mean so fat they can't move.), then I'd have a problem being turned on by them if we met in person before I got to know them online. Since I've never met such a person in person after getting to know them online, I can't be completely sure I'd be okay with it even after knowing their personality.

That being said... I'm nearsighted as fuck. Remove my glasses and I won't be able to see 90% of you as more than a fuzzy ball of flesh anyway. And I *love* skin on skin contact. (two inches from my nose being my focusing point, it means I get a REALLY nice look at your cock when I'm sucking it. Other than that, it's really easy for me to focus on what I'm feeling instead of anything else. )

Nice opinions!!! And, I guess you're even nicer without removing your...glasses.....

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[Paulie Walnuts]

A beautiful body attached to an empty skull gets old really fast. A beautiful mind can make your eyes see whatever it desires.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I think people are far too picky.

I mean let's face facts, yes you can be really picky about cam girls "Oh this girl said this which I thought wasn't that great so I never talked to her again" because you choose them and not the other way around. Same goes for prostitutes/watching porn. But can you actually get with any of these women? Are you just listing all these things women/men should have when actually you don't have any of these things yourself? Doing this is pointless, can be fun, kind of like "If I won the lottery I would....".

I know lots of people who follow this kind of behaviour through to real life. I know a fair amount of men who aren't very good looking, aren't particularly brilliant, and aren't that bright. They're nice enough guys but they feel that in a woman she should be very attractive/good looking and also be intelligent/nice/kind/selfless/good in bed, god the list goes on! And I have met many men who if the woman does not fit these categories they will not go near her.

I know less women who follow this pattern, though often you get women trying to go for a very good looking/well off man/looking for prince charming. Women tend to go more for intelligence/chemistry over looks than men do. Our searches usually go wrong because we look for the 'spark'.

People who just chill out without expectations tend to be happier. You could meet a really dumb girl/guy who is absolutely gorgeous but is also the nicest/funniest person ever, or could be the nastiest person ever. But maybe you're not actually the nicest/brightest person around either.

 

[HarmlessSquirrel]

Well, the question was, "what do you prefer?" not "what will be satisfactory to you?"

I definitely prefer brains. I absolutely adore smart women. Just talking to them makes me happy. Does there have to be some physical attraction to want to get physical? Sure there does, but a little of that can go a long way if there's a lot between the ears.

For just sex, smarts aren't as important (still a plus though). A little bit of cute and liking her somewhat will do. Gotta have the brains for long-term though. In the long run, there's going to be more talk than sex, so the talk better be good.

 

[bob]

i've never had sex with a woman who i haven't found beautiful and intelligent.....
the two aspects of a person work to create each other, don't they?

having said that....in my fantasy world....it all about physical beauty....it should come as no surprise that i was a designer/builder.....a hands-on guy with a keen eye for "detail" :-D

 

[Mirra]

Since my original post here was meant to be a joke, here I am again. Physical attraction is great. I absolutely love looking at women and if it comes to just getting off, I cannot say that intelligence matters much to me.

On the other hand if it was sex in a relationship, I'd prefer "kinda cute" with a good dose of intelligence every single time. In fact, that's the closest thing to a type I have ever been able to pin down.

I know lots of people who follow this kind of behaviour through to real life. I know a fair amount of men who aren't very good looking, aren't particularly brilliant, and aren't that bright. They're nice enough guys but they feel that in a woman she should be very attractive/good looking and also be intelligent/nice/kind/selfless/good in bed, god the list goes on! And I have met many men who if the woman does not fit these categories they will not go near her.

I know less women who follow this pattern, though often you get women trying to go for a very good looking/well off man/looking for prince charming. Women tend to go more for intelligence/chemistry over looks than men do. Our searches usually go wrong because we look for the 'spark'.

From my experience, the numbers seem more equal than that. Unfortunately I believe any scientific measurement would be impossible because you'd be relying on people telling the truth. Here's my untestable hypothesis. Maybe it's that 'spark' thing you speak of or maybe that's just an abstract way of saying describing the same thing those guys are looking for.

 

[LolasLiger]

Both beauty and intelligence are subjective. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and intelligence means different things to different people.

To me an intelligent woman is one that I connect with and who i can spend hours talking to, regardless of whether she has formal qualifications or not. If our interests are the same, our world-outlook similar, and we don't struggle to find things to talk about then I will see her as socially intelligent.

And to me, a beautiful woman is one that is self aware, sensual, sexual (which is not the same as *sexy*) and not narcissistic. And the longer I know a woman, the more beautiful (physically) I find her. That is not to say that I don't have *types*...certain physical characteristics that i find sexually alluring.

So it is definitely a combination of the two.

 

[Jobs4Adults.com]

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