Sex as work and Sex work

[Bohemian_Lady]

So I was crusing reddit the other day and I came across and artical titled Sex as work and Sex work, its not directly camming related but it talks about that blurry line between sex, work and the emtional involvment that I think all cam girls experiance. I almost posted it to modles only but I think it has some important points that our customers (aka friends, subs, doms, peices of meat, whatever) would do well to read and think about. I'm not saying that customers are ignorant by any means but as a new cam girl this artical had somethings that even I hadn't thought about or recognized. So here it is.

 

[Lounge20K]

I find the article.. interesting !! Though it raises some questions to me.. some.. intriguing wonderings.

Even when love is involved, people may use sex in the hope of getting something in return. They may or may not be fully conscious of such motives as:

I will have sex with you because I love you even if I am not in the mood myself
I will have sex with you hoping you will feel well disposed toward me afterwards and give me something I want
I will have sex with you because if I don’t you are liable to be unpleasant to me, our children, or my friends, or withhold something we want

I wonder if men think that, too..

In these situations, sex is felt to be and accepted as part of the relationship, backed up in classic marriage law by the concept of conjugal relations, spouses’ rights to them and the consequences of not providing them: abandonment, adultery, annulment, divorce. This can work the opposite way as well, as when a partner doesn’t want sex:

Really? when married one HAS TO do it?

I will not have sex with you, so you will have to do without or get it somewhere else

Does it even work? If it does please someone gives me the recipe LOL

Understanding professional sex work has not been made easier by making ‘equality’ the standard for gender relations. We can only really know whether sexual experiences are equal if everyone looks and acts the same, which is not only impossible but repressive of diversity. In sexual relations, equality projects run into the problem of dissimilar bodies, different ways of exhibiting arousal and experiencing satisfaction, not to mention differences in cultural background and social status.

All kidding aside, I only skimmed through the article, and indeed it is educational. Yet it's one's opinion/analysis. I personally think that we all are human beings, and when human feelings are involved, it is hard to explain.. Analyze.. Complicated.. Controversial. There could be as many theories as human beings according to me.

For some critics, the possession of money by clients gives them absolute power over workers and therefore means that equality is impossible. This attitude toward money is odd, given that we live in times when it is acceptable to pay for child and elderly care, for rape, alcohol and suicide counselling and for many other forms of consolation and caring. Those services are considered compatible with money but when it is exchanged for sex money is treated as a totally negative, contaminating force – this commodification uniquely terrible. Money is a fetish here despite the obvious fact that no body part is actually sold off in the commercial sex exchange.

Funny.. Not funny Ha Ha, funny strange..

Thank you for the referral

 

[Bohemian_Lady]

You're welcome, I thought it was intresting and figured I'd share. I do agree that the idea that money gives compleat controle over a situation funny strange, but having worked in customer service I think I know at least one answer. It's that customers always right mentality.

I have money, I'm the customer, you have to do what I say even if it gets you in trouble. I do not abide these people and tell them to GTFO of my room. Theres also the power issue, kind of a 'well obviously you do sex work becasue you can't do anything else so your not really a person and I can treat you however I like.' Obviously the customers visiting this forum are not prone to this kind of thought or they wouldn't be here to be social with the girls.

 

[LovinLeanne]

I love to be bribed for BJ's ....not that I don't want to give my hubby one...BUT I get a kick out of it whether its a hair or nail apt. Or him taking me somewhere. But yeah everything in our life is a "what's in it for me" moment...even charity work is done by people because of the good feeling it gives them.